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Episode 27 – What! Why Sensitivity Training and Coaching? – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss sensitivity towards others in the workplace and daily personal life.

Take a listen to this podcast by clicking on the link: Episode 27 – What! Why Sensitivity Training and Coaching?

How did this topic come about?

We were talking about a blog post Patti wrote called “What! Sensitivity Training?” 

(Patti) The idea came from watching the movie “Sensitivity Training”.  It caught my eye because it was about a life/business coach and her reluctant client.

Questions for the Listeners:

  • Do you want an insensitive society?
  • Are you happy being complacent when people are being ignored, hurt or treated badly?

(Angela) Gentle movement has shown me that softness allows the compassionate part of us to expand, and that compassion is mostly (if not always) more often with yourself, after compassion with yourself, comes discovery, awe and other awarenesses about the gift of your body, the gift of life, the gift of breathing, the beauty of so much if you want to know more check out https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/ and sign up for the newsletter; https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ

(Patti)

Reflect – Does it need to be said?

Will they listen to the feedback and take it to heart or will it cause more conflict and damage to the relationship? 

Do I need to end this relationship for my mental health? 

Sometimes you can’t totally end the relationship, but you can distance yourself and put up boundaries. I try to remember each person we interact with may be faced with some hard life challenges that are not discussed, and some are hurting so deeply with emotional wounds that have not been addressed and healed.

There are times throughout our lives and careers; we may say something offensive to someone and not even realize it. It was unintentional; however, we learn from those mistakes and continue to grow as a person, coworker, parent, child, sibling, spouse, manager, supervisor, and leader. Apologize when you should. Take time to listen, observe, and be open to other people’s points of view. Be coachable. Take personal development courses and read books.  Hire a coach to help you get through any challenges you are facing.  Learn from your daily interactions and reflect on how to do better next time around.

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Sweet Home Carolina – The Story of a Woman Who Had Burnout and Then Found Joy!

This month’s topic theme is going to be about burnout. Has it ever happened to you? It is not fun, but it is becoming more common for people in management positions and high demanding careers.

I came across this movie, “Sweet Home Carolina,” on Tubi. It starts with Diane sitting in her office, not answering her office phone, and hyperventilating into a brown bag.

Burnout is what happens when the soul whispering against an unhealthy job or relationship. – Dr. Dina Glouberman

Diane is an Advertising Executive, and her personal life is a mess. She works long hours and has a habit of picking up her youngest child late from school. Her oldest teenage daughter is angry with her over the divorce of her parents and blames Diane. Diane is receiving collection notices in the mail. She is a train wreck ready to happen. Family dinners consist of frozen lasagna and Diane drinking a few glasses of wine before going to bed.

Don’t get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life. – Dolly Parton

When Diane thought her life couldn’t get any worst. Her boss called her into his office and gave away her biggest client to a coworker. Then told her she needed to take some time off (permanently). A life preserver happened; her Aunt, who recently passed away, left her a house in a small town in South Carolina. The stipulations were taking care of her Aunt’s dog and living in the house for a year. She subleased her home in Los Angeles, and she and her daughters moved.

Don’t accept burnout as the price or definition of success. – Jon Acuff

The demanding career, the big house, and a fancy car is not everything. What makes true happiness? In Diane’s case, she realized that most important to her was a loving, respectful relationship with her daughters, a good man who loved her deeply, and a small town of caring people.

Sometimes we choose a career because of the large paycheck and later realize the job has cost us more than we bargained. No social life, no friends, damaged love life, estranged family, health problems, a lack of purpose, and what happened to my enthusiasm and happiness?

Think about your life. Is this the way I want my story to end?  

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Episode 25 – What are the Benefits of Change? How Can They Strengthen Your Relationships? – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this podcast Episode 25 – What are the Benefits of Change? How Can They Strengthen Your Relationships?

To listen to the full podcast click on the link – Episode 25 – What are the Benefits of Change? How Can They Strengthen Your Relationships?

