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Episode 21 – Lack of Communication and Overworked! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked! Click on the link below to listen to the full podcast episode.

In this episode, we discussed improving communication with your boss and not overworking yourself while working from home. Due to the virus, many people have been working from home lately, and some have found themselves working even more hours.

How do you find balance?  

This is a period of change in how we work, and it doesn’t look like it will go back to the way it was, so more change is coming. One of the challenges I hear about is people working from home and taking care of their children at the same time since daycare services and schools are still closed. They have become the teacher, playtime instructor, nap time enforcer, lunch, and break time scheduler, all while trying to work at home.

Because of the suddenness of the change, many of us have been expected to do extra work without extra pay or support, and there has been little time to discuss the conflicting expectations or changes and how they require extra thought and extra time to implement.

What are some examples that you have seen?

Time management skills and learning what the boss expects while working from home. Setting boundaries with the family while working, how to do it all, and keep everyone calm, productive, and sane.

A routine is good.

Getting up at the same time you would if going into work, eating breakfast as a family, everyone getting dressed, and starting their day. By having a routine, everyone knows what they are supposed to do and can get things done. School work, Zoom calls, projects, breaks, lunches, dinner, free time, and nap time. One of the extra duties is learning how to move things online and deal with new technology or platforms, including changing how we present and share information.

Now, we have an opportunity to create a new normal for dealing with change. When things require extra thought and extra time, how do you approach your boss, co-workers, or those you work with?

Are you problem-focused or solution-focused?

Often when things change suddenly, we focus on being unable to do what we used to do, which stops us from speaking up about our needs. I’ve noticed people harboring resentments with superiors or employers because they feel they can’t speak up. After all, there is so much change; they need to deal with it. However, a business or employer will often struggle with the change. If you can respectfully share what you see as not working and what you see as a solution to that lack, then it clarifies for everyone what possible solutions are. And it may spark others to come up with other solutions, including your employer. Avoid staying quiet because everyone is just trying to deal with the change, but share your ideas respectfully without making people wrong.

Angela seeks feedback on people’s relationship needs in these times of change.

Have people changed their needs and experiences of relationships?

Share your answer to the question above on the Building Better Relationships Facebook group, “What has changed in your relationships because of this virus?” or email us at BBRathomeandwork@gmail.com

Thank you for listening and sharing. 🙂 ”

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Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In podcast Episode 20 – Making Relationships Effortless! We share examples that stop relationships from being effortless and recommend changing those habits to welcome effortless relationships, whether in the workplace or home life.  To listen to the full podcast episode, click below:

Here are some highlights of the episode:

Angela—Patti, when I was dancing with a group in the early 2000s, we used to explore effortless movement. We always knew when things just flowed, and we would be amazed.

Then we found we couldn’t repeat that effortlessness because we started thinking about the movement instead of feeling it. We asked what habits as humans we have that make us drop out of going with the flow. And we discovered the habits of being and thinking that interrupt our heart or force the heart to be something it’s not because we think we should be a certain way.

Angela – What I’ve learnt about effortless relationships is from the Einstein statement:

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

Patti – How to Break Bad Work Behaviors:

❤️ Identify the behavior or action

❤️ Decide to stop

❤️ Replace the habit with something positive

Angela—Making things effortless is enhanced by not coming from old habits of thinking. Old habits of thought make things repetitive and usually stuck or fixed. Instead, you want to approach things sideways, ask questions that take a person to a different topic or a different way of looking at a topic.

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If you are struggling and need someone to talk to about your home or work life challenges, Angela and Patti both offer one-on-one coaching packages.  

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How To Be Proactive, So You Don’t Reach The Point Of No Return and Burnout!

Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.

Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.

How did you get to this point?

High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.

Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown

What is burnout?

It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

What are some warn signs?

🦋 Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work

🦋 Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started

🦋 Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients

🦋 Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite

🦋 No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate

🦋 No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort

🦋 Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety

🦋 Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all

🦋 Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping

If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.

How to change?

🦋 Focus on your recent and past accomplishments
🦋 Stop self-criticizing yourself and others
🦋 Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer
🦋 Make and write in a daily gratitude journal

Change your workflow!
🦋 Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion
🦋 Take regular breaks
🦋 Limit working overtime
🦋 Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.

