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Building Better Relationships Facebook Live Today

Join us at Building Better Relationships Facebook Group we will be discussing Rediscovering Yourself & Rebirth.  April 29, 2019  6:00 PM PST 9:00 PM EST and 11:00 AM Next Day in Sydney.

What is the concept of Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth?

Each day is a new beginning.  The sunrises and the sunsets. Time to release the old and start again.  Wiping the slate clean.  It’s often difficult to release bad situations, relationships or past regrets.  Rediscovering is about looking forward to the future and letting go of the past, which is holding us back on what we really want in life.  When you watch a sunrise it affirms a brand new day and life continues to go on. In the cycle of life, plants died in the fall and rebirth in spring. There is a time to end and a time to begin.  The challenge is facing the fear of transition or change and be willing to rediscover yourself.

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When There Isn’t Enough and Emotions Get in the Way

In today’s blog post I am going to tell a story about getting upset over a situation which may sound ridiculous.

Recently, I was at the bowling alley.  I get to the bowling alley pretty early to reserve a table and chairs for my team. Tables are precious commodity because there are not enough tables for all the bowling teams.  If you don’t get a table your team has to sit down on the lanes or stand up all night.

Past experience:

I’ve had people actually move my stuff off the table or take chairs if I walked away.  Now, when I get a table I feel I can’t even walk away until one of my bowling team members comes and sits down.

Usually, I am pretty easy-going and don’t confront people on their rude behaviors.  But this particular day I had enough and said something.

My version of what happened:

This guy (I will call him Fred) from another bowling team grabbed one of the chairs at my table and move it so his daughter could sit down and Fred put her right in front of our table.  He didn’t say anything to me just grabbed the chair.  If Fred had asked me I would have said sure she can have the chair and go get another chair.

Here are the thoughts that were going in my head:

I get there an hour and a half early to reserve the table and chairs and Fred walks in 15 minutes before bowling starts and acts like he owns the place.

So I said to Fred you need to get me another chair.  He said ma’am you are being rude just take another chair from the table next to you.  Then one of his team members says to me “you already have 6 chairs”.  I had 5 chairs for the 5 team members on my team.  I wasn’t going to take one from another reserved table.

Then Fred commanded his daughter to grab a chair from the table next to me which another team had been saving almost as long as me.   His daughter didn’t want to do it.  But Fred insisted and she did.

I was so angry.  Usually, I wouldn’t have been mad or even said anything but his attitude and arrogance reeked of “I don’t care” and “I am going to do what I want”.  No consideration at all to others.

So I told (Chuck, not real name) on another team what happened and Fred said “quit talking behind my back the chair was for my daughter”.  This made Chuck very uncomfortable, he got up and said I don’t know what to tell you, talk to the league secretary.  Later, I found out Fred and Chuck are sort of friends.  (Awkward!).  The reason I told Chuck is because he was there early just like me and has had similar things happen with his tables.

Feeling embarrassed and betrayed I did a group text to my bowling team about the chair incident.  This foolish chair escapade had me upset all night, needless to say I didn’t bowl good, however Fred did.

At the end of the bowling night one of my team members (Seth, not real name) went and spoke with Fred.  Fred told Seth that he had a rough day and he was just getting the chair for his daughter.  Seth said to Fred if you asked her she would have gladly given you the chair.

Why do we get so upset over the little things and continue not to let it go?

Yes, I should have probably handled the situation in a totally different way but I didn’t.  Yes, I probably shouldn’t have gotten other people involved, but I did.

Was it ridiculous to get upset over a chair?

Maybe, however the small things will continue to add up into bigger things when the issue is not resolved.

Takeaway:

We all make choices whether good or bad throughout life.  Each day is a learning lesson.  Sometimes not saying anything is the best result.  Maybe the less we respond to rude people, the less drama we create in our lives.  Here is a good reminder. You may never know what someone else is going through and just maybe they’re having a really bad day.  Be kind anyways. ~ Patti 🦋

🦋 My question for you 🦋

 How would you have handled this situation?

