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Episode 34 – Communicating in Conflict!

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti get real and have a conversation about communicating in conflict.

When we came up with this topic, we explored being okay to say no and have a fall-out with someone. People pleasers struggle with saying no because they are scared, leading to the person not liking them or getting upset with them.

Nowadays, people are quick to avoid or ghost others instead of talking to each other. They wash their hands of people and walk away. It is easier to bail than to communicate. We hope this not the case; we know it is better to discuss things, whether pleasant or not, for relationships to last. Patti wrote a blog called “Damaged Relationships – Are They Salvageable?” It is about fall-out relationships and how unforgiveness causes physical and emotional harm.

In episode Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked! Angela and Patti talked about communicating at work or when working from Home when overwhelmed with the workload.

Working relationships do have fall-outs that are not pretty. Avoidance makes more stress within the Workplace because the little things start adding up to big things when not addressed. That’s when all hell breaks loose in the Workplace, and people explode, get burnt out, start overthinking, become anxious, have low morale and no motivation, or even worse, quit and walk out without any notice. Patti did a blog called – How to Respond to Unprofessional People! Journal about what happened. Reflect on how they may respond to you. Create a plan of action on how to communicate calmly and to respond sensibly.

In the blog post series called Bad Leadership Styles. The series is how to identify different styles of Leadership with suggestions on guidance to address these negative behaviors. I will provide the link in the show notes.

Tips on How to Keep the Relationship While Dealing With Conflict:

Work on your feelings first: 

❤️ Are you angry and denying it?

❤️ What are you feeling?

❤️ If it’s about being right.

❤️ Why do you need to be, right?

❤️ Being right is always based on a belief that you should be better than someone.

❤️ Why do you have to be better than someone?

If you’re listening to this in the holidays and you want to focus on having better relationships, then take this time to envision or pray or imagine the type of affection or connection you would love in your relationships.

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Perfection Doesn’t Equal A Outstanding Leader!

I’m sure we have all meet someone who seems to have it all together and projects they have a perfect life. They post all this fun and fabulous stuff on Facebook about their life. They have a great career, a huge house, a brand new car, and a loving home life from appearances, then, later on, you find out it was all a show.  

What about a leader that appears to be perfect?

Is anyone genuinely perfect? Hell no, we all have quirks, habits, personalities that may rub someone the wrong way at times and make mistakes; that is what a human does.  

Do you respect someone who looks and acts like they are perfect, or do you question their authenticity? 

Who do you respect more, someone who is a hot mess but holds it all together or a fake perfect person that is always looking to make a great impression?

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should scatter all your dirty laundry around at work. However, when someone comes across as always perfect and doesn’t make mistakes, it leaves suspicion and lack of trust. By not showing your human side, it is hard to build lasting relationships. You may be called a fair-weather person.

What makes a good leader is they admit they are imperfect and care about doing a good job, the staff, their coworkers, and customers.

What are your thoughts?
🦋 Does perfection equal an outstanding leader?
🦋 Or something completely different?

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Episode 33 – The Damages and After Effects of People Pleasing to Yourself and Others!

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss People’s Pleasing and how it can disappoint relationships, whether within yourself and relating to others.

People Pleasers are very helpful and usually don’t say no when someone asks them for a favor. They spend a great deal of time doing things for others and disregard their own needs. Being a People Pleaser can cause disappointment because not everyone has the same kind heart or good intentions. They can attract people who will take advantage of their generosity.

Angela and Patti share experiences of being a people pleaser, and the lessons learned.

What are a few traits of a People Pleasing?

* Seeks approval and words of affirmation

* Fears being alone

* Feelings of being selfish or guilty for not meeting the needs of others

* Irritable when others don’t take your advice

* Being the “go-to person” when someone is in need

* Covering for or taking the blame for others

* Giving money away, which can lead towards depletion

What are some characteristics of a people pleaser?

Wants to be liked by others seek to earn it by pleasing, rescuing, giving away money and things, or flattery. They may even tell little white lies to spare people’s feelings when they don’t want to do something. Wants reassurance through acceptance and affection they can’t express their needs openly and directly. They make others feel obligated to reciprocate.

The people-pleaser may want to earn acceptance by helping others. They put other people’s needs ahead of their own. When they do this, they become resentful and sometimes bitter because the other person doesn’t do the same. They harbor anger, regret, and resentment from feeling used.

