In case you didn’t get a chance to watch my exciting interview with Noleen Sliney, a Video Confidence Mentor. Noleen inspires and encourages her clients and pushes them out of their comfort zone to try new things within their business. She interviewed me on August 13, 2022.
Here’s what Noleen Sliney wrote about the interview. I had the absolute privilege of interviewing our view own changemaker Patti Oskvarek today over on my Facebook page. This was such an interesting, inspirational and fun conversation. Patti was incredible and was very generous in sharing many of her tips and words of wisdom on how to bring balance into your life and work. She also shared some very interesting things about herself. Be sure to go and watch the interview to find out what it is as well as be inspired by Patti. We would also very much appreciate your support to boost engagement and get this seen by more people by leaving a comment under the video. Thanks in advance. Noleen Sliney
I am Patti Oskvarek, leadership and work-life balance coach and reiki practitioner.
How do I use what I do in my daily life?
I understand that I have to slow down and bring some balance in my life because if I don’t, things become blurred and can affect my health and relationships. I tend to over-push myself to the point of exhaustion or overload. When I start to feel tired or overloaded, I know that I need to spend alone time to recharge and refresh. Spend time outside, whether in my backyard or going out in nature. Take time to reflect, meditate or pray, listen to some calming music and do some self reiki myself.
I have a work-life balance workbook called The Optimal Work-Life Balance workbook motivates you to focus, de-stress, and gain a new perspective of a balanced life. The downloadable workbook has advice and tips on improving your life while working at your own pace. It is self-paced, achievable, and reusable throughout your life! Also included, you will receive 21 -Days of inspirational emails with tips and information daily that will set you on the path of creating your balanced life.
I also created the Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards to inspire and encourage; read and repeat them throughout the day. Post them around your home, work area, or in your vehicle. They are pocket-size which makes them easy to carry around with you.
The cards are a companion to the Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook. I use these cards to encourage when working on a particular topic or program day; I read and repeat them throughout the day. I post them around your home, work area, or in my vehicle. They are pocket-size which makes them easy to carry around.
How I use them:
Shuffle and randomly select a card, and reflect and repeat the affirmation throughout the day. Then, shuffle and pull a random card.
Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.
If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.
I have recently been watching the entire TV Series “Alone.” This show is about ten survival experts put in a remote area at least 10 miles away from each other to fend for themselves with ten survival items, some clothes, and live off the land. The survivalist who stays the longest wins 500,000 dollars. In season 7, if a participant lasts 100 days, they will receive 1 million dollars.
It is interesting to follow each participant on their journey of living alone and isolated how they cope with surviving from dealing with emotional, physical, and mental challenges along the way.
What is their breaking point? What keeps them going out there when they could easily hit a button and go home? The reasons they are there in the first place and how that goal changes once they experienced their time alone and the hardship they endure.
How this life lesson changed their life forever in ways, they never thought it would. The time they spent in self-reflection about what matters.
To see their struggles, whether physical, mental, or emotionally, can bring you to tears. How excited and thankful they get for catching a fish or trapping an animal in a snare. Each day is about trying to hold on and not give up.
Sometimes, this is how it feels for managers and supervisors dealing with the daily grind “ALONE.” Trying to hold it together each day—the pressure of being squeezed from top to bottom trying to survive the criticism and actions of yourself and others and being judged for every decision made or not made. Every day walking into the office can be the breaking point of success or ruin.
Employees worried about layoffs, unreasonable workload demands, meetings that don’t amount too much, expectations of successfully managing the chaos each day, and ridiculous emails to answer—trying to work or lead your team without any emotions.
Feeling emotions are natural, and if you don’t have any, what happened?
When did the career strip you of all humanity?
The Alone series teaches us there is so much more to life than boatloads of money, fame, and a demanding career that requires attention 24/7 and eventually leads to burnout, overwhelm, health problems, and anxiety.
The life lessons learned from the show to be grateful, love deeply, cherish the peacefulness, enjoy life to the fullest, and go home and spend time with your family and friends.
I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor while surviving the daily grind.
If you are struggling with the daily grind how about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.
If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.
It’s Time to Spring into Action with the Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook.
Springtime is the perfect time to accomplish your goals.
Finding balance in your life can be challenging to do, especially during these stressful days. It’s no wonder that you’re feeling out of balance and overwhelmed! There are things you can do to achieve balance in your life.
Help is here, don’t struggle anymore, come and join the Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook and live your best life outside of work. Following the great tips, strategies, inspirational guidance will motivate you to stay on track with your new work-life balance lifestyle.
The Optimal Work-Life Balance workbook motivates you to focus, de-stress, and gain a new perspective of a balanced life. The downloadable workbook has advice and tips on improving your life while working at your own pace. It is self-paced, achievable, and reusable throughout your life! Also included, you will receive 21 -Days of inspirational emails with tips and information daily that will set you on the path of creating your balanced life.
The workbook has proven strategies to help you create the best work-life balance plan for you.
A self-paced journey to make it easy for you to succeed.
A proven system to create your work-life lifestyle.
A private Facebook group to support, inspire and motivate you in continuing to achieve work-life balance throughout your journey.
