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Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 8 – Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast, I talk about the real things that most people are afraid to talk about as a manager and supervisor.

Why is that? Fear. 

If not discussed, how will change happen?

As good managers and supervisors, our job is to lift employees’ to their highest potential, encourage them, build their self-confidence and help them succeed in what they do at work. 

What if the work culture doesn’t support this type of leadership philosophy?

Do it anyway. You and your employees need and want to be encouraged to flourish.  

But who inspires and uplifts the manager and supervisor?

(Yourself) and sometimes your staff will inspire you on difficult days.  

The area you manage will prosper compared to the work culture that tears others down around you.

How do you build self-confidence when others tear you down in the workplace?

  • Recite Affirmations throughout the day.
  • Take a break and get away from the office for a few minutes.
  • Take a walk to clear your mind.
  • Listen to some calming music.

Remember that people unhappy with themselves will tear down others, thinking they look good. But, instead, they don’t look good at all. When someone is verbally mean to you, step back and remember this. What is driving them to act unkind or controlling? 

Some people think that tearing down others makes them look better than others. But unfortunately, they are too busy clawing their way to the top to care about how they make others feel.

Say your boss gives you a project, and they take it back because you aren’t doing it the way they would. Again, it is their control issues that are surfacing. I understand this can hurt, primarily if you work very hard on the project. Reflect on what you can do in the future, so this doesn’t happen again? Ask questions on their thought process of what they want from this project. Occasionally update them on the project and how it is going. If you are silent and not updating, they may assume you are not as far ahead as you are. 

You are in a management meeting and asked for your opinion. A coworker disagrees with you wanting to show they are better than you to your boss while trying to provoke you to get upset react unprofessionally towards them. Before responding, reflect on this person who wants you to respond unfavorably. Breathe. If a response is expected, calmly say why this is your opinion and why it will work without lashing out at the coworker.

Make a difference in your workplace by being compassionate, empathic, a good mentor, honest, straightforward, and kind. The workplace needs more of this kind of leadership than destroying each other’s self-confidence and reputation; creating a cohesive workplace and lifting people will help change the workplace from chaos to calm.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am confident! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Click to listen to Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

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Angela and Patti discuss forgiving family members and hurtful words in this podcast episode.

Have you ever said something so hurtful and regretted it?

The same is true for family members who have said angry, hurtful words to you. Hurting people lash out at others. Words hurt profoundly, and a lot of times, and not forgotten. Speaking in anger can be dangerous for all relationships, even if it is accurate and how you are feeling at that moment in time. The damage has been created and really can’t take back.

Why do we say hurtful words? First, it’s helpful to understand why people become habituated to saying unkind things.

Understanding why people say hurtful things will help you see what the person is experiencing underneath the words.

Patti often says in our podcasts, “hurt people – hurt other people.”

Angela – I see that hurt people have no way to heal their hurt or resolve it – so they project it out – like spitting out the poison inside them – or when you spit out something that you don’t like in your mouth.

The thing is – it seems pretty stupid to spit out your hurt on someone else – if you want to stay friends with them.

So why would we do that?

Well, monkey sees – monkey do.

How do you forgive?

Forgiveness is the hardest thing for most people. Unforgiveness is a poison on your soul and spirit. Unfortunately, people with unforgiveness spill it out on others, and the cycle continues down the line.

Questions to journal or self reflect on:

Are apologies needed to be said before healing can happen? YES or NO

What if apologies never occur?

What if the family member doesn’t want to make amends?

How will you let go and forgive without an apology?

When unforgiveness takes over your thoughts and heart, recite the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer Ho’oponopono” at least three or more times. First, say the person’s name and then the prayer. Or you may not get a chance to apologize or get an apology; this prayer will assist in healing and forgive with a genuine desire to heal the relationship.

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

We would love to hear about your family dynamics and how you conquered and let go of the hurt from angry words said, whether you were telling them or directed at you.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-star review so more people can find and listen to the podcast.

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On February 4, 2022, at 7:00 pm, I will be at the Southwest Institute of Healing Arts, Gifts and Graces Event, Giving Complimentary Mini Reiki Sessions.

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Have you ever wanted to try Reiki?

Here’s your chance!

I am excited to share that I will be giving Complimentary Mini Reiki Sessions at Southwest Institute of Healing Arts (SWIHA) as part of the SWIHA Gifts and Graces event Friday night on February 4 2022, from 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm. So if interested, please come out, join me and get some relaxing Reiki and learn more about SWIHA, Reiki, and other healing modalities. I hope to see you there. ~ Patti 🦋 

Southwest Institute of Healing Arts at 1538 E Southern Ave, Tempe, AZ 85282