Blog

Posted in Blog, Business Inspiration, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast, Podcasts

The Pressure of Perfection on Managers and Supervisors

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will talk about the pressures of perfection on managers and supervisors.

As Managers and Supervisors, we put a lot of expectations on ourselves as well as others. 

So why do we feel we have to be perfect? 

Are we putting those expectations on ourselves, or do people expect us to be perfect with our attitude, appearance, decisions, and performance?

It appears that perfection is expected and pressured onto Managers and Supervisors, which trickles down to the employees — the appearance of being perfect and pointing out other people’s mistakes and faults accompanied by harsh judgment has become the norm in workplaces. In this type of environment, there is a lack of focus, creativity, and willingness to try new things. As a result, people don’t grow, nor do the products, services, and revenue.  

It’s okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and not continually repeat them. How feedback is delivered can make or break a person, whether at work, home, volunteering, or among friends. Too much nitpicking and micromanaging is why good employees leave. 

A good leader will let employees try new and different processes, especially if the current approach isn’t working, outdated, or becoming mundane. Listening is essential to know what is working and what is not. Being approachable and welcoming is the first step to building trust, hearing what people feel and new ideas, and realizing that mistakes happen. Finally, good leaders are flexible —having a crucial conversation on what happened and working together on how to fix the situation—talking about what worked and what didn’t and coming up with a plan to make it better with an agreeable resolution.

What if you are a manager or supervisor who doesn’t like conflict?

Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage, and promotes better communication skills. Start by responding to emails, voicemails, and texts, even short and the point. Something is better than nothing. Meet with employees, listen, and be engaged. As you address complex situations, it does get easier as time goes on. Communication skills are an essential part of becoming a better leader.  

Managers and Supervisors are the hardest on themselves. When projects fail, they take it to heart and feel awful and embarrassed.

Here are some Self-Reflect Questions to ponder when a mistake or failure happens.

What did I learn?

What will I do differently next time?

What areas do I need to improve?

What did I learn about myself, customers, clients, superiors, and employees from this experience?

An Affirmation to recite to get you through during or after a mistake or failure:

I will not let mistakes from the past carry on into today.

Pretty much everyone wants to do a good job and wants to please their superiors, customers, employees, and clients. So when mistakes happen, knowledging them by taking action steps to rectify them. By doing this, it will reflect, you are an honest person with integrity. This imperfect world sure does need more managers and supervisors like this. Letting go of perfection and being authentic changes the workplace from chaos to calm. 

Until next we meet again!

If you enjoyed this blog post, how about showing appreciation and sharing a cup of coffee with me ☕️ What is share a cup of coffee? It is a beautiful way to express your gratitude and support for my work by buying me a cup of coffee.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

#managers #supervisor #podcast #anchorpodcast #leadershipcoaching #leadershipdevelopment #perfection #pressuresofperfection

Posted in Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 52 – Claiming Your Value at Work or Entrepreneur

Summary of podcast:

In this episode, we look at the changing expectations in the marketplace where people are moving to offer their services for sale versus working in a job with a fixed salary and how this forces you to claim your value versus having employers or your own perceptions determine what you are worth.

To listen to this episode click on the link.

Self-Reflection Questions for Determining a Raise:

Do I exceed expectations of my job duties, job description, and why?

Am I the go-to person who gets things done?

Do I take on additional tasks, projects, and responsibilities outside of my job description?

Do others come to me for my advice, knowledge, and leadership?

Am I increasing my learning and knowledge within my industry?

Do people at work describe me as vital within the company?

How Do You Claim Your Value as an Entrepreneur?

Is the world interested in what you share?

Does the world understand what you share?

Do you have something of value to others?

And if you do – do you know how to communicate that effectively to others?

Can people afford what you have to share?

Will people want to pay for what you have to offer?

There are so many other people offering what you have; why would they want what you’ve got to share?

Self-Doubt to Self-Assured Common stuff that goes through people minds:

How much do I share?

Did I share too much?

Do people want to hear about it?

Will it make a difference?

Am I too pushy?

What if no one buys my products or services?

What if people are making fun of me or judging me?

Here are some questions and Journal exercises about thinking about your value and how you condition your value.

If you want to claim your value, you need to see the conditions you put on it, so that you will understand why you are using your time and energy the way you are and so that IF you want to, can change your perception about your value you can:

1. See how to change your mindset or perception about your value

2. Change the way you describe your value to the world, so they understand your value or

3. See how to communicate your value to the world so that they understand it clearly.

It is ONLY the belief that what you offer is worth a certain price.