At times they may feel responsible for other people’s behavior. Saying “yes” becomes a habit, and for others, it can be an addiction that makes them feel needed in someone else’s life. Feelings of security and self-confidence come from getting the approval of others. Our very first podcast episode was When to Say No and When to Say Yes!

Angela uses clairsentience and kinaesthetic in her healing. It is a huge help to not jumping into the emotions, which means developing a stronger relationship with your intuition, which has taken her years. It has also taught her that feeling for a person is not the same as helping them.

The stories created by a people pleaser to justify their actions and choices are often subtle and cover up the real story that you feel is not enough to state what you want. The damage of believing your stories that justify people-pleasing is that you will delay discovering your true worth by behaviors that keep you locked in suffering other people’s emotions or stuck in guilting others and yourself for not meeting your needs.

Patti and Angela have years of experience overcoming people-pleasing. So the answer is listening to others who overcome people-pleasing to find true self-worth and ways of communicating that in the world. And you can find out more about working with us individually below.

If you want to learn about Angela’s kinaesthetic healing online movement classes, you can receive a free class by signing up for her newsletter here: https://mailchi.mp/0c610663e337/subscribe-to-angelas-newsletter

A People Pleaser may struggle with work-life balance, and Patti has created a self-study at your own pace 21 Days to Optimal Work/Life Balance Program that addresses how to say no for people pleasers and make better boundaries, so others don’t take advantage of them.

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Episode 31 – Journaling to Save Relationships! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

(Patti) In this episode, Angela and Patti discussed the benefits of journaling to save relationships.  

To listen to the full podcast episode click on the link here ➡️ Episode 31 – Journaling to Save Relationships or on the media player below.

(Angela) Journaling is a great way to connect to oneself, work out solutions when struggling with personal relationships or work problems.

(Patti) Let me tell you about how I learned about journaling. I belonged to a women’s group many years ago. Plynn Gutman, Certified Professional Coach, Reiki Master, and Author gave a talk on journaling benefits. She has written a journaling book with prompts called Your Journal Companion365 Writing Prompts to Heighten Awareness of Self and Others.

My journal is what I want it to be, what I need it to be, each time I open it and put my pen to the page. This is what a journal is meant to be.
~ Plynn Gutman, Your Journal Companion 365 Writing Prompts to Heighten Awareness of Self and Others

(Patti) Plynn makes the journaling process easy with an entire year’s worth of thought-provoking writing prompts. She explains the emotional and physiological benefits of personal writing gives instruction on several powerful writing techniques and offers tips on “how, where, and when” to start the process.

(Patti) In that presentation, Plynn made journaling fun, easy, and relaxing. We did a few different journaling techniques with her, and I have been hooked on journaling ever since.  

(Angela) I started journaling when I was 12 yrs old. At an age where I had very raw feelings, I discovered that I couldn’t put them anywhere; I could put them in my journal. This was in the 80s. For some reason, at school, my teacher had introduced that concept of a journal instead of a diary. And she taught us that a journal was where you could explore writing, but not writing for others, writing for yourself. And being a socially awkward kid who felt I didn’t belong, I found it the perfect place to write my feelings. I also felt my English teacher – Mrs. Casey, was permitting me to dispose of feelings that I didn’t want to share publicly.

(Angela) Later on, Mrs. Casey read our journals, which were part of our English work, and I wasn’t afraid of her reading my journal. And her encouragement to keep writing was key to me continuing the process of having a private space to dive into myself, my feelings, my creative thoughts, ideas, and the not so great stuff too, or my shadow. I always remember that time at school as a clear moment my teacher was giving me a way out of feeling uncomfortable in myself, and gently encouraged me to write out my feelings so that they had a safe space to be heard.

(Angela) After Mrs. Casey read my first journal, I kept my journals private, and they have been a constant resource for me to write my thoughts, ideas, and later in life, my realizations from my soul and my meditation practice.

(Angela) I often wonder what would have happened if I didn’t have that first year of writing encouraged by a teacher. Would I have written anyway? I don’t know. 

(Angela) I do know that the habit of using a journal started very young for me and has saved my relationships by giving me a space to write my feelings, see my feelings and not project my feelings on others because my priority of journaling gave me the habit of writing my feelings in an attempt to externalize them, to try to understand them and this developed to a deeper level the most important relationship, the relationship with myself by writing my feelings and reading them, and developing an ongoing relationship with myself so that I could understand my feelings.

