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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti
Patti’s Thoughts on work relationships:
Change is good in the workplace because people don’t get bored and they learn new things. It is easy to go through the motions if you do the same job function everyday. People leaving the team and new people coming onto the team is good. New ideas and new energy comes to the team. New projects and different new challenges keeps everyone thinking and motivated. The same old stuff day after day demotivates staff. Learning new ways and methods helps the team members grow. Now, change can come with upheaval at first. People have to learn how to communicate with each other. There maybe some growing pains. It also puts new perspective on the job. If you don’t like what is changing you have other options to move on yourself. That isn’t a bad thing. It is a way of reflecting is it time for me to make a change as well. It could be a new boss or a new job assignment that you just don’t like. What is this telling you about yourself or the job? Is it time to move on or will I stay and see how it works out for me? Change is part of life however at first it is scary and uncertain. Sometimes it is for the better and sometimes it helps us improve by the experience. It depends on how hard you fight it.
Angela’s Thoughts on personal relationships:
Your partner is a mystery. Too often we get comfortable or bored with our partner. How do you know you really know them? You know their habits. Do you know them? How can you see your partner as a mystery? Do you have a question that you want to ask your partner – have you already assumed you “know” how they will answer notice how you tend to put them in a box. Some ideas on how to get to know your partner in different context. Board games that involve moral questions like “scruples” a new card game or game, dance class, a challenging hike or outdoor adventure, book a trip somewhere for a weekend and don’t tell them where you’re going. Take a train ride instead of the car. Trying different modes of transport and feel what it’s like to share a new experience with your partner.
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This question below was recently tweeted to me and few other coaches by Robbie Stakelum @Robbie_BXL. He attached a new study on reattachment.
In professional and personal coaching we often talk about importance of detaching from work outside of working hours. But how do we reattach with work at the start of the day? Do we have routines that set ourselves up for a productive day?
What does being reattached to work mean?
According to the new study Sonnentag and Kühnel (2016: 380) described reattachment to work as rebuilding a mental connection to one’s work after a non-work period (e.g., a free evening or a weekend). Reattachment means thinking about the upcoming workday and mentally preparing for it.
My Response:
I thought I would spend some time answering this question here in a blog post. There is no way I could respond with 140 characters on Twitter. Plus this study and question has me fired up BEWARE!
Yes, I feel all employees should be reattached when they are at work. People need to be focused, motivated and actually do their job!
At the start of the work-week or start of the work-day, of course, you need to mentally prepare for it, however, my regular audience are the people who don’t turn off work and are constantly thinking about work 24/7, they don’t unattached from work at all, this is why they need work-life balance strategies.
I know there are people who don’t reattach at work. They do the bare minimum not to get fired and are just going through the motions. In their mindset, they are just collecting a paycheck. They make their coworkers and supervisors angry because they are not lightening the workload. Yes, they really do need to step it up, reattach and take pride in working. Do they ever wonder why they don’t get promoted or respected. Well, it is because they are not attached to doing their job.
It’s time to reattach!
You have come back from the weekend or a vacation. I’m glad you enjoyed yourself and relaxed. Now, it’s time to get back to work.
How do you get reattached to work? It’s quite simple. Motivation comes from within the person. You have a job to do. Time to get refocused on your job duties.
🦋 During your commute get into the right mindset of going back to work.
🦋 When you get to work prioritize your workload.
🦋 Concentrate on the things you need to get accomplished and complete them.
Conclusion from the Study:
Taken together, this study brought to light the multiple pathways by which reattachment to work in the morning relates to work engagement during the day. Results suggest that reattaching to work before actually starting work sets the tone for the workday through anticipating high task focus, mobilizing positive activated affect, and recognizing available job resources. Task focus, positive activated affect, and the availability of job resources, in turn, enable high work engagement. Reattachment to work in the morning is a low-effort strategy that employees can use in order to start their workday in an optimal way. Organizations may develop norms and routines that help employees reattach to work and that support them in smoothly transitioning into the workday.
My view of the conclusion of the study:
I do agree with the study that reattachment to work in the morning has a positive effect on your day and work performance. I don’t agree with the study, that it is up to organizations to develop norms and routines to help employees reattach to work and support them in smoothly transitioning into the workday. I believe that motivation comes from within the employee, not the organization developing norms and routines for them.
Takeaway:
Employees need to take responsibility and accountability for their own work performance. It is not up to the organization to develop norms and routines for reattachment to work. Who wants to be known as (“the slacker” or “that person”) who everyone dislikes because they aren’t focus on their job duties and others have to carry their workload. Be responsible, accountable, motivated, engaged and take pride in your work performance. It really is easy to reattach yourself to your work, if you set your mind to it. ~ Patti
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This question below was recently tweeted to me and few other coaches by Robbie Stakelum @Robbie_BXL. He attached a new study on reattachment.
