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Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 14 Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm I am going to explore staying positive in an unfavorable work environment.

When you are a manager and supervisor, you get harsh treatment and judgment from your superiors and subordinates. The top tells you to do things your employees don’t want to do, and you are stuck in the middle and have to enforce it.  

How do you stay upbeat when continually being pushed down by others?

I understand how easy it is to get sucked into negativity, drama, or a bad attitude when in a toxic work environment. Some people want to pull you into their emotional drama—rude comments about others, sarcastic undertones, and the energy vampires who want to drag everyone else down with them. But unfortunately, people don’t even realize that they have a negative attitude because it has become a habit and spills into their personal lives.

Self-reflect are you personally responsible for the drama since you are in charge of your area? If yes, how can you change it?

When working in a toxic environment, people may start to take everything personally because of the feeling of being verbally attacked, one-upping, taken advantage of, or pointing out mistakes or faults, especially if peers want to move higher in management. They will do anything to make you look bad if they feel you are a threat. As time goes on, it takes a toll on people’s emotions, values, and self-worth.

We all contribute to the workplace vibe in some way or another by how we interact and communicate our thoughts, instructions, crucial feedback, praise, and dealing with backstabbing, betrayal, and interpersonal relationships.

This situation is one of the biggest challenges people face when working with others.

However, there is hope.

What are some strategies to help you stay positive?

  1. When your peer is causing conflict, think about the best way to handle this situation. What are their motives? Should you walk away and not engage and excuse yourself from the conversation? How will it appear if you walk away or stay and engage? Is this person setting you up to react unfavorably in front of others? If you react and respond unfavorably, is it worth the consequences? If it is an employee, you will need to engage in private after both of you have had time to self-reflect on the situation and calm down the heated emotions—Journal how you are feeling and brainstorm solutions to resolve the conflict or crisis. Keep your journal in a locked, safe place.
  2. When there are unkind remarks about someone else, say something nice about that person. This action tends to halt the conversation.
  3. Listen to uplifting music, recite positive affirmations and go for a walk to get clarity.

Be the person you want to be around. Focus on what you want in your life and remove the thoughts of what you don’t—set goals for how you will change your situation and put them into action. Hire a leadership and life coach to help you get where you want to be. ~ Patti

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am a positive influence in the workplace!

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Until next time when we meet again!

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Posted in Blog, Video, Work-Life balance

How do I use what I do in my daily life?

I am Patti Oskvarek, leadership and work-life balance coach and reiki practitioner.

How do I use what I do in my daily life? 

I understand that I have to slow down and bring some balance in my life because if I don’t, things become blurred and can affect my health and relationships. I tend to over-push myself to the point of exhaustion or overload. When I start to feel tired or overloaded, I know that I need to spend alone time to recharge and refresh. Spend time outside, whether in my backyard or going out in nature. Take time to reflect, meditate or pray, listen to some calming music and do some self reiki myself. 

I have a work-life balance workbook called The Optimal Work-Life Balance workbook motivates you to focus, de-stress, and gain a new perspective of a balanced lifeThe downloadable workbook has advice and tips on improving your life while working at your own pace. It is self-paced, achievable, and reusable throughout your life! Also included, you will receive 21 -Days of inspirational emails with tips and information daily that will set you on the path of creating your balanced life.

I also created the Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards to inspire and encourage; read and repeat them throughout the day. Post them around your home, work area, or in your vehicle. They are pocket-size which makes them easy to carry around with you.

The cards are a companion to the Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook. I use these cards to encourage when working on a particular topic or program day; I read and repeat them throughout the day. I post them around your home, work area, or in my vehicle. They are pocket-size which makes them easy to carry around.

How I use them:

Shuffle and randomly select a card, and reflect and repeat the affirmation throughout the day. Then, shuffle and pull a random card.  

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Exploring Changing The Feeling of Dread At Work To Excitement Again From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to Episode 13 – Exploring Changing The Feeling of Dread At Work To Excitement Again From Chaos to Calm.

