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I USED TO BE A PEOPLE PERSON THEN PEOPLE RUINED IT!

I used to be a people person then people ruined it! ~ unknown

My husband and I were at WalMart and we saw this phrase on a T-shirt.  I held up the T-shirt and said I am going to buy this.  Being a leadership and work-life balance coach my job is to encourage people not to feel this way.  So why did I want to buy the T-Shirt?  Well, to be honest I had many days that I felt this way.

Have you ever felt this way?  I know I did throughout my career especially when knee-deep in the day-to-day grind (Bull Sh*t).  There were days I would go home and think why are people so hateful, judgmental, petty and disrespectful.  Myself included.

What happened to kindness, empathy and compassion?

Reflection Questions About Daily Interactions With Ambitious People

Why is everything about who can “one up” each other?

Why is “knowledge power”?  Instead of sharing it.

What happened to being genuinely happy for a coworker and recognizing their accomplishments?

Why is being so “busy” acceptable and “ignoring” family okay?

When will these concepts change in leadership?

Is anybody else out there ready for a mind shift in some basic decency and respect towards others? I know I am!

How about you?

To answer the 🔥 burning question:  Did I buy the T-Shirt?Yes, I did. 🙂

P.S.  I have received so many comments from people when I wear this T-Shirt.  Like: That shirt is so funny.  Oh, that shirt is so true.  I love that shirt! Why do you think that is?

Would love to see your thoughts and comments about this topic. ~ Patti

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Day 5 of 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge

Welcome to Day 5 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

Today’s challenge is to Compliment instead of Gossip.

I was listening to the Happier Podcast with Gretchen Rubin awhile back and they were talking about using the practice of reverse gossip.  This means when someone is gossiping about another person to you.  Say something nice about the person being gossiped about.  The gossiper usually stops talking about that person.  I have tried this technique a few times and it really has worked.

A compliment is a precious gift, so why aren’t we giving them out more?

Offering a sincere compliment makes people feel valued and accepted.  Awareness of the good in others helps us to think more positive.  Not getting sucked into gossip and the courage to walk away from it can reflect a lot about someone’s character.  If more people said nice things about each other instead of the dreadful, this world would be a much happier place.  Walk away from hurtful mean words.  Most gossip isn’t true anyway and it causes anguish to the person who is being gossiped about.  No good comes from gossip.  A compliment can change someone’s day from feeling very low to experiencing worthiness.  When receiving a compliment, listen, smile and then say thank you.

When someone gives you a compliment, believe them. ~ Molly Simms

The Day 5 Challenge:

  • Give at least one compliment each day to someone.  Be genuine and honest with your compliment.  Some examples: Write a note, letter or send a text to someone and tell them what they mean to you or thank them in person for something nice they did.
  • Use the technique of reverse gossip and/or walk away from the conversation.

A compliment is verbal sunshine! ☀️~ Robert Orben

We all have negative emotions and it’s okay.  We can’t be positive every moment of the day, that is literally impossible.  Bad stuff happens.  Even upbeat happy fun loving people aren’t feeling it all the time.  You can strive to be a good person and give a kind compliment.  You may never know what that nice gesture meant to someone and how it could brighten their day for the better. ☀️ ~ Patti

How about making someone’s day today by giving them a compliment! 🙂

The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer everybody else up! ~ Mark Twain

Thank you for spending time with me during this 5 Day challenge.  My wish for you is that these daily challenges inspired more positivity within your life and shined out to those around you! ☀️

Share your compliment experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your comments and what types of reactions you got! ❤️

How about creating A Balanced Life Especially for You; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to begin your special journey of creating more balance and positivity in life.

Want “one to one coaching” with Patti – email me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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Day 4 of 5 Power of Positivity

Welcome to Day 4 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

Today’s challenge is about spending time in prayer and meditation to increase positivity in your daily life.

Prayer and meditation is powerful. These activities release the feel-good chemicals into the brain.  What and how we think does have a huge impact on our body, mood and immune system.  Prayer and meditation decreases our reactions to negative situations.

Prayer is talking to God and meditation is listening to God! ~ unknown

When feeling stressed, angry or out of control, step away from the situation and pray about it.  When praying, it removes us from the emotion and we give it to God.  People who pray often see health benefits and experience peace.

