I was sitting out in my garden patio. It was so peaceful. I love looking at the plants, flowers and my little round pond. The patio has a grape vine over the top of it and this provides shade for the plants and the inside of the patio. The vine gives just enough light for the plants and the right amount of shade so they don’t burn in the hot Arizona sun. My garden patio is my calm and tranquil place. I journal and self reflect there. It is my happy space.
Do you have a place where you go to unwind?
Is this place calm and relaxing to you?
If so, how often do you take advantage of this space? Daily, Weekly, Monthly, Annually
If you don’t, “Why not?”
We all need someplace to think and rejuvenate. Are you taking time for you? Would scheduling some time help? Is this something to consider for creating balance in your life? If you don’t have a place, imagine where to find one? It could be anywhere you feel at peace. Why not consider this and let me know how it made a difference in your life. I just love my garden patio and it creates tranquility in my life! How about you? ~Patti
Back in January of 2014 I had put out a poll named “What is preventing YOU from accomplishing your dream, goal or aspirations? Here were the results as of today:
The voters had Self-Doubt or Confidence as the number one reason. Time or Dedication and Financial Reasons or Obligations were the number two reasons. Why do you think Self-Doubt or Confidence was number one?
Why are people afraid to pursue their dreams or aspirations? Is it better not to go after your dreams so you won’t fail? Absolutely NOT! I recall sometime back I had read an article which discussed when people were close to dying they wished they took more chances and didn’t worry about what others thought of them. They wished they did the things they wanted instead of going through the motions. Following the life they imagined. (This is my interpretation of the article.)
Can you imagine how many happy and satisfied people there would be in this world, if they pursued their goals, dreams or aspirations? There are so many people miserable because they are in a job they hate and stay for all the wrong reasons. These unsatisfied individuals contribute on spreading the misery around.
How do you live the life you imagined?
Start with creating an action plan. Ask yourself the following questions:
What do you really want in your life?
What do you need in your life to accomplish it?
What steps will you take?
What may prevent you from achieving it?
What will you do to move past those obstacles and achieve what you want?
Right now the life you’re leading is this acceptable or satisfying to you? Or is there something more you want? Can you imagine how different your life would be if you followed these steps to accomplish the life you imagined? ~ Patti
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Take a break with your favorite drink and participate in the poll. All polls are anonymous. Poll away.🙂 The poll results will encourage and inspire me to write future blog posts on these subjects that interest you.
Why Coaching?
Coaching focuses on the present and looks toward the future. As a coach I assist clients to view a life or business situation and encourage clients to discover what actions to pursue next.
My personal coaching may include coaching on topics such as relationship with others, productivity, time management, finances, a career path, health, wellness and much more.
Through coaching I ask powerful questions which assists the client to come up with their own solutions. The answers are within the client. This helps the client to take action and move closer towards what they want in life.
Why me?
As your coach I inspire you to pursue what you truly want in life. 🙂 ~ Patti
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“When one door closes another door opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.” Alexander Graham Bell
The quote above is so true. Too many of us are looking at the past (closed door) instead of the present (open door). We just seem to be stuck behind that slammed door. We don’t even try to grab the knob and turn it towards something better. If we learn from the past (closed door) and (open the door) we could change our future. By turning the knob of that closed door and not rehashing it over and over again in our mind it will help us to move on. Open that door and don’t look back. Make better choices with an optimistic attitude and many doors will begin to open. Be grateful for those open doors (people) who assisted you along the way. Return the favor when able and help those who are stuck behind closed doors as well.
I was reading an article today from Barb Wade, Business Coach & Mentor – http://www.BarbWade.com and she stated “We are responsible for everything in our lives being exactly the way they are”. The question she asked was “How could I be responsible for so many of the things in my life that seemed to be happening to me?” This question hits you like a slammed door in the face. Wow!
Are we responsible for everything that happens in our lives? I think “yes” and “no”. We are responsible for our thoughts and actions, which may lead to the door being closed or open.
Question to ponder: What closed doors are you stuck behind which need to be pushed wide open?
It would be wonderful to see your thoughts and comments. 🙂 ~ Patti
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What is a legacy? According to Webster dictionary it means the following:
: a gift by will especially of money or other personal property or bequest
: something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past
The biggest question we should be asking ourselves is “What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?”
I ponder this question and looked back at my life. The happy times, the sad times, the tough times and the peaceful times. I asked myself, “Did I make a difference?” Was I a good spouse, parent, daughter, friend, co-worker or leader? Sometimes yes and sometimes not. Did I learn from each experience? Definitely, and could I have done better? Absolutely!
Questions to ponder:
How do you want people to remember you?