This podcast episode will discuss and reflect on changing the feeling of dread at work to excitement again. 

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

Do you remember the days you were excited to get up and work?

You loved having this career and learning new things. You lit up the office with your enthusiasm. You were like a sponge; you soaked up all the knowledge you could get. 

When did everything at work change from excitement to dread?

Was it a slow fade over time?

How did it happen?

What changed in you, and when did you start to dread going into the office?

Was there disappointment or being set up for failure?

A new boss, was there Unethical people getting promoted?

A shift in the company vision or goals?

Unreasonable workload?

Have the work duties changed?

Too many ridiculous meetings?

Too many emails to answer?

Are the work schedule boundaries blurred?

We all have been here at some time or another with a job. We want something more challenging and exciting if you feel like this; maybe it is time for a new direction in your career path. 

As managers or supervisors, we must realize that our employees also get to this point of dread when they no longer feel challenged or excited to come to work. We need to look for those signs that they are bored and the job is not lighting them up anymore. 

What can you do to help them enjoy work again?  

Has something changed in the work environment? If so, what is it? What’s the true undercurrent causing the dread? Is there a solution?

A leader’s words, actions, and deeds set the path for how the team interacts with you, the team, and customers, contributing to the energy and flow of the work environment. 

Are you leading by your emotions, your staff’s emotions, company policies, or critical thinking? 

How is your attitude at work affecting those around you and yourself?  

You know what you want and what you don’t want. So what is holding you in a job that you feel bored and on the road to nowhere? What can you do to change this back to feeling excited again? Do you have a mentor or coach helping you to succeed and promote within your company?

How is your employee’s attitude at work? 

What’s holding them back in their job performances? 

Are you mentoring and coaching them to succeed?

What could make you feel alive again in your work situation? 

Reflect on all these questions and think about what are some solutions for you. You know something needs to give, but the only way it will change is if you put it into action.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

Each day I am developing my career and my staff!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next time when we meet again!

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Exploring How To Say No When Overcommitted From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to Episode 12 How to Say No When Overcommitted From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

How do we truly have a balanced life? 

Between running a business or having a demanding career, family time, alone time with spouse, volunteering, hobbies, taking a vacation and all other promised commitments. 

We get pulled in many different directions, sometimes bringing us to our breaking point. Being overwhelmed can create the appearance that someone wants you to do something for them, and you feel obligated to do it, and you are already overbooked and can’t do one more thing.

What are the signs it is time to say no?

  • feel stress, anxiety, and panic.
  • You don’t want to do it.
  • It is not something you enjoy
  • You’re the go-to person.
  • You can’t get what you already promised completed
  • by the deadline dates.
  • You feel if you say no to that person, they won’t like you,
  • or worse, your boss will be disappointed and punish you somehow.

Do any of these statements describe your situation? 

If yes, are you ready to start saying no?

Action Steps:

  • Make a list of all your obligations.
  • Checkmark the ones you enjoy doing.
  • Circle the ones you don’t.
  • The commitments you don’t want, slowly start
  • removing them from your life.

Take one step at a time and say no to things you don’t have time for or don’t want to do. When you start saying no, it will feel uncomfortable at the start; however, you will be set free to enjoy being you.

Today’s Podcast Affirmation:

I say “NO” easily!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Posted in Blog, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast, Leadership Inspiration, Work-Life balance

Why I Became Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, Patti discusses her personal journey on why she became a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach.

Today’s podcast Affirmation:
Each day I am Developing Positive Work-Life Balance Habits!

To purchase Work-Life Balance Affirmation Cards 
https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards/

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast

Episode 67 – Does Intentional Creativity Build Better Relationships with Special Guest Kami Pollvogt

In this podcast episode, we have a special guest Kami Pollvogt and she will be discussing Does Intentional Creativity Build Better Relationships.  Kami did a previous guest podcast, Episode 57 called Wish You Knew Why The People In Your Life Do What They Do?

