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Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

To listen to Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

Today Angela and Patti will explore how to interact with Social Media and keep yourself focused on the impact that social media and addictive viral media has on how you treat others with care or carelessness. When Angela trained in Mass Communication we researched the history of documentary and fiction film, radio, creative video and theater. She used the term Mass Communication and the modern forms of Social Media and Viral Media grew out of these forms of mass communication as a way for every human to participate actively in all forms of mass communication. Social Media was a way for the people to create their own stories and respond to the mass media being projected on them or about them.

Is this similar to shadow work?

Shadow work comes from the term “the shadow self,” which was coined by famed 20th-century psychologist Carl Jung. In Jungian psychology, this term describes the unconscious parts of the personality that our conscious ego doesn’t want to identify in itself.  Shadow work is a process of inner work in which you bring those unwanted parts to the surface to purify, heal, and integrate into yourself. Your shadow isn’t something to be ashamed of or something to hate. It simply points to where you have work to do and where you got to give yourself more love.

In spiritual work we call this type of collective back and forth of thoughts, words, feelings, emotions and communication in humanity – Mass Consciousness.  Angela always been struck by how Mass Communication and Mass Consciousness are two very different worlds of the media and spirituality that have a lot to offer each other about how to control or worsen the negative aspects of human thoughts and emotions.   Mass Consciousness is the collective thoughts and emotions created, experienced and projected by humans through all time.  This includes all the literature, all media, all the thoughts your ancestors had, all the thoughts you have when you’re not even aware you’re having thoughts. Some people also refer to Mass Consciousness as the thought sphere.  However, Mass Consciousness is not just thoughts. It is the emotions and thoughts that have been experienced by humanity through all time. And these are not just in written form. Many cultures did not use writing, they used spoken words, they used art, architecture and all cultures had love and relationships, families, communities, tribes and these had thoughts and feelings. So Mass Consciousness is the collective of all these thoughts and feelings. 

There is always a reason any social media triggers you.

Often if you watch that media, if you literally just watched how the media makes you FEEL, you would get the TRUE impact of that viral media.

Try this experiment:  Before you even get on social media – take a note of how you feel and write it down.  Then go on social media for 5 minutes. Get off – and notice how you feel and write down how you feel. And be honest. If you do this experiment over time. You will see the difference.

There are some positive examples of viral media – like my favorite eurovision band from Iceland- that had a dance craze from their song “Think about things”  from Dadi Freyr and Gagnamagnið.

What are some Strategies to help listeners start to pay attention to how social media makes them uncaring, numb or disingenuous to their relationships?

Create or purchase a gratitude journal. Every day in the journal, write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.  When you practice being thankful for the things and people in your life this helps you appreciate others more which in turn you become more caring.

Be aware of your emotions and feelings when on social media. Remove yourself from social media  if you feel triggered and emotions of overwhelm, comparison or anger happen.  Don’t reply to a post when your emotions are high, if you do need to respond.  Respond back in a couple of hours when you have time to cool off, rewrite your response several times before hitting the reply button for the whole world to see.  Ask someone else you trust for honest feedback before replying. Reflect after writing the response – Is it kind, is it necessary, how would you feel if someone responded to you with this response? 

Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about a situation or comparison envy during and after reviewing social media.  One thing Patti does is skip on by posts that she knows will trigger her.   

The definition of resilience is the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.  Patti calls these life lessons.  

Let’s say we are overthinking about a situation that can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks, and so much more.  

Being resilient is the process of healing and requires constant mental work of positive self-talk, the ability to let it go and move on.  

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Episode 47 – How To Be Honest About What’s Not Working in a Relationship!

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti explore how to be honest about what’s not working in a relationship.

“Being honest” does not mean being mean. Being honest does not mean you are right and the other person is wrong. It is sharing your feelings so things can change. Being honest means being clear about your feelings and contributing solutions to what you want to change or need based on your perception of the situation.

When you feel upset and discouraged inside towards others, pull out your journal and start writing exactly how you feel. Then, step away from the situation until you have calmed down. I know this may be hard at first, but it can change how you feel and save relationships whether it is a friendship, marriage and your reputation at work by taking these small steps.

Angela talks about Graham Gibbs created a great Reflective Practice with 6 steps that helps break down what your feelings are about a situation so that concrete actions can be implemented that help include the value of our feelings.Description of the experience
Feelings and thoughts about the experience
Evaluation of the experience, both good and bad
Analysis to make sense of the situation
Conclusion about what you learned and what you could have done differently
Action plan for how you would deal with similar situations in the future, or general changes you might find appropriate.

