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Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In podcast Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! We share examples that stop relationships from being effortless and recommend changing those habits to welcome effortless relationships, whether in the workplace or home life. 

To listen to this podcast episode click on link Making Relationships Effortless!

Here are some highlight of the episode:

Angela – Patti when I was dancing with a group in the early 2000’s, we used to explore movement that was effortless, and we always knew when things just flowed and we would be amazed.

Then we found we couldn’t repeat that effortlessness because we started thinking about the movement instead of feeling it. We asked what habits as humans do we have that make us drop out of going with the flow. And we discovered the habits of being and thinking that interrupt our heart or force the heart to be something it’s not because you think you should be a certain way.

Angela – What I’ve learnt about effortless relationships, is from the Einstein statement:

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Patti – How to Break Bad Work Behaviors:

❤️ Identify the behavior or action

❤️ Make the decision to stop

❤️ Replace the habit with something positive

Angela- Making things effortless is enhanced by not coming from old habits of thinking, because old habits of thought made things repetitive and usually stuck or fixed.  Instead – you want to come at things sideways, ask questions that take a person to a different topic or a different way of looking at a topic.

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Is there a relationship topic you would like us to discuss on this podcast? Please email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

If you are struggling and need someone to talk to about your home or work life challenges  Angela and Patti both have one to one coaching packages.  

Contact us at our email addresses below:

email: angela@loveandrelationshipcoach.com or schedule a time here https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com

email: patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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How To Be Proactive, So You Don’t Reach The Point Of No Return and Burnout!

Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.

Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.

How did you get to this point?

High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.

Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown

What is burnout?

It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

What are some warn signs?

🦋 Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work

🦋 Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started

🦋 Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients

🦋 Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite

🦋 No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate

🦋 No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort

🦋 Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety

🦋 Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all

🦋 Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping

If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.

How to change?

🦋 Focus on your recent and past accomplishments
🦋 Stop self-criticizing yourself and others
🦋 Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer
🦋 Make and write in a daily gratitude journal

Change your workflow!
🦋 Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion
🦋 Take regular breaks
🦋 Limit working overtime
🦋 Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.

Do you have a happy place?

If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?

How may I help you?  Are you interested in coaching with me?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

To learn more about A Balanced Life; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop.

Do you want even more work-life balance strategies? Come and join the Facebook group called Work-Life Balance with Patti

Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

This mini course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in life beyond their career.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!

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Podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) – Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

In podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) Angela and Patti share about reaching midlife and handling what comes your way.

Angela tell us a little bit about the podcast title and Bending Your Knees?  

We thought about this topic a while back, but I really thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after recovering from surgery.  It was a shock after being flexible most of life I couldn’t bend the knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock – but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now.  

Midlife-is an important time to look at your life and see what you are not able to do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost – although you may have a period of grieving.  

After grieving or during grieving it’s important and valuable to take stock, reflect on what results of your life thus far?  

How do you feel about your life?  

If you reflect on your life constructively, it will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to REALLY see –

❤️ What is your life about?

What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. –

❤️ What was it all for?  Bending the knee reflects flexibility – and humility. In my case, I had setbacks – such as getting a little better than getting sick or weak again. What that taught me is to do things differently to go with my needs and energy better.  Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy – and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it’s also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are?  

Patti tells us aboutWhat have you found stops people embracing the possibility of change in mid-life?  

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.  

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?  

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?  

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?  

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?  

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects of my position?  

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?  

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work every day?  

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?  

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?  

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?  

🦋  Am I positive at work?  

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.  

What are some options to improve the career situation?  

Use daily affirmations to get you through the day.  Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards, these cards are good to use for any day in and day out work or home situations.   

Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards

❤️ What do you want our world to be?  

Answer this question on Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Facebook group page: What are things, experiences, joys that you really really would like to experience?

Angela and I would like to thank you for following and supporting our podcast!

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Podcast Episode 18 – Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide!

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss – Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide. We feel this topic needs to be discussed openly and not avoided because it is uncomfortable. Lives matter.

Click on link to listen to podcast Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide.

How did we get this topic title?

Angela and I were talking about how there has been an increase in suicide. Over the years, and how the current situation with isolation and other factors. Such as loss of a job can be a risk factor.

The Risk Factors  provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website; 

Alcohol and other substance use disorders
Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
Hopelessness, feelings of no reason to live
Depression Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies
History of trauma or abuse Major physical illnesses
Previous suicide attempt(s) Family history of suicide – Angela talks about breaking the chain of generational loss and hurt –
How to do that.
Job or financial loss
Loss of relationship(s)
Easy access to lethal means
Lack of social support, isolation and social withdrawal
The stigma associated with asking for help
Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment
Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet)

The Warning Signs provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website; 
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves, communicating suicide intent or plan Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
Talking about being a burden to others
Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
Sleeping too little or too much
Withdrawing or isolating themselves
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
Extreme mood swings
Making final arrangements (wills, notes, giving away personal things, etc.

For immediate help, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and talk with a trained counselor at National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

For Australia https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Angela will be speaking at the online Lasting Love Summit click on the link to register to attend the free summit. The summit is the week of May 5, 2020.