For a limited-time offer, the Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook is $19.00, and the price will increase to $27.00 on March 31, 2021.
As a Leadership, Work-Life Balance Coach, and Reiki Practitioner, I want to help managers and supervisors reduce their overwhelm, stress, anxiety, overload before burnout or health issues occur. Bring some peace and tranquility into their chaotic lives.
Reiki is a powerful practice to help with relaxation, stress-relief, lower anxiety, and overworked mind chatter. Spending time relaxing and letting go of the week’s overloaded and complicated tasks. A Reiki session can make all the difference from keeping you balanced and your mind in peace and harmony so you can be more productive and calm during those stressful moments at work and home.
What is Reiki?
Reiki is a Japanese technique for relaxation, which also promotes healing. Reiki’s performed through touch, or hands are hovering over someone or from a distance. Warm and soothing energy flows from the practitioner’s hands into the recipient, promoting relaxation and releasing tension.
It’s easy to neglect yourself when your career demands 24/7 access to you, however taking time out makes life more enjoyable for you, your staff, friends, and the family. You are a much more stable personality when you take some me-time. Also, when you are relaxed, your mind has time to rest. When your mind relaxes, it has time to rejuvenate; that’s when good ideas and problem-solving happen.
How about having a Distant Reiki Session? Click on the “Schedule Now” Button and choose either a 30-minute Distant Reiki Session or a 60-minute – Distant Reiki Session.
If there’s one thing you’ve likely realized by now, it’s that life is rarely one-dimensional! You probably have a hard time identifying a period in your past when life proceeded without interruptions.
But have you ever thought about this? Those “interruptions” belong there because life is meant to be multi-dimensional.
Your life is interesting and fulfilling because of variety. Variety in the professional and personal aspects of your life make every day worth living. Now all you really need to do is learn how to balance it all.
Train yourself to balance life’s demands by implementing these effective habits:
1. Prioritize. Although you may be a little hesitant to go through this step, it’s vital.
· Do you find yourself putting greater effort into your career? Perhaps that’s where your passion lies right now. It’s important to come to terms with that.
· Have you experienced being at work and contemplating where to take your kids this weekend? Maybe that’s truly your focus, and that’s okay too!
· The first step is determining what’s more important to you. After you’ve done that, consider whether you can afford to be in that position. If there are factors pointing to unrealistic priorities, be honest with yourself. Put first things first!
2. Create a distinction. Now that you’ve outlined your priorities, your next task is to ensure the responsibilities are properly distinguished. Are there certain responsibilities that really shouldn’t be on your radar right now?
· Earning another degree can certainly add to your qualifications, but is the timing right? If your job is already fulfilling, how about putting off more schooling for now? Use your time wisely so you can balance professional and personal responsibilities.
· It’s great if your kids can participate in tons of extracurricular activities. But do you have the time to attend all the games and recitals? Meet them halfway by limiting the activities, or share the responsibilities with your spouse.
3. Stick to a dedicated schedule.It’s only fair to give each aspect of your life the time it deserves. Once you’ve identified the priorities, avoid allowing both areas of your life to intertwine.
· If you’ve allocated three hours each evening to those special people in your life, ensure you stick to that. This will keep your relationships intact.
· Sure, unexpected occurrences may pop up at work and throw your plans out of whack. But what’s important is that you make the effort to stick to schedules as much as possible.
4. Make it worth your while.When you’ve identified set windows of time for specific responsibilities, maintain your focus, and follow through.
· If it’s time for work, make it all about work. Try to produce your best quality and get the best results. That way, you’ll feel at ease when you’re ready to move on to your personal time. You’ll rest better knowing you’ve given your best at work.
· The same thing goes for personal time. Turn off the television. Silence your cell phone. Shut down your computer. Allow yourself to take care of personal responsibilities without interruption.
When you practice these tips regularly, you’ll find that it gets a little easier each day to balance these two different areas of your life.
Soon, you’ll be able to handle any unexpected circumstance without getting flustered because you have a good handle on balancing your work and home lives.
Finding balance in your life can be challenging to do, especially during these stressful days. There are family and work obligations, plus extra-curricular activities for your kids and unexpected situations. It’s no wonder that you’re feeling out of balance and overwhelmed!
There are things you can do to achieve balance in your life. Below are great starting points to get you on the road to a well-balanced life.
Start using a central calendar for every member of your family.
This calendar can be a shared calendar online using Google Calendar, or it can be a paper calendar stuck on the fridge. Either way, have each family member write their activities on the calendar and be sure to include the time, location, and mode of transportation. This way, nothing gets missed, and you can plan your schedule accordingly.
If there are conflicting activities, this is a good time to teach your family about compromises and the give and take in relationships. There are ways to work things out, and a little lesson in selflessness never hurts anyone.
Take a look at your daily routine. Are there activities you can cut out to make your life more balanced?
In this society of rush-rush, convenience, and got-to-have-it-all or do-it-all, you may be feeling overwhelmed by all the extracurricular activities you’re involved in. As you look at each activity, ask yourself:
Is this activity necessary for my well being?
Can I live without being involved in this activity?
Is this improving my life, or is this overwhelming me?
