Posted in Blog, Inspirational Moments, Personal Inspiration

The Mishaps of the Missing Package

Where do I begin!  I guess at the beginning.  A month ago I ordered a bottle of essential oils.  I was so excited.  The vendor makes the oils herself.  Two weeks go by and no package.  I contacted the seller and she said, you should have gotten it last week.  Let me check into it.

She contacted me back and said the mail delivery company told her they had already delivered it.  She would file a claim for the missing package.  I verified my address with her.

I had my husband politely ask our neighbor, if by chance they may have seen the package delivered.  They had not.

The seller put together another package and added a few extra gifts. Then she sent it through a competitor of the first mail delivery company.  She gave me the tracking number so I could track the package.

Every few hours for a couple of days I would check the tracking of the parcel.  Then it said it was delivered but I had no delivery.  At 12:15 pm it was supposedly delivered and I checked at 12:20 pm. On the website I contacted the package delivery company through IM.  

The IM said check around your house and your neighbors.  I went around my house and my close neighbors but there was no package.  I looked in my backyard, no parcel.  I was getting upset, how could this be? I was home and no truck pulled up.

So I called the package delivery company.  The customer service agent said it was delivered.  I said where was it delivered?  I gave him my address and he said that is not the house number we have for delivery.  I said, “what is the house number you have”?  He stated, “I can’t give that information to you”.  I questioned, “why it is my package”.  I replied, “I want the driver to go pick up the package and deliver it to me”.  I gave him my phone number. 

Hours go by and then I get a call from another customer service representative and they tell me the sender has to file a complaint and pay $12.00 for them to pick up the package from where it was delivered.  The address they delivered to was the address they were given.  I said, “what address was that”!  This time he gave it to me.  I said, “well I’m going over there to get my package”.  He said, “no the sender has to file for a missing package and pay $12.00”.  I was silent.  I couldn’t believe this. 

After he finished his spill I hung up the phone put on my flip flops grabbed my purse and started walking down the street looking for this house number where my package was delivered.

Now, I was a sight to be seen.  I had on a baggy T-Shirt, sweat pants, flip flops, my hair was wild and I was on a mission to get my stuff back.

Usually, I would follow protocols but I didn’t want the sender to go through all that and have to pay $12.00.  So I was off and spitting fire.  After following the numbers I found the house.  My package was sitting there.  I rang the door bell twice.  No answer.  I waited and waited.  Finally, I grabbed my parcel and left.  I hadn’t ever done something so bold before.  I really wanted them to answer the door so I could explain and ask if they received my other package.  Maybe it is a good thing they didn’t answer who knows what may have happen. So I walked home feeling scared and relieved at the same time.

During the time I spoke to each customer service agent, I had PM the seller.  I felt really bad that this was happening and I was over the top upset.  I didn’t want her to have to put any more time, money and energy into this.

When I got home I took a picture of the package with the label.  Then opened the parcel.  She had sent me more than what I ordered.  It was absolutely wonderful. 

What did I learn from this mishap?  

Sometimes you have to be bold to get what you deserve. I appreciate the customer service representative giving me the delivery address to resolve this situation. Lastly, I ’m very thankful to have received such a wonderful generous package from the seller. 🦋 ~ Patti

Have you ever had a missing package? If so, how did you handle it? What was the outcome?

Comments are welcome! If you liked this blog post, please share with others. 🦋


Posted in Blog, Business Inspiration, Career Inspiration, Leadership Inspiration, Personal Inspiration

Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!

Lately, I have been hearing this phrase when people are talking about their coworkers.

Don’t be that guy! 

Employers and staff may use this term when someone has committed bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong.  In some organizations they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. The poster child of what not to be in the workplace.

Is shaming an affective management strategy? 

Some say yes, because it represents what not to do in the workplace and halts people from doing it.

How does the “Don’t be that Person” cope with being the scapegoat?

Some quit, some stay and deal with the whispering behind their backs and the harsh judgement while others totally checkout (isolate themselves).

Maybe some organizations want this type of shaming to keep things under control.  If so, something is definitely wrong.  Someone once told me you live in a fantasy world if you think this type of management strategy will change. 

What do you think?


Comments are welcome. What are your thoughts on this topic?

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Posted in Blog, Business Inspiration, Career Inspiration, Leadership Inspiration, Personal Inspiration, Video, work-life balance

Patti Answering Leadership and Work-Life Balance Questions [Video]

The Coaches Lounge Group

Do you have any Leadership or Work-Life Balance questions? If yes, please reply below and I will answer them. Recorded live unedited. 🦋

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How Can We Show Up As Better Leaders?

A couple of weeks ago, a friend was telling me about her work situation and why she decided to give her notice. She brightens up people’s days with her friendly demeanor. She worked at the front desk. Having a friendly employee as the first contact with your customers is crucial. Customers will continue to come if they feel welcome, the same for employees.

