The Signs of a Workplace Bully Leader

The Signs of a Workplace Bully Leader

Bullying in the workplace has become a major topic in today’s world of leadership.  Many of us have actually experienced workplace bullying during sometime in our careers.

Today, I am going to discuss the warning signs of a Workplace Bully Leaders to increase awareness.

What is Workplace Bullying?

According to Wikipedia  Workplace bullying is a persistent pattern of mistreatment from others in the workplace that causes either physical or emotional harm.  It can include such tactics as verbalnonverbalpsychologicalphysical abuse and humiliation. This type of workplace aggression is particularly difficult because, unlike the typical school bully, workplace bullies often operate within the established rules and policies of their organization and their society. In the majority of cases, bullying in the workplace is reported as having been by someone who has authority over their victim. However, bullies can also be peers, and occasionally subordinates. 

Signs of a Possible Workplace Bully Leaders:

  • Demeaning, disrespectful and devaluing employees capabilities
  • Public ridicule, sarcastic, insults, name-calling, threats, and intimidation
  • Targeting and creating social isolation with staff
  • Blaming, lying, gossiping, spreading rumors and whispering
  • Failing to give credit to employees for their work
  • Overloading targeted employee with a huge workload
  • Micro-Manages and commands respect without earning it
  • A know it all

Bully leaders create isolation and silo work environments.  They divide staff and departments to keep control.

Why don’t people speak up?  Employees are afraid of losing their jobs.

Bullying by leadership has been associated with number of physical and behavioral health issues for the employees who are targeted.

Warning Signs of an Employee Being Bullied:

  • Becomes less socially active or confident
  • Appears scared, stressed, anxious or depressed
  • Calling out sick more frequently than normal
  • Physical signs of tension such as headaches, backaches, not sleeping well and suicidal thoughts

If bullying is unaddressed the aggression and unresolved conflicts will continue to escalate.  When not dealt with, it causes negative affects on the targeted workers – maybe even psychological, financial and physical burdens.

The Results to the Employers: 

  • High Turnover and Absenteeism
  • Low Productivity
  • Lack of Creativity
  • Legal Costs
  • Damaged Reputation

If you recognize Workplace Bully Leaders in your organization or within yourself.

Here are a few tips to encourage behavioral change for this type of leadership style.

  • Sit down with them and discuss the behavior you have observe
  • Ask questions, give feedback on their management style and suggestions on how to improve engagement with staff
  • Set a zero tolerance approach of workplace bullying
  • Build trust and open door policies to discuss bullying
  • Schedule leadership training courses especially on bullying – Udemy.com
  • Schedule emotional intelligent courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule interpersonal communication courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule conflict resolution courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule constructive criticism courses – Udemy.com
  • Read John C. Maxwell Relationships 101 book
  • Get them a mentor who is a successful leader
  • Hire a leadership coach to help them succeed
  • Becoming a Better Leader [e-Book] Click here to download your copy.

Takeaway:

Bullying promotes an atmosphere of fear, vulnerability, anxiousness, and uncertainty.  Awareness is the key to change.  Develop a workplace of zero tolerance accompanied with training, coaching and mentoring to display compassion, empathy, safety and trust.

Have you had a Workplace Bully as a Boss?  

If yes, How did they make you feel?  

How did you overcome it?

Answering these questions above and sharing your experiences may help someone else dealing with a workplace bully.

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The Hazardous Results of the Inflexible Leader

The Hazardous Results of the Inflexible Leader

Today, I am going to discuss the leadership style of an inflexible boss.  These type of personalities are unapproachable at work and home.  Any type of change is not welcome or encouraged.  Working with this type of leader stifles innovation and creativity while leaving employees feeling resentful and unmotivated.

What is an inflexible leader?

The inflexible boss is arrogant, distant, unreasonable and unapproachable.  They are closed minded to any changes and will not listen to any new ideas, consider different options or new technology.   The inflexible boss promotes fear over staff to ensure they follow their ways of doing things.

Characteristics of this type to leadership style:

  • Punishes for not doing things their way
  • Their way or the highway
  • Don’t listen or open to any suggestions
  • Always right
  • Strictly by the book/procedures
  • Favorite phrase – We’ve always done it this way
  • Never says sorry
  • Lacks empathy
  • Jumps to conclusion before gathering all the facts

If you recognize inflexible leaders in your organization or within yourself.  Here are a few tips to encourage behavioral change in this leadership style.