In this episode Angela and Patti will be discussing change and how it can strengthen relationships.

Let’s think about – What are the benefits of being more grateful, thankful, light-hearted, friendly, kind, and positive?

Here are some possible benefits:

❤️ Positive thinking attracts good things to you.

❤️ A positive outlook creates meaningful relationships.

❤️ Being positive decreases depression and anxiety.

❤️ Positive thoughts increase motivation, inspiration, and creativity.

❤️ Being positive improves the immune system.

While, Reflecting on these benefits, why do you think society isn’t more positive?

How do we change a negative culture?  Changing the focus to a positive, and an encouraging outlook towards each other, which increases motivation, creativity, better health, improves relationships whether at home or work, and it makes the environment  a better place too.

What else can we do?

❤️ Affirmations are a great way to help change your outlook to the better.  I would use Affirmation driving on my way to work and to get me through the day.  Here is an example of an Affirmation“Positive thinking is changing my relationships for the better!”  Repeat it throughout the day, silently or out loud.

❤️ Self-reflection is another strategy to improve and change our attitude for the better. Here is a self reflection question to journal about:  How am I creating more positivity in my life?

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❤️ Pray to God for the change you want to see in your life, for the world and have faith it will happen.  It may not happen the way you thought it would, it will probably be so much better.  Keeping the faith in the good around us and not in the fear and anger being thrown in our direction.  🙂

❤️Spend time in meditation to calm and lighten your spirit. Smile, think good thoughts and speak kindly to those around you.  By doing this it will change the way others treat you as well.

❤️ Tell your spouse/partner, children, and parents you love them every time you talk to them or see them.  Love can change the world.  People who feel loved, radiate love. How am I creating more positivity in my life?

Patti’s blog post on What! Sensitivity Training?    

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Here is a short audio clip of BBR podcast episode 25 – What are the benefits of change?  How can they strengthen your relationships?  

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What! Sensitively Training?

Recently I was searching for something to watch on Prime Video and came across the movie “Sensitively Training.” I thought it would be interesting since this is a pretty hot topic, and it is about a business/life coach and her reluctant client.

Serena (client) is a microbiologist, and she is excellent with bacteria but not so good with people. She had no filter; she said whatever she thought no holding back. After belittling a colleague in a staff meeting, and then the coworker committed suicide, Serena is mandated into sensitivity training with Caroline (coach). Caroline has a positive outlook of life, and she represents everything Serena dislikes, but Caroline is determined to help Serena. Caroline was at a crossroads in her coaching career. She wanted to coach on more than sexual harassment cases and make a difference in people’s lives. In the movie, the coaching/client relationship becomes unprofessionally blurred at times; however, Serena had positive behavioral results from the coaching process.

What is sensitively training?
It is a form of training, with the goal of making people more aware of their own goals as well as their prejudices, and more sensitive to others and to the dynamics of group interaction. 

What is workplace sensitivity training?
 It ensures that everyone in the workplace is respected and treated appropriately, regardless of who they are while learning to be respectful and consider the perspectives of others.

What is respectful workplace training?  It has a different approach, which isn’t about being broken and needing to be fixed. It allows you to be you, but with a different lens to look through.

What are some coaching and training topics for Workplace Sensitivity and Respectful Workplace?

  1. Anger Management
  2. Bullying
  3. Communication & Coaching for Leaders
  4. Managing Workplace Conflict
  5. Promoting Positive Personal Conduct
  6. Respectful Workplace and Communication
  7. Sexual Harassment

Serena had a wake-up call (Sensitivity Coaching and Training) that changed her personal and professional life forever. She was smiling, happy, and enjoying life for the first time. Serena had a friend, a pet (turtle), and a relationship with her half-brother. She was listening and engaging with her staff. As a team, they came up with a solution to a problem bacteria, for Serena sensitivity coaching and training was the best thing that had ever happened to her.

