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Exploring Good Boundaries In The Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 10 – Exploring Good Boundaries In The Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In today’s podcast, we explore having good boundaries in the workplace.

Have you ever worked with someone who has no sense of boundaries?

What do I mean? 

Heres’ an example:

Someone who asks you personal things or wants you to do something for them is entirely out of line, sarcastic, embarrassing, and takes advantage? They have no filter or common sense that it is not appropriate.

It could be your boss, a co-worker, or an employee. 

How do you handle these situations without feeling rude, resentful, or used?

Here’s an example of setting boundaries with a person with no filter or asking things that are none of their business

I’ve worked with people who would say what they were thinking without stopping and pausing before speaking. There was no holding back if the words were unkind, insensitive, rude, pushy, harsh, gossip, or nosy. 

I remember working with a person that loved to gossip about everyone at work. She would come into my office and start talking about others or trying to get information out of me. I would say I am swamped right now or change the subject or stand up and tell her I have to go. Finally, she stopped coming into my office to gossip.

What if someone is harsh, unkind, rude, and pushy to you? Ask them – how you are doing or what’s going on. You would be surprised how that can change the conversation from hostile to civil. Stating what’s going on gives them a chance to explain how they feel about their situation or problem.

Here’s an example of someone that takes advantage – the Doer and Slacker 

The doer personality will sometimes take on your people’s work without recognizing that the slacker is pawning it off. Especially when a project is close to a deadline in a team environment, the Doer will step in to finish the project on time.  

How does a Doer get the slacker to complete their part of the project? By not rescuing them. Let the project deadline go over, and don’t protect the slacker, the uncompleted task assigned to the slacker, and everyone knows it. If the slacker is accountable for their actions, they will have to start stepping up to complete their part when everyone doesn’t let them get away with it. Keeping up with the boundary of not doing the slacker work is necessary to change the behavior and for the boss to become aware. Remember, it is not your responsibility for that person’s lack of completion. You are responsible for yourself and you alone; this is a complex concept for the Doer, but setting the boundary of not covering and doing all the work will stop being taken advantage of and give you more time to do the things you enjoy. 

As a manager or supervisor, there are times when employees push the boundaries, asking you things you can’t discuss and communicating to them that you can’t comment on this.

What are some boundary techniques you use at work?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I have good boundaries at work!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships.

Summary

This podcast topic came from a listener’s request about not taking everything so personally.

Why do some people or cultures make it look so easy not to take things personally and others take every little thing to heart?

Is it the environment of how we are raised?

Or do some people have DNA that can let things roll off their back or turn the other cheek with ease?

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly sensitive in nature? 

How to overcome hurt by someone’s harsh words:
Remind yourself it’s about them not about you at that moment.  Maybe you did something they didn’t like. What did their words really say?  Was it about the behavior?  Or something else?


One tip is to watch your conditioning:
What are the annoyed and angry voices in your head regarding the household chores?
You will hear your expectations, you may hear your parents, but you will hear the frustration of someone else not doing what you want and thinking about what should be done.

This is your conditioning. So once you hear it. Simply say – ok – that’s my conditioning. It’s not that this person hates me or is insulting me – or wants me dead or ignores me.

This is my expectation about how things should be done. And then if you’re really angry maybe don’t speak with the other person!

But then think about how you could say to them what you want. But don’t expect them to do it the way you want because that may not be their conditioning!

Some strategies to help deal with and not take things personally:

  • Listen to happy, soothing, calming, or spiritual music when feelings start to surface within you.
  • Find something fun to do to help redirect thoughts.
  • Practice meditation and pray for “Letting Go” of things people have said.  
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when around certain people. Become aware of those thoughts and assumptions. Reflect on why these reactions are happening and how you can release or address them?
  • With friendships, coworkers, partners and family how has taking things personally affected these relationships?  What can I do to change it for the better

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly-sensitive in nature?

Do you feel you’re Feeling too much?

Feeling everything about you – you are the center of attention – are you the most important thing in a relationship?

What is a relationship?

A relationship is not just about you.

A relationship is like a dance – two people having a tango – push-pull. Not about just you and your feelings. ~ Angela Ambrosia

For meditations to help with hurt in relationships here is the video series “Choose the Relationship” by Angela Ambrosia. The meditations are at the end of the videos.


 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business

Summary:

To listen to podcast episode, Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business.

