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Episode 16 – How to Get Along With Your Teenager! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

This topic came from a listener request, How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

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Patti started by asking these questions to the audience.

Self-reflecting back to when you were a teenager.  Yes, I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?

What did you want from your parents?  

Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want in Life.

What was it?

Your teenager probably wants the same.  

Angela talks about as a parent – you love them, but you don’t like their behavior – and there’s a consequence for the behavior – follow through and don’t bend, you’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts – don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off.

What are some deals you can negotiate with them?

Tips from book Crucial Conversations:

1.  Start with the heart.

2. Ask – What do you want for the relationship?

3. Ask – What do you want for the teen?

4. What do you want for you?

5. What is the greatest possible outcome for the relationship?

How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart?

Come up with boundaries and consequences, if boundaries are not met.

Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.

What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days – that may be similar and different to what we went through?

1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.

2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying

3. Suicide – For more information about suicide prevention check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and Reachout https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents it is free advice in Australia and Life line https://www.lifeline.org.au

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Episode 15 – Surviving Social Isolation! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this episode Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation.

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Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.  

This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care.

How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?

  1. Facetime or video chat with family and friends
  2. Adult coloring or coloring with the children
  3. Play board games with family and do a puzzle
  4. Blowing bubbles outside with the children
  5. Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
  6. Have a virtual meetup; On Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually
  7. Start a group text, in the WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support

    Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.

    Write down on a piece of paper.

    1. What you feel you have lost in this situation?
    2. What you feel you need?
    3. Why do you need this?
    4. How could you meet this need?

    With the feelings: – Acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need – find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!

    Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need – you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time.
    And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love…or you may realize something about your need – like its actually not that important!

    How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing.

    Look at a list of tips we are sharing.
    Notice which of your needs are the most important?
    Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it, so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.

    When you send a text – Put a good feeling into it – people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.  

    Angela’s new Youtube channel link New Energy Body

    Patti’s Prayer of Hope

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Episode 14 – Being A Better Father In Today’s World! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this podcast episode of Being A Better Father In Today’s World! Angela and Patti discussed the topic of how a Father can be understood, respected, welcomed, and supported while in isolation with the coronavirus situation.  Families being in isolation triggering a lot of uncomfortable feelings and stress.  

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The stressors:

Being out of work, isolated, stressed about money, people sad, angry, have no control, in fear of the unknown.  

What is a good father?  

They are sharing equally in household chores, helping with caring for the kids, and with their activities, reflecting respect and loving-kindness towards the wife/partner/the children’s mother by scheduling date nights and eating dinner with the family at least once a week. Kind and patience with your partner and children. Easy to talk too. They share their life experiences, leading by example, or what not to do and support their family in many ways.   

Angela references the Ted Talk – What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0

Set up healthy family boundaries:

1. Set family guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not.

2. Awareness of what is happening and discussing it compassionately together with solutions.

3. Make a conscious decision to stop unacceptable behaviors, so everyone feels safe, loved and protected.

We would love your thoughts and comments:

“What does being a good father mean to you”?

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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