It’s officially summer. The weather is changing to enjoy outdoor adventures. It’s time to start planning and going on vacation activities. Scheduling it on the calendar is the first step to make it happen. After that, the time is blocked out, and work will not occur.
For some planning, a vacation can be overwhelming. Booking the flight, lodging, activities, rent a car, or not renting a car, etc. Staying local and pursuing fun, entertainment, and recreation may be a good option.
What is a playcation? Here is my explanation of a playcation as doing something fun and enjoyable on vacation. I recommend blocking out and scheduling specific enjoyable activities to do physically while getting some fresh air and sunlight. Maybe it is golfing, parasailing, snorkeling, zip-lining, water skiing, camping, hiking, getting the body moving, and so much more.
What has been your bucket list or what I call adventure list that you always wanted to do? If you don’t have an adventure list, it’s time to make one. Making an adventure list will help you plan future adventures and playcations.
I started making an adventure list by each state in two notebooks; as I see something on TV, Facebook, Pinterest, or hear about it from someone to visit and do that activity, I will write it in the books. If I don’t have the books with me, I put them on my phone in notes and then later write them in the book under that state.
As you begin to plan a playcation, take out your adventure list. I find this is a great motivation tool to experience something new a different and inspire me to do it.
How about making an adventure list and putting it into action?
I would love to hear or see your adventure list. Become carefree and just do it. Let the adventure begin!
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I have recently been watching the entire TV Series “Alone.” This show is about ten survival experts put in a remote area at least 10 miles away from each other to fend for themselves with ten survival items, some clothes, and live off the land. The survivalist who stays the longest wins 500,000 dollars. In season 7, if a participant lasts 100 days, they will receive 1 million dollars.
It is interesting to follow each participant on their journey of living alone and isolated how they cope with surviving from dealing with emotional, physical, and mental challenges along the way.
What is their breaking point? What keeps them going out there when they could easily hit a button and go home? The reasons they are there in the first place and how that goal changes once they experienced their time alone and the hardship they endure.
How this life lesson changed their life forever in ways, they never thought it would. The time they spent in self-reflection about what matters.
To see their struggles, whether physical, mental, or emotionally, can bring you to tears. How excited and thankful they get for catching a fish or trapping an animal in a snare. Each day is about trying to hold on and not give up.
Sometimes, this is how it feels for managers and supervisors dealing with the daily grind “ALONE.” Trying to hold it together each day—the pressure of being squeezed from top to bottom trying to survive the criticism and actions of yourself and others and being judged for every decision made or not made. Every day walking into the office can be the breaking point of success or ruin.
Employees worried about layoffs, unreasonable workload demands, meetings that don’t amount too much, expectations of successfully managing the chaos each day, and ridiculous emails to answer—trying to work or lead your team without any emotions.
Feeling emotions are natural, and if you don’t have any, what happened?
When did the career strip you of all humanity?
The Alone series teaches us there is so much more to life than boatloads of money, fame, and a demanding career that requires attention 24/7 and eventually leads to burnout, overwhelm, health problems, and anxiety.
The life lessons learned from the show to be grateful, love deeply, cherish the peacefulness, enjoy life to the fullest, and go home and spend time with your family and friends.
I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor while surviving the daily grind.
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As a Leadership, Work-Life Balance Coach, and Reiki Practitioner, I want to help managers and supervisors reduce their overwhelm, stress, anxiety, overload before burnout or health issues occur. Bring some peace and tranquility into their chaotic lives.
Reiki is a powerful practice to help with relaxation, stress-relief, lower anxiety, and overworked mind chatter. Spending time relaxing and letting go of the week’s overloaded and complicated tasks. A Reiki session can make all the difference from keeping you balanced and your mind in peace and harmony so you can be more productive and calm during those stressful moments at work and home.
What is Reiki?
Reiki is a Japanese technique for relaxation, which also promotes healing. Reiki’s performed through touch, or hands are hovering over someone or from a distance. Warm and soothing energy flows from the practitioner’s hands into the recipient, promoting relaxation and releasing tension.
It’s easy to neglect yourself when your career demands 24/7 access to you, however taking time out makes life more enjoyable for you, your staff, friends, and the family. You are a much more stable personality when you take some me-time. Also, when you are relaxed, your mind has time to rest. When your mind relaxes, it has time to rejuvenate; that’s when good ideas and problem-solving happen.
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Hi, Can you believe we are already in February? How are you doing? I wanted to check-in. How you are holding up? I am grateful for you following me, and I thought I would send out an update of what I have been up to lately. I decided to start doing a newsletter through a blog post, which will probably be quarterly.