There are times throughout our careers; we may say something offensive to someone and not even realize it. It was unintentional; however, we learn from those mistakes and continue to grow as managers, supervisors, and leaders. Apologize when appropriate. Take time to listen, observe, and be open to other people’s points of view. Be coachable. Take training courses on new leadership strategies. Hire a coach to help you get through any challenges you are facing. Learn from your daily interactions and reflect on how to do better next time around. ~ Patti

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Laughter in the Workplace? Why is it Important?

During these uncertain and stressful times, more then ever, we need joy in our daily lives. Whether at work or at home. A smile can change someone’s day from gloomy to joyful, showing some compassion when a coworker is at their breaking point or providing a little laughter can help everyone get through these unusual circumstances.

A good laugh heals a lot of hurts. — Madeleine L’Engle

What are the benefits of laughter in the workplace?

Laughter can lower stress and boredom, strengthen the immune system, and enhance team engagement, collaboration, creativity, and well-being. It relaxes the body and defuses conflict.

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. — Victor Borge

Reflections Questions:

How can you brighten someone’s day with a little laughter?

When were some times you and your team laugh at work?

What can you do to encourage laughter in the workplace?

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National Workaholics Day – What Does This Mean?

Today is National Workaholics Day – July 5, 2020.

What does this mean?

This day is to raise awareness to balance work and home life by encouraging the overachievers to schedule time away from work and enjoy life outside of work demands.

What is the definition of a Workaholic? According to Wikipedia:

workaholic is a person who works compulsively. The term originates from alcoholism. The person works at the cost of their sleep, meeting friends or family. While the term generally implies that the person enjoys their work, it can also alternately imply that they simply feel compelled to do it. 

What are some ways to create a little balance in your everyday life?

  1. Do Something Fun
  2. Spend Time Loving Your Family
  3. Journal About the Good Things in Your Life
  4. Smile and Laugh Often

Celebrate Today! 🎉

  • Schedule a massage or spa day.
  • Take a slow pace walk with the family and your pet.
  • Watch a funny movie with your loved ones.
  • Plan an awesome vacation.

Working all the time will eventually lead to burnout. Take a few minutes out of your day today, do something you enjoy outside of work, and plan a getaway from work. Leave a comment on how you celebrated today. 🙂

Take it easy, enjoy today and, live life to the fullest. ~ Patti

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Episode 21 – Lack of Communication and Overworked! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked!

Click on the link to listen to Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked!

In this episode, we shared about improving communication with your boss and not overworking yourself while working from home. With a lot of people working from home lately due to the virus, some find themselves working even more hours.

How do you find balance?  

This is a period of change in the way we work, and it doesn’t look like it is going to go back to the way it is – so more change is coming. One of the challenges I hear about is people are working from home and taking care of their children at the same time since daycare services and schools are still closed. They have become the teacher, playtime instructor, nap time enforcer, lunch, and break time scheduler, all while trying to work at home.

Because of the suddenness of the change, many of us have been expected to do extra work without extra pay or support, and there has been little time to talk about the conflicting expectations or changes and how they require extra thought and extra time to implement the changes.

What are some examples that you have seen?

Time management skills and learning what is expected from the boss while working from home. Setting boundaries with the family while working how to do it all and keep everyone calm, productive, and sane.

A routine is good.

Getting up at the same time you would if going into work, eating breakfast as a family, everyone getting dressed, and starting their day. By having a routine, everyone knows what they are supposed to do and are able to get things done. School work, zoom calls, projects, breaks, lunches and dinner, free time and nap time. One of the extra duties is learning how to move things online and deal with new technology or platforms, and this includes changing how we present and share information.

Now we have an opportunity to create a new normal to deal with change. When there are things that require extra thought and extra time, how do you approach your boss, co-workers, or those you work with?

Are you problem focused or solution-focused?

Often when things change suddenly, we focus on not being able to do what we used to do, and this stops us from speaking up about our needs. I’ve noticed people harboring resentments with superiors or employers because they feel they can’t speak up because there is so much change, and they just need to deal with it. But often, a business or employer will also be struggling with the change. If you can respectfully share what you see as not working and what you see as a solution to that lack – then it clarifies for everyone what are possible solutions. And it may spark others to come up with other solutions, including your employer. Avoid the trap of staying quiet because everyone is just trying to deal with the change, but share your ideas respectfully without making people wrong.