(Angela) To this day – I can go back and read some of the old journals, and still discover things about myself. Some things have stayed constant over time, and some things have changed so significantly, and that has helped me learn the power of recording and watching my journey in life through journaling.

(Patti) When I was probably about 9 to 10 years old, my Mom or Grandmother gave me a diary that had a lock and key. I wonder what happened to it. It would have been fun to read what I wrote in it today.

(Angela) Patti – I have a question: When you discovered the power of journaling with PlynnHow did you start using it in your life and relationships?

(Patti) Great question Angela, journaling was new to me. It opened up so many things for me. Instead of verbally sharing my feelings and emotions on someone else I started using journaling. This helped me not project my anger or judgment on others. Plynn’s book and app have daily journaling prompts, which helped me get into the habit of journaling. She made it easy to want to journal. Then I moved on to journaling on my own. When upset or needed to brain dump or brainstorm for solutions to problems, I would journal whether in a relationship or feelings that needed to be released. These are private thoughts that I was feeling at that moment. Sometimes I would burn or shred what I wrote. I also keep an idea journal, career journal, and a scattered journal. A scatter journal is a journal that I put random thoughts in. My made-up word for the scattered journal. I watched a documentary that Agatha Christie would write down ideas all over the place in journals.  

(Patti) What are some of the biggest challenges in starting to journal?

  1. Finding time?
  2. Getting started?
  3. Or not knowing how?

(Patti) Choose a time to journal daily. It can be when you get up in the morning, on your lunchtime, or before going to sleep. You may want to use journaling prompts or self-reflect about your day. Journaling can open up your mind to change and inspire you to pursue your dreams, aspirations, and goals. It allows you to alter your thoughts, which block you. Find someplace peaceful, quiet that you can think and write.  

(Patti) When the weather’s nice, I like to journal outside on my patio. Some of my best journaling experiences are when on vacation or camping. Being outdoors is very refreshing.  Schedule journaling time and be consistent. You can journal anywhere.

Some of my best journaling experiences are when on vacation or camping. Being outdoors is very refreshing.  Schedule journaling time and be consistent. You can journal anywhere.
~ Patti Oskvarek, Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach

(Patti) What do you need for journaling? 

  1.  Pen and Paper or
  2. A notebook or journal or
  3. There are journal apps or
  4. Journaling Prompts on Pinterest, Writing Coaches Websites, etc.

(Angela) Tip: You can choose a time of day that suits your journal’s focus and the best way to maximize your consciousness.

(Angela) The morning is good for setting your intent and energy for the day.

(Angela) The night before sleep is good for reviewing problems, patterns, and whether you achieved your goal for the day, or if you set an intention for your relationships to be calm in the morning, in the evening, you can review – How did this go?

(Angela) I sometimes set myself a journal exercise, for example at noon to review my feelings, so I set the alarm and check in with my feelings at noon and write.  

(Angela) What time of day do you naturally feel like looking inward? If you don’t have a habit of looking inward, you can start by setting a time to focus on one question. Write on it – and then after one week of journaling, ask yourself, was this the best time for me to journal? If not, ask yourself what a better time to journal is. Sometimes we create obstacles to journaling because you’re trying to write at the wrong time of day that is the best time of day to connect with yourself and your intuition. I have clients who have resistance to journaling, and sometimes it’s because they are writing at the wrong time of the day or week.

(Angela) If you are not really convinced that journaling can change you in a way that brings outer world success, you can measure this success. When you journal over time, you can watch the change in your connection to your inner world, which changes the way you act or behave in your relationships.

(Angela) Journaling over a period of time with gradual and consistent practice brings deep change. It’s like water dripping on a rock over time. You get this beautiful shape formed by the water constantly moving through the rock.

(Angela) Patti has some specific questions to answer in your journal about relationships which could start to change the way you understand yourself and your relationships. And these questions you can come back to over time to build an ongoing relationship with yourself. This is how coaches use questions to write answers to develop self-knowledge and deepen your relationship with yourself.

(Patti) Here is some Journaling prompts to deepen and save your relationships: Most of these prompts can be used with any relationship type—friendship, romantic, family, or work.  

  1. Describe what you want in the relationship?
  2. Describe what you don’t want in the relationship?
  3. What is the relationship like at the moment?
  4. What is working well in the relationship?
  5. What one thing can you do to make the relationship better and more of what you want it to be?
  6. What does love mean to you?
  7. What does love mean to your partner?
  8. What is meaningful about the relationship?
  9. What are some of your expectations for the relationship?
  10. What is meaningful about your relationship?