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a conversation about women and men in the workplace and more.  

(Patti) Angela, I recently saw an Instagram Reel of a young lady from Alabama who was looking for a place to do her eyelash business, and because she was a woman she was having a hard time getting a place even though her business was successful and had the money to make the rent.  She even had a male friend call and the landlords were going to rent to him but not to her.  This was shocking to me because I thought those days were gone. The link https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cbh4ClCjXkM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

(Patti) Do men make more money in the same position as women? YES or NO
To participate.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/polls/ or on Spotify.

(Angela) The Gig Economy is where everyone is moving away from full-time or part-time work to casual on-call work, as an Uber driver to an Online Entrepreneur to offering services in exchange for a fixed fee – like a coach or trainer, or other service providers.
And women have jumped on this for thousands of years before what we have now as a way to provide for their families while also cooking, housekeeping, and raising their young families. The modern gig economy is also increasing the demand for work-life balance so women and men can have time to be with their families and not work full-time hours.

How can women change their mindset to feel comfortable asking for what they are worth?

  1. Practice in the mirror asking for what you want at work.
  2. Write a script and memorize it so the words come out easy and confident.
  3. Say powerful daily affirmations for confidence and getting what you want.
  4. Get a mentor or coach to work with you on strategies to get what you want.

How can we have a better balance in the workplace between men and women whether it is pay, top management, or respecting each other?   We would love to hear your comments and feedback on this question.

Thank you so much for listening, please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to our podcast.

 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/message

Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/support

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Episode 63 – Becoming a Leader in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 63 – Becoming a Leaders in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Patti and Angela explore leadership in the workplace.  

Patti is a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach specializing in helping Managers and Supervisors. Patti has a monthly mini-podcast called Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm. This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who has focused on your career for years and now wants to live a more purposeful and balanced life outside of work. These mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day, from chaos to calm. Patti’s Podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm tackles issues that affect leaders directly. https://anchor.fm/exploringlifeandwork.

Here some questions to ask yourself and reflect on if you’re in a leadership role or thinking about pursuing a leadership position?

How do you speak to others?

Do you enjoy working with others?

Are you a team player?

Are you willing to be accountable for other people’s actions?

Are you ready to hold yourself responsible for your actions, admit when you are wrong, and apologize when needed?

Are you ready to give honest, constructive feedback to staff members?

Are you dedicated, dependable, trustworthy, ethical, and loyal to your company and employees?

How did you feel after answering these questions?

Being accountable for yourself and others is not something to take lightly. There are times when mistakes happen, and you have to accept the consequences of those mistakes and not blame everyone else around you but take responsibility even when one of your staff members did it. Then, learn from it and move on; believe me, Patti, know this is hard.

We tend to overthink it and beat ourselves up when mistakes happen, but reflecting on what happened as a lesson learned helps ease the process and strengthens relationships with yourself and others.

Leadership is an ongoing process of sometimes making mistakes and learning from those mistakes, and choosing not to make them again.

Reflect back on your working experience with your previous bosses.

What did you like about their leadership style?

What did you not like?

What makes a good leader?

How does a good leader create leaders in others?

 To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation

go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/

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Episode 62 – Building A Better Relationship With Your Body

Click to listen to Episode 62 – Building A Better Relationship With Your Body

In this unedited podcast episode, we discuss Angela’s Body of Love Journey and her book Body of Love: 10 Steps to Love Yourself and Your Body – A Workbook. Link to the Workbook http://amzn.to/2o28JFB.

It’s been ten years since Angela wrote the Body of Love in 2012. Happy 10th Anniversary Congratulations, Angela!

Today, Angela will celebrate what she has learned and so much more about the Body ten years later, and Angela is excited to share pieces of her teachings from the Body of Love and how they can help you change how you relate to the Body. Angela also discusses how different dance experiences helped shape her mindset to love her body.

“The time you spend connecting to yourself and your body is how you develop and make a relationship with the reservoir of love inside of you that allows you to share that love with others.” ~ Angela Ambrosia

“The Body of Love is the part of you so in love with life that it is beyond the suffering you experience in love and loving others, or yourself or in being here in the world. The more you love yourself, the more you are able to be who you truly are.” ~ Angela Ambrosia

“The concept of “service” is stepping into loving and knowing who you are so that you no longer live a lie, and in doing so, you allow others to live their truth and step into their own loving being.” ~ Angela Ambrosia 

“But as you grow through life with higher principles of love, you develop ways to accept people, tolerate differences and enjoy their differences without expecting others to live according to your version of love and find creative ways for us to grow and live together.”