How do you claim your value in what you offer to the world, whether at work or in personal relationships?

Patti’s new podcast ExploringLife and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm.

Patti has the 21 Days to Optimal Work-life Balance for busy people and entrepreneurs who often fall into the trap that if they DO more, then they are doing good.

To Book an Energy Healing Session with Angela: https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/dancehealing

#podcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipcoaching #lifecoaching #relationshipsathomeandwork #listen #thanks #buildingbetterrelationships #relationships #claimingyourvalue

Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 51 – How To Change Your Mindset and Relationship With Money

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a special guest Breeze Krumm, a Financial Coach, and we will be discovering how to change mindset and relationship with money, finances, and financial systems.

About Breeze Krumm:

She is a certified professional coach and has completed the Financial Coach Master Training. She specializes in financial coaching, with an emphasis on helping you overcome a negative mindset and develop better disciplines when it comes to your personal financial management. Her goal is to help you achieve financial wellness and freedom!

A Quote from Breeze:

Our relationship with money is a very personal one. I have found that most struggles with money come about due to a lack of support or education around it from a young age. Traumas from childhood or even adulthood can affect our relationship with money. I know this from personal experience.

Here is how to find Breeze Krumm or contact her about financial mindset coaching services:

Email Contact: breeze@findyourfocuscoaching.com

Website: https://findyourfocuscoaching.com

Angela’s Resource to find out what’s your money personality: https://successresources.com/there-are-4-money-personalities-whats-yours/

#moneymindset #relationshipwithmoney #podcast #relationshipcoaching #relationshipbuilding #relationshippodcast #anchorpodcast #thanks

Posted in Blog, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast, Podcasts

Exploring Self-Talk and Emotions of the Manager and Supervisor

How’s it going, Managers and Supervisors!

Today, we will explore self-talk and emotions as a manager or supervisor when everything seems not to be going right in the workday, from employees to yourself, and how to change the chaos to calm.

Click to listen to this podcast episode.

Have you ever felt so underappreciated at work? You try so hard, and it just doesn’t seem to go as you planned. Others don’t seem to get the big picture no matter how many times you think you communicated it. You feel like everyone doesn’t seem to care. So why don’t they get it?

It can be chaotic to a Manager or Supervisor; heightened emotions and frustration levels escalate towards others.  

I felt this way many times. Thinking I was communicating clearly and later realizing that was not the case. How does the communication style change from chaotic to calm?

Here are some possible questions that may be going through your mind during these times of frustration:

  • Did I communicate what I wanted correctly?
  • I feel I didn’t handle my disappointment and frustration very well?
  • How, as a supervisor, do I handle this situation in a calm manner?
  • What happened to people’s passion for their work or careers?
  • Have people lost their sense of purpose?
  • Why are so many people just going through the motions towards their jobs?
  • Is there no sense of pride anymore?
  • What happened?

Stop, take a deep breath, and pause.

What positive affirmations can you recite to shift your perspective towards yourself and others to communicate better? 

How about reciting these affirmations to get you started and through the day? 

I am a good communicator!

I am a confident leader!

When you believe you can make a shift, you usually do! 

Being a manager or supervisor, you may have encounter situations throughout your day and get very frustrated. However, I believe most people are not doing what they want to be doing. They may have outgrown the job and may not be pursuing their true calling or career path in life. So they dread getting up every day to a job that brings no satisfaction or purpose in life. If so, they would love to get up every morning and be excited to go to work every day instead of hitting that snooze button numerous times and dragging themselves out of bed with no purpose or passion.

Getting to know the person you are talking to, their learning style, and personality traits is a good start in connecting and communicating better.

How can you help bring some spark back in the workplace and assist your employees in igniting some passion for their job?  

  • Ask the employee is there a project, task, or something they would like to learn within your department. Could you give, teach or mentor them on a particular project? Some employees don’t want to learn anything new; they want to do their job and go home. That’s okay by asking the employee you know if they do or don’t want to learn something new.
  • Talk with them about what aspects they like about their job, and this will give you some ideas for future tasks or assignments to give them in the future. 
  • Listen to them talk about their aspirations in life.
  • Help them set attainable work goals.
  • Schedule training classes with them for self-development or new skills they would like to learn.
  • Delegate different job assignments to them. Get their feedback on what they liked and what they didn’t like about the work.
  • Give them some variety in their job duties, so they don’t become complacent and unhappy.