(Angela) Number 6 – What does love mean to you that could be a whole book for one person!

(Angela) Questions from a coach can make journaling a lot more structured for anyone unsure where to start when it comes to your relationships. We’ll have those questions in the show notes.

(Angela) And the beauty of a question like number 6 – What does love mean to you – you can keep writing on this topic for many years.

(Angela) I want to invite listeners if there is anything that persistently bugs you – like – why do people act the way they do, why are people unkind – these are great topics to start writing on. I used to write on desire because I was obsessed with understanding why do we want things? Why do we want a person, why do we want an experience in life – and this was a large part of what I wrote on – to understand what I was curious about in the human condition.

(Angela) Curiosity is something that journaling can help you discover more and feed into your relationships.

(Angela) If you have a love relationship that has gotten stale, often there is a deeper need to understand something.

(Angela) It’s very easy to complain about your partner, being ‘not this or not that.’

(Angela) But how often do you get curious about how your partner thinks, why they do the things they do – and also what inspires them.

(Angela) When you journal on questions like:

(Angela) 10 What is meaningful about your relationship?

(Angela) You can start to share deeper things with your partner.

(Angela) That question Patti reminds me about another topic we want to have as a podcast – Can you say I love you? I find people are so unaware of what is the meaning of a relationship – and don’t know how to say “I love you” because they never had the time to contemplate what is the significance of a person to them – or Why a relationship has meaning and value for them. This is why coaching is so valuable – We give clients these value-based questions to help them find meaningful information.

(Angela) And you can always use these questions to go deeper with yourself in the writing process. When you find deeper meaning in your relationship, you can value it and look at it differently instead of getting stuck on what the blocks in the relationship will be. If you don’t know what is meaningful in a relationship, you can’t save the relationship because you don’t know why you want the relationship.

If you don’t know what is meaningful in a relationship, you can’t save the relationship because you don’t know why you want the relationship.
~ Angela Ambrosia, Love and Relationship Coach

(Patti) Journal even when you are feeling disengaged, upset, disappointed, or confused about your relationship, this can be one of the best times to reflect on the relationship situation and get out every ugly thing that has been left unsaid.  

(Patti) Journal about happy times in your relationships and refer back to those moments to remind you why you love that person. Create happy moments or gratitude journals.  

(Patti) Why is this good for relationships?  

(Patti) When you journal about your feelings, you are not taking those emotions out on others. It lets you brain dump and removes all toxic thoughts. Once those emotions and thoughts have been exhaled you can move into rational solutions. 

(Angela) Some questions on feelings when you get to a block in a relationship, or your feelings are hurt or coming up.

  1. What am I feeling?
  2. Why am I feeling this?
  3. Is this my feeling – or am I picking up someone else’s feelings?

(Angela) Sometimes, especially if you are an emotional or sensitive person, you get lost in a feeling thinking it is yours, but in relationships, we also are feeling and impacted by the feelings of those we are in a relationship with especially close loved ones, children, parents, lovers, and friends. And even co-workers or neighbors have a deep impact on us especially if we are around them regularly.

(Angela) Patti, Have did you use journaling to save relationships in the work environment?

(Patti) Yes, I had a work journal. I used it to problem solve, work out issues, and emotions. I also gave my staff at the time a work journal. Some used the journal, and some did not. It was their personal choice whether to use it or not. Dumping your thoughts into the work journal helped in so many ways, instead of projecting emotions on others. It gave time to self-reflect instead of a knee-jerk reaction to a solution or problem. I wish I used it more than I did. It could have changed outcomes for the better. Daily work interactions are very much learning experiences when working with others. There are different points of view and work backgrounds. Reflecting on the situation through journaling gives you a new perspective of maybe I could do it differently with a better result.  

(Angela) Patti, How did you use journaling to problem solve and brainstorm at work? 

(Patti) When something comes up that I need to figure out, pulling out the journal helps make lists of how to solve the problem or situation by brainstorming solutions or ideas to develop different ways to tackle issues or communicate with others. Then brainstorm with others the ideas you’ve come up with. So when I brainstorm, I freestyle the process with no editing. When you edit while you write, your critic’s brain comes out, and you use the flow of ideas. No idea is a bad idea when in the brainstorming process. Working with others in a group journaling on the whiteboard ideas is an excellent way to come with something you wouldn’t think of. Working as a team and journaling is a way to throw out ideas towards solutions. Ask a question to the team and have them journal for solutions. I’ve seen great ideas come up when doing this. Individuals have private time to think and then feel comfortable sharing ideas when they feel safe. People need to feel that they won’t be criticized or reprimanded for their ideas for people to share.  