 

Comments are always welcome.  

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Episode 7 – How Change Inspires Relationships! [Podcast]

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

How Change Inspires Relationships!

To listen to Episode 7 click here – How Change Inspire Relationships!

Patti’s Thoughts on work relationships:
Change is good in the workplace because people don’t get bored and they learn new things.  It is easy to go through the motions if you do the same job function everyday.  People leaving the team and new people coming onto the team is good.  New ideas and new energy comes to the team.  New projects and different new challenges keeps everyone thinking and motivated.  The same old stuff day after day demotivates staff.  Learning new ways and methods helps the team members grow.  Now, change can come with upheaval at first.  People have to learn how to communicate with each other.  There maybe some growing pains.  It also puts new perspective on the job.  If you don’t like what is changing you have other options to move on yourself.  That isn’t a bad thing.  It is a way of reflecting is it time for me to make a change as well.  It could be a new boss or a new job assignment that you just don’t like.  What is this telling you about yourself or the job?  Is it time to move on or will I stay and see how it works out for me?  Change is part of life however at first it is scary and uncertain.  Sometimes it is for the better and sometimes it helps us improve by the experience.  It depends on how hard you fight it.
Angela’s Thoughts on personal relationships:  
Your partner is a mystery. Too often we get comfortable or bored with our partner. How do you know you really know them? You know their habits.  Do you know them?  How can you see your partner as a mystery? Do you have a question that you want to ask your partner – have you already assumed you “know” how they will answer…notice how you tend to put them in a box.  Some ideas on how to get to know your partner in different context.  Board games that involve moral questions like “scruples” a new card game or game, dance class, a challenging hike or outdoor adventure, book a trip somewhere for a weekend and don’t tell them where you’re going.  Take a train ride instead of the car.  Trying different modes of transport and feel what it’s like to share a new experience with your partner.

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How Do We Reattach with Work at the Start of a New Day?

This question below was recently tweeted to me and few other coaches by Robbie Stakelum @Robbie_BXL.  He attached a new study on reattachment.

In professional and personal coaching we often talk about importance of detaching from work outside of working hours.  But how do we reattach with work at the start of the day? Do we have routines that set ourselves up for a productive day?

What does being reattached to work mean?

According to the new study Sonnentag and Kühnel (2016: 380) described reattachment to work as rebuilding a mental connection to one’s work after a non-work period (e.g., a free evening or a weekend). Reattachment means thinking about the upcoming workday and mentally preparing for it.

My Response:

I thought I would spend some time answering this question here in a blog post. There is no way I could respond with 140 characters on Twitter.   Plus this study and question has me fired up BEWARE!  

Yes, I feel all employees should be reattached when they are at work.  People need to be focused, motivated and actually do their job!

At the start of the work-week or start of the work-day, of course, you need to mentally prepare for it, however, my regular audience are the people who don’t turn off work and are constantly thinking about work 24/7, they don’t unattached from work at all, this is why they need work-life balance strategies.

I know there are people who don’t reattach at work.  They do the bare minimum not to get fired and are just going through the motions.  In their mindset, they are just collecting a paycheck. They make their coworkers and supervisors angry because they are not lightening the workload.  Yes, they really do need to step it up, reattach and take pride in working.  Do they ever wonder why they don’t get promoted or respected.  Well, it is because they are not attached to doing their job.

It’s time to reattach!

You have come back from the weekend or a vacation.  I’m glad you enjoyed yourself and relaxed.  Now, it’s time to get back to work.

How do you get reattached to work?  It’s quite simple.  Motivation comes from within the person.  You have a job to do.  Time to get refocused on your job duties.

🦋  During your commute get into the right mindset of going back to work.

🦋  When you get to work prioritize your workload.

🦋  Concentrate on the things you need to get accomplished and complete them.