Angela is looking for feedback on relationship needs people have in these times of change.

Have people changed their needs and experiences of relationships?

Share your answer to the question above on the Building Better Relationships Facebook group, “What has changed in your relationships because of this virus?” or email us at BBRathomeandwork@gmail.com

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Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In podcast Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! We share examples that stop relationships from being effortless and recommend changing those habits to welcome effortless relationships, whether in the workplace or home life. 

To listen to this podcast episode click on link Making Relationships Effortless!

Here are some highlight of the episode:

Angela – Patti when I was dancing with a group in the early 2000’s, we used to explore movement that was effortless, and we always knew when things just flowed and we would be amazed.

Then we found we couldn’t repeat that effortlessness because we started thinking about the movement instead of feeling it. We asked what habits as humans do we have that make us drop out of going with the flow. And we discovered the habits of being and thinking that interrupt our heart or force the heart to be something it’s not because you think you should be a certain way.

Angela – What I’ve learnt about effortless relationships, is from the Einstein statement:

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Patti – How to Break Bad Work Behaviors:

❤️ Identify the behavior or action

❤️ Make the decision to stop

❤️ Replace the habit with something positive

Angela- Making things effortless is enhanced by not coming from old habits of thinking, because old habits of thought made things repetitive and usually stuck or fixed.  Instead – you want to come at things sideways, ask questions that take a person to a different topic or a different way of looking at a topic.

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If you are struggling and need someone to talk to about your home or work life challenges  Angela and Patti both have one to one coaching packages.  

Contact us at our email addresses below:

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How To Be Proactive, So You Don’t Reach The Point Of No Return and Burnout!

Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.

Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.

How did you get to this point?

High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.

Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown

What is burnout?

It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

What are some warn signs?

🦋 Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work

🦋 Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started

🦋 Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients

🦋 Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite

🦋 No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate

🦋 No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort

🦋 Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety

🦋 Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all

🦋 Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping

If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.

How to change?

🦋 Focus on your recent and past accomplishments
🦋 Stop self-criticizing yourself and others
🦋 Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer
🦋 Make and write in a daily gratitude journal

Change your workflow!
🦋 Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion
🦋 Take regular breaks
🦋 Limit working overtime
🦋 Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.

Do you have a happy place?

If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?

How may I help you?  Are you interested in coaching with me?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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Podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) – Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

In podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) Angela and Patti share about reaching midlife and handling what comes your way.

Angela tell us a little bit about the podcast title and Bending Your Knees?  

We thought about this topic a while back, but I really thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after recovering from surgery.  It was a shock after being flexible most of life I couldn’t bend the knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock – but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now.  

Midlife-is an important time to look at your life and see what you are not able to do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost – although you may have a period of grieving.  

After grieving or during grieving it’s important and valuable to take stock, reflect on what results of your life thus far?  

How do you feel about your life?  

If you reflect on your life constructively, it will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to REALLY see –

❤️ What is your life about?

What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. –

❤️ What was it all for?  Bending the knee reflects flexibility – and humility. In my case, I had setbacks – such as getting a little better than getting sick or weak again. What that taught me is to do things differently to go with my needs and energy better.  Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy – and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it’s also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are?  

Patti tells us aboutWhat have you found stops people embracing the possibility of change in mid-life?  

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.  

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?  

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?  

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?  

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?  

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects of my position?  

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?  

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work every day?  

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?  

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?  

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?  

🦋  Am I positive at work?  

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.  

What are some options to improve the career situation?  

Use daily affirmations to get you through the day.  Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards, these cards are good to use for any day in and day out work or home situations.   

Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards

❤️ What do you want our world to be?  

Answer this question on Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Facebook group page: What are things, experiences, joys that you really really would like to experience?

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