Hamlet is a tragedy written by William Shakespeare

Honesty with oneself and others is one of the biggest challenges in life.  Being Authentic is not about hurting, criticizing, manipulating, pushing your viewpoint, or offending others. It’s about being kind, compassionate, respectful about the other person while keeping it real.  Honesty delivered in the right way expresses wisdom, boundaries and releases expectations.

Think before you speak – Is it true, Is it helpful, Is it inspiring, Is it necessary, Is it kind (Author unknown)

Here are some reflection questions to think about and write in your journal.

* What is the difference between being honest and insensitive to others?

* How can honesty with yourself change your life and relationships at home and work?

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Episode 46 – How to Calm Anxiety with Work and Money

In this podcast, we’re going to look at money anxiety. Angela shares some thoughts about the new economy based on sharing and caring about yourself and others which can help relieve tension and look at money from a collaborative and self-value-affirming perspective.  

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Summary:

During the pandemic, many of us stopped work, school, living the way we lived. Discovered many activities at home, which were things we used to do before life got busy, such as cooking, baking, making craft, making music, art, home-based exercise, journaling, talking to people, playing cards, etc.  And many people realized they were working and living in a way they didn’t like.  

Patti’s workbook the 21 Days to Optimal Work-Life Balance.

Angela talked about The Stanford Social Innovation Review (SSIR) has an article on The Vision of a Well-Being Economy, which shares how “We must shift how we understand and build societal health and prosperity, looking beyond economic growth to collective well-being and environmental sustainability.”

Patti discussed – When negative thoughts or emotions enter your mind, you can allow them and redirect them. The trouble with worrying about money and work can consume you, but having strategies can relieve the anxiety.

Spend some time in meditation to calm your thoughts.

Listen to upbeat music to manage anxiety and manifest money.

Pray about the situation for guidance and peace. Journal about the problem which is causing the worry.

Go for a walk, the gym, bicycle ride, yoga or fitness classes or any type of exercise.

Repeat positive affirmations.

Hire a financial coach to help develop a healthy money mindset and reasonable financial goals.

Angela shares about Sondra Ray and Leonard Orr’s book Rebirthing in the New Age. It is hard to get a copy of it now.

One of her powerful ones is “I deserve to be loved.”Shakti Gawain has a great book called “Creating True Prosperity”that gets to your underlying beliefs around money and abundance and T Harv Eker book The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. 

Dr. Patrick Wanis that is a paid meditation download. 

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Episode 45 – Daily Habits to Prevent Depression During Stressful Times While Strengthening Your Relationships!

In this episode Angela and Patti will be discussing daily habits to prevent depression during stressful times and strengthen your relationships.

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The definition of depression according to the American Psychiatric Association website:

Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Angela recommends the Megaway Shakes. It has 13 powerfoods, like maca, ashwagandha, cinnamon, lucuma, barley greens, and the list goes on. Brigitte from the megaway formulated her shake to directly affect the mood and hormonal system of the body. You can find out about her shake at www.themegaway.com

Angela talks about Spiritual Mantras are really good for clearing the air in your home environment when things get stagnated by your thoughts and feelings. 

Forest therapy is used in Japan to treat depression and anxiety. Patti shared forest bathing technique in episode Episode 41 – How Spending Time in Nature Can Help You and Your Relationships.

Angela talks about the book that shares how we all carry trauma called “The body keeps the score” by Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk.

Angela shares about seeing the musical Come from Away in Sydney

For those of you interested in meditation as a way to touch your own light.

Angela is starting a new 8 week course on July 8, 2021 in the USA and July 9, 2021 in Australia. It’s meditation for relaxation and transformation where we explore how to transform old ways of being with yourself and learn how to relax, enjoy and dive deeper into your true energy – which is the energy of joy. Meditation for Relaxation and Transformation.

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Episode 44 – Accepting Responsibility for Choices in Your Relationships – The Good, the Bad and the Narcissist!

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti discuss taking responsibility for your choices.

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It’s becoming common now that people are starting to label and blame the end of a relationship on their former partner. Instead of taking responsibility for their choices within the relationship and the other person, they were a narcissist. Is it easier to blame everything on the other person instead of self-reflecting on what went wrong within the relationship?

What did you learn?

What will you look for before entering into a relationship next time?

What do you want from a relationship?

What are the deal breakers?

Angela talks about the book  Brain Wash by David Perlmutter. He has many studies showing that narcissistic behaviors are connected to the generations that use more social media. So that could make it easier for people to blame people for selfish behavior because it is a typical cultural attitude.

When self-reflecting, ask these questions to yourself:

*What did I learn?

*What will I look for before entering into a relationship next time?

*What do I want from a relationship?