  • Sit down with them and discuss the behavior you have observed and explain that it is important to be open to new ways this helps the company to succeed
  • Ask questions, give feedback on their management style and suggestions on how to improve engagement with staff
  • Schedule change management courses – Udemy.com or Lynda.com
  • Schedule emotional intelligence courses Udemy.com
  • Schedule leadership training courses – Lynda.com
  • Schedule interpersonal communication courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule conflict resolution courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule constructive criticism courses – Udemy.com
  • Give them a mentor who is a successful leader
  • Hire a leadership coach to help them succeed like me
  • Becoming a Better Leader [e-Book] Click here to download your copy.

Takeaway:

A good leader will let employees try new and different ways of doing processes, especially if the current approach isn’t working or becoming mundane.  Listening is essential to know what is working and what is not.  Being approachable and welcoming is the first step to building trust and be able to hear what people are feeling and new ideas.

If yes, How did you feel working for them?

What were the obstacles and how did you deal with it?

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The Destruction of the Absentee Leader


What is an absentee leader?

An absentee leader is someone in a leadership position who is psychologically absent from their responsibilities as a leader.  They are known as the “silent killers.”

Here are some characteristics of an absentee leader:

  • Psychologically absent from their staff.
  • Take value out of an organization without contributing back.
  • These leaders are laissez-faire (to let people do as they choose)
  • Don’t show up to meetings, unresponsive to emails, gives zero feedback and doesn’t share important information with employees.
  • Seldom engage with staff.

Organizations rarely confront the absentee leaders.  If left unobserved they can halt succession planning, block potential staff from promoting and cause unproductively in the workplace.  Those who report to them may become frustrated which has a negative impact on the employees and the work environment.

Teams with absent supervisors often feel they have no direction, are unrecognized, neglected and overlooked without any clear goals, guidance, and feedback.  Employees don’t develop under an absentee leader.

The Destruction of the Absentee Leader:

  • Degrades the employee’s job satisfaction
  • Leads to job performance uncertainty
  • Employee’s stress levels and talents are drained

As long as the absentee leader has an employee who will pick up the slack this behavior will continue.  The absentee leader enjoys the perks and entitlements of their title but isn’t doing the job.  This type of leadership style is destructive. The hard-working employee’s who are actually doing the work aren’t receiving the support, recognition, or crucial feedback.  The absentee leader accepts credit when things are going right and pushes blame on staff when things are not.

If you recognize an absentee leader in your organization or within yourself. Here are a few tips to encourage behavioral change in this leadership style.

Companies don’t always see the effects of this type of leadership style until the damage has already occurred.

Takeaway:

Recognize the absentee leader within your organization or inside yourself and address the situation.  Employees want a leader who is there for them.  Staff follow a leader who will coach, train, motivate, recognize their accomplishments and help them to succeed.

Have you experienced an absentee leader?  If yes, What was it like?

 

 

 

 

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Bad Leadership Styles Series


In the month of October, I will be writing a series of blog posts about bad leadership styles.  How to spot them and ways to activate positive outcomes for each of these style types to improve communication and to become an overall better leader.

The Absentee Leader
The Ghosting Leader
The Workplace Bully Leader
The Inflexible Leader
The Vampire Leader

My ultimate goal is for Leaders to recognize these types of behavioral styles within themselves and work on becoming more pleasant to be around at work and home.

Come and join me in this Leadership series and engage in the comments about each Leadership Style you have personally experienced and the impact they made on your career and home life. ~ Patti

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How Does Coaching Change Lives?

May is my favorite month!

It is springtime, International Coaching Week and so much more.  Coaching has such a powerful and unique way of changing lives for the better.

International Coaching Week (ICW) is May 7-13, 2018

What is International Coaching Week?
International Coaching Week (ICW) is an annual week-long global celebration of the coaching profession, which the International Coaching Federal (ICF) local chapters and members spread the word about coaching and how coaching changes lives.

What is Coaching?
Coaching is client focused.  The coach recognizes each client is a unique individual with the ability to determine their own priorities, goals, and action steps towards what they truly want in life.  The coach assists the client through active listening, asking questions, and affirming the client’s accountability.

How Does Coaching Change Lives?

Recently, I asked one of my client’s the following questions:

What has been your experience working with me as your coach?

