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Episode 24 – Building Better Relationships with Social Media! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this podcast Episode 24 – Building Better Relationships with Social Media!

To listen to the full podcast click on the link – Episode 24 – Building Better Relationships with Social Media!

Angela and Patti discussed the hot topic of social media and how it can affect relationships.

We are concerned about how social media can cause hurt feelings, depression, addiction to social media, and comparison.

Here are some reflection questions:

❤️ What makes people feel it’s okay to post things that they would most likely never say face to face or outside of social media?  

❤️ Where does this boldness or insensitivity come from?  

❤️ Is proving your point worth all the drama and losing friendships over?

Today, we would like to explore how to manage some of those difficult behaviors. ❤️ How do we relate to social media in a healthy way? ❤️ Are you taking a break from social media because it is “too toxic?”

What do you find frustrating about social media, what makes it so toxic to you?  We love to hear from listeners if they could share what they find disappointing about social media, why not leave us a comment.

Question to the Listeners: ❤️ What are some of the things you ENJOY seeing on social media. Share in a comment and let us know.

Angela:  I love healing meditations and I share those because I love them.

Patti: I love seeing photos of families having fun together, vacation photos, travel adventures and cute positive memes.

In a previous podcast (Episode 4) we discussed going Beyond Comparison and Accepting One Self. “Cancel culture refers to the popular practice of withdrawing support for (canceling) public figures and companies after they have done or said something considered objectionable or offensive.

Cancel culture is generally discussed as being performed on social media in the form of group shaming.” https://www.dictionary.com/e/pop-culture/cancel-culture

Patti wrote a blog posts similar to this subject called Don’t Be That Guy!   It is about shaming someone or making them the poster child in the workplace. When someone has committed a bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong, in some organizations, they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. I feel this is similar to the cancel culture. In the blog post is a poll.  With this question – Is shaming an effective management strategy?

Angela will be holding gentle movement classes Come September and to be informed  SIGN UP TO HEAR ABOUT CLASSES in the link in the show notes. For me dance and movement are an authentic way to connect to myself and others. https://bit.ly/3fI6EpQ

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Episode 23 – How To Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy, and Menopause with Yourself and Others! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this podcast Episode 23 – How To Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy & Menopause with Yourself and Others!

To listen to the full podcast click on the link How To Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy & Menopause with Yourself and Others!

Angela and Patti will be discussing handling moving forward with emotions and relationships after ovarian cancer, hysterectomy and menopause.  In previous Episodes 12 and Episode 13 Angela shared her journey of recovering from ovarian cancer, hysterectomy and much more. 

In this episode we shared how to deal with relationships with one-self and others after these life-changing events. 

For information about Angela’s online movement and breath classes join her newsletter.

Here is the link to the Ted Talk – How menopause affects the brain by Lisa Mosconi

For more information about supporting friends and family going through cancer click on the link www.Cancer.net

Thank you for listening and supporting our podcast.  We would love to hear from you about this topic.  Leave us a comment or voice message on our Anchor podcast.

A Short audio clip of Episode 23How To Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy & Menopause with Yourself and Others!

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Episode 22 – Working at Home with Family and Establishing a Flow! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Podcast

In this Episode, Angela talks about – How to set boundaries of time and space with the family.

Click here to listen to Episode 22 – Working at Home with Family and Establishing a Flow!

Patti discusses establishing a work schedule to help you move into a flow and getting things done; working from home can be challenging, especially when the family doesn’t understand your work demands, work obligations, or time constraints with deadlines.  

Patti: Established set work hours and communicating them to family and friends. Here are the hours and days I am working this week. Another way to communicate is to post your calendar/diary on the wall/door or give family viewable access to your digital schedule that reflects availability. Another approach you can make a daily or weekly calendar post in view (maybe kitchen) or text your unavailability for that day to the whole family. There are lots of creative ways to communicate you are working and unavailable. Sit down as a family and ask them how they want you to let them know. This way, everyone is part of the decision making. Do you want a daily text or a do not disturb sign on the door?

Angela said, I found the sign really official and makes it clear for others not to knock. In my building I used to live in, we had a lot of traffic going past my front door. People who delivered parcels would knock on the front door, which would be picked up on my calls or recordings. However, the worst thing about knocking on the front door was when I was doing meditation. Sounds and knocks during meditation can actually be dangerous to your body if you are in deep meditation and give you a heart attack. That forced me to make a sign to post on my front door, “please don’t knock, meditation in progress, if possible leave parcels.” The sign also allowed some people in the building the idea to be quiet when passing the front door too (if they read the sign!) I’m going to use another sign to the door in my office at home to be really clear about meditation time or when I’m recording, as people may have no idea what you are doing in the office and the sign makes people more aware about the noise.