*What are the deal breakers for me?

Patti wrote blog posts about Making Good Choices and A Workplace Phenomenon – the Narcissistic Manager.

Angela speaks about dance and meditation. Dance is about feeling yourself. Meditation is about seeing yourself. Both dance and meditation help you to look inward – not outward. Want to Dance with Angela?

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Episode 43 – Managing Negative Emotions in Relationships Whether at Home or Work!

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss how to deal with negative emotions and energy whether in the workplace or in your personal life.

Patti:  Being negative is easy, everyone is doing it.  How does it affect you in your career and personal life? You may lose a promotion or worse yet all relationships by being a constant complainer, talking bad about others, when displaying anger and hostility or a victim mentally.  I’ve heard some people say that being positive all the time is toxic. 

Why do you think that is?

Angela: Perhaps they see people being falsely positive without dealing with the underlying issues that are creating imbalance in the workplace or home. And without facing the real issues of sadness, anger or fear that go unaddressed when people are trying to be positive.  Some people are fearful of positive energy for fear that they can’t ever be happy. When you are addicted to suffering, it is very hard to enjoy someone’s happiness. Plus people from the beginning of humanity have had jealousy when they think that they can’t have what others have. So if you see someone too happy, it can trigger ancient fears that somehow you are missing out.

Patti: 

How do we change these situations from toxic to kindness?

What if people stopped watching the news?What if people smiled more?

What about looking at the good in others and appreciating each other?Do you think things would change for the better?

Patti: Angela, you have told me many times it is okay to show your emotions. 

To feel them and release them. 

How do you do that without taking it out on the other person or projecting those emotions on them?

Angela: Have you heard of Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence?

1. Self Awareness of your Emotions.

2. Managing your Emotions.

3. Awareness of Social Relationships

4. Management of those Relationships.

Angela: The book “Noise” by Daniel Kahneman is looking at how companies can make better decisions and stop errors at the company level that cost the company thousands of dollars. 

Patti: Strategies to help stay positive?

  1. Walk away when drama is happening around you. Excuse yourself from the conversation.
  2. When there are unkind remarks about someone else, say something nice about that particular person. This action tends to halt the conversation.
  3. Plug in your headphones and listen to uplifting music.
  4. Recite Positive Affirmations.
  5. Journal about how you are feeling.
  6. Go for a quick walk and pray about the situation, listen to an uplifting podcast, music or recite positive affirmations.
  7. Concentrate on your work tasks.

For more tips on how to handle negative workplace environments Patti has a blog post series on Bad Leadership Styles.   We would love to hear your ideas and what you are doing with Managing Negative Emotions in Relationships Whether at Home or Work!

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Episode 42 – Building a Better Relationship with our Planet! (Podcast)

Summary of this podcast episode, Angela and Patti discuss building a better relationship with our planet and our environment.

During lock-down, it gave the planet time to heal in many ways; the air quality from pollution became better with fewer vehicles traveling. The beaches recovered due to fewer people visiting and the wildlife starting to populate. 

Where are you respecting energy?

Taking notice of where you respect, giving thanks, and reciprocating energy is an excellent example of being a good steward, yourself, your family, and your planet.

In the movement classes, Angela shares how to respect your body and listen to your body. This has been the easiest way for me to learn respect for energy. When we move together, we feel how we contain energy in the body and how we lose energy in the body. And in movement you can learn where you have habits in your body that disrespect your body or don’t listen to the natural flow of energy in your body that pushes the body. When we do the movement in nature, the elements of nature help us align and balance our bodies. And activity in nature, even just walking in nature, can show us how to be one with nature and respect it.  When we’re caught up in modern life, we fall into habits where we forget our own nature and own body, which makes us feel disconnected from the planet.

Reflection Questions:

What can you do to make a difference in the world we live in and your relationship with the planet?

What kind of relationship do you want with the planet?

What are your thoughts about air pollution, plastic waste in the ocean, and nuclear waste?

What can I do to support the environment?

When Patti is out camping or in nature, and I come across trash, I pick it up, take it home, and throw it in the trash. She remembers when I was visiting a friend in Hawaii, and we were getting ready to parasail, a woman was fishing out debris from the ocean with a net, and this man said to her, why there is so much trash in the sea it won’t matter. To her, it mattered.

Was she making a difference, yes, one less piece of trash in the ocean that day?

We would love to hear your ideas and what you are doing with improving  your relationship with the planet!

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Episode 40 – Finding Purpose Beyond Work – There is More to Life than Working! (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti discuss Finding Purpose Beyond Work.  