By trying these techniques, you will find more job satisfaction in the workplace. In addition, employees will have something to look forward to accomplishing and may even stop hitting the snooze button each morning.  

When employees are satisfied and happy at work, it spills out towards the customers, clients, each other, then towards you and company goals and increasing profitability.  

This podcast episode self-reflection question to ponder or journal about:

What keeps me motivated and encouraged to get through my workday as a manager and supervisor?

Today’s podcast episode affirmations:

I am a good communicator!

I am a confident leader!

Until next time!

If you enjoyed this blog post, how about showing appreciation and sharing a cup of coffee with me ☕️ What is share a cup of coffee? It is a beautiful way to express your gratitude and support for my work by buying me a cup of coffee.

If you enjoyed this blog post, how about showing appreciation and sharing a cup of coffee with me ☕️ What is share a cup of coffee? It is a beautiful way to express your gratitude and support for my work by buying me a cup of coffee.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

#managers #supervisor #podcast #anchorpodcast #emotions #self-talk #leadershipcoaching #leadershipdevelopment

Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast

Episode 50 – How Inner Thoughts At Work Affect Your Performance and Relationships

In this podcast episode we explore inner thoughts that affect work performance and relationships.

To listen to full podcast Episode 50 – How Inner Thoughts At Work Affect Your Performance and Relationships

Summary:

Angela: Today, we dive deeper into understanding the thoughts circulating in the modern workplace and the pandemic and conflict with working at home.  

Angela: What are some of the sabotaging thoughts you have been exposed to in the workplace? There’s probably a long list – so maybe the ones common to many people first.

Patti: How about thoughts of comparing your abilities to your coworker’s strengths, or wanting to control outcomes, fear of rejection, or fear of failure, and the feelings that your manager has favoritism towards a coworker over you. These thoughts can sabotage your performance at work and can overtake you with fear and overwhelm.

Angela: There is a move to having people from work from home. How does this change the way some are performing at work? What makes some people love it while others hate it?

Patti: Since working at home, some have realized how much the work environment has caused havoc to their physical and mental state and given them space to reflect on what they want in life, and it may not be this workplace or career. For some, they liked working alone; it’s non-stressful dealing with other personalities and communication styles.  

Angela: When the inner thoughts about work are not working well, what are some things you can suggest to help people get clear on their thoughts to make things better?

Patti: Recite positive affirmations to eliminate any negative thoughts about work.  I’m sure you have seen those funny work memes. There is one where someone is sitting at their desk repeating this affirmation. “I love my job!” over and over again.  

Reciting a prayer – something like this: Dear God, please help and encourage me today to have a positive attitude towards my job, work performance, and the people I work with and have a good day at work. Thank you, AMEN!  

Listen to uplifting music.  

Journal how you are feeling.  

Go for a walk.  

Focus on work tasks.  

Remember – What you want in your life and remove the thoughts of what you don’t.  Set goals of how you are going to change your situation at work and put them into action.

Angela: In Australia, in lockdowns, Parents who work at home have more expectations to do everything, homeschool, parent, and work – and it’s too much. Does something have to give with the way corporations or organizations approach work? The rising stress of parents is not healthy for society. 

This episode has given us a lot to think about in our relationships at work. We would love to hear your tips, strategies, or inspiring stories on building better relationships at home and work or about this podcast topic. 

Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook – Program

Episode 49 on How Balancing Thoughts and Feelings Make Your Relationships Better

To Book an Energy Healing Session with Angela

To book a coaching or reiki session with Patti

How about becoming a monthly supporter of this podcast?   Click on the support button in the Anchor App.

For a one-time any amount support donation, click the Donate button below:

Thank you so much for listening.

DISCLOSURE: Please be aware that we may share affiliate links in this post.

#podcast #relationshippodcast #anchorpodcast #relationshipcoaching #lifecoaching #thanks #balancingthoughts #balancingfeelings #makeyourrelationshipsbetteratwork #buildingbetterrelationships #betterrelationships  #workrelationships #relationshipsatwork #betterthoughts

Posted in Blog, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast, Podcasts

How to Stop Ignoring The Hard Stuff and Go From Chaos to Calm

Episode 1 Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, I will discuss – How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm.

