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Podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) – Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

In podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) Angela and Patti share about reaching midlife and handling what comes your way.

Angela tell us a little bit about the podcast title and Bending Your Knees?  

We thought about this topic a while back, but I really thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after recovering from surgery.  It was a shock after being flexible most of life I couldn’t bend the knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock – but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now.  

Midlife-is an important time to look at your life and see what you are not able to do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost – although you may have a period of grieving.  

After grieving or during grieving it’s important and valuable to take stock, reflect on what results of your life thus far?  

How do you feel about your life?  

If you reflect on your life constructively, it will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to REALLY see –

❤️ What is your life about?

What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. –

❤️ What was it all for?  Bending the knee reflects flexibility – and humility. In my case, I had setbacks – such as getting a little better than getting sick or weak again. What that taught me is to do things differently to go with my needs and energy better.  Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy – and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it’s also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are?  

Patti tells us aboutWhat have you found stops people embracing the possibility of change in mid-life?  

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.  

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?  

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?  

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?  

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?  

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects of my position?  

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?  

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work every day?  

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?  

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?  

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?  

🦋  Am I positive at work?  

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.  

What are some options to improve the career situation?  

Use daily affirmations to get you through the day.  Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards, these cards are good to use for any day in and day out work or home situations.   

Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards

❤️ What do you want our world to be?  

Answer this question on Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Facebook group page: What are things, experiences, joys that you really really would like to experience?

Angela and I would like to thank you for following and supporting our podcast!

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Podcast Episode 18 – Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide!

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss – Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide. We feel this topic needs to be discussed openly and not avoided because it is uncomfortable. Lives matter.

Click on link to listen to podcast Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide.

How did we get this topic title?

Angela and I were talking about how there has been an increase in suicide. Over the years, and how the current situation with isolation and other factors. Such as loss of a job can be a risk factor.

The Risk Factors  provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website; 

Alcohol and other substance use disorders
Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
Hopelessness, feelings of no reason to live
Depression Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies
History of trauma or abuse Major physical illnesses
Previous suicide attempt(s) Family history of suicide – Angela talks about breaking the chain of generational loss and hurt –
How to do that.
Job or financial loss
Loss of relationship(s)
Easy access to lethal means
Lack of social support, isolation and social withdrawal
The stigma associated with asking for help
Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment
Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet)

The Warning Signs provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website; 
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves, communicating suicide intent or plan Looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
Talking about being a burden to others
Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
Sleeping too little or too much
Withdrawing or isolating themselves
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
Extreme mood swings
Making final arrangements (wills, notes, giving away personal things, etc.

For immediate help, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and talk with a trained counselor at National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

For Australia https://www.lifeline.org.au/

Angela will be speaking at the online Lasting Love Summit click on the link to register to attend the free summit. The summit is the week of May 5, 2020.

Angela’s The Love Oracle Podcast 

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

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Podcast Episode 16 – How to Get Along With Your Teenager!

This topic came from a listener request, How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

Click the link to listen to the podcast – How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

Patti started by asking these questions to the audience.

Self-reflecting back to when you were a teenager.  Yes, I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?

What did you want from your parents?  

Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want in Life.

What was it?

Your teenager probably wants the same.  

Angela talks about as a parent – you love them, but you don’t like their behavior – and there’s a consequence for the behavior – follow through and don’t bend, you’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts – don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off.

What are some deals you can negotiate with them?

Tips from book Crucial Conversations:

1.  Start with the heart.

2. Ask – What do you want for the relationship?

3. Ask – What do you want for the teen?

4. What do you want for you?

5. What is the greatest possible outcome for the relationship?

How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart?

Come up with boundaries and consequences, if boundaries are not met.

Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.

What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days – that may be similar and different to what we went through?

1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.

2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying

3. Suicide – For more information about suicide prevention check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and Reachout https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents it is free advice in Australia and Life line https://www.lifeline.org.au

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Podcast Episode 15 – Surviving Social Isolation!

In this episode Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation.

Click the link to listen to the podcast – Surviving Social Isolation.

Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.  

This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care.

How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?

  1. Facetime or video chat with family and friends
  2. Adult coloring or coloring with the children
  3. Play board games with family and do a puzzle
  4. Blowing bubbles outside with the children
  5. Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
  6. Have a virtual meetup; On Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually
  7. Start a group text, in the WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support

    Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.

    Write down on a piece of paper.

