Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job

How do you know when you are in a dead-end job?

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.

Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?

Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?

Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?

Do you get any acknowledgement for a job well done?

Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself.  Answer them with the first reaction you have.

Am I learning any new aspects in my position?

Are my job duties challenging to me?

Do I enjoy going to work everyday?

Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?

Do I feel I am making a difference?

Are my coworkers positive at work?

Am I positive at work?

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead end job.

What are some options to improve my career situation?

Create a Career Journal to keep track of your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.

Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and to refocus on your career path.

What’s in a Career Journal:

  • Career goals and ideas
  • Keep track of career progress
  • Lessons learned
  • Coaching strategies
  • Advice from mentors
  • A private place to vent career disappointments
  • Keep positive affirmations and quotes
  • Gain a new perspective
  • Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you letters, recommendations, references and certifications
  • Mission statement and values
  • Develop a career action plan
  • Keep motivated and inspired
  • To celebrate the small successes

How to Get Started:

  • Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
  • Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
  • Organize by categories
  • Add to your career journal regularly
  • Keep it in a secure place

Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:

  • What did I learn?
  • What did I accomplish?
  • Did I receive any compliments?  If so, what was it and who said it?
  • How did I make a difference?
  • Did I have any setbacks and how did it affect me?
  • How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
  • Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!

What’s keeping me here?

Are there other options?

If, so what are they?

  • A Transfer within the company?
  • Start job hunting?
  • Hire a career coach?
  • Go back to school and learn something new?
  • Retirement?

After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go”.  What did this list tell you?

Take Away:
Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement.  Take a leap of faith and try something different.  You will have a career purpose with meaning again.  Whatever decision you make to either stay or go; having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals as well as helping you be ready for the next career opportunity.

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Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby Has A Great Work Ethic but Lacks Work-Life Balance


 

I recently started watching the long-running TV series Midsomer Murders on Netflix.  The main character Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby is very dedicated to his job and capturing the murder(s).  He is excellent at his job.  While on a murder case he is very focused on his work, 24/7 until the murders(s) are caught and charged.

Chief Inspector Barnaby loves his job.  It gives him purpose.  He coaches and trains his sergeants to be dedicated, knowledgeable, reliable and very good detectives.

Trust is something hard to win, easy to lose and never to be taken lightly. ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

In one episode Sargeant Dan Scott was getting rough with a suspect. After the incident and they were both alone in the vehicle Chief Inspector Barnaby told Sgt. Scott, you will not conduct yourself like that ever again under my watch. As a leader, Inspector Barnaby is not afraid to address bad behavior with his employees