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The Pressure of Perfection on Managers and Supervisors

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will talk about the pressures of perfection on managers and supervisors.

As Managers and Supervisors, we put a lot of expectations on ourselves as well as others. 

So why do we feel we have to be perfect? 

Are we putting those expectations on ourselves, or do people expect us to be perfect with our attitude, appearance, decisions, and performance?

It appears that perfection is expected and pressured onto Managers and Supervisors, which trickles down to the employees — the appearance of being perfect and pointing out other people’s mistakes and faults accompanied by harsh judgment has become the norm in workplaces. In this type of environment, there is a lack of focus, creativity, and willingness to try new things. As a result, people don’t grow, nor do the products, services, and revenue.  

It’s okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and not continually repeat them. How feedback is delivered can make or break a person, whether at work, home, volunteering, or among friends. Too much nitpicking and micromanaging is why good employees leave. 

A good leader will let employees try new and different processes, especially if the current approach isn’t working, outdated, or becoming mundane. Listening is essential to know what is working and what is not. Being approachable and welcoming is the first step to building trust, hearing what people feel and new ideas, and realizing that mistakes happen. Finally, good leaders are flexible —having a crucial conversation on what happened and working together on how to fix the situation—talking about what worked and what didn’t and coming up with a plan to make it better with an agreeable resolution.

What if you are a manager or supervisor who doesn’t like conflict?

Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage, and promotes better communication skills. Start by responding to emails, voicemails, and texts, even short and the point. Something is better than nothing. Meet with employees, listen, and be engaged. As you address complex situations, it does get easier as time goes on. Communication skills are an essential part of becoming a better leader.  

Managers and Supervisors are the hardest on themselves. When projects fail, they take it to heart and feel awful and embarrassed.

Here are some Self-Reflect Questions to ponder when a mistake or failure happens.

What did I learn?

What will I do differently next time?

What areas do I need to improve?

What did I learn about myself, customers, clients, superiors, and employees from this experience?

An Affirmation to recite to get you through during or after a mistake or failure:

I will not let mistakes from the past carry on into today.

Pretty much everyone wants to do a good job and wants to please their superiors, customers, employees, and clients. So when mistakes happen, knowledging them by taking action steps to rectify them. By doing this, it will reflect, you are an honest person with integrity. This imperfect world sure does need more managers and supervisors like this. Letting go of perfection and being authentic changes the workplace from chaos to calm. 

Until next we meet again!

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Playcation – It’s Time To Plan It and Do It!

It’s officially summer. The weather is changing to enjoy outdoor adventures. It’s time to start planning and going on vacation activities. Scheduling it on the calendar is the first step to make it happen. After that, the time is blocked out, and work will not occur.

For some planning, a vacation can be overwhelming. Booking the flight, lodging, activities, rent a car, or not renting a car, etc. Staying local and pursuing fun, entertainment, and recreation may be a good option.

What is a playcation?  Here is my explanation of a playcation as doing something fun and enjoyable on vacation. I recommend blocking out and scheduling specific enjoyable activities to do physically while getting some fresh air and sunlight. Maybe it is golfing, parasailing, snorkeling, zip-lining, water skiing, camping, hiking, getting the body moving, and so much more.

What has been your bucket list or what I call adventure list that you always wanted to do? If you don’t have an adventure list, it’s time to make one. Making an adventure list will help you plan future adventures and playcations.

I started making an adventure list by each state in two notebooks; as I see something on TV, Facebook, Pinterest, or hear about it from someone to visit and do that activity, I will write it in the books. If I don’t have the books with me, I put them on my phone in notes and then later write them in the book under that state.

As you begin to plan a playcation, take out your adventure list. I find this is a great motivation tool to experience something new a different and inspire me to do it.

How about making an adventure list and putting it into action?

I would love to hear or see your adventure list. Become carefree and just do it. Let the adventure begin!

If you are struggling with creating a balanced life. How about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

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The Feelings Of Being Alone As A Manager or Supervisor

I have recently been watching the entire TV Series “Alone.” This show is about ten survival experts put in a remote area at least 10 miles away from each other to fend for themselves with ten survival items, some clothes, and live off the land. The survivalist who stays the longest wins 500,000 dollars. In season 7, if a participant lasts 100 days, they will receive 1 million dollars. 

It is interesting to follow each participant on their journey of living alone and isolated how they cope with surviving from dealing with emotional, physical, and mental challenges along the way.  

What is their breaking point? What keeps them going out there when they could easily hit a button and go home? The reasons they are there in the first place and how that goal changes once they experienced their time alone and the hardship they endure. 