Here is what I have been up to lately:
I have been working with a “Successful Coaches” Coach. Her name is Coach Cheryl and learning new ways to promote my coaching business. To get real clear on who my soul clients are and get out of my comfort zone by doing different marketing methods. Coach Cheryl knows her stuff and makes you accountable to take action. She was also my Coaching Instructor at World Coach Institute, where I received my Master Certified Coach Certification.
You’ve probably noticed that I have been making some changes to my website lately. I’m in an online membership group called The WordPress Academy with The Tech Angel Kelly Cairns. Kelly is a lovely person and is excellent at explaining how to do tech stuff to the non-tech.
Last year I went back to school, and I become a Certified Master Reiki Practitioner. Reiki is a Japanese technique for relaxation, which also promotes healing. Reiki’s performed through light touch, or hands are hovering over someone or distance. As a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach, adding Reiki to my practice can help people relax when stressed. For more about Distant Reiki, click here. To schedule a Distant Reiki Session with Patti, click on the button below.
I love this quote. There were times in my life that I was so focused on work that I did forget to live a more meaningful life. What about you? What are you doing today or this week to create a more meaningful life outside of work?
In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti get real and have a conversation about communicating in conflict.
When we came up with this topic, we explored being okay to say no and have a fall-out with someone. People pleasers struggle with saying no because they are scared, leading to the person not liking them or getting upset with them.
Nowadays, people are quick to avoid or ghost others instead of talking to each other. They wash their hands of people and walk away. It is easier to bail than to communicate. We hope this not the case; we know it is better to discuss things, whether pleasant or not, for relationships to last. Patti wrote a blog called “Damaged Relationships – Are They Salvageable?” It is about fall-out relationships and how unforgiveness causes physical and emotional harm.
Working relationships do have fall-outs that are not pretty. Avoidance makes more stress within the Workplace because the little things start adding up to big things when not addressed. That’s when all hell breaks loose in the Workplace, and people explode, get burnt out, start overthinking, become anxious, have low morale and no motivation, or even worse, quit and walk out without any notice. Patti did a blog called – How to Respond to Unprofessional People! Journal about what happened. Reflect on how they may respond to you. Create a plan of action on how to communicate calmly and to respond sensibly.
In the blog post series called Bad Leadership Styles. The series is how to identify different styles of Leadership with suggestions on guidance to address these negative behaviors. I will provide the link in the show notes.
Tips on How to Keep the Relationship While Dealing With Conflict:
Work on your feelings first:
❤️ Are you angry and denying it?
❤️ What are you feeling?
❤️ If it’s about being right.
❤️ Why do you need to be, right?
❤️ Being right is always based on a belief that you should be better than someone.
❤️ Why do you have to be better than someone?
If you’re listening to this in the holidays and you want to focus on having better relationships, then take this time to envision or pray or imagine the type of affection or connection you would love in your relationships.
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In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss People’s Pleasing and how it can disappoint relationships, whether within yourself and relating to others.
People Pleasers are very helpful and usually don’t say no when someone asks them for a favor. They spend a great deal of time doing things for others and disregard their own needs. Being a People Pleaser can cause disappointment because not everyone has the same kind heart or good intentions. They can attract people who will take advantage of their generosity.
Angela and Patti share experiences of being a people pleaser, and the lessons learned.
What are a few traits of a People Pleasing?
* Seeks approval and words of affirmation
* Fears being alone
* Feelings of being selfish or guilty for not meeting the needs of others
* Irritable when others don’t take your advice
* Being the “go-to person” when someone is in need
* Covering for or taking the blame for others
* Giving money away, which can lead towards depletion
What are some characteristics of a people pleaser?
Wants to be liked by others seek to earn it by pleasing, rescuing, giving away money and things, or flattery. They may even tell little white lies to spare people’s feelings when they don’t want to do something. Wants reassurance through acceptance and affection they can’t express their needs openly and directly. They make others feel obligated to reciprocate.
The people-pleaser may want to earn acceptance by helping others. They put other people’s needs ahead of their own. When they do this, they become resentful and sometimes bitter because the other person doesn’t do the same. They harbor anger, regret, and resentment from feeling used.
At times they may feel responsible for other people’s behavior. Saying “yes” becomes a habit, and for others, it can be an addiction that makes them feel needed in someone else’s life. Feelings of security and self-confidence come from getting the approval of others. Our very first podcast episode was When to Say No and When to Say Yes!
Angela uses clairsentience and kinaesthetic in her healing. It is a huge help to not jumping into the emotions, which means developing a stronger relationship with your intuition, which has taken her years. It has also taught her that feeling for a person is not the same as helping them.