Every positive thought is a silent prayer which will change your life. ~ Bryant McGill

Here is an example of a short prayer to ask for guidance for positivity:

Dear God,
When I have negative thoughts, please help me to quickly recognize them and guide me to focus on what is good and positive in my life. ~ Amen

Meditation is a habitual process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts.  When meditating it has been proven to increase calmness, improve relaxation and help one cope with chronic illnesses.  Some people use meditation to create a more positive outlook on life.

Here is a short meditation to get you started:

Your mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission. ~ Arnold Bennet

Day 3 challenge is when you feel upset or overwhelmed, step away and quickly pray about it.  Ask for peace and calmness with the situation.  Also, listen to the short meditation daily.

My prayer for this 5 Day ~ Power of Positivity Challenge, is for all who are participating to be inspired with positivity and that God gives you the strength to resist the negativity around you. ~ Amen

Share your experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your comments and maybe it will inspire others as well! ❤️

How about creating A Balanced Life Especially for You; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to begin your special journey of creating more balance and positivity in life.

Want “one to one coaching” with Patti – email me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

 

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Day 3 of 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge

Welcome to Day 3 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

Today’s challenge is about unplugging from the negative and replugging into the positive.

Everywhere we go; we can watch, read or interact with whatever we want, using wifi, internet, cell phones, laptops and apps.  The negative is constantly hammering our environment.

What does unplugging from negative and replugging into positive mean?

When making a few changes with what you watch, listen to, read and how you interact with others by removing the negative influences. This can transform the mind from cynical notions to favorable intentions.

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. ~ Willie Nelson

A positive mind gives you encouraging thoughts, which then creates an amazing life.

How do you unplug from the negative and replug into the positive?

  • Each day turn off all the electronics for at least a half hour and spend some quality time with yourself (me-time) or with others (spouse, family or friends)
  • Trade watching the news and change it up with listening to some soft uplifting music or an inspiring podcast
  • Recite daily positive affirmations

Sometimes you have to disconnect to stay connected. Remember the old days when you had eye contact during a conversation? When everyone wasn’t looking down at a device in their hands? We’ve become so focused on that tiny screen that we forget the big picture, the people right in front of us. ~ Regina Brett

Day 3 challenge is to turn off all the electronics for at least a half each day.  Remove negative influences and replace them with inspiring ones.  Recite daily affirmations to encourage a positive outlook.

Share your experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your comments and maybe it will inspire others as well! ❤️

Today’s Positive Affirmations:

I am free from negativity and I surround myself with positivity!

I choose to schedule time to unplug each day!

How about creating A Balanced Life Especially for You; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to begin your special journey of creating more balance and positive life.

Want “one to one coaching” with Patti – email me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

 

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Day 2 of 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge

Welcome to Day 2 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

 

The Practice of Gratitude Activities for Day 2 ~ Power of Positivity Challenge

Today’s challenge is about discovering gratitude.  When we are grateful for what we have, we display positivity.  Feelings of gratefulness radiates outwardly and creates more positivity within us.  It is like an echo. What we shout out comes right back.

When one has a grateful heart, life is so beautiful! ~ Roy T Bennett

What do you appreciate in your life?

Gratitude is powerful.  People who are thankful have more positivity in life.  They feel happy, joyful and are much more compassionate towards others. The more you see your blessings. The more blessings you find.

Some people are always grumbling because roses have thorns.  I am thankful that thorns have roses. ~ Alphonse Karr.

Some people could be given an entire field of roses and only see the thorns in it.  Others could be given a single weed and only see the wildflower in it.  Perception is a key component to gratitude.  And gratitude is a key component to joy. ~ Amy Weatherly

Which person are you?

What is your inner-voice saying to you?  Identify and recognize those feelings.  When negative thoughts or emotions enter your mind.  You have a choice to let them in or redirect those thoughts.  Are those whispers good for the soul?

Having a grateful perspective will become a beautiful reflection of you.  An expression of  joy, happiness and love.  Be so happy that when others look at you, they become happy too. Life is good; when you open your eyes and actually see it.

What do you see?

Day 2 challenge is to make a gratitude journal (notebook), and write at least one sentence each day of what you appreciate in your life.

 

Today’s Positive Affirmation:
Gratitude creates positivity!