How this life lesson changed their life forever in ways, they never thought it would. The time they spent in self-reflection about what matters.

To see their struggles, whether physical, mental, or emotionally, can bring you to tears. How excited and thankful they get for catching a fish or trapping an animal in a snare. Each day is about trying to hold on and not give up.  

Sometimes, this is how it feels for managers and supervisors dealing with the daily grind “ALONE.”  Trying to hold it together each day—the pressure of being squeezed from top to bottom trying to survive the criticism and actions of yourself and others and being judged for every decision made or not made. Every day walking into the office can be the breaking point of success or ruin.  

Employees worried about layoffs, unreasonable workload demands, meetings that don’t amount too much, expectations of successfully managing the chaos each day, and ridiculous emails to answer—trying to work or lead your team without any emotions. 

Feeling emotions are natural, and if you don’t have any, what happened?

When did the career strip you of all humanity?

The Alone series teaches us there is so much more to life than boatloads of money, fame, and a demanding career that requires attention 24/7 and eventually leads to burnout, overwhelm, health problems, and anxiety.

The life lessons learned from the show to be grateful, love deeply, cherish the peacefulness, enjoy life to the fullest, and go home and spend time with your family and friends. 

I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor while surviving the daily grind.

If you are struggling with the daily grind how about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

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What Keeps You Going – When You Feel Like Giving Up?

At the time of writing this blog post, it had been a struggle for me. I knew I wanted to write a blog post, and I couldn’t think of a topic. I hadn’t been feeling well, and everything seemed to be hard to focus on and do. I had the COVID vaccine and an allergy shot. It hit me hard.  

I talked with my husband about the struggle of a topic, and he said maybe you should write a blog post about this subject.  What keeps you going?  

It is hard to be inspired when you just aren’t feeling it. 🙂 I’m sure we all have felt that way some time or another. 

Pushing through it happens daily for people going to a job they hate. 

How do they get through it?

Is it a mindset of “I have bills to pay, a family to feed, or goals to achieve to make my life easier, and people are relying on me?”

What keeps you going when you don’t feel like doing it?

I think we sometimes put heavy expectations on ourselves as well. So what if I didn’t write a blog post this week? I’m sure my followers would understand or maybe not even notice that I missed a week. I love coaching, writing, podcasting, blogging, and traveling; it inspires me, and my hope is it inspires others.

We all go through things in our lives that can throw us out of wack. It could be a hopeless mindset, family circumstances, a tyrant boss, health issues, or a tragedy. How do we move past it and keep going?

Something to believe in or the will of not giving up?

I asked my followers – What keeps you going – when you feel like giving up?

Here are some of the comments:

  1. Look around you
  2. Never thought to give up, but after a long exhausting day, just seeing my dogs makes me at peace again 
  3. Life is precious, have a good cry sure does help.
  4. Coaches like you!
  5. Faith
  6. Prayer
  7. Family
  8. A cocktail
  9. Friends
  10. Beer
  11. Chocolate

Life circumstances have a way of knocking us down when we weren’t expecting it —having strategies to cope and putting them in place when starting to feel the emotions of giving up helps.

Let’s talk about some quick and easy strategies to get through the day.  

  • Get up and move around
  • Go outside and get some fresh air
  • Eat a healthy snack or meal.
  • Exercise
  • Talk to a friend
  • Listen to uplifting music
  • Get creative, paint, color, or draw 
  • Cuddle with your pet 
  • Read a good book
  • Watch or listen to comedy
  • Dance and sing to your favorite songs
  • Do something fun and silly 

Hire a life or career coach like me to help you work through the challenges and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

I would love to hear your strategies and tips on “What keeps you going – when you feel like giving up?

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Staying Positive In A Negative Environment!

I get asked this question regularly. “How can I stay positive in a negative work environment?” I understand how easy to get sucked into negativity, drama, or a bad attitude when you are in a toxic work environment.  

Some people want to pull you into their emotional drama—rude comments about others, sarcastic undertones, and the energy vampires who want to drag everyone else down with them. People don’t even realize that they have a negative attitude because it has become a habit and spills into their personal lives.

When working in a toxic environment, people may start to take everything personally because of the feeling of being verbally attacked, mutilated, one-upping, taken advantage of, or pointing out mistakes or faults. As time goes on, it takes a toll on people’s emotions.

If you have been following me for a while, you know I have written about similar topics before. This situation is one of the biggest challenges people face when working with others. However, there is hope.  