    1. What you feel you have lost in this situation?
    2. What you feel you need?
    3. Why do you need this?
    4. How could you meet this need?

    With the feelings: – Acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need – find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!

    Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need – you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time.
    And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love…or you may realize something about your need – like its actually not that important!

    How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing.

    Look at a list of tips we are sharing.
    Notice which of your needs are the most important?
    Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it, so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.

    When you send a text – Put a good feeling into it – people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.  

    Angela’s new Youtube channel link New Energy Body

    Patti’s Prayer of Hope

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Podcast Episode 14 – Being A Better Father In Today’s World!

In this podcast episode of Being A Better Father In Today’s World! Angela and Patti discussed the topic of how a Father can be understood, respected, welcomed, and supported while in isolation with the coronavirus situation.  Families being in isolation triggering a lot of uncomfortable feelings and stress.  

Click to listen to podcast – Being A Better Father In Today’s World!

The stressors:

Being out of work, isolated, stressed about money, people sad, angry, have no control, in fear of the unknown.  

What is a good father?  

They are sharing equally in household chores, helping with caring for the kids, and with their activities, reflecting respect and loving-kindness towards the wife/partner/the children’s mother by scheduling date nights and eating dinner with the family at least once a week. Kind and patience with your partner and children. Easy to talk too. They share their life experiences, leading by example, or what not to do and support their family in many ways.   

Angela references the Ted Talk – What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0

Set up healthy family boundaries:

1. Set family guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not.

2. Awareness of what is happening and discussing it compassionately together with solutions.

3. Make a conscious decision to stop unacceptable behaviors, so everyone feels safe, loved and protected.

We would love your thoughts and comments:

“What does being a good father mean to you”?

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Virtual Hug and Prayer

I am sending virtual hugs to everyone who is reading this. 🤗

Thank you to all the medical field personnel for all you do, to the medical researchers, volunteers, and healers. To the people that go to work and risk their lives every day, to the Correctional Officers and Public Servants. You know who you are. Thank you!

Dear Lord,
Please wrap your love around the world during this coronavirus epidemic. Bring us a miracle to heal the sick, stop the virus from spreading and destroy it.
Amen

Please share your prayers of hope! Patti 🦋

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Building Better Relationship Podcast – Episode 13 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 2 – The Healing Miracle and Transformation!

In this podcast episode, Angela will share her healing experience and transformation process.  

Click here to listen to Episode 13 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 2 – The Healing Miracle and Transformation!

To learn more about Angela’s New Energy Body YouTube Channel 

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

If you found this podcast helpful, please share it with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review. Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

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A New Building Better Relationship Podcast – Episode 12 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 1 – The Message! What are you doing here?

In this podcast episode, we will be discussing Angela’s health journey for the past few months after having aggressive cancer and her healing transformation. 

Click here to listen – Episode 12 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 1 – The Message! What are you doing here?

For Angela, the aggressive cancer was a chance to see how angry she was at life. The glamour and illusion of how she thought life should be.  Is this how you want to live your life, busy focused on how things are not the way you want? Angela was supposed to die in all given circumstances and from a physical diagnosis and doctor’s point of view, but she didn’t. The message she received was – No. What are you doing here?

When she was trying to die, and it wasn’t her time, so Angela had to come back. And again, dealing with the illusion of how it should be when you pass over. She got a rude and firm rejection from the spirit world. No! Go back, back to life. Every moment of her sickness after trying to die became a stepping stone of how to come back to life.

Coming next Episode 13 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 2 – The Healing Miracle and Transformation! Angela will share what she learned from the hospital bed about healing, miracles, and transformation.

To learn more about Angela’s New Energy Body YouTube Channel 

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

If you found this podcast helpful, please share it with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review. Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

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How to Deal with Words Left Unsaid

I am sure every single one of us has had a life situation where we wish we told someone how we truly felt. Whether it was a childhood crush or wishing we spoke up at a group meeting or knew something was happening that wasn’t right.

Fear can immobilize us not to act. Then guilt or regret lingers on and on inside of us. This may continue throughout our lifetime. Guilt or regret can leave us feeling empty, unsatisfied or longing for something we didn’t have the guts to pursue. We all probably heard the old saying “Time heals all wounds.” Does it really?

“Time Heals All Wounds.” Does it really?

There are some wounds that will never heal, until they are dealt with. I know this is easier said then done.

How many of us have been ghosted sometime in our life?

It may have been a relationship, a job offer, a networking acquaintance or a business deal.