Angela:  When working at home with family these days, it is really valuable to look at your physical workspace. Do you have a space that’s appropriate to do your work? Do your kids have a space that’s appropriate to focus on learning? And space is not just physical like a desk; it includes sound and light. I’ve seen a lot of people being really creative with working at the kitchen bench, buying a fold away desk for the bedroom, and other bits of furniture like a screen or divider to section off spaces in the house or to create workspaces.

Sometimes, you won’t be able to really have a work space that is quiet, and people are more forgiving in these times if they hear kids and the kitchen in the background, but how does this affect you?

Are there changes you need to make without necessarily spending a lot of money, but perhaps using your house differently?

What could be something that gives you flow naturally that you need to put in your schedule to help you flow with the changes that we are now facing?

For Angela it’s definitely movement and I will be sharing some of the results of my movement classes in the coming months as I plan to share these classes for more people to discover their own natural rhythm.

You can stay in touch with Angela’s gentle movement classes by signing up to the newsletter.

For more work-life balance strategies from Patti go to www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com

We will have this question below in our Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group relating to this episode.

We would love to see your answer to the question.

Here is a short audio clip of Episode 22

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Episode 21 – Lack of Communication and Overworked!

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked!

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In this episode, we shared about improving communication with your boss and not overworking yourself while working from home. With a lot of people working from home lately due to the virus, some find themselves working even more hours.

How do you find balance?  

This is a period of change in the way we work, and it doesn’t look like it is going to go back to the way it is – so more change is coming. One of the challenges I hear about is people are working from home and taking care of their children at the same time since daycare services and schools are still closed. They have become the teacher, playtime instructor, nap time enforcer, lunch, and break time scheduler, all while trying to work at home.

Because of the suddenness of the change, many of us have been expected to do extra work without extra pay or support, and there has been little time to talk about the conflicting expectations or changes and how they require extra thought and extra time to implement the changes.

What are some examples that you have seen?

Time management skills and learning what is expected from the boss while working from home. Setting boundaries with the family while working how to do it all and keep everyone calm, productive, and sane.

A routine is good.

Getting up at the same time you would if going into work, eating breakfast as a family, everyone getting dressed, and starting their day. By having a routine, everyone knows what they are supposed to do and are able to get things done. School work, zoom calls, projects, breaks, lunches and dinner, free time and nap time. One of the extra duties is learning how to move things online and deal with new technology or platforms, and this includes changing how we present and share information.

Now we have an opportunity to create a new normal to deal with change. When there are things that require extra thought and extra time, how do you approach your boss, co-workers, or those you work with?

Are you problem focused or solution-focused?

Often when things change suddenly, we focus on not being able to do what we used to do, and this stops us from speaking up about our needs. I’ve noticed people harboring resentments with superiors or employers because they feel they can’t speak up because there is so much change, and they just need to deal with it. But often, a business or employer will also be struggling with the change. If you can respectfully share what you see as not working and what you see as a solution to that lack – then it clarifies for everyone what are possible solutions. And it may spark others to come up with other solutions, including your employer. Avoid the trap of staying quiet because everyone is just trying to deal with the change, but share your ideas respectfully without making people wrong.

Angela is looking for feedback on relationship needs people have in these times of change.

Have people changed their needs and experiences of relationships?

Share your answer to the question above on the Building Better Relationships Facebook group, “What has changed in your relationships because of this virus?” or email us at BBRathomeandwork@gmail.com

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Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In podcast Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! We share examples that stop relationships from being effortless and recommend changing those habits to welcome effortless relationships, whether in the workplace or home life. 

To listen to this podcast episode click on link Making Relationships Effortless!

Here are some highlight of the episode:

Angela – Patti when I was dancing with a group in the early 2000’s, we used to explore movement that was effortless, and we always knew when things just flowed and we would be amazed.

Then we found we couldn’t repeat that effortlessness because we started thinking about the movement instead of feeling it. We asked what habits as humans do we have that make us drop out of going with the flow. And we discovered the habits of being and thinking that interrupt our heart or force the heart to be something it’s not because you think you should be a certain way.

Angela – What I’ve learnt about effortless relationships, is from the Einstein statement:

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Patti – How to Break Bad Work Behaviors:

❤️ Identify the behavior or action

❤️ Make the decision to stop

❤️ Replace the habit with something positive

Angela- Making things effortless is enhanced by not coming from old habits of thinking, because old habits of thought made things repetitive and usually stuck or fixed.  Instead – you want to come at things sideways, ask questions that take a person to a different topic or a different way of looking at a topic.

If you want more relationship tips, join our Facebook Group Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti, please subscribe and like to follow this podcast.

Is there a relationship topic you would like us to discuss on this podcast? Please email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

If you are struggling and need someone to talk to about your home or work life challenges  Angela and Patti both have one to one coaching packages.  

Contact us at our email addresses below:

email: angela@loveandrelationshipcoach.com or schedule a time here https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com

email: patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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Podcast Episode 17 – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss a topic request from a listener; Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?  Angela is the expert on this topic being a Love and Relationship Coach and she coaches on family dynamics.   