What are some strategies to help stay positive?

  1. Walk away when drama is happening around you. Please don’t engage in it. Excuse yourself from the conversation.  
  2. When there are unkind remarks about someone else, say something nice about that particular person. This action tends to halt the conversation.
  3. Listen to uplifting music – like 528 Hz Positive Energy music on Youtube.
  4. Recite Positive Affirmations.
  5. Journal how you are feeling.
  6. Go for a walk.
  7. Focus on work tasks.

Be the person you want to be around. Focus on what you want in your life and remove the thoughts of what you don’t. Set goals of how you are going to change your situation and put them into action. Hire a coach to help you succeed to get where you want to be. ~ Patti 

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Episode 40 – Finding Purpose Beyond Work – There is More to Life than Working! (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti discuss Finding Purpose Beyond Work.  

A Summary:

Having some work-life balance keeps communication open and nourishes your relationships. Take time out weekly to cherish your family life, spend time with a friend, a hobby and make some time to rest, so your life is fulfilled?

Here are some self-reflection questions to ponder if you are overworking:Am I putting my work or career ahead of everything else? What is it doing to my relationships? Am I saying yes to an unreasonable workload and not taking time off or vacation? Am I connecting to my family? Do I have true friends? Am I happy? Do I smile? Am I kind to others at work?

What does being successful look like?

What is a satisfying life?

What is a purposeful life?

What is a meaningful life?

Purpose is not always about big-scale plans. Purpose is about meeting people who can help you get to the next stage of life. Many of the most important or valuable connections in life start by meeting other people and seeing what opportunities may come. 

To help create a work-life balance and purpose in life, Patti made an online course called – Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders!

Angela helps business owners with spirit work. What are the spiritual reasons you incarnated to have this business or life? Your business and life are often a lesson to help you develop – it’s not only about the money. Of Course, there will be challenges and learnings about money. For more information on how to work with Angela go to – https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/

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How Can Reiki Sessions Help Reduce Stress, Overwhelm, and Inspire Problem-Solving?

As a Leadership, Work-Life Balance Coach, and Reiki Practitioner, I want to help managers and supervisors reduce their overwhelm, stress, anxiety, overload before burnout or health issues occur. Bring some peace and tranquility into their chaotic lives.

Reiki is a powerful practice to help with relaxation, stress-relief, lower anxiety, and overworked mind chatter. Spending time relaxing and letting go of the week’s overloaded and complicated tasks. A Reiki session can make all the difference from keeping you balanced and your mind in peace and harmony so you can be more productive and calm during those stressful moments at work and home.  

What is Reiki?

Reiki is a Japanese technique for relaxation, which also promotes healing. Reiki’s performed through touch, or hands are hovering over someone or from a distance. Warm and soothing energy flows from the practitioner’s hands into the recipient, promoting relaxation and releasing tension. 

It’s easy to neglect yourself when your career demands 24/7 access to you, however taking time out makes life more enjoyable for you, your staff, friends, and the family. You are a much more stable personality when you take some me-time. Also, when you are relaxed, your mind has time to rest. When your mind relaxes, it has time to rejuvenate; that’s when good ideas and problem-solving happen.

How about having a Distant Reiki Session? Click on the “Schedule Now” Button and choose either a 30-minute Distant Reiki Session or a 60-minute – Distant Reiki Session.

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Know Your Value!

My Business Coach Cheryl Thacker recently posted this story; the author is unknown, and it touched me deeply, and I would like to share it with you.

Here’s the story:

Before he died, a father said to his son, “Here is a watch that your grandfather gave me. It is almost 200 years old. Before I give it to you, go to the jewelry store and tell them that I want to sell it, and see how much they offer you.” The son went to the jewelry store, came back to his father, and said, “They offered $150.00 because it’s so old.” The father said, “Go to the pawnshop.” The son went to the pawnshop, came back to his father, and said, “The pawnshop offered $10.00 because it looks so worn.” The father asked his son to go to the museum and show them the watch. He went to the museum, came back, and said to his father, “The curator offered $500,000.00 for this rare piece to include in their precious antique collections.” The father said, “I wanted to let you know that the right place values you in the right way. Don’t find yourself in the wrong place and get angry if you are not valued. Those that know your value are those who appreciate you, don’t stay in a place where nobody sees your value.”

I’m sure many of you can relate to the end of the story and felt it.