Did you want to know the reason why?

Unfortunately, most of the time a reason why, will never come.

Overthinking about the situation can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks and so much more.

Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” ~ Roy T. Bennett

Time may soften the disappointment, regret and hurt, but it’s still there deep down inside. Time is not the healer, it is the inner work of dealing with the emotions that heals you. Healing requires constant mental work of positive self talk and the ability of letting it go.

How do you get over it and move on?

🦋 Recite positive affirmations for healing and to eliminate negative thoughts.

🦋 Create a gratitude journal. Everyday in the journal write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.

🦋 Be aware of your emotions and feelings. Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about the situation.

🦋 Spend time with positive, happy and motivated people.

🦋 Pick your battles. Sometimes chasing the person may cause more damage to you. If the recipient doesn’t want to hear from you they won’t respond. Start focusing on want you really want in life.

🦋 Hire a life coach or therapist to help you let go of the hurt and disappointment.

“Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did. Let it go!” ~ Mandy Hale

Takeaway:

Isn’t it time to be happy. Being upset, angry and overthinking really isn’t working. Love yourself and those around you enough to let it go. A huge part of healing is believing you deserve a better life of peace, joy and love. ~ Patti 🦋

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The Mishaps of the Missing Package

Where do I begin!  I guess at the beginning.  A month ago I ordered a bottle of essential oils.  I was so excited.  The vendor makes the oils herself.  Two weeks go by and no package.  I contacted the seller and she said, you should have gotten it last week.  Let me check into it.

She contacted me back and said the mail delivery company told her they had already delivered it.  She would file a claim for the missing package.  I verified my address with her.

I had my husband politely ask our neighbor, if by chance they may have seen the package delivered.  They had not.

The seller put together another package and added a few extra gifts. Then she sent it through a competitor of the first mail delivery company.  She gave me the tracking number so I could track the package.

Every few hours for a couple of days I would check the tracking of the parcel.  Then it said it was delivered but I had no delivery.  At 12:15 pm it was supposedly delivered and I checked at 12:20 pm. On the website I contacted the package delivery company through IM.  

The IM said check around your house and your neighbors.  I went around my house and my close neighbors but there was no package.  I looked in my backyard, no parcel.  I was getting upset, how could this be? I was home and no truck pulled up.

So I called the package delivery company.  The customer service agent said it was delivered.  I said where was it delivered?  I gave him my address and he said that is not the house number we have for delivery.  I said, “what is the house number you have”?  He stated, “I can’t give that information to you”.  I questioned, “why it is my package”.  I replied, “I want the driver to go pick up the package and deliver it to me”.  I gave him my phone number. 

Hours go by and then I get a call from another customer service representative and they tell me the sender has to file a complaint and pay $12.00 for them to pick up the package from where it was delivered.  The address they delivered to was the address they were given.  I said, “what address was that”!  This time he gave it to me.  I said, “well I’m going over there to get my package”.  He said, “no the sender has to file for a missing package and pay $12.00”.  I was silent.  I couldn’t believe this. 

After he finished his spill I hung up the phone put on my flip flops grabbed my purse and started walking down the street looking for this house number where my package was delivered.

Now, I was a sight to be seen.  I had on a baggy T-Shirt, sweat pants, flip flops, my hair was wild and I was on a mission to get my stuff back.

Usually, I would follow protocols but I didn’t want the sender to go through all that and have to pay $12.00.  So I was off and spitting fire.  After following the numbers I found the house.  My package was sitting there.  I rang the door bell twice.  No answer.  I waited and waited.  Finally, I grabbed my parcel and left.  I hadn’t ever done something so bold before.  I really wanted them to answer the door so I could explain and ask if they received my other package.  Maybe it is a good thing they didn’t answer who knows what may have happen. So I walked home feeling scared and relieved at the same time.

During the time I spoke to each customer service agent, I had PM the seller.  I felt really bad that this was happening and I was over the top upset.  I didn’t want her to have to put any more time, money and energy into this.

When I got home I took a picture of the package with the label.  Then opened the parcel.  She had sent me more than what I ordered.  It was absolutely wonderful. 

What did I learn from this mishap?  

Sometimes you have to be bold to get what you deserve. I appreciate the customer service representative giving me the delivery address to resolve this situation. Lastly, I ’m very thankful to have received such a wonderful generous package from the seller. 🦋 ~ Patti

Have you ever had a missing package? If so, how did you handle it? What was the outcome?

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