Conclusion from the Study:

Taken together, this study brought to light the multiple pathways by which reattachment to work in the morning relates to work engagement during the day. Results suggest that reattaching to work before actually starting work sets the tone for the workday through anticipating high task focus, mobilizing positive activated affect, and recognizing available job resources. Task focus, positive activated affect, and the availability of job resources, in turn, enable high work engagement. Reattachment to work in the morning is a low-effort strategy that employees can use in order to start their workday in an optimal way. Organizations may develop norms and routines that help employees reattach to work and that support them in smoothly transitioning into the workday.

My view of the conclusion of the study:

I do agree with the study that reattachment to work in the morning has a positive effect on your day and work performance.   I don’t agree with the study, that it is up to organizations to develop norms and routines to help employees reattach to work and support them in smoothly transitioning into the workday.  I believe that motivation comes from within the employee, not the organization developing norms and routines for them.

Takeaway:

Employees need to take responsibility and accountability for their own work performance.  It is not up to the organization to develop norms and routines for reattachment to work.  Who wants to be known as (“the slacker” or “that person”) who everyone dislikes because they aren’t focus on their job duties and others have to carry their workload.  Be responsible, accountable, motivated, engaged and take pride in your work performance.  It really is easy to reattach yourself to your work, if you set your mind to it. ~ Patti

Comments are always welcome.  

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Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in their life.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!

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Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?

How do you know when you are in a dead-end job?

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgement for a job well done?

Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself.  Answer them with the first reaction you have.

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects in my position?

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work everyday?

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?

🦋  Am I positive at work?

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead end job.

What are some options to improve my career situation?

Create a Career Journal to keep track of your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.

Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and to refocus on your career path.

What’s in a Career Journal:

  • Career goals and ideas
  • Keep track of career progress
  • Lessons learned
  • Coaching strategies
  • Advice from mentors
  • A private place to vent career disappointments
  • Keep positive affirmations and quotes
  • Gain a new perspective
  • Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you letters, recommendations, references and certifications
  • Mission statement and values
  • Develop a career action plan
  • Keep motivated and inspired
  • To celebrate the small successes

How to Get Started:

  • Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
  • Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
  • Organize by categories
  • Add to your career journal regularly
  • Keep it in a secure place

Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:

  • What did I learn?
  • What did I accomplish?
  • Did I receive any compliments?  If so, what was it and who said it?
  • How did I make a difference?
  • Did I have any setbacks and how did it affect me?
  • How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
  • Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!

What’s keeping me here?

Are there other options?

If, so what are they?

  • A Transfer within the company?
  • Start job hunting?
  • Hire a career coach?
  • Go back to school and learn something new?
  • Retirement?

After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go”.  What did this list tell you?

Take Away:
Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement.  Take a leap of faith and try something different.  You will have a career purpose with meaning again.  Whatever decision you make to either stay or go; having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals as well as helping you be ready for the next career opportunity.

Comments are always welcome.  

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Patti’s groups, podcasts, online course and more

Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in their life.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!

Enroll today for $25.00

 

How about creating Harmony in Your Life; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop.

Stay up to date and receive the Coaching for Inspiration with Patti quarterly newsletter by clicking HERE.

Follow Coaching for Inspiration with Patti for daily updates on FACEBOOK  and TWITTER

Do you want more work-life balance strategies? Come and join my new Facebook group called Work-Life Balance with Patti

Do you want better relationships? If yes, come hang out with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship coach and me while listening to all of our podcast adventures called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Podcast

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Facebook Live Today – How Change Can Inspire Your Relationships



Come check us out today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

March 18, 2019
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:00 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:00 PM Central Standard Time
8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
March 19, 2019
11 AM Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

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New Online Course by Coaching for Inspiration with Patti

Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in their life.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!

Enroll today for $25.00

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Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby Has A Great Work Ethic but Lacks Work-Life Balance


 

I recently started watching the long-running TV series Midsomer Murders on Netflix.  The main character Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby is very dedicated to his job and capturing the murder(s).  He is excellent at his job.  While on a murder case he is very focused on his work, 24/7 until the murders(s) are caught and charged.

Chief Inspector Barnaby loves his job.  It gives him purpose.  He coaches and trains his sergeants to be dedicated, knowledgeable, reliable and very good detectives.