Do you have a happy place?

If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?

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Podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) – Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees)Angela and Patti share about reaching midlife and handling what comes your way. To listen to the full podcast episode, click below:

Angela, tell us a little about the podcast title, and Bending Your Knees?  

We thought about this topic a while back, but I thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after surgery.  It was a shock after being flexible most of my life; I couldn’t bend my knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock, but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings, not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now.  

Midlife is a critical time to look at your life and see what you cannot do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost – although you may have a period of grieving.  

After or during grieving, it’s important and valuable to take stock and reflect on the results of your life thus far.  

How do you feel about your life?  

Reflecting on your life constructively will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling that you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to see –

❤️ What is your life about?

What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. –

❤️ What was it all for?  Bending the knee reflects flexibility and humility. In my case, I had setbacks, such as getting a little better, only to get sick or weak again. That taught me to do things differently to meet my needs and energy better.  Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy, and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it’s also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are?  

Patti tells us about what you found that stops people from embracing the possibility of change in mid-life.  

I have spoken to many people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job. When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going to work the next morning. On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed. On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.  

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?  

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?  

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?  

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?  

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects of my position?  

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?  

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work every day?  

🦋  Am I motivated and striving to increase my productivity level?  

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?  

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?  

🦋  Am I positive at work?  

You may feel stuck in a dead-end job if you answered no to these questions.  

What are some options to improve the career situation?  

Use daily affirmations to get you through the day. Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards. These cards are good to use for any day-in and day-out work or home situations.   

Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards

❤️ What do you want our world to be?  

Answer this question on the Facebook group page for Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and PattiWhat are the things, experiences, and joys that you really, really would like to experience?

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Leadership Wednesday Affirmation!

I am committed to my Leadership Role!

Reflection question:

Why did you become a leader?

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How to Respond to Unprofessional People!

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone unprofessional. They may come across like they don’t care, don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or even realize their behavior is unprofessional. How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. Why? Because it is uncomfortable. Whether new or experienced, many supervisors shy away from confrontation, thinking that the behavior will go away. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse when it’s not dealt with and continues.

Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. People can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

🦋 Calmly explain to the unprofessional person how to be treated with respect. Give an example of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some examples:

  • “When you roll your eyes at me while I am speaking to you, this makes me feel disrespected. ”
  • “When you don’t respond to me with an answer, I feel frustrated and ignored. Please respond promptly.” (In this example, it could be in person, email, text, etc.)

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ~ Ashleigh Warner

If we are all honest, there are times in our careers when we have been unprofessional. A coworker pushed us over the edge with a passive-aggressive comment. The harsh boss that embarrassed you in front of your peers or a group meeting and yelled at everyone because of one coworker’s lousy behavior and ruins everyone’s day. An argument in a staff meeting went over the top.

I think this is one of the most challenging aspects of any job when working with the public or collaborating with coworkers. “How do I respond to unprofessional people?”

Why?

There are numerous reasons. Coworkers can be defensive, rude, sarcastic, have their own agenda, and be plain difficult. Some even enjoy causing workplace drama and spreading rumors. They get high while watching the sh*t fly as the tension builds and the hostility grows around them.

We spend more time with our coworkers than with family. Coworkers sometimes know us better than we know ourselves. Some even like to push our buttons so that we will react unfavorably.

Some people don’t have speaking filters. They talk at the same time as the thoughts enter their head. They don’t even know what they said was unkind, disrespectful, or demeaning. Some people, you can’t approach them about their unprofessional behavior as a coworker. You may need to discuss the situation with your supervisor.

How can you make the most of it?

Before you approach the unprofessional person:

  1. Think about how they will respond.
  2. Have a plan of action on how to communicate with recommended solutions.
  3. Be prepared.

Will they accept the feedback or react unfavorably towards you.

No matter how awful someone treats you. Stop, reflect, and walk away. I know it is hard to walk away when emotions overtake you. However, just because you don’t react, it doesn’t mean you didn’t notice the behavior or accept it. The only way to stop a toxic person is not to engage with them. Address the situation later when you both have time to think it over and calm down, not in the heat of the moment. Choose your battles carefully. Sometimes responding in anger makes you look like a fool in front of others.