Click to listen to Episode 1 – How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm

Have you ever had something to do at work, and you didn’t want to do it?

There are things as a manager or supervisor you don’t want to do, but it is an essential part of the job. You know what I mean, and not addressing it can cause more havoc in the workplace.

Let me give you some examples:

  • Not having crucial conversations with an employee about poor performance
  • Prolonging a discussion with the team about not making goals
  • An email you are told to write by your boss
  • Calling back an angry customer or client
  • Not participating or wanting to go to mandatory leadership meetings
  • Delivering bad news, for example, no bonus, no raises, or possible layoffs within the company

I am sure all of us at one time or another has put something off that might be uncomfortable or didn’t want to do but was loading us down with it continually there, whether in worry, thought, or others depending on it.  

Wouldn’t it make life and work more enjoyable if it was no longer in front of us but completed?

Getting it completed takes off a heavy burden, and then you can focus on the other things you want to do.

One of the ways to tackle the hard stuff is to do it first thing in the morning and get it out of the way. If it is a massive project, break it down into tasks. Then, as you complete a portion of the project, you will feel like you are moving forward on getting it done. Checking that section off your to-do list, spreadsheet, or Trello board feels like an achievement and inspiration. 

Putting off the hard stuff or undesirable tasks doesn’t contribute to becoming successful. However, once finished, you can move on to more enjoyable tasks and have a great sense of accomplishment.

How to Break Free of Ignoring the Hard Stuff:

  • Identify it is happening and
  • Recognize it and decide to
  • Focus on the task until completed
  • Celebrate when finished

Take control of all distractions such as responding immediately to email notifications, incoming voice mail messages, texts, instant messages, social media notifications. Set specific times and limits for these activities. Block off your calendar for the task. Concentrate by tuning out or turning off all distractions and commit to that particular task. 

If working in the office, let others know you are working on something with a deadline or need to finish with no distractions if they could wait on questions. By blocking the time on your digital calendar can help with limiting distractions.  

Halt any negative self-talk and replace these thoughts with positive Affirmations. An example – I get things done! By telling yourself, I can do this, and pray for strength to continue and remove all obstacles in the way; it will inspire you to keep going. There were many times I would be sitting at my desk and thinking I can’t do this, and I would pray, journal, and recite positive affirmations to get me through the task, situation, or sh*t storm happening around me.

Envision how you will feel after completing the project. Then, celebrate; it doesn’t have to be something big or expensive. It could be getting a cup of your favorite coffee or taking a break to read a good book, something special to you that feels like a reward. 

Sometimes getting started is the hardest, but the rewards are endless. Setting your goal, coming up with a plan of action, and the most important thing is putting the plan into action. Getting started and motivated to take action steps is crucial to change the habit of ignoring the hard stuff. However, it doesn’t help you attain your goal or dream until you get it done. To get what you want, you have to pursue it, and it starts with motivation to want to get things done.

Here are some Self Reflections to ponder:

What are some key factors which are enabling you to put off the hard stuff?

What have you been putting off?

How will it change your circumstances by getting them completed?

Today’s podcast Affirmation is I get things done!

Until next time!

If you enjoyed this blog post, how about showing appreciation and sharing a cup of coffee with me ☕️ What is share a cup of coffee? It is a beautiful way to express your gratitude and support for my work by buying me a cup of coffee.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

#worklifebalance #balancedlife #managers #supervisors #leadershipcoaching #lifecoaching #careercoaching #worklifebalancecoach #worklifebalancecoaching #leadership #worklife

Posted in Blog, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast, Podcasts

Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

I have a new podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm.

Welcome to Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm. Join me as we explore the good, the bad, and the chaotic in the life of a manager or supervisor.

This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who feels burnt out, stressed out, or overworked from your demanding job. Now, you’re looking to find some calm and balance in life, both inside and outside of work.

These monthly mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day from chaos to calm.

I am your host Patti Oskvarek, a Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach.

Follow “Exploring Life and Work with Patti” on all your favorite podcast listening platforms to get all the latest podcast episodes.

Let the adventure begin.

Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 49 – How Balancing Thoughts and Feelings Make Your Relationships Better

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti will be discussing how having balance with thoughts and feelings can improve your relationships with others at home and work.