Trust is something hard to win, easy to lose and never to be taken lightly. ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

In one episode Sargeant Dan Scott was getting rough with a suspect. After the incident and they were both alone in the vehicle Chief Inspector Barnaby told Sgt. Scott, you will not conduct yourself like that ever again under my watch. As a leader, Inspector Barnaby is not afraid to address bad behavior with his employees.

Do you see a lesson in this? ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

Due to Chief Inspector Barnaby’s dedication to his job, he ends up disappointing his wife Joyce continuously.  He is a good man.  He loves his wife, but his job always comes first.  He does have a habit of not showing up when working a murder case.

He will set up dinner dates with his wife while he is still investigating his case.  He may even take her to a restaurant and be watching a suspect. Joyce will get up early to cook him breakfast and usually he rushes out without eating her prepared meal.  They will plan on meeting up for a party or some other occasion and he either arrives late or not at all.

The cleverest lies are those were already inclined to believe. ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

Joyce wants to spend more quality time with her husband, but he is always on the job 24/7.  Does any of this sound familiar? 

In one episode, Chief Inspector Barnaby was suppose to meet his wife Joyce at home and go with her to a party.  He didn’t show up and Joyce went without him and had a wonderful time.  He was locked in a cellar with Sgt. Scott all night and she didn’t even realize he didn’t come home.  I think it surprised him that she wasn’t even worried about him.

In another episode, Joyce and his daughter Cully wanted to purchase a houseboat. Thinking a houseboat would create more family time together.  The houseboat Joyce and Cully were looking at turned out to be the killers.  No houseboat was purchased.

In another episode, Joyce wanted Chief Inspector Barnaby to start planning for his retirement and to become a mystery writer.  She thought he would make more money and be around more.  It wasn’t Chief Inspector Barnaby’s idea of retirement after the murder investigation.

What now? I’m going to have my cake and eat it.~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

In the TV show Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby is considered a family man. When he does arrive home for dinner, he is usually called out again.

How does his marriage survive?  No work-life balance here!

Of course, he is a fictional character.  

Do you think this is why he is still in a relationship? 

 

If this blog post article really resonated with you. I have a new online course called Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and wants something more in life than just their career.   

Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   The course has 7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so called busy life!

Enroll today for $25.00

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Episode 2 – Getting Social Beyond Social Media – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti [Podcast]


Episode 2Getting Social Beyond Social Media

In case you missed this past podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss being able to be social without being stuck to the phone.

Click here to listen – Getting Social Beyond Social Media

People are losing face to face contact.  There is home schooling, working from home, solo-entrepreneurs, single parenting and much more.  Distance over internet makes people bold, they feel comfort behind electronics.  Interacting face to face, shy people feel more uncomfortable and their not forced to socialize.

How do you get social away from the phone?

Recap:

  • Go and get face to face with others, and put the phone away.
  • Go to the same place and same time every week and possibly you will see the same people every week and make a connection.
  • Start going to meetups groups.

Patti’s view:

  • Stretch out of your comfort zone.
  • People cut themselves off from social opportunities before they even get there.

Strategy – Pick a place and go once a week.  Get past the What IF of past fear of rejection.  Sometimes you may never know who you may meet by taking a chance.  Take the risk and leave the what-ifs behind.  The most fun times, has been talking to strangers about the weirdest things!

Angela’s view:

Connecting to your heart and writing exercise.

What do you want to experience socially?

  • Not everyone wants romance.
  • If someone invites you to go somewhere.  Say yes.
  • Find people with same interests as you.

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Building Better Relationships [Podcast] – Episode 6 – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?

Episode 6 podcast – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?   In this podcast Patti and Angela discuss how the cell phone can enhance and limit relationships with others.  They also talk about their personal relationships with their own phones. 

Click here to listen – How’s Your Love Life With Your Phone? 

Take the poll and then listen to Patti and Angela answer to this question.  You may be surprised!

Here’s the quote Patti read in the podcast:

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