Questions:

Reflect on your career.

🦋 What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessional?

🦋 What did you learn from these experiences?

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How to Deal with Words Left Unsaid

I am sure everyone has had a life situation where we wish we told someone how we truly felt. Whether it was a childhood crush or wished we spoke up at a group meeting or knew something was happening that wasn’t right.

Fear can immobilize us not to act. Then Guilt or regret lingers on and on inside of us. It may continue throughout our lifetime. Guilt or shame can leave us feeling empty, unsatisfied, or longing for something we didn’t have the guts to pursue. We all probably heard the old saying, “Time heals all wounds.”  Does it really? 

“Time Heals All Wounds.” Does it really?

Some wounds will never heal until addressed. I know this is easier said than done.

How many of us have been ghosted sometime in our life?

It may have been a relationship, a job offer, a networking acquaintance, or a business deal.

Did you want to know the reason why?

Unfortunately, most of the time, a reason why will never come.

Overthinking about the situation can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks, and so much more.

Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” ~ Roy T. Bennett

Time may soften the disappointment, regret, and hurt, but it’s still there deep down inside. Time is not the healer; it is the inner work of dealing with the emotions that heals you. Healing requires constant mental work of positive self-talk and the ability to let it go.

How do you get over it and move on?

🦋 Recite positive affirmations for healing and to eliminate negative thoughts.

🦋 Create a gratitude journal. Every day in the journal, write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.

🦋 Be aware of your emotions and feelings. Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about the situation.

🦋 Spend time with positive, happy, and motivated people.

🦋 Pick your battles. Sometimes chasing the person may cause more damage to you. If the recipient doesn’t want to hear from you, they won’t respond. Start focusing on want you want in life.

🦋 Hire a life coach or therapist to help you let go of the hurt and disappointment.

“Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did. Let it go!” ~ Mandy Hale

Takeaway:

Isn’t it time to be happy? Being upset, angry, and overthinking really isn’t working. Love yourself and those around you enough to let it go. A huge part of healing is believing you deserve a better life of peace, joy, and love. ~ Patti 🦋

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Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!

Lately, I have been hearing this phrase when people are talking about their coworkers.

Don’t be that guy! 

Employers and staff may use this term when someone has committed bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong.  In some organizations, they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. The poster child of what not to be in the workplace.

Is shaming an effective management strategy? 

Some say yes because it represents what not to do in the workplace and halts people from doing it.

How does “Don’t be that Person” cope with being the scapegoat?

Some quit some stay and deal with the whispering behind their backs and the harsh judgment while others checkout (isolate themselves).

Maybe some organizations want this type of shaming to keep things under control.  If so, something is wrong.  Someone once told me you live in a fantasy world if you think this type of management strategy will change. 

What do you think?


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Patti Answering Leadership and Work-Life Balance Questions [Video]

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Do you have any Leadership or Work-Life Balance questions? If yes, please reply below and I will answer them. Recorded live unedited. 🦋

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How Can We Show Up As Better Leaders?

A couple of weeks ago, a friend told me about her work situation and why she decided to give her notice. She brightens up people’s days with her friendly demeanor. She worked in the front lobby. Having a friendly employee as the first contact with your customers is crucial. Customers will continue to come if they feel welcome, the same for employees.

Why do good employees leave?

🦋 A shortage of appreciation, praise, acknowledgment, or recognition from management

🦋 The Manager only pointing out what went wrong

🦋 Lack of trust in employees

🦋 Bad communication – Not sharing important information or changes in company policies

🦋 Unsatisfied relationships with coworkers and/or management

🦋 Employee feeling unchallenged or bored with their work

🦋 The organization culture or the companies vision

🦋 Little growth and no promotional opportunities

🦋 Blatant employee favoritism

🦋 Lack of work-life balance, being over-worked, feeling over-stressed, and having no work boundaries (on duty 24/7)

How can we show up as a better leader and save good employees?

Build a trusting environment. Give opportunities for employees to learn new tasks and give them clear verbal instructions with written procedures. When a situation arises, be truthful. Come up with the right solution together. Acknowledge good work performance. Share policy changes in person and written form. Be open to answering employees’ questions. Care about the job and value staff.

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