A Summary:

Having some work-life balance keeps communication open and nourishes your relationships. Take time out weekly to cherish your family life, spend time with a friend, a hobby and make some time to rest, so your life is fulfilled?

Here are some self-reflection questions to ponder if you are overworking:Am I putting my work or career ahead of everything else? What is it doing to my relationships? Am I saying yes to an unreasonable workload and not taking time off or vacation? Am I connecting to my family? Do I have true friends? Am I happy? Do I smile? Am I kind to others at work?

What does being successful look like?

What is a satisfying life?

What is a purposeful life?

What is a meaningful life?

Purpose is not always about big-scale plans. Purpose is about meeting people who can help you get to the next stage of life. Many of the most important or valuable connections in life start by meeting other people and seeing what opportunities may come. 

To help create a work-life balance and purpose in life, Patti made an online course called – Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders!

Angela helps business owners with spirit work. What are the spiritual reasons you incarnated to have this business or life? Your business and life are often a lesson to help you develop – it’s not only about the money. Of Course, there will be challenges and learnings about money. For more information on how to work with Angela go to – https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/

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Episode 38 – Dating in Post COVID World – Changing the Rules of Relationships! (Podcast)

This podcast episode of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti may be listened to by clicking here or on the player below.

Angela and Patti have a special guest Belle Vivienne from Belle Vivienne Coaching, joining us to discuss Dating in the Pre and Post COVID World and what opportunity for online relationships has to offer.

Belle shares her experience where people during the pandemic are not using dating creatively and using online dating to dump their emotions on potential love interests or political grief and general angst. Belle shared how important it is to focus on self-healing and not dump your feelings or hurts about past relationships on others during the podcast. Taking a look at yourself and see what needs healing so that you can come to a potential new love interest and online dating with a playful and gracious approach and have more fun!

How we do dating and how we seek romantic love and build better relationships.

In the podcast, Angela shared how she was asked by a teenager, “What is chemistry?”.

If you are in a couple, or single and looking to experience yourself more deeply, Angela offers: Movement Meditation classes where you can explore how your body can know itself at both the physical and spiritual level. If you do the class with a friend or partner you can explore healing techniques and safe ways to support your friend through the body and through the way you connect to their body.  The movement mediation class is on Wednesday nights in USA and Thursday mornings Sydney.  https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/

To contact with Belle Vivienne her website is www.belleviviennecoaching.com

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Episode 37 – Is Your Relationship Lock-Down Proof? (Podcast)

In today’s podcast episode, we will be discussing how to fool-proof relationships so they can endure during lock-down.

With any relationship, you will have things that are going to irritate you about the other person. No one is perfect, and no relationship is either. You will have highs and lows during the partnership. For some, it is easier to walk away than to work it out. Anything worth having you have to work at it.

Now, let’s get real, there were many times Patti felt like running away, and that was pretty much my inner and outer struggles, not him. It’s okay to feel this way at times, and it’s alright to take a break to figure things out when needed. It takes two to have a healthy, thriving relationship. In relationships, you have two imperfect people with very different views on what a happy relationship should look like while trying to relate to each other, besides having a different upbringing, love languages, personalities, and values. Gary Chapman wrote a book on the 5 Love Languages.

It’s important to do things together as well. Have a date night at home – dress up, make a special dinner, etc. Sit outside with a glass of wine or beer, coffee or hot chocolate, whatever is your favorite beverage and watch the sunset, go for a walk, watch a TV show or movie together or go for a bike ride, take a drive in the car together to get outside and away from home. For more tips on surviving social isolation, we did a podcast on Episode 15 on this topic.  

How are you surviving the lock-down in your relationship?  

Are you looking for an activity to connect as a couple? Angela is offering an online Wednesday movement meditation class in the USA at 7:30 pm EST, which is the following day in Sydney, Australia, Thursday, where couples can explore healing touch with their partner to feel heart connection with your partner. It happens right in the comfort of your home over zoom and is excellent for those looking to do an activity that is not just watching Netflix and can break up your routine with something new and a shared activity to enjoy with each other. You can do it with a friend or child over 14 as well.  

Individuals can also join in the class and discover how to feel connected to your heart and build your awareness of what love is and how easy it is when you create a supportive environment. https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/

Some things to consider as you think about your lockdown experience. 

❤️ How did you survive it, or how are you still surviving it?

❤️ What have you discovered about your relationship?

❤️ Did you blame yourself, your government, your partner, your children? 

We would love to hear your answers to these questions about your lockdown experience and some inspirational relationship stories of how being in lockdown together strengthens your relationship?

Patti and Angela are intending and wishing all the best for your relationships to build stronger, resilient connections that will prosper in these times.

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