(Angela) Tip: I have recently reviewed some journals where I did a dump of some quite dark emotions. On the one hand, it was good to see that I no longer feel that way. However, I also burned some of the old journals that I felt were no longer me, and the words or feelings in the journal were not something I want to keep. I tore out a few pages, and a few whole journals went into the fire. Sometimes, the writing isn’t necessary to stay forever; sometimes, the writing is to be kept to remind you in your future of where you came from, and how different or connected that is to where you are now.

(Angela) So if you have something that is particularly dark – you can always burn it, which releases the energy.

(Angela) And if you burn something and later think – oh, I wish I hadn’t destroyed it – you can always make a quiet time, sit and think. What was the relevance of what I wrote to what I am moving through now in my life?

(Angela) The significance of what you wrote will still be inside you somewhere, even if your words are not the same. The meaning and feeling will be accessible, and you can connect to it, and journal on the significance of that past piece of journaling. 

(Patti) I find that journaling is good for you in so many ways. If there is something, you never want to be seen by others, destroy it by burning or shredding it. Those are your personal thoughts in time, and it is an excellent way to release them. Keep your journals in a secure private place. There are journal apps, and you can make a secure password-protected document on your computer for journaling as well.  

(Angela) In Patti’s 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshopwww.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com there is a section on journaling, and throughout the program, you have a workbook with questions.  

(Angela) Try out journaling and let us know if it has made a positive difference in your relationships with others.  

(Patti) If you have a topic or a question for us, please leave us a comment or voice message on the Anchor App. You can also listen to this podcast on most major podcast listening platforms like Apple and Spotify.

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The Power of Affirmations!

This month’s theme will be the practice of affirmations and applying them to daily life, whether for home, work, or both.

What is an affirmation?

Affirmations are positive words or sentences that may assist you in staying focused encouragingly. If you repeat the affirmation every day, you may notice an optimistic transformation in your attitude towards yourself and others throughout the day. Using affirmations may help your relationships at home and in the workplace and may even increase career opportunities.

I will be posting daily positive affirmations Monday through Friday this month on my social media platforms. 

Twitter@coachingforinsp 

LinkedIn – Coaching for Inspiration with Patti

Facebook – CoachingforInsp

Instagram – CoachingforInsp 

If you have a favorite positive affirmation, please feel free to share it in the comments below.

Are you interested in Patti’s Affirmation cards? Click on the link for more information about how to get them. ➡️ https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards

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Episode 30 – Getting Over Mistakes and the Fears of Getting It Wrong! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti discussed the fear of getting it wrong. How to accept we aren’t always going to be perfect, and that’s okay.

To listen to the full podcast episode click on the link ➡️ Episode 30 – Getting Over Mistakes and the Fears of Getting It Wrong!

❤️ Why are we so hard on ourselves when we make a mistake?

Mistakes happen, and owning up to them makes you a better person. Hiding mistakes or blaming others isn’t good for your reputation or your relationships. For some people, the fear of making a mistake can paralyze them to the point of not taking any action at all.

Here are some questions to ponder:

❤️ Why do you think people are afraid to fess up to their mistakes?

❤️ Is it about looking bad in front of others?

❤️ Is it that if they admit to making a mistake, they may lose a job or, worse, someone they love or admire?

❤️ Is it fear of being embarrassed, mocked, or teased?

❤️ What are some mistakes that are better left unsaid? Are there situations that you shouldn’t confess?

Making mistakes helps us learn what not to do, grow more knowledgeable, and become successful. As the saying goes, I’ve tried that, done that, and I learned from it.

❤️ How do you get over and move on from a mistake?

Patti wrote a blog post in November of 2019 on workplace shaming called “Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!” “Is shaming an effective management strategy?” Listeners – We would love to hear your thoughts on these questions.

How can these circumstances of overcoming the fear of mistakes change and having the courage to admit it?

When making a mistake and getting caught, why is it hard for some to admit it and apologize?

Getting it wrong happens, but sometimes our inner critic can beat us up to the point of being paralyzed or afraid to take action. What can we do?