Answer:  You are firm, when I am not.  You are able to clarify where I may not be standing up for myself – or what I am here to do.  You are fair, and see what is the fair or appropriate thing to do in situations that involved partnership, teams and relationships with others.  You simplify what I am looking for, so I don’t waste time, you help me get straight to the point.

It actually inspires me to do good, be a better person, be INVESTED in people, be caring, be passionate AND be connected to those I work with.  Think about myself and my needs AND think about the needs of others, while making sure I don’t sacrifice my needs.  A lot of care. You make me feel I’m worthwhile, valuable and you make me feel that others are worthwhile and valuable, and show or support me to support the value in others.

How do you think my coaching has helped you become a better leader?

Answer:  By being fearless to express my needs.  In simple terms, so even if I have emotions about expressing my needs.  I still express them.  Plus clarifying the benefits of expressing my needs to the best outcome for all involved.  It is important to understand what coaching means and why it can be essential to your life in and out of the office.

I wrote this poem Life is Liking Hiking a Mountain by Patti Oskvarek about experiencing coaching and how it can make a big difference in people lives.

I had submitted this poem to the International Coaching Federation (ICF) Phoenix local chapter a few years ago and included a testimony from a client. The testimony is at the end of the presentation. This testimony is a good reminder of how coaching can change people’s lives for the better and why I became a coach.

Click on the click below to view the International Coaching Federation (ICF) Phoenix Chapter Presentation and scroll down the page to the presentation and read the testimony at the end as well.

Life is Liking Hiking a Mountain by Patti Oskvarek

What do you think?  Are you ready to learn more about the coaching experience?

If so, click on the link and sign up for the 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop.

Have you experienced coaching?  If so, feel free to share about your coaching experiences.  Comments are always welcome and please share this post with your colleagues, friends, family and on your social networks!

To learn more about one to one coaching with Patti – email me at: patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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What is a Good Leader? [Video]

 

What is a Good Leader?

A good leader listens and explains the why.

Has a talented way to give feedback without deflating the employee.

The ability to communicate the strategic plan.

Motivates and encourages to obtain goals.

A good leader is trustworthy and dependable.

They coach and mentor their employees to succeed within their organization.

They are upfront about difficult situations.

Just think of the possibilities, if everyone had a good leader.

These are some of the traits, I believe makes a good leader. ~ Patti

Please feel free to share your comments below “Leave a Reply”on “What you think is a good leader?”

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Time for Vacation Planning

Spring is upon us!  Now is the time to start planning a vacation. We all need a little time away from work for our mental and physical health.  Okay, let’s do it and come up with a great plan for your ultimate vacation.

Here are some tips to get you started:

  • Review your calendar before it fills up. What days are available for a week or two?
  • Okay, you have found some days that are open, submit those days for vacation leave to your boss.
  • Set your vacation dates on the calendar and block out those dates.
  • Immediately start thinking about what you would like to do on vacation.
  • What sounds fun, exciting or interesting to you?  Going to a museum, relaxing on the beach, reading a book with a nice breeze, hiking, skiing, boating, fishing, scuba driving, dancing, attending a baseball game, bird watching, zoo, wildlife park, camping, or traveling somewhere you have never been before.
  • Now, it is time to book the travel arrangements and accommodations.  It is important to do it right away, so nothing else can be scheduled for that time.
  • What job functions can you delegate while you are gone?  Start training others for those tasks, so when you are on vacation these things get completed and are done right.  No worrying while you’re gone.  It is being handled.
  • Share your duties with the whole team.  Giving different tasks to several people will ensure they can still perform their own job assignments as well.
  • Communicate to everyone you will be on vacation from this date to this date and you will be unavailable during those dates.
  • Insert the vacation dates on your email notification, voice mail messages and whom to contact while you are out.
  • The most important thing UNPLUG.  Reframe from checking your work emails or voice messages until you get back.

By enjoying your time off, you will come back to work refreshed, recharged, motivated, inspired and passionate.  Taking a vacation is good for you and everyone around you!

Call to Action:

After returning from vacation, tell me about your vacation; even if it was a “staycation”.  Were you refreshed, motivated and ready to come back to work?  I would love to hear all about it. ~ Patti

Do you want more in your life than just your career?
If so, click on the link and sign up for the 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop.
To learn more about one to one coaching with Patti – email me at: patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com