Kami Pollvogt is a Transformational Life Coach, an Intentional Creativity Coach, and the founder of Change by Design; a creative personal development company that focuses on teaching, guiding, and accelerating personal change through the practice of living intentionally. She is a Certified Intentional Creativity Coach. Intentional Creativity is an approach to creating with mindfulness that she utilizes with her clients to catalyze consciousness towards self-agency. Kami is here to share about Intentional Creativity, her program Best at Being ME! and how it fits into helping you, our listening audience, to Build Better Relationships at Home and Work.

For more information about Kami Pollvogt her website is www.changebydesign.life

Kami has an upcoming summer workshop in 2022 called Best at Being ME! This workshop is for every woman who feels like they are in the midst of a life transition.  To learn more about her workshop go to www.changebydesign.life

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Episode 66 – Reconnecting Relationships through Music with Special Guest Robert Alexander

Click to Listen to Episode 66 – Reconnecting Relationships through Music with Special Guest Robert Alexander

In this episode – Reconnecting Relationships through Music, we have a special guest Robert Alexander.

He shares how to use music for healing, rebuild relationships with centered self and the chakras, and reconnect with others as we move through these challenging and changing times. We will share a few samples of the Chakra Collection in the podcast.

Robert Alexander is an Audio Alchemist located in Southern CA. With this LifeRhythms business, he offers healing work via private sessions and designs unique personalized pieces of music to help his clients find healing away from the work they do with him. Alongside his LifeRhythms business, Robert has a label-signed music project called Evlov. His music is found on various platforms online. Robert also was the creator and host of LifeRhythms Radio; an online Radio show made to help you find relatable content that can help you create more of what you desire in your life!

(1) Resonance Recordings are personalized pieces of audio that help you attract more of what is most sacred and desirable in your life – to learn more https://liferhythms.us/customized-affirmations/

2) To listen to the Chakra Collection Vol 1. – https://liferhythms.bandcamp.com/album/chakra-collection-vol-1

3) Music Lounge – https://liferhythms.us/music-lounge/

4) LifeRhythms Radio – https://mercurybroadcasting.net/category/liferhythms-radio/

5) For more information about the Genie In The Headphones – Email: robert@liferhythms.us

To contact or learn more about Robert Alexander and his services and products:

Email: robert@liferhythms.us

Website: https://liferhythms.us/my-story/

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Exploring Good Boundaries In The Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 10 – Exploring Good Boundaries In The Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In today’s podcast, we explore having good boundaries in the workplace.

Have you ever worked with someone who has no sense of boundaries?

What do I mean? 

Heres’ an example:

Someone who asks you personal things or wants you to do something for them is entirely out of line, sarcastic, embarrassing, and takes advantage? They have no filter or common sense that it is not appropriate.

It could be your boss, a co-worker, or an employee. 

How do you handle these situations without feeling rude, resentful, or used?

Here’s an example of setting boundaries with a person with no filter or asking things that are none of their business

I’ve worked with people who would say what they were thinking without stopping and pausing before speaking. There was no holding back if the words were unkind, insensitive, rude, pushy, harsh, gossip, or nosy. 

I remember working with a person that loved to gossip about everyone at work. She would come into my office and start talking about others or trying to get information out of me. I would say I am swamped right now or change the subject or stand up and tell her I have to go. Finally, she stopped coming into my office to gossip.

What if someone is harsh, unkind, rude, and pushy to you? Ask them – how you are doing or what’s going on. You would be surprised how that can change the conversation from hostile to civil. Stating what’s going on gives them a chance to explain how they feel about their situation or problem.

Here’s an example of someone that takes advantage – the Doer and Slacker 

The doer personality will sometimes take on your people’s work without recognizing that the slacker is pawning it off. Especially when a project is close to a deadline in a team environment, the Doer will step in to finish the project on time.  

How does a Doer get the slacker to complete their part of the project? By not rescuing them. Let the project deadline go over, and don’t protect the slacker, the uncompleted task assigned to the slacker, and everyone knows it. If the slacker is accountable for their actions, they will have to start stepping up to complete their part when everyone doesn’t let them get away with it. Keeping up with the boundary of not doing the slacker work is necessary to change the behavior and for the boss to become aware. Remember, it is not your responsibility for that person’s lack of completion. You are responsible for yourself and you alone; this is a complex concept for the Doer, but setting the boundary of not covering and doing all the work will stop being taken advantage of and give you more time to do the things you enjoy. 