❤️ Self-Reflect on what happened.  What can I do to fix this situation?  Can I fix it?  What can I do differently next time?

❤️ Journal about it. Continue to write and get out of all those emotions. The disappointment, hurt, shame, your inner critic, etc.

❤️ Acknowledge the mistake and be humble.

❤️ Apologize; keep it simple and sincere. I am sorry.

❤️ Accept the consequences and do what it takes to fix it or make it better when possible.

❤️ Recite positive Affirmations and reflect on all the good things you have accomplished.

❤️ Turn that negative experience into a positive by learning from it.

❤️ Everyone makes mistakes. This is how we become a better person from these experiences.

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If you have a topic or a question for us please leave us a comment or voice message on the Anchor App.  You can also listen to this podcast on most major podcast listening  platforms like Apple and Spotify.  Do you enjoy our podcasts? If so, What about becoming a monthly supporter.   Click on the support button in the Anchor App. By supporting this podcast with donations it will help us continue to produce future episodes.  Thank you so much for listening. 

Here is a short audio clip of BBR Podcast – Episode 30 – Getting Over Mistakes and the Fears of Getting it Wrong! ❤️ To listen to the full podcast click ➡️ Episode 30 – Getting Over Mistakes and the Fears of Getting It Wrong!

To listen to the full podcast click ➡️ Episode 30 – Getting Over Mistakes and the Fears of Getting It Wrong!

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Episode 29 – Balancing Play and Work to Better Your Relationships! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss the importance of work-life balance and having more play in our daily life and relationships.

To listen to the full podcast click on the link ➡️ Episode 29 – Balancing Play and Work to Better Your Relationships!

❤️ Do you have work-life balance in your relationships?

❤️ Are you spending valuable time with your family and close friends?

Some say work-life balance is not achievable, while others say you can. What is a balanced life, really? It is what you choose it to be. There are going to be times in our lives where we think it can never be achievable. The question may come – How do you stay balanced when you feel everything is crashing down around you?

❤️ It may be time to step back and say enough and refocus on what truly matters.

If you come from a life where you are expected to be serious, play can be difficult for you. Maybe you don’t allow yourself to play; maybe you need permission to play. Maybe you need a purpose for play. So give yourself a purpose for the play. The purpose for play could be “I’m stimulating my creative mind” or “discovering lateral thinking and new ways of coming up with solutions”. 

❤️ What does play mean for you?

❤️ What will it add to your life?

This can be a great way to encourage play as an opportunity to invigorate your life.

Life will be chaotic, hectic, and disappointing, but having some strategies will soften the experience. How we react to it is what determines happiness. Put some of these suggestions into practice and don’t forget to step back, breathe, enjoy your life, schedule playtime with family and friends, and let go of what does not matter. Live life to the fullest!

❤️ Do you want more balance and play in your life?

If yes, Patti has a 21 Days Work-Life Balance Program 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop. ➡️ www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com

Interested in Patti’s Affirmation cards ➡️ https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards

Patti also has a mini-course called Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   This course is for crazy busy leaders, working 24/7, and want something more in their life. Seven easy hacks to create some personal life balance.

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Here is a short audio clip of Episode 29 – Balancing Play and Work to Better Your Relationships! To listen to the full podcast click on the link ➡️ Episode 29 – Balancing Play and Work to Better Your Relationships!

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Episode 27 – What! Why Sensitivity Training and Coaching? – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss sensitivity towards others in the workplace and daily personal life.

Take a listen to this podcast by clicking on the link: Episode 27 – What! Why Sensitivity Training and Coaching?

How did this topic come about?

We were talking about a blog post Patti wrote called “What! Sensitivity Training?” 

(Patti) The idea came from watching the movie “Sensitivity Training”.  It caught my eye because it was about a life/business coach and her reluctant client.

Questions for the Listeners:

  • Do you want an insensitive society?
  • Are you happy being complacent when people are being ignored, hurt or treated badly?

(Angela) Gentle movement has shown me that softness allows the compassionate part of us to expand, and that compassion is mostly (if not always) more often with yourself, after compassion with yourself, comes discovery, awe and other awarenesses about the gift of your body, the gift of life, the gift of breathing, the beauty of so much if you want to know more check out https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/ and sign up for the newsletter; https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ

(Patti)

Reflect – Does it need to be said?

Will they listen to the feedback and take it to heart or will it cause more conflict and damage to the relationship? 