“The greatest service you can do for others is to allow them the gift of loving themselves. When people feel that you encourage this self-love in them as you allow it for yourself, they will flock to you and want to be your best friend.” ~Angela Ambrosia

To learn more about Angela’s book Body of Love and to purchase Angela books http://amzn.to/2o28JFB

We would love to hear about your Body of Love Journey.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to this podcast.

To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore.

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation, go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Bonus Episode 1 – About BBR – Why Building Better Relationships Is Our Future With You

Click here to listen to the full podcast episode of Bonus Episode 1 – About BBR – Why Building Better Relationships Is Our Future With You.

Angela and Patti shared why they started Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti’s podcast in this bonus unedited live episode. Their vision for Building Better Relationships at Home and Work podcast, the future of relationships, and why we created the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation.

Right now, we understand that many people are struggling with relationships. The spectrum of problems ranges from isolation, social anxiety, and feeling unloved to unsatisfying relationships to relationships full of conflict and even abuse.

Patti and Angela started this podcast before the pandemic because, as a leader in the workplace, Patti saw people being taken advantage of and companies not appreciating employees.

As a teacher of love and relationships, Angela saw that people weren’t interested in looking at themselves and seemed to have lost the ability to find love because they didn’t know how to love or accept themselves.

We saw how more and more people at work and in society were becoming inconsiderate, lacking empathy, and just lost. But, most of all, we want to help our listeners have long-lasting loving relationships.

Follow us on Spotify and participate in the polls and answer the questions. https://open.spotify.com/show/4rVQIdCNrMoU3gRhZsvLt9

To purchase and find out more about the journal and meditation, go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal.

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Friday Night – March 4, 2022 I will be at Southwest Institute of Healing Arts

On March 4, 2022, at 7:00 pm, I will be at the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, Gifts and Graces Event, Giving Complimentary Mini Reiki Sessions.

Have you ever wanted to try Reiki?

Here’s your chance!

I am excited to share that I will be giving Complimentary Mini Reiki Sessions at Southwest Institute of Healing Arts (SWIHA) as part of the SWIHA Gifts and Graces event Friday night on March 4, 2022, from 7:00 pm – 9:30 pm. So if interested, please come out, join me and get some relaxing Reiki and learn more about SWIHA, Reiki, and other healing modalities. I hope to see you there. ~ Patti 🦋 

Southwest Institute of Healing Arts at 1538 E Southern Ave, Tempe, AZ 85282

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Episode 61 – Twin Flame is it a Myth or Reality

Click to listen to Episode 61 – Twin Flame is it a Myth or Reality

In this episode, Angela and Patti will discuss whether Twin Flame is a myth or the real deal.

This topic came about when someone asked Patti about twin flame. Patti didn’t know much about twin flame, so Patti asked Angela if she knew about the twin flame concept. Angela does and suggested we do a podcast episode on this topic.

Does the twin flame concept give the appearance of Fear of Missing Out? “Everyone else has this ideal relationship but I don’t”.

Constant Craving – remember KD Lang? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXqPjx94YMg

Angela – Remember the Diary of Bridget Jones Movies? 

1. Why do you want to have this powerful intimate connection?

2. If you want a life-long powerful intimate connection – what are you excited about sharing with someone over a life-time?  A life-long connection requires a different way of thinking about love – like being there for when this person goes through sickness, grief and even death.

3. What do you want to experience in being a witness to someone else’s life and journey?

4. If this person that you think is your twin flame does not stay in your life – why do you still want them to be in your life? What is it that you deeply want from a physical relationship with a partner?

Angela – In that film – I’m not spoiling it – but Susan Sarandon’s character says that she sees her role as a partner to be a witness to her husband and him to do that for her. For Angela is the greatest gift you can have with anybody – to witness their life and share in that person’s journey. Couples I see deeply bonded without labeling themselves as twin flames have discovered complete freedom in their relationship because they no longer look for their partner to fulfill some concept of love. – Instead, they sincerely appreciate the gift of being able to witness someone’s life and be part of their journey. The movie Shall we Dance does a great job of sharing that.