Why do good employees leave?

🦋 A shortage of appreciation, praise, acknowledgement, or recognition from management

🦋 Manager only pointing out what went wrong

🦋 Lack of trust in employees

🦋 Bad communication – Not sharing important information or changes in company policies

🦋 Unsatisfied relationships with coworkers and/or management

🦋 Employee feeling unchallenged or bored with their work

🦋 The organization culture or the companies vision

🦋 Little growth and no promotional opportunities

🦋 Blatant employee favoritism

🦋 Lack of work-life balance, being over-worked, feeling over-stressed and having no work boundaries (on duty 24/7)

How can we show up as a better leader and save good employees?

Build a trusting environment. Give opportunities for employees to learn new tasks and give them clear verbal instructions with written procedures. When a situation arises be truthful. Come up with the right solution together. Acknowledge good work performance. Share policies changes in person and written form. Be open to answering employees’ questions. Care about the job and value staff.

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this blog post with others!  Comments are always welcome.  You may use your initials or anonymous for your name if this makes you feel more comfortable to comment.  🙂   Thank you for following and supporting me.

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Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!  This mini course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in life beyond their career.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life! Enroll today for $25.00

Interested in one to one coaching with me?  
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Posted in Blog, Inspirational Moments, Personal Inspiration, work-life balance

Does A Worry Stone Really Banish Anxiety and Stress?

As a leadership and work-life balance coach, I am always open to new ways to banish stress and anxiety and sharing different techniques with others. In today’s blog post, I will be discussing worry stones and the method of rubbing away stress and anxiety.

The practice of rubbing worry stones has been around for centuries. When I was a kid, instead of worry stones, there were pet rocks and colored stones. I have always enjoyed looking at rocks by stopping, picking up the stones and admiring them. Their beautiful shapes, sizes, and colors.

What are some other common names for worry stones?
Fidget stones, feeling stones, soothing stones, sensory stones and thumb stones.

According to Wikipedia the origins of worry stones:
As a folk practice implement, worry stones have many origins. Variations on the concept originate in ancient GreeceTibetIreland, and multiple Native American tribes. The concept of a worry stone began by the simple action of picking a smooth stone and fiddling with the stone.[3] Worry stones made by sea water were generally used by Ancient Greeks.[4] Native American tribes would continuously give them to younger generations, creating a sense of connection from previous family members.[3] They also believed these worry stones were considered a sacred item and they were extra special if they were made out of quartz.[4]

What is a Worry Stone?
A worry stone is a smooth flat rock about the size of a thumb. When rubbing the stone between thumb and fingers, it has a calming effect. The stones are small enough to carry around in your pocket or purse. Stones come in all different colors, sizes, shapes and minerals. They can be river stones, crystals, sea glass, tumbled gems or a smooth flat rock from your backyard. You can purchase stones at craft and arts stores, amazon, mineral-rock shops and rock and gems shows. Some worry stones have an indent inside the size of a thumb. Other stones may have inspirational quotes, one-word sayings, affirmations, religious symbols, etc. Also, painting flat rocks is another way to relax and a way to make the stone more personal to fit your personality or style.

I recently watched a YouTube video called DIY Worry Stones on how to make worry stones from colored baked clay.

How Do You Use A Worry Stone?
Place the flat stone in your hand between your thumb and index finger and rub the stone back and forth.

Does Rubbing on a Worry Stone Help Reduce Anxiety and Stress?
A worry stone works as a form of reflexology or nerve pressure when rubbed. While rubbing the stone it touches the reflex areas in your thumb and fingers creating a sensation of relaxation and calm within the body. Reflexology is commonly known for applying gentle pressing on certain parts of the body, usually on the feet.

My stone:
It is a smooth clear thumb size stone. I purchased it at a mineral-rock store. I like the feel of it in my hand. I do rub it from time to time. When using the worry stone, I will switch up my hands while rubbing it. Using just your dominant hand is fine.

When are good times to rub a worry stone?

🦋 While sitting at a doctor’s office.

🦋 Before taking a test.

🦋 Before giving a presentation.

🦋 When feeling anxious or upset.

🦋 While a customer is yelling at you on the phone.

🦋 Before delivering bad news.

🦋 While contemplating on a big decision or large purchase.

🦋 Before going to sleep.

Does it work?
For me, it is a pleasant distraction because I am focusing on rubbing the stone and it does help me gain a new perspective.

For others, I think it depends on the individual and being open to the process. When taking those few moments of rubbing the stone, it can settle the mind.

Takeaway:
Carrying a worry stone around with you, especially when feelings of anxiety, anger, or frustration occur. By rubbing your thumb and fingers across the stone it will hit reflex areas and the movement relaxes your mind, body, and spirit.