What kinds of accomplishments do you want to achieve?
What precious moments would you like your family members and friends to reminisce about you?
That you helped people when they needed you?
As a good parent, spouse, friend, family member or person?
You were happy and accomplished your goals and aspirations?
You made a difference and contributed to this world in a positive way?
You were fulfilled with your life and most of your actions?
What changes would you like to make to attain a better legacy?
There is still time to change your course in life and live the life you want! I know these are very deep questions, but it is time to look at your life and make changes so you can accomplish the legacy you want to leave behind.
Are there changes to be made in your attitude towards family, friends, co-workers by showing respect, kindness, compassion, and gentleness? Maybe realizing we are all different and we look at things in our own way. Are we too busy complaining and whining instead of coming up with solutions to make things better around us? Are there apologies which may need to be said towards those we offended or hurt? Or give forgiveness towards those whom hurt us?
The next big question is “What do you want to do about it?”
Be inspired, be happy and sometimes we ought to let go of what is making us unhappy. Chalk it up to a learning experience, move on, let go, and learn from it. Like the old saying goes: Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us a lesson; something we teach others. Which one are you?
I would love to see your comments and thoughts on what kind of legacy you want to leave behind. ~ Patti
Have you ever felt so alone? Even when there are many people all around you? We all go through heart ache or times when we just want to pull the covers over our heads and not get up. How do we get over this? Everyone handles things differently. My experience is letting people in even when you feel like shutting down and pushing them away. It is really hard for me personally to let friends or family in when I’m shutting down and wanting to isolate myself. Being an only child, I like the feeling of being alone it recharges me, however isolating myself when things are rough is not always the answer. What is the remedy?
Well, that’s a good question? Everyone is different and their wants and needs vary. Think about what you wanted when you were going through difficult times? Did you want someone to listen to you? How had you interacted with others? What would of made things easier for you? How do you wish people would have treated you? If a friend or family member is going through something grueling or painful put yourself in their shoes and treat them like you want to be treated. Listen with your ears and feel compassion with your heart. Be kind, gentle, and compassionate to them. Show you care by being YOU. ~ Patti
Questions:
What steps will you take to remove loneliness in your life?
How can you show up in others lives?
What can you possibly do to help others going through loneliness, sadness or loss?
It would be wonderful to see your thoughts and comments on this topic. Please share below.
“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” Joseph F. Newton
How many times in our relationships do we put up walls instead of letting others in? Why do we feel others will hurt us if we let them in? Is building walls easier than letting others get close to us or accept help? We are social creatures and crave friendship. Why are so many of us lonely? Why is it easier to walk away from a relationship than to work at? Is this relationship worth working on? These are good questions each of us should ask ourselves.
If we want to have lasting relationships we have to be willing to open ourselves up to possible failure and to trust people even when we are not sure we can trust. How can we break down those walls and connect with others to have lasting friendships? Building those bridges is hard work but well worth every minute of working on it. Do you think there would be less lonely miserable people if we reach out and help others by building bridges instead of constructing walls?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject ~ Patti
Why do some people look for the worst or negative in others or in situations? Why do people assume you are judging them? Why are people so quick to point out their opinions and interrupt you when you are talking? Or express such harsh points of view that are not even close to the truth instead of listening and assuming the worst. Why are some so quick to judge instead of being open and listen to the other person to explain the situation? Why don’t people talk to each other instead of behind the other persons back? Why has this concept become acceptable? What happened to compassion, integrity and respect of others? Why do people feel the need to gossip and create drama everywhere they go? Why are some people just so mean? Why is there so much hostility towards one another?
What happen to kindness, patience and truthfulness?
How can we change this behavior in our personal lives and work environment? I think one person at a time not getting sucked into this conduct by walking away or stating I’m not going to participate in this activity anymore.
Why would we want discord and upheaval in our lives? We should want to encourage others to follow their dreams and aspirations? When people are complacent they sometimes become miserable and angry with their situation and take it out on others. It is time to change this demeanor and be pleasant to each other by listening and having some empathy? How about it? Let’s live our lives with joy instead of distress! 🙂 ~ Patti
Honesty with oneself is one of the biggest challenges towards personal growth. Honesty does not alter with each situation or with the people you hang around with. If you are conducting an honest way of life, you are the same person all the time even when by yourself.
Honesty, integrity and sincerity are not about hurting or offending others. Be tactful, sensitive, and being in the right moment can make an enormous difference when dealing with others. Honesty expresses wisdom and releases you from the expectations of others.
How can being honest with yourself and others change your path in life and encourage personal growth? Would this help you to pursue what you really want in life?
What is holding you back from being honest to yourself and others?