In professional and personal coaching we often talk about importance of detaching from work outside of working hours. But how do we reattach with work at the start of the day? Do we have routines that set ourselves up for a productive day?
What does being reattached to work mean?
According to the new study Sonnentag and Kühnel (2016: 380) described reattachment to work as rebuilding a mental connection to one’s work after a non-work period (e.g., a free evening or a weekend). Reattachment means thinking about the upcoming workday and mentally preparing for it.
My Response:
I thought I would spend some time answering this question here in a blog post. There is no way I could respond with 140 characters on Twitter. Plus this study and question has me fired up BEWARE!
Yes, I feel all employees should be reattached when they are at work. People need to be focused, motivated and actually do their job!
At the start of the work-week or start of the work-day, of course, you need to mentally prepare for it, however, my regular audience are the people who don’t turn off work and are constantly thinking about work 24/7, they don’t unattached from work at all, this is why they need work-life balance strategies.
I know there are people who don’t reattach at work. They do the bare minimum not to get fired and are just going through the motions. In their mindset, they are just collecting a paycheck. They make their coworkers and supervisors angry because they are not lightening the workload. Yes, they really do need to step it up, reattach and take pride in working. Do they ever wonder why they don’t get promoted or respected. Well, it is because they are not attached to doing their job.
It’s time to reattach!
You have come back from the weekend or a vacation. I’m glad you enjoyed yourself and relaxed. Now, it’s time to get back to work.
How do you get reattached to work? It’s quite simple. Motivation comes from within the person. You have a job to do. Time to get refocused on your job duties.
🦋 During your commute get into the right mindset of going back to work.
🦋 When you get to work prioritize your workload.
🦋 Concentrate on the things you need to get accomplished and complete them.
Conclusion from the Study:
Taken together, this study brought to light the multiple pathways by which reattachment to work in the morning relates to work engagement during the day. Results suggest that reattaching to work before actually starting work sets the tone for the workday through anticipating high task focus, mobilizing positive activated affect, and recognizing available job resources. Task focus, positive activated affect, and the availability of job resources, in turn, enable high work engagement. Reattachment to work in the morning is a low-effort strategy that employees can use in order to start their workday in an optimal way. Organizations may develop norms and routines that help employees reattach to work and that support them in smoothly transitioning into the workday.
My view of the conclusion of the study:
I do agree with the study that reattachment to work in the morning has a positive effect on your day and work performance. I don’t agree with the study, that it is up to organizations to develop norms and routines to help employees reattach to work and support them in smoothly transitioning into the workday. I believe that motivation comes from within the employee, not the organization developing norms and routines for them.
Takeaway:
Employees need to take responsibility and accountability for their own work performance. It is not up to the organization to develop norms and routines for reattachment to work. Who wants to be known as (“the slacker” or “that person”) who everyone dislikes because they aren’t focus on their job duties and others have to carry their workload. Be responsible, accountable, motivated, engaged and take pride in your work performance. It really is easy to reattach yourself to your work, if you set your mind to it. ~ Patti
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I have spoken to a lot of people who feel stuck in a dead-end job. When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going to work the next morning. On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed. They push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk on the way to work.
🦋 Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?
🦋 Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?
🦋 Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?
🦋 Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?
Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself. Answer them with the first reaction you have.
🦋 Am I learning any new aspects in my position?
🦋 Are my job duties challenging to me?
🦋 Do I enjoy going to work every day?
🦋 Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?
🦋 Do I feel I am making a difference?
🦋 Are my coworkers positive at work?
🦋 Am I positive at work?
If you answered no to these questions, you might be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.
What are some options to improve my career situation?
Create a Career Journal to track your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.
Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and refocus on your career path.
What’s in a Career Journal:
Career goals and ideas
Keep track of career progress
Lessons learned
Coaching strategies
Advice from mentors
A private place to vent career disappointments
Keep positive affirmations and quotes
Gain a new perspective
Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you notes, recommendations, references, and certifications
Mission statement and values
Develop a career action plan
Keep motivated and inspired
To celebrate the small successes
How to Get Started:
Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
Organize by categories
Add to your career journal regularly
Please keep it in a secure place
Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:
What did I learn?
What did I accomplish?
Did I receive any compliments? If so, what was it, and who said it?
How did I make a difference?
Did I have any setbacks, and how did it affect me?
How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?
What to consider:
Should I stay at my current employment or move on?
Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go.” Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!
What’s keeping me here?
Are there other options?
If, so what are they?
A Transfer within the company?
Start job hunting?
Hire a career coach?
Go back to school and learn something new?
Retirement?
After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go.”What did this list tell you?
Take Away:
Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement. Leap of faith and try something different. You will have a career purpose with meaning again. Whatever decision you make to either stay or go, having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals and prepare you for the next career opportunity. ~ Patti
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This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in their life. 7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!
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March 18, 2019
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11 AM Sydney, Australia Time
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