Click the link to listen to the podcast – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?

Let’s look at guilt. It is the inner ward process of beating yourself up through harsh thoughts. Nobody can put a guilt trip on you, but you, because these are your thoughts. Some of the thoughts could be – I’m not going to make them happy or do what they want. They are going to dislike me or leave me. They are going to think I’m not a good person.

How do you go your own way without the guilt? 

Many people live with regret because they did what their parents wanted instead of what they want to do.

1.  Why do you feel guilty?

2. How has this guilt shown up in my family before? When do you first remember this guilt?

3. What would be the one thing that inner child would love to do or love to hear and love to express?

4. What could you say to the family member to tell them about what you really want to do instead of the ‘trip’ they think you should do?

5. Do you value yourself?

Angela references Patrick Wains here is his website link https://www.patrickwanis.com/

If you want more relationship tips checkout our facebook group – Building Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti.  Ask us about a relationship question in the facebook group or leave a voice message on the anchor podcast app.

Our email is at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com.

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela will be speaking at the online Lasting Love Summit the week of May 5, 2020 click on the link to register and attend the free summit.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

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Podcast Episode 16 – How to Get Along With Your Teenager!

This topic came from a listener request, How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

Click the link to listen to the podcast – How To Get Along With Your Teenager!

Patti started by asking these questions to the audience.

Self-reflecting back to when you were a teenager.  Yes, I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?

What did you want from your parents?  

Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want in Life.

What was it?

Your teenager probably wants the same.  

Angela talks about as a parent – you love them, but you don’t like their behavior – and there’s a consequence for the behavior – follow through and don’t bend, you’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts – don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off.

What are some deals you can negotiate with them?

Tips from book Crucial Conversations:

1.  Start with the heart.

2. Ask – What do you want for the relationship?

3. Ask – What do you want for the teen?

4. What do you want for you?

5. What is the greatest possible outcome for the relationship?

How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart?

Come up with boundaries and consequences, if boundaries are not met.

Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.

What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days – that may be similar and different to what we went through?

1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.

2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying

3. Suicide – For more information about suicide prevention check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and Reachout https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents it is free advice in Australia and Life line https://www.lifeline.org.au

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Podcast Episode 15 – Surviving Social Isolation!

In this episode Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation.

Click the link to listen to the podcast – Surviving Social Isolation.

Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.  

This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care.

How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?

  1. Facetime or video chat with family and friends
  2. Adult coloring or coloring with the children
  3. Play board games with family and do a puzzle
  4. Blowing bubbles outside with the children
  5. Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
  6. Have a virtual meetup; On Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually
  7. Start a group text, in the WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support

    Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.

    Write down on a piece of paper.

    1. What you feel you have lost in this situation?
    2. What you feel you need?
    3. Why do you need this?
    4. How could you meet this need?

    With the feelings: – Acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need – find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!

    Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need – you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time.
    And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love…or you may realize something about your need – like its actually not that important!

    How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing.

    Look at a list of tips we are sharing.
    Notice which of your needs are the most important?
    Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it, so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.

    When you send a text – Put a good feeling into it – people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.  

    Angela’s new Youtube channel link New Energy Body

    Patti’s Prayer of Hope

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Podcast Episode 14 – Being A Better Father In Today’s World!

In this podcast episode of Being A Better Father In Today’s World! Angela and Patti discussed the topic of how a Father can be understood, respected, welcomed, and supported while in isolation with the coronavirus situation.  Families being in isolation triggering a lot of uncomfortable feelings and stress.  

Click to listen to podcast – Being A Better Father In Today’s World!

The stressors:

Being out of work, isolated, stressed about money, people sad, angry, have no control, in fear of the unknown.  

What is a good father?  

They are sharing equally in household chores, helping with caring for the kids, and with their activities, reflecting respect and loving-kindness towards the wife/partner/the children’s mother by scheduling date nights and eating dinner with the family at least once a week. Kind and patience with your partner and children. Easy to talk too. They share their life experiences, leading by example, or what not to do and support their family in many ways.   

Angela references the Ted Talk – What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlSwsE22nX0

Set up healthy family boundaries:

1. Set family guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not.

2. Awareness of what is happening and discussing it compassionately together with solutions.

3. Make a conscious decision to stop unacceptable behaviors, so everyone feels safe, loved and protected.

We would love your thoughts and comments:

“What does being a good father mean to you”?

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com, or on the Anchor app, you can leave a voice message.

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Building Better Relationship Podcast – Episode 13 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 2 – The Healing Miracle and Transformation!

In this podcast episode, Angela will share her healing experience and transformation process.  

Click here to listen to Episode 13 – Angela’s Journey Back to Life – A Life Worth Living – Part 2 – The Healing Miracle and Transformation!

To learn more about Angela’s New Energy Body YouTube Channel 

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