What soul group do you think is Angela and Patti?

Thank you, Angela, for sharing your expertise, in-depth explanation and opinion of twin flame and soulmates with the listeners and me.

We would love to hear about your perception, belief and experience with twin flame relationships.

Thank you so much for listening, please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-star review on Apple iTunes so more people can find and listen to this podcast.
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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation  go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 8 – Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast, I talk about the real things that most people are afraid to talk about as a manager and supervisor.

Why is that? Fear. 

If not discussed, how will change happen?

As good managers and supervisors, our job is to lift employees’ to their highest potential, encourage them, build their self-confidence and help them succeed in what they do at work. 

What if the work culture doesn’t support this type of leadership philosophy?

Do it anyway. You and your employees need and want to be encouraged to flourish.  

But who inspires and uplifts the manager and supervisor?

(Yourself) and sometimes your staff will inspire you on difficult days.  

The area you manage will prosper compared to the work culture that tears others down around you.

How do you build self-confidence when others tear you down in the workplace?

  • Recite Affirmations throughout the day.
  • Take a break and get away from the office for a few minutes.
  • Take a walk to clear your mind.
  • Listen to some calming music.

Remember that people unhappy with themselves will tear down others, thinking they look good. But, instead, they don’t look good at all. When someone is verbally mean to you, step back and remember this. What is driving them to act unkind or controlling? 

Some people think that tearing down others makes them look better than others. But unfortunately, they are too busy clawing their way to the top to care about how they make others feel.

Say your boss gives you a project, and they take it back because you aren’t doing it the way they would. Again, it is their control issues that are surfacing. I understand this can hurt, primarily if you work very hard on the project. Reflect on what you can do in the future, so this doesn’t happen again? Ask questions on their thought process of what they want from this project. Occasionally update them on the project and how it is going. If you are silent and not updating, they may assume you are not as far ahead as you are. 

You are in a management meeting and asked for your opinion. A coworker disagrees with you wanting to show they are better than you to your boss while trying to provoke you to get upset react unprofessionally towards them. Before responding, reflect on this person who wants you to respond unfavorably. Breathe. If a response is expected, calmly say why this is your opinion and why it will work without lashing out at the coworker.

Make a difference in your workplace by being compassionate, empathic, a good mentor, honest, straightforward, and kind. The workplace needs more of this kind of leadership than destroying each other’s self-confidence and reputation; creating a cohesive workplace and lifting people will help change the workplace from chaos to calm.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am confident! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Click to listen to Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Angela and Patti discuss forgiving family members and hurtful words in this podcast episode.

Have you ever said something so hurtful and regretted it?

The same is true for family members who have said angry, hurtful words to you. Hurting people lash out at others. Words hurt profoundly, and a lot of times, and not forgotten. Speaking in anger can be dangerous for all relationships, even if it is accurate and how you are feeling at that moment in time. The damage has been created and really can’t take back.

Why do we say hurtful words? First, it’s helpful to understand why people become habituated to saying unkind things.

Understanding why people say hurtful things will help you see what the person is experiencing underneath the words.

Patti often says in our podcasts, “hurt people – hurt other people.”

Angela – I see that hurt people have no way to heal their hurt or resolve it – so they project it out – like spitting out the poison inside them – or when you spit out something that you don’t like in your mouth.

The thing is – it seems pretty stupid to spit out your hurt on someone else – if you want to stay friends with them.

So why would we do that?

Well, monkey sees – monkey do.

How do you forgive?

Forgiveness is the hardest thing for most people. Unforgiveness is a poison on your soul and spirit. Unfortunately, people with unforgiveness spill it out on others, and the cycle continues down the line.

Questions to journal or self reflect on:

Are apologies needed to be said before healing can happen? YES or NO

What if apologies never occur?

What if the family member doesn’t want to make amends?

How will you let go and forgive without an apology?

When unforgiveness takes over your thoughts and heart, recite the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer Ho’oponopono” at least three or more times. First, say the person’s name and then the prayer. Or you may not get a chance to apologize or get an apology; this prayer will assist in healing and forgive with a genuine desire to heal the relationship.

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

We would love to hear about your family dynamics and how you conquered and let go of the hurt from angry words said, whether you were telling them or directed at you.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-star review so more people can find and listen to the podcast.

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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation.

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