As a manager or supervisor, there are times when employees push the boundaries, asking you things you can’t discuss and communicating to them that you can’t comment on this.

What are some boundary techniques you use at work?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I have good boundaries at work!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast

Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships.

Summary

This podcast topic came from a listener’s request about not taking everything so personally.

Why do some people or cultures make it look so easy not to take things personally and others take every little thing to heart?

Is it the environment of how we are raised?

Or do some people have DNA that can let things roll off their back or turn the other cheek with ease?

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly sensitive in nature? 

How to overcome hurt by someone’s harsh words:
Remind yourself it’s about them not about you at that moment.  Maybe you did something they didn’t like. What did their words really say?  Was it about the behavior?  Or something else?


One tip is to watch your conditioning:
What are the annoyed and angry voices in your head regarding the household chores?
You will hear your expectations, you may hear your parents, but you will hear the frustration of someone else not doing what you want and thinking about what should be done.

This is your conditioning. So once you hear it. Simply say – ok – that’s my conditioning. It’s not that this person hates me or is insulting me – or wants me dead or ignores me.

This is my expectation about how things should be done. And then if you’re really angry maybe don’t speak with the other person!

But then think about how you could say to them what you want. But don’t expect them to do it the way you want because that may not be their conditioning!

Some strategies to help deal with and not take things personally:

  • Listen to happy, soothing, calming, or spiritual music when feelings start to surface within you.
  • Find something fun to do to help redirect thoughts.
  • Practice meditation and pray for “Letting Go” of things people have said.  
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when around certain people. Become aware of those thoughts and assumptions. Reflect on why these reactions are happening and how you can release or address them?
  • With friendships, coworkers, partners and family how has taking things personally affected these relationships?  What can I do to change it for the better

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly-sensitive in nature?

Do you feel you’re Feeling too much?

Feeling everything about you – you are the center of attention – are you the most important thing in a relationship?

What is a relationship?

A relationship is not just about you.

A relationship is like a dance – two people having a tango – push-pull. Not about just you and your feelings. ~ Angela Ambrosia

For meditations to help with hurt in relationships here is the video series “Choose the Relationship” by Angela Ambrosia. The meditations are at the end of the videos.


 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business

Summary:

To listen to podcast episode, Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business.

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a conversation about women and men in the workplace and more.  

(Patti) Angela, I recently saw an Instagram Reel of a young lady from Alabama who was looking for a place to do her eyelash business, and because she was a woman she was having a hard time getting a place even though her business was successful and had the money to make the rent.  She even had a male friend call and the landlords were going to rent to him but not to her.  This was shocking to me because I thought those days were gone. The link https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cbh4ClCjXkM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

(Patti) Do men make more money in the same position as women? YES or NO
To participate.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/polls/ or on Spotify.

(Angela) The Gig Economy is where everyone is moving away from full-time or part-time work to casual on-call work, as an Uber driver to an Online Entrepreneur to offering services in exchange for a fixed fee – like a coach or trainer, or other service providers.
And women have jumped on this for thousands of years before what we have now as a way to provide for their families while also cooking, housekeeping, and raising their young families. The modern gig economy is also increasing the demand for work-life balance so women and men can have time to be with their families and not work full-time hours.

How can women change their mindset to feel comfortable asking for what they are worth?

  1. Practice in the mirror asking for what you want at work.
  2. Write a script and memorize it so the words come out easy and confident.
  3. Say powerful daily affirmations for confidence and getting what you want.
  4. Get a mentor or coach to work with you on strategies to get what you want.

How can we have a better balance in the workplace between men and women whether it is pay, top management, or respecting each other?   We would love to hear your comments and feedback on this question.

Thank you so much for listening, please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to our podcast.

 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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