Please share your answers to the following questions in the comments below:

🦋 Have you rubbed a worry stone? 

🦋 What was your experience like? 

🦋 When do you use your worry stone?

🦋 What color is it?

🦋 How did you chose it?

🦋 Share a photo of your stone.

🦋 If not,  After reading this blog post would you try one?

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this blog post with others!  Comments are always welcome.  You may use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to comment.  🙂   Thank you for following and supporting me.

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Posted in Blog, Inspirational Moments, Personal Inspiration, work-life balance

Halotherapy – My Experience in a Salt Room

Being a leadership and work-life balance coach, I am always looking for new ways to release stress and to share these different methods with others. My latest adventure was visiting a salt room.

I really didn’t know what to expect from this salt room. I was told to remove my shoes before entering and that I would be in there for 45 minutes and I may fall asleep. Once I hear a loud humming noise the session would be over.

This particular salt room had soft granulated Himalayan salt covering the floor, a variety of different size salt lamps and a wall with thin salt rock lights.

The room had an orange glow, with soft music playing. There were four reclining chairs, one soft living room chair in the corner and a large cushion on the salt-covered floor. I chose to sit on one of the reclining chairs.

I sat down in the chair, laid back and closed my eyes. At first random thoughts were going through my head but the more I relaxed the less they came. The longer I sat in the salt room the calmer and de-stressed I felt. I started to doze off towards the end of the session.

In this photo I was enjoying my session and becoming very relaxed and sleepy.

I know some people may think this is a little out-there or weird to believe that a lighted Himalayan salt room can change your mood however I did feel a shift from being uptight to calm.

What is Halotherapy?

It was an ancient European treatment of sitting in salt caves to improve skin conditions and respiratory disorders.

Nowadays, salt rooms are typically man-made, have a halogenerator and, are free of humidity. The temperature inside is around 68°F. The sessions are from 30 to 45 minutes. Halotherapy has wet methods as well. The most common is the dry method.

What are the benefits?

With regular and consistent dry Halotherapy sessions supposedly it helps to remove environmental toxins from the lungs, increase oxygen intake, boost immune response and boost energy levels. Other benefits include better sleep, enhanced focus, relaxation, strengthened immune system, relieves and/or prevents asthma, allergies, bronchitis, dermatitis, ear infections, sinus infections, and eczema.

Is there any scientific proof?

According to Wikipedia

A recent review of the research supporting halotherapy determined that, out of 151 studies conducted on this topic, only 1 was a well-designed randomized control trial that met their inclusion criteria for a meta-analysis.[4] Researchers found that the majority of the research on this topic has serious methodological flaws that should be considered. Without vigorous control trials, we cannot be sure of the effects of halotherapy, despite claims made in the media.

Take Away:

From what I read there is no scientific proof of Halotherapy health benefits. What I can tell you about Halotherapy is how I felt during the session. I was relaxed and calmer.

Would I do it again? Definitely.

How about you? After reading this blog post would you try it?

Or have you had a session of Halotherapy? What was your experience like? Please share in the comments below.

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this blog post with others!  Comments are always welcome.  You may use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to comment.  🙂   Thank you.

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Posted in Blog, Inspirational Moments, Personal Inspiration, Traveling with Patti, work-life balance

Forest Bathing – Why Spend Time in Nature?

I enjoy being out in nature or just plain outside. Whether it is a few moments outdoors on my patio drinking coffee, a hike in the mountains or camping lakeside taking time outdoors seems to rejuvenate me. So I am not surprised that others feel the same way.

Spending Time in Nature! Photo by Patti Oskvarek

There is a new craze called Forest Bathing (a Japanese practice of shinrin-yoku) which means spending time in nature and using all your senses. There is scientific research on this concept of Forest Bathing. According to the research being in nature restores our mood, refreshes and rejuvenates us. It can lower blood pressure and decrease stress levels. When you are feeling overwhelmed, go outside, take a brief walk alone and see if this uplifts your spirit.

Spending Time in Nature! Photo by Patti Oskvarek

This weekend my husband and I went to a cabin in the woods. It was lightly raining and the smell of the trees was so refreshing. After the rain stopped we went for a walk to the nearby creek. The sounds of the rushing the water and the birds in the trees was very relaxing.

Me in the trees.

How to Forest Bath:

🦋 Go outdoors and find some trees or a large garden area with a variety of plants and trees.

🦋 Turn off your phone.

🦋 Walk slowly and quietly within the area.

🦋 Breathe in the smells.

🦋 Listen to the nature sounds.

🦋 Look around at your surroundings.

🦋 Ask yourself “What am I noticing?”

🦋 Enjoy those moments of peace and calm.