To listen to Episode 49 – How Balancing Thoughts and Feelings Make Your Relationships Better

Summary:

Angela: All of us have thoughts that are not happy thoughts. We all have thoughts out of balance, not kind, not great, and better not shared. However, once you think, an idea adds to the collective thoughts of consciousness in all human beings. 48 Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media for Caring Relationships I talked about Mass Consciousness, which is the collective thoughts and emotions created, experienced, and projected by humans through all time. 

Patti: Adding a little more to this about our unhappy thoughts – When we feel victimized, our thoughts and feelings become unbalanced. Working through those feelings helps to maintain balance and interactions with others. For example, looking towards the future with hope and gratitude while realizing the past was a life lesson to navigate a better tomorrow.  

Angela: Patti, you do Coaching for Inspiration with Patti. You inspire people with ideas, thoughts to think differently, creatively and solution focussed.  Do you find that humans are balanced in their thoughts?

Patti: Most people have a lot thrown at them throughout the day. They have not spent any time shutting off. They are overload and overwhelmed, and some are just going through the motions. Some are constantly in fear or defensive mode. So to answer the question, no.  

Angela: Do you feel thoughts are inherently negative and positive, and then we have to see both negative and positive and see what emerges from the two?

Patti: Depends on the home and work environment. For example, suppose they have a stable, loving, and respectful home life (positive) and have turmoil, criticism, hostility, and lack of love or encouragement in the family unit (negative). In the work environment: Say that they feel challenged, respected. Enjoy their job, encouraged. Acknowledge, praise, and feel heard (positive). However, if the workplace lacks teamwork, it promotes aggressive competitiveness, micro-managing, harsh critiquing, pitting each other against one another, criticizing, and bickering behavior (negative).  

There could be a combination of both excellent home life and horrible work life. Or an awful home life and a great work environment. Then there is both a negative home and work life or both positive home and work life. So which is the most balanced? Is it having joy in both places? Whether people realize it or not, personal and work-life run into each other daily.  

Angela: What is inspiration, and how could inspiration be derived from negative and positive thoughts interacting with each other?

Patti response:  What is inspiration?  

The definition from https://www.dictionary.com/browse/inspiration

Inspiration is inspiring or animating action or influence, as an idea or a result of inspired activity, a thing or person that inspires you. Theology or Spiritual – A divine influence directly and immediately put upon the mind or soul. The divine quality of writing, words of a person so influenced—the act of inspiring the quality or state of being inspired.

To me, inspiration is when you feel compelled or drawn to do something and feel good about it. Someone encourages you, and you feel energized and enjoy doing it.

When something negative happens in life, reflect on that situation, you can either look at it from overwhelm, distraught, resentfulness, un-forgiveness, or anger. That’s okay; we need to go through the process of healing. However, it is not healthy for us when it consumes us for years and holds us back in life, and we can’t move on. It can make us sick and change our perspective towards others that have nothing to do with what happened. When we learn from that experience and share how we moved past it with others who are going through the same thing, we inspire them to heal from it as well. That is taking a negative and moving it to a positive interaction of thoughts and actions.  

Angela: Whenever you have a thought, it could be a thought that has circulated throughout history – it could be a thought from your parents that you think is yours – but is it? 

Changing the thought cycle is important if it is harmful or unkind. An Example: Say, as a child you are verbally abused; how can you stop this cycle with your children? So it doesn’t continue. Change your interaction and words towards them in a kinder way. 

If you’re a parent beating yourself up about your parenting, a good book is Dan Siegels’ Parenting from the Inside Out.

Parenting from the inside out, so you can understand the conflict between how you feel about how you treat your child because of how you were raised. Angela did a Facebook live on mothering and its connection to lack of self-love and hate, which looks at how we blame parents and at the same time damn ourselves to feelings of being separate from love.

Angela: A big part of my relationship healing work is to see all the unconscious and conscious negative thoughts I have had about a person, which can be some time and even years. And then I start to see how those thoughts have kept that person away from me – and actually how the person, even if I never said those words out loud – the person has felt those thoughts.

Patti: Pausing, reflecting, and asking yourself, is this helpful to me and my relationship with him. Does it need to be said? If yes, then do it; if no, then don’t.  

Angela: Most of what is helpful to my relationship is specifically spontaneous in the moment and has no real basis in thought. What is fruitful to the relationship is based in feeling, sentiment, comedy and delighted at the prospect of being in my partner’s presence. And there is no thought in that space. It’s when I get specific charged up thoughts that I know to start paying attention to them to see what they are trying to make me see inside myself – and if they have something loving, helpful, fun and insightful for my partner – they will be thoughts that are not expecting anything from the person that are shared without a thought, without thinking about it – and they just sort of come out of me spontaneously.