Angela’s The Love Oracle Podcast 

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

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Podcast Episode 17 – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss a topic request from a listener; Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?  Angela is the expert on this topic being a Love and Relationship Coach and she coaches on family dynamics.   

Click the link to listen to the podcast – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?

Let’s look at guilt. It is the inner ward process of beating yourself up through harsh thoughts. Nobody can put a guilt trip on you, but you, because these are your thoughts. Some of the thoughts could be – I’m not going to make them happy or do what they want. They are going to dislike me or leave me. They are going to think I’m not a good person.

How do you go your own way without the guilt? 

Many people live with regret because they did what their parents wanted instead of what they want to do.

1.  Why do you feel guilty?

2. How has this guilt shown up in my family before? When do you first remember this guilt?

3. What would be the one thing that inner child would love to do or love to hear and love to express?

4. What could you say to the family member to tell them about what you really want to do instead of the ‘trip’ they think you should do?

5. Do you value yourself?

Angela references Patrick Wains here is his website link https://www.patrickwanis.com/

If you want more relationship tips checkout our facebook group – Building Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti.  Ask us about a relationship question in the facebook group or leave a voice message on the anchor podcast app.

Our email is at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com.

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela will be speaking at the online Lasting Love Summit the week of May 5, 2020 click on the link to register and attend the free summit.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

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Podcast Episode 16 – How to Get Along With Your Teenager!

This topic came from a listener request, How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

Click the link to listen to the podcast – How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

Patti started by asking these questions to the audience.

Self-reflecting back to when you were a teenager.  Yes, I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?

What did you want from your parents?  

Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want in Life.

What was it?

Your teenager probably wants the same.  

Angela talks about as a parent – you love them, but you don’t like their behavior – and there’s a consequence for the behavior – follow through and don’t bend, you’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts – don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off.

What are some deals you can negotiate with them?

Tips from book Crucial Conversations:

1.  Start with the heart.

2. Ask – What do you want for the relationship?

3. Ask – What do you want for the teen?

4. What do you want for you?

5. What is the greatest possible outcome for the relationship?

How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart?

Come up with boundaries and consequences, if boundaries are not met.

Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.

What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days – that may be similar and different to what we went through?

1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.

2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying

3. Suicide – For more information about suicide prevention check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and Reachout https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents it is free advice in Australia and Life line https://www.lifeline.org.au

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Podcast Episode 15 – Surviving Social Isolation!

In this episode Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation.

Click the link to listen to the podcast – Surviving Social Isolation.

Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.  

This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care.

How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?

  1. Facetime or video chat with family and friends
  2. Adult coloring or coloring with the children
  3. Play board games with family and do a puzzle
  4. Blowing bubbles outside with the children
  5. Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
  6. Have a virtual meetup; On Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually
  7. Start a group text, in the WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support

    Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.

    Write down on a piece of paper.

    1. What you feel you have lost in this situation?
    2. What you feel you need?
    3. Why do you need this?
    4. How could you meet this need?

    With the feelings: – Acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need – find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!

    Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need – you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time.
    And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love…or you may realize something about your need – like its actually not that important!

    How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing.

    Look at a list of tips we are sharing.
    Notice which of your needs are the most important?
    Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it, so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.

    When you send a text – Put a good feeling into it – people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.  

    Angela’s new Youtube channel link New Energy Body

    Patti’s Prayer of Hope

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Podcast Episode 14 – Being A Better Father In Today’s World!

In this podcast episode of Being A Better Father In Today’s World! Angela and Patti discussed the topic of how a Father can be understood, respected, welcomed, and supported while in isolation with the coronavirus situation.  Families being in isolation triggering a lot of uncomfortable feelings and stress.  

Click to listen to podcast – Being A Better Father In Today’s World!

The stressors:

Being out of work, isolated, stressed about money, people sad, angry, have no control, in fear of the unknown.  

What is a good father?  

They are sharing equally in household chores, helping with caring for the kids, and with their activities, reflecting respect and loving-kindness towards the wife/partner/the children’s mother by scheduling date nights and eating dinner with the family at least once a week. Kind and patience with your partner and children. Easy to talk too. They share their life experiences, leading by example, or what not to do and support their family in many ways.   

Angela references the Ted Talk – What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0

Set up healthy family boundaries:

1. Set family guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not.

2. Awareness of what is happening and discussing it compassionately together with solutions.

3. Make a conscious decision to stop unacceptable behaviors, so everyone feels safe, loved and protected.

We would love your thoughts and comments:

“What does being a good father mean to you”?

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Virtual Hug and Prayer

I am sending virtual hugs to everyone who is reading this. 🤗

Thank you to all the medical field personnel for all you do, to the medical researchers, volunteers, and healers. To the people that go to work and risk their lives every day, to the Correctional Officers and Public Servants. You know who you are. Thank you!

Dear Lord,
Please wrap your love around the world during this coronavirus epidemic. Bring us a miracle to heal the sick, stop the virus from spreading and destroy it.
Amen

Please share your prayers of hope! Patti 🦋