Is this helping others, or is it purely for self-gratification?
Is this going to help me achieve my career, family, and personal goals?
The answers to these questions will help you clean up your schedule and continue to enjoy the things that are really important to you and your family.
Establish a daily routine.
Routines help us stay on task and get things done without procrastination. Without a daily routine, you tend to wander aimlessly, instead of engaging in tasks that take you down the right path toward your goals.
If you work from home, it’s easy to wander away from your daily routine because you can set your own schedule, so it’s especially important to have a routine and work diligently at sticking to it. Whether you work out of the home or you’re a stay at home mom or dad, a daily schedule is vital. Following an agenda will help you achieve your daily, monthly, and yearly goals.
Set goals for yourself, your family, and your career.
Without goals, you have nothing to work for, and you’ll feel lost without purpose. Talk about making things feel out of balance! Some worthwhile goals to reach for might be:
Starting your own business
A new house
A new car
Establishing a budget and sticking to it
A pay raise
Learning a new skill or trade
Writing a book
Those are just a few ideas to get you started thinking about all the possibilities available to help you achieve more balance in your life.
Balance in life is something that requires constant attention and resilience. Don’t let the busyness of life get in the way of living your life to the fullest.You can accomplish it when you work at it. Keep trying, and you’ll be amazed at the stability that comes your way.
Do you feel like you’re so busy that you don’t have time for a life? Do you feel as if you’re constantly running behind?
There are ways you can learn to negotiate your work life, so you become more productive.
Once you become more organized at work, you can more fully enjoy your time away from work as well. If you’re not stressing about your job, you can relax when you’re at home and live a more balanced life.
How can you be more productive? What can you do to improve the quality of your life?
Here are a few ideas to find work-life balance:
Slow Down. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and it seems like you’re running in circles, sometimes the best thing you can do is to slow down.
Take the time to prioritize. Going faster doesn’t mean you’re more productive or that you accomplish more things. Doing things right the first time will save time in the long run.
Stop Procrastinating. There are certain things about any job that is mundane. If you take the time to do the tedious parts of your job, you can breathe a sigh of relief sooner.
Schedule an afternoon to finish those pesky tasks so you can move on to more interesting (or even fun!) things.
Share The Work. You don’t have to do everything! Recruit some help from your fellow employees or family members.
Delegate responsibilities, and you’ll get everything done in a timely manner. This facilitates teamwork and makes everyone feel like they’ve made a contribution. It also gives you some relief while your helpers gain a sense of accomplishment.
Simplify. Don’t make things complicated. As humans, we tend to make extra work for ourselves, even if it’s unnecessary.
Why reinvent the wheel?
If something works, don’t try to fix it.
Always remember the KISS method: Keep It Simple Silly.
De-clutter. Streamlining your workspace helps you focus on your work.
Arrange your desk so you can reach what you need the moment you need it. Sifting through multiple piles costs you valuable time, causes frustration, and can even prevent you from completing important tasks!
Learn To Say No. When your workload is maxed out, be assertive about saying no.Help your boss understand that your plate is full and not insubordinate.
Stay within your scheduled hours. Once you’ve learned to keep work from cutting into your personal time, you will become more empowered to enjoy life outside the office walls.
Implement Technology. Use technology to your advantage. A small-time investment in entering information, such as addresses and other contact information, into a computer system can save volumes of time later.
Once you’ve implemented a system, it’s much easier to make changes to the information and stay current. It also makes it easier to keep up with detailed customer information.
Eliminate Distractions. If your personal life interferes with your job, set some boundaries. Be firm when you have work to finish.
Leave your cell phone in the car or switch it off during work hours.
Discourage frequent personal calls or visits.
Delay socializing with co-workers until your work is done.
Once you’ve learned to streamline your workday, you’ll find that you no longer dread going to work and bringing it all home! Imagine knowing that you’re ready to start your day instead of playing catch up from yesterday.
Be sure to start using these ideas today to enjoy a great work-life balance and a more fulfilling life!
❤️ Do you have work-life balance in your relationships?
❤️ Are you spending valuable time with your family and close friends?
Some say work-life balance is not achievable, while others say you can. What is a balanced life, really? It is what you choose it to be. There are going to be times in our lives where we think it can never be achievable. The question may come – How do you stay balanced when you feel everything is crashing down around you?
❤️ It may be time to step back and say enough and refocus on what truly matters.
If you come from a life where you are expected to be serious, play can be difficult for you. Maybe you don’t allow yourself to play; maybe you need permission to play. Maybe you need a purpose for play. So give yourself a purpose for the play. The purpose for play could be “I’m stimulating my creative mind” or “discovering lateral thinking and new ways of coming up with solutions”.
❤️ What does play mean for you?
❤️ What will it add to your life?
This can be a great way to encourage play as an opportunity to invigorate your life.
Life will be chaotic, hectic, and disappointing, but having some strategies will soften the experience. How we react to it is what determines happiness. Put some of these suggestions into practice and don’t forget to step back, breathe, enjoy your life, schedule playtime with family and friends, and let go of what does not matter. Live life to the fullest!
❤️ Do you want more balance and play in your life?
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