Patti: Angela, I love this – What is fruitful to the relationship?

This episode has given us a lot to think about in our relationships, whether social media, home life, and more. We would love to hear your tips, strategies, or inspiring stories on building better relationships at home and work or about this podcast topic. If you enjoy this podcast, How about becoming a supporter? Click on the Support button in the Anchor App. Thank you so much for listening.  

Dan Siegel’s & Mary Hartzell Parenting from the Inside Out – (affiliate link)

To Book an Energy Healing Session with Angela

To book a coaching or reiki session with Patti

How about becoming a monthly supporter of this podcast?   Click on the support button in the Anchor App.

For a one-time any amount support donation, click the Donate button below:

Thank you so much for listening.

DISCLOSURE: Please be aware that we will be sharing affiliate links in this post.

#anchorpodcast #relationshippodcast #buildingbetterrelationships #relationshipcoaching #lifecoaching #thanks #balancingthoughts #balancingfeelings #makeyourrelationshipsbetter #betterrelationships

Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

To listen to Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

Today Angela and Patti will explore how to interact with Social Media and keep yourself focused on the impact that social media and addictive viral media has on how you treat others with care or carelessness. When Angela trained in Mass Communication we researched the history of documentary and fiction film, radio, creative video and theater. She used the term Mass Communication and the modern forms of Social Media and Viral Media grew out of these forms of mass communication as a way for every human to participate actively in all forms of mass communication. Social Media was a way for the people to create their own stories and respond to the mass media being projected on them or about them.

Is this similar to shadow work?

Shadow work comes from the term “the shadow self,” which was coined by famed 20th-century psychologist Carl Jung. In Jungian psychology, this term describes the unconscious parts of the personality that our conscious ego doesn’t want to identify in itself.  Shadow work is a process of inner work in which you bring those unwanted parts to the surface to purify, heal, and integrate into yourself. Your shadow isn’t something to be ashamed of or something to hate. It simply points to where you have work to do and where you got to give yourself more love.

In spiritual work we call this type of collective back and forth of thoughts, words, feelings, emotions and communication in humanity – Mass Consciousness.  Angela always been struck by how Mass Communication and Mass Consciousness are two very different worlds of the media and spirituality that have a lot to offer each other about how to control or worsen the negative aspects of human thoughts and emotions.   Mass Consciousness is the collective thoughts and emotions created, experienced and projected by humans through all time.  This includes all the literature, all media, all the thoughts your ancestors had, all the thoughts you have when you’re not even aware you’re having thoughts. Some people also refer to Mass Consciousness as the thought sphere.  However, Mass Consciousness is not just thoughts. It is the emotions and thoughts that have been experienced by humanity through all time. And these are not just in written form. Many cultures did not use writing, they used spoken words, they used art, architecture and all cultures had love and relationships, families, communities, tribes and these had thoughts and feelings. So Mass Consciousness is the collective of all these thoughts and feelings. 

There is always a reason any social media triggers you.

Often if you watch that media, if you literally just watched how the media makes you FEEL, you would get the TRUE impact of that viral media.

Try this experiment:  Before you even get on social media – take a note of how you feel and write it down.  Then go on social media for 5 minutes. Get off – and notice how you feel and write down how you feel. And be honest. If you do this experiment over time. You will see the difference.

There are some positive examples of viral media – like my favorite eurovision band from Iceland- that had a dance craze from their song “Think about things”  from Dadi Freyr and Gagnamagnið.

What are some Strategies to help listeners start to pay attention to how social media makes them uncaring, numb or disingenuous to their relationships?

Create or purchase a gratitude journal. Every day in the journal, write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.  When you practice being thankful for the things and people in your life this helps you appreciate others more which in turn you become more caring.

Be aware of your emotions and feelings when on social media. Remove yourself from social media  if you feel triggered and emotions of overwhelm, comparison or anger happen.  Don’t reply to a post when your emotions are high, if you do need to respond.  Respond back in a couple of hours when you have time to cool off, rewrite your response several times before hitting the reply button for the whole world to see.  Ask someone else you trust for honest feedback before replying. Reflect after writing the response – Is it kind, is it necessary, how would you feel if someone responded to you with this response? 

Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about a situation or comparison envy during and after reviewing social media.  One thing Patti does is skip on by posts that she knows will trigger her.   

The definition of resilience is the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.  Patti calls these life lessons.  

Let’s say we are overthinking about a situation that can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks, and so much more.  

Being resilient is the process of healing and requires constant mental work of positive self-talk, the ability to let it go and move on.  

To Book an Energy Healing Session with Angela

To book a coaching or reiki session with Patti

How about becoming a monthly supporter of this podcast?   Click on the support button in the Anchor App.

For a one-time any amount support donation, click the Donate button below:

Thank you so much for listening.

DISCLOSURE: Please be aware that we will be sharing affiliate links in this post.

#anchorpodcast #relationshippodcast #buildingbetterrelationships #socialmedia #relationshipcoaching #lifecoaching #buildingresilience #socialmediaResilience #CreateCaringRelationships

Posted in Travel Adventures with Patti (Blog)

A Day Travel Adventure To Sonoita, Arizona

On this day trip, I went with my childhood friend Krysti. When I had told her about my travel blog adventures, she said she wants to do a day’s travel with me; I said, okay, you pick the place. So the trip planning experience was a let’s go for it approach. Krysti decided on Sonoita, Arizona; it is about a 60-minute drive from Tucson. So we met in Tucson and started our voyage from there. Krysti made some Sonoita Coffee Roasters – Medium Roast Sonoita Sunrise blend coffee to begin our road trip adventure. The coffee is so good! It seemed fitting since we were going to Sonoita, Arizona.  

Sonoita is the cross-road to get to Patagonia Lake, Parker Canyon Lake, and Elgin. In addition, there are a few wineries in the communities of Sonoita and Elgin on the beautiful scenic route of Highway 83. 

Sonoita & Elgin Visitor Guide Map

Our first stop was Corner Scoop restaurant in Sonoita, with an outdoor sitting area, for lunch. I ordered an Italian sandwich with pickles. It was delicious.

Our next stop was the Sonoita Vineyards for wine tasting. We walked up to the bar, and I tried the Sweet & Lights wines. The place was in a beautiful setting. The people there were pleasant and friendly and had some unique merchandise for sale.    

The next stop was The Village of Elgin Winery for some more wine tasting. I have to say this was my happy wine place. I tasted the Sangaria’s Berry Rose (Blackberry and Raspberry) and Morgana (Pomegranate and Strawberry). I bought a bottle of each. Krysti liked the wine and gin there as well. 

Patti at The Village of Elgin Winery

Krysti’s wine and gin selection

Everywhere we went in Sonoita and Elgin, we saw Sonoita Coffee Roaster Organic Coffee.  

We met up with the co-owner Benjamin de la Garza, and he was gracious to explain to us how the coffee beans roasted. Sonoita Coffee Roasters traces back to 2010 as a coffee roasting hobby. After six years of hobby roasting and building interest in the town for locally roasted organic coffee, the Sonoita Coffee Roasters LLC began in Sonoita, Arizona. The company grew its clientele locally through word-of-mouth advertising and by participating in local coffee-related events. After learning Sonoita Coffee Roasters’ roasting methodology, Benjamin and Jessica de la Garza purchased the company in 2018. Sonoita Coffee Roasters focuses on the local Sonoita community while expanding its market outwards to the Tucson Metropolitan area, Patagonia, Benson, Sierra Vista, Wilcox, and online markets. They believe fresher is better and in roasting frequently to provide the highest quality product. Roast days are Mondays and Thursdays. 

After meeting with Benjamin de la Garza, we headed back to Tucson. 

In this adventure of Sonoita and Elgin, we enjoyed learning about wine, distillery, and coffee roasting. However, we wish we had more time to visit even more wineries and distilleries.  Until next time.

I would love to hear about your favorite travel adventures in Sonoita and Elgin.

If you are struggling with creating a balanced life. How about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

If you enjoyed this blog post, how about showing appreciation and (buying) sharing a cup of coffee with me ☕️ What is share (buy) me a cup of coffee? It is a beautiful way to express your gratitude and support for my work by buying me a cup of coffee.

#worklifebalance #balancedlife #managers #supervisors #leadershipcoaching #lifecoaching #careercoaching #worklifebalancecoach #worklifebalancecoaching #traveladventures #discoversonoita #discoverelgin #discoversouthernarizona #traveladventurewithpatti