Places to go in Arizona for Forest Bathing:

🦋 Boyce Thompson

🦋 The Arboretum At Flagstaff

🦋 Payson Arizona

🦋 Mountain Lemmon

🦋 Show Low Arizona

🦋 Cochise County Arizona

Take Away:

Being in nature is soothing, especially when having a chaotic day. Making some time to go outdoors and get fresh air and a little bit of sunshine can uplift our spirit and decrease anxiety.

How about trying it today?

What did you notice?

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this blog post with others!  Comments are always welcome.  You may use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to comment.  🙂   Thank you.

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Drumming Out the STRESS?

I was watching my grandchildren one-day last week and one of the toys we have is a child’s drum with percussions. My Mom bought it for my granddaughter last Christmas. My granddaughter loves it. We had a good jam session with it. She loves music and dancing around. She smiles so big and dances endlessly. It is so joyful to watch.

Being a leadership and work-life balance coach, I am always looking for new ways to release stress and to share these different methods. A couple of years ago one of my good friends told me about drum circles she attended and that they relieve stress. I’ve been thinking about going to a drum circle for a while and wanted to try it out.

So the adventure began. I found a drum circle on www.meetup.com and signed up to go. I asked my husband if he would accompany me. (He really needed to release some stress!) He looked at me with apprehension and said what is it? I explained that a drum circle is where everyone beats on a drum. I wanted to check it out to see how it helps to reduce stress levels and possibly write a blog post about the experience. He was hesitant at first. I said, oh come on let’s make it an adventure. He said okay. 🙂

Photo by Dmitrij Makovejev from Pexels

When we arrived, there were all different sizes of African drums to pick from. The instructor showed us how to hold the drums correctly. Both of us picked a tall drum to sit with between our legs to play. The participants sat in either chair or on a couch in a circle so we could see each other around the room. The instructor started hand drumming slowing with a hand rhythm and we would follow the pattern. Then she would slowly increase the pace for us to follow along.

My husband Tom was natural. He picked up playing the beats quickly. I was all over the place but was having fun banging on the drum. As the class went on, each one of us in the drum circle would start a beat and everyone else would follow. We even had one lady dancing around with a percussion towards the end. She was really enjoying herself and all of us like watching her dance around to the beat of the music. Some of the other participants would switch instruments by using different types of drums or percussions. Handheld drums, floor drums and assorted of percussions. Tom and I keep to the same drum. Towards the last few minutes of the drum circle event, I tried a percussion. It looks similar to a cheese grater but was shaped like a banana and raddled and had a rake to scrap the outside. I would shake it and rake it to make sounds to the beat of the drums. To be honest I wasn’t really to the beat of the music but I tried my best. Haha!

Photo by Josh Meeder from Pexels

How was the experience?

I enjoyed it. I had to really concentrate on the hand movements to follow the rhythm.

Did it relieve stress?

Yes, I think it did. The sound of the vibrations and movement of hands took your mind off of everything but what was happening around you.

Would I do it again?

Definitely, I really did enjoy it. My hands hurt a little afterward but not for too long. I asked Tom his thoughts and he said maybe he would go again if it was closer to home and the timing was right. He didn’t think it really reduced stress but it surprised him that he had a talent he didn’t even know he had. He hadn’t played a musical instrument before.

My only regret was we didn’t take any photos while we were there to share with this post.

Takeaway:

A drum circle was a way to be focussed and concentrate on the hand rhythm and beat of making beautiful sounds. It was an adventure of getting out of our comfort zone, trying something new, meeting different people and getting our minds off of everything else, except the sound and vibration of the music. Everyone should try something new and get out of their comfort zone every once in awhile. In my opinion, it was two hours well spent. ~Patti

Comments are always welcome.  You can always use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to respond.  🙂   Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this blog post with your colleagues, friends, and family on all your social networks!  Thank you. 🙂

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Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

Angela and Patti share communication tips at work.  How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships.  How to ask yourself the questions to determine how to manage your emotions.  

Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

What does this meme tell you?

Take a look at yourself.  
Is the relationship problem really you?  
What is it about this person that triggers you?  
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone?  Do they remind you of something you don’t like within yourself?

Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.

Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding.  This gives you time to change your response or don’t respond at all.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?  
Before responding back to the email.  Write out your response.  Don’t send it!  Walk away for awhile.  Sleep on it, if you don’t have to respond within the same day.  Then rewrite it when you have calmed down.  Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button. 

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons?  Make your decision from there.  Is there more good reason to stay?  Or reasons to leave.  

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Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore.

How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

Warning Signs – Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs

Are you interested in one to one coaching with Patti?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact Patti at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

Are you interested in one on one coaching with Angela? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

If you found this podcast helpful. Please share with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.  Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

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