The stories created by a people pleaser to justify their actions and choices are often subtle and cover up the real story that you feel is not enough to state what you want. The damage of believing your stories that justify people-pleasing is that you will delay discovering your true worth by behaviors that keep you locked in suffering other people’s emotions or stuck in guilting others and yourself for not meeting your needs.
Patti and Angela have years of experience overcoming people-pleasing. So the answer is listening to others who overcome people-pleasing to find true self-worth and ways of communicating that in the world. And you can find out more about working with us individually below.
A People Pleaser may struggle with work-life balance, and Patti has created a self-study at your own pace 21 Days to Optimal Work/Life Balance Program that addresses how to say no for people pleasers and make better boundaries, so others don’t take advantage of them.
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This month’s theme will be the practice of affirmations and applying them to daily life, whether for home, work, or both.
What is an affirmation?
Affirmations are positive words or sentences that may assist you in staying focused encouragingly. If you repeat the affirmation every day, you may notice an optimistic transformation in your attitude towards yourself and others throughout the day. Using affirmations may help your relationships at home and in the workplace and may even increase career opportunities.
I will be posting daily positive affirmations Monday through Friday this month on my social media platforms.
LinkedIn – Coaching for Inspiration with Patti
Facebook – CoachingforInsp
Instagram – CoachingforInsp
If you have a favorite positive affirmation, please feel free to share it in the comments below.
This month’s topic theme is going to be about burnout. Has it ever happened to you? It is not fun, but it is becoming more common for people in management positions and high demanding careers.
I came across this movie, “Sweet Home Carolina,” on Tubi. It starts with Diane sitting in her office, not answering her office phone, and hyperventilating into a brown bag.
Burnout is what happens when the soul whispering against an unhealthy job or relationship. – Dr. Dina Glouberman
Diane is an Advertising Executive, and her personal life is a mess. She works long hours and has a habit of picking up her youngest child late from school. Her oldest teenage daughter is angry with her over the divorce of her parents and blames Diane. Diane is receiving collection notices in the mail. She is a train wreck ready to happen. Family dinners consist of frozen lasagna and Diane drinking a few glasses of wine before going to bed.
Don’t get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life. – Dolly Parton
When Diane thought her life couldn’t get any worst. Her boss called her into his office and gave away her biggest client to a coworker. Then told her she needed to take some time off (permanently). A life preserver happened; her Aunt, who recently passed away, left her a house in a small town in South Carolina. The stipulations were taking care of her Aunt’s dog and living in the house for a year. She subleased her home in Los Angeles, and she and her daughters moved.
Don’t accept burnout as the price or definition of success. – Jon Acuff
The demanding career, the big house, and a fancy car is not everything. What makes true happiness? In Diane’s case, she realized that most important to her was a loving, respectful relationship with her daughters, a good man who loved her deeply, and a small town of caring people.
Sometimes we choose a career because of the large paycheck and later realize the job has cost us more than we bargained. No social life, no friends, damaged love life, estranged family, health problems, a lack of purpose, and what happened to my enthusiasm and happiness?
Think about your life. Is this the way I want my story to end?
Let’s think about – What are the benefits of being more grateful, thankful, light-hearted, friendly, kind, and positive?
Here are some possible benefits:
❤️ Positive thinking attracts good things to you.
❤️ A positive outlook creates meaningful relationships.
❤️ Being positive decreases depression and anxiety.
❤️ Positive thoughts increase motivation, inspiration, and creativity.
❤️ Being positive improves the immune system.
While, Reflecting on these benefits, why do you think society isn’t more positive?
How do we change a negative culture? Changing the focus to a positive, and an encouraging outlook towards each other, which increases motivation, creativity, better health, improves relationships whether at home or work, and it makes the environment a better place too.
What else can we do?
❤️ Affirmations are a great way to help change your outlook to the better. I would use Affirmation driving on my way to work and to get me through the day. Here is an example of an Affirmation. “Positive thinking is changing my relationships for the better!” Repeat it throughout the day, silently or out loud.
❤️ Self-reflection is another strategy to improve and change our attitude for the better. Here is a self reflection question to journal about: How am I creating more positivity in my life?
❤️ Pray to God for the change you want to see in your life, for the world and have faith it will happen. It may not happen the way you thought it would, it will probably be so much better. Keeping the faith in the good around us and not in the fear and anger being thrown in our direction. 🙂
❤️Spend time in meditation to calm and lighten your spirit. Smile, think good thoughts and speak kindly to those around you. By doing this it will change the way others treat you as well.
❤️ Tell your spouse/partner, children, and parents you love them every time you talk to them or see them. Love can change the world. People who feel loved, radiate love. How am I creating more positivity in my life?
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