Do I need to end this relationship for my mental health? 

Sometimes you can’t totally end the relationship, but you can distance yourself and put up boundaries. I try to remember each person we interact with may be faced with some hard life challenges that are not discussed, and some are hurting so deeply with emotional wounds that have not been addressed and healed.

There are times throughout our lives and careers; we may say something offensive to someone and not even realize it. It was unintentional; however, we learn from those mistakes and continue to grow as a person, coworker, parent, child, sibling, spouse, manager, supervisor, and leader. Apologize when you should. Take time to listen, observe, and be open to other people’s points of view. Be coachable. Take personal development courses and read books.  Hire a coach to help you get through any challenges you are facing.  Learn from your daily interactions and reflect on how to do better next time around.

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Why Have Quiet Alone Time?

Quote by Ester Buchholz ~ “Others inspire us, information feeds us, practice improves our performance, but we need quiet time to figure things out, to emerge with new discoveries, to unearth original answers.”

I read this quote recently, and it hit home for me. For me, I need quiet alone time to recharge and relax. What about you? Do you spend any amount of time without background noise? Do you schedule any alone time for yourself at all?

Today’s world is busy and loud. I know people that have to have background noise all of the time.  I am not saying it is wrong or anything, but how do you think with all the noise around you?  Or is it an escape mechanism not to be left alone in your thoughts?

Why Have Quiet Alone Time?

🦋 Spending quiet alone time is found to relax the body and mind, create calm, and reduce the overwhelming feelings that lead to burnout.

🦋 Spending time alone, let’s the mind wander and allows the brain to problem solve subconsciously.

🦋 Spending time alone, sparks creativity.

🦋  Spending time alone, you get to know yourself better through self-reflection.

🦋  Alone time increases empathy and compassion for others.

🦋  Time alone increases productivity.

🦋  People who enjoy having alone time experience less depression.

Taking alone time for at least 5 to 10 minutes a day rejuvenates you. It allows you to review your day and life goals. What is working and what is not. How can I change it for the better and get where I want to be. Spending time alone allows you to do what you enjoy, whether it is a hobby or journaling. It is your time to be you! 🙂  ~ Patti

Self-Reflection Question:

When are you going to start taking alone time for you?  

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Episode 25 – What are the Benefits of Change? How Can They Strengthen Your Relationships? – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast Episode 25 – What are the Benefits of Change? How Can They Strengthen Your Relationships? Angela and Patti discuss change and how it can strengthen relationships.

To listen to the full podcast click below: – Episode 25 – What are the Benefits of Change? How Can They Strengthen Your Relationships?

Let’s think about – What are the benefits of being more grateful, thankful, light-hearted, friendly, kind, and positive?

Here are some possible benefits:

❤️ Positive thinking attracts good things to you.

❤️ A positive outlook creates meaningful relationships.

❤️ Being positive decreases depression and anxiety.

❤️ Positive thoughts increase motivation, inspiration, and creativity.

❤️ Being positive improves the immune system.

While, Reflecting on these benefits, why do you think society isn’t more positive?

How do we change a negative culture?  Changing the focus to a positive, and an encouraging outlook towards each other, which increases motivation, creativity, better health, improves relationships whether at home or work, and it makes the environment  a better place too.

What else can we do?

❤️ Affirmations are a great way to help change your outlook to the better.  I would use Affirmation driving on my way to work and to get me through the day.  Here is an example of an Affirmation“Positive thinking is changing my relationships for the better!”  Repeat it throughout the day, silently or out loud.

❤️ Self-reflection is another strategy to improve and change our attitude for the better. Here is a self reflection question to journal about:  How am I creating more positivity in my life?

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❤️ Pray to God for the change you want to see in your life, for the world and have faith it will happen.  It may not happen the way you thought it would, it will probably be so much better.  Keeping the faith in the good around us and not in the fear and anger being thrown in our direction.  🙂

❤️Spend time in meditation to calm and lighten your spirit. Smile, think good thoughts and speak kindly to those around you.  By doing this it will change the way others treat you as well.

❤️ Tell your spouse/partner, children, and parents you love them every time you talk to them or see them.  Love can change the world.  People who feel loved, radiate love. How am I creating more positivity in my life?

Patti’s blog post on What! Sensitivity Training?    

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Here is a short audio clip of BBR podcast episode 25 – What are the benefits of change?  How can they strengthen your relationships?  

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