The right place values you in the right way. Don’t find yourself in the wrong place and get angry if you are not valued. Those that know your value are those who appreciate you, don’t stay in a place where nobody sees your value. ~ unknown

Many of us have worked or currently work in industries where being criticized, under-appreciated, under-minded, devalued, flaws and mistakes are pointed out and not forgiven.

The mind games can bring people to their knees, break them down and destroy good honest people.

Like the story, if a job or career is slowly killing you, it’s time to start putting together a strategy exit plan into action and go somewhere you’re valued. Be with people who light you up and appreciate your talents and contributions.

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How To Conquer The “What If’s” Syndrome Of Hiring

It is time to hire – A valuable team member who has taken another position, and it is time to start the hiring process for their job. You think you won’t be able to find someone else who could bring as much value to the workplace or be a nightmare of “The What If’s.”

As a Manager, hiring can be challenging and stressful at the same time. Thoughts run through your head of “The What if’s.”

What if’s – I choose the wrong person for the position. They have interviewed well and know what to say, but they are not coachable or have a toxic attitude towards customers, coworkers, and me when they come in.

Yes, hiring someone may be stressful for you, your team, and the interviewee. Wanting to make the right decision can at times overtake you. Relax, pause and take time to clear your mind to reason. You don’t have to make the final decision in one day. List the pros and cons of the top two candidates. What did they communicate from the interview and resume (CV), and what strengths does the team want and need from the potential candidate to make the team unit more substantial and more efficient? What expertise does this candidate bring that can help the team succeed.

Things to consider in the hiring process:

  • Have a least one team member in the first interview. 
  • How about bringing back the two top candidates for a second interview and have them interact with your team. 
  • Have team members go over the job duties and show them an average day on the job. Candidates feel at ease when with a team member and may open up more.
  • After their interaction with the candidate, have them meet with you again informally to ask questions they may have. Putting this into action will tell you a lot the more relaxed they are and get more of a feel of their personality.
  • Later after the top two candidates have come back for the second interview and met with staff, ask the staff what their thoughts are. Remember they have to work with this person. Their opinions are priceless because they could save a lot of damage to you and the team in the end, and this is where trust and honesty come into play. Do they feel comfortable telling you how they think? Do they feel safe to express their opinions? 
  • Now you have the ultimate decision and are responsible for it. If you have communicated well with your team, and understand that and respect your decision. Your employees need to know that you appreciate their feedback and respect their perspectives. 
  • Some employees may feel more comfortable giving feedback privately, and sometimes the team may want a group meeting to share their thoughts with you. That is where you know you have a team that cares about the job and the work environment and you as their leader.

If you are blessed to have this hiring practice and employees honest feedback, it is rare in a workplace. As a manager or supervisor, you want to strive for this kind of teamwork and work environment.

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Episode 34 – Communicating in Conflict! (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti get real and have a conversation about communicating in conflict.

When we came up with this topic, we explored being okay to say no and have a fall-out with someone. People pleasers struggle with saying no because they are scared, leading to the person not liking them or getting upset with them.

Nowadays, people are quick to avoid or ghost others instead of talking to each other. They wash their hands of people and walk away. It is easier to bail than to communicate. We hope this not the case; we know it is better to discuss things, whether pleasant or not, for relationships to last. Patti wrote a blog called “Damaged Relationships – Are They Salvageable?” It is about fall-out relationships and how unforgiveness causes physical and emotional harm.

In episode Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked! Angela and Patti talked about communicating at work or when working from Home when overwhelmed with the workload.

Working relationships do have fall-outs that are not pretty. Avoidance makes more stress within the Workplace because the little things start adding up to big things when not addressed. That’s when all hell breaks loose in the Workplace, and people explode, get burnt out, start overthinking, become anxious, have low morale and no motivation, or even worse, quit and walk out without any notice. Patti did a blog called – How to Respond to Unprofessional People! Journal about what happened. Reflect on how they may respond to you. Create a plan of action on how to communicate calmly and to respond sensibly.

In the blog post series called Bad Leadership Styles. The series is how to identify different styles of Leadership with suggestions on guidance to address these negative behaviors. I will provide the link in the show notes.

Tips on How to Keep the Relationship While Dealing With Conflict:

Work on your feelings first: 

❤️ Are you angry and denying it?

❤️ What are you feeling?

❤️ If it’s about being right.

❤️ Why do you need to be, right?

❤️ Being right is always based on a belief that you should be better than someone.

❤️ Why do you have to be better than someone?

If you’re listening to this in the holidays and you want to focus on having better relationships, then take this time to envision or pray or imagine the type of affection or connection you would love in your relationships.

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