 

Share your gratitude experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your expressions of gratitude and maybe it will inspire others as well! ❤️

How about creating A Balanced Life Especially for You; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to begin your special journey of creating more balance and positive life.

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Day 1 of the 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge

Welcome to Day 1 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

 

I am so excited you’re here!

This 5 Day challenge is designed to ignite positivity within. Especially if struggling with negative surroundings, or difficult circumstances, and want to add some extra positivity in your daily work and personal life.

When you think of positivity what do you imagine?

Today’s challenge is about experiencing hope in our daily lives.

Each one of us carries hope inside. Hope gives us the strength to keep going when we are not sure we can. Having hope gives us purpose and a reason to continue.  It doesn’t always reflect what the outcome will be, only what we want it to be.  Attaining hope is important when dealing with life’s gloomy situations and it pushes us through those challenging moments.

They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for. ~ Tom Bodett

What is something that you have been hoping for in your life?

Sit down, answer the question and write it somewhere you can see it throughout this 5 day challenge.

Here are some ideas of where to place your written answer:

  • Put the words on your screen saver via cell phone and computer
  • Hang the words on your refrigerator
  • Carry it in your pocket and look at it throughout the challenge
  • Tape the words to your steering wheel
  • Write it in your calendar/diary/journal
  • Draw or paint it
  • Write on your dry erase board
  • Write it on your bathroom mirror with erasable markers
  • Paint the words on a flat rock and display it in your work area
  • Get creative

Looking at it each day will inspire and encourage you.

Hope is the thing with feathers. That perches in the soul. And sings the tune without the words. And never stops at all. ~ Emily Dickinson

Being positive doesn’t mean that things always turn out the way you want them.  It’s knowing that you will be okay no matter what happens.  Hope is not giving up and continuing to live your life to the fullest!  You are unique and amazing.

The wise don’t expect to find a life worth of living; they make it that way! ~ Anonymous

Day 1 challenge is to share your HOPE in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your expressions of hope and maybe it will inspire others as well! ❤️

Today’s Positive Affirmation:
Hope keeps me positive!

What is my hope?  My hope is that this 5 day challenge has a positive impact in your life!

How about creating A Balanced Life Especially for You; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to begin your special journey of creating more balance and positive life.

Want “one to one coaching” with Patti – email me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge ~ November 5-9, 2018

 

Come and join me for the  5 ~ Day Power of Positivity Challenge starting November 5th 2018 through November 9th 2018.

This challenge will ignite positivity within you. This is especially for you; if you are struggling with negative surroundings, or difficult circumstances, or want to add some extra positivity in your daily work and personal life.

What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly. ~ Richard Bach

To sign up and receive the blog posts each day click on link here – 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge.

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Bad Leadership Styles Series

Bad Leadership Styles Series

Thank you for joining me with the Bad Leadership Styles series. I know as a leader, I have been all of these at one point or another. Recognizing it and realizing there are going to be bad days and we are going to mess up.

Breathe, pause, pray about it, then regroup and apologize when needed. Forgive and let go.

Mistakes and bad experiences help us grow to become better leaders. My intention for this series is to give you insight and wisdom on your own personal leadership journey.

A truly great Boss is hard to find, difficult to part with and impossible to forget!  ~ unknown

I hope this series inspired you to become a great boss. ~ Patti

In case you missed any of the Bad Leadership series here are the links below:

The Destruction of the Absentee Leader

The Hazardous Results of the Inflexible Leader

The Signs of a Workplace Bully Leader

The Dangers of Leadership Ghosting

The Draining of Leadership Vampires

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The Draining of Leadership Vampires

The Draining of Leadership Vampires

This is a bonus post of the Bad Leadership series.  I was talking to one of my coaching friend’s Plynn Gutman about the Bad Leadership blog series.  She said to me, you have to do an extra one on Leadership Vampires who steal employees successes and claim them as their own.  In other words, does not give credit where credit is due.  This blog post is for you Plynn and thank you for the suggestion.

How does it feel when your boss takes credit for your work?  Not good at all. People don’t feel satisfied or appreciated when they are not acknowledge for their contributions.  This happens and is a common practice within some organizations.

How do you handle this when it happens?  (Pause and Reflect)

What is the organization culture?  

Do they recognize people ideas or suggestions?  

This will make a huge difference on how to react.  Is it acceptable to stand up and take credit for your ideas.  Will your direct supervisor support you when you do?  Is it worth standing up and saying look at me?

I believe, yes, everyone should be recognized for their contributions. However, some managers don’t give credit where credit is due.  Remember to pick your battles carefully especially when you work for Vampire Leaders.

Ask yourself:

Do I want to announce to everyone, hey, this was my idea?  

If yes, (Stop, Pause and Reflect) – Will this halt any future career opportunities for me?

If no, schedule time to meet with your boss privately to discuss it.

When I think of Leadership Vampires, it is a Boss that sucks the life right out of you.  They are harsh, aggressive, demanding and belittling.  They show favoritism and leave you feeling beat down mentally and physically.  When around them you may feel anxious, sick, angry or depressed.  They have a habit of reprimanding staff in front of others and micro-managing employees time.  They lack empathy and drain the positivity and creativity right out of you.

How do you deal with this type of Leadership?

  • Don’t react
  • Be calm
  • Listen patiently
  • Don’t interrupt
  • Don’t disagree
  • Pick your battles wisely
  • Apologize when necessary
  • Give them nothing to feed on. They love drama!

Take away:

Working for a Vampire leader is exhausting.  Keep calm and don’t react to the harshness.  Work hard and listen carefully.  Say your daily positive affirmations throughout the day to keep yourself going. You got this!

Comments are always welcome and please share this post with your colleagues, friends, and family on your social networks! Sharing is caring.

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How about creating Harmony in Your Life; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to learn more.

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The Dangers of Leadership Ghosting

The Dangers of Leadership Ghosting

Over the last few months, I have been hearing the term “Ghosting”.

What does Ghosting mean?

According to Wikipedia-Ghosting definition means:

Ghosting is breaking off a relationship by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as avoiding or ignoring and refusing to respond to the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate.
What is Leadership Ghosting?
Here is my definition:
A leader who ceases to properly communicate, is unavailable, refuses or ignores to respond to questions or suggestions, but thinks he/she knows what is happening within the business.  They make decisions that are bad or unreasonable and are disengaged from staff.  They run the business through emails or texts. Misunderstandings occur due to lack of face to face contact or verbal conversation for details and guidance.  The Ghosting Leaders make decisions without knowing the full scope of the situation or ask questions and these decisions are harmful to the organizations, the bottom line and the staff become very resentful due to the cause and effects of these decisions, as well as the lack of input.
Behavior of Leadership Ghosting:
  • A ghosting leader withdrawals communication with staff
  • Ignore employees
  • Fears conflict
  • Fears disappointing someone or looking like the “bad person”
  • Doesn’t want to deal with someone’s anger

These type of leaders don’t like to deal with uncomfortable situations.  Instead of addressing the circumstance they avoid the situation altogether.

Examples of Ghosting:

  • Your boss said you would get a promotion and months later nothing
  • You apply for a position and go through the interview and weeks go by and you find out someone else got the position.  The ghost leader didn’t tell you
  • You’re promised information by a certain day and time and never receive it

The dangers of Leadership Ghosting leaves employees feeling undervalued, disregarded and disappointed.  This type of leadership style is unprofessional, rude and cruel.

 

If you recognize ghosting leaders in your organization or within yourself.  Here are a few tips to encourage behavioral change in this leadership style.

  • Sit down with them and discuss the behavior you have observe
  • Ask questions, give feedback on their management style and suggestions on how to improve engagement with staff
  • Schedule leadership training courses – Udemy.com or Lynda.com
  • Schedule interpersonal communication courses – Udemy.com or Lynda.com
  • Schedule conflict resolution courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule constructive criticism courses – Udemy.com
  • Get them a mentor who is a successful leader
  • Hire a leadership coach to help them succeed
  • Becoming a Better Leader [e-Book] Click here to download your copy.

Takeaway:

Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage and promotes better communication skills.  Start by responding back to emails, voicemails and texts even if it is short and to the point.  Something is better than nothing.  Meet with employees, listen and be engaged.  As you address difficult situations it does get easier as time goes on.

Have you experienced Leadership Ghosting?  

If yes, What was it like?

Comments are always welcome and please share this post with your colleagues, friends, and family on your social networks! Sharing is caring.

How about creating Harmony in Your Life; click on the link  21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop to learn more.

Want “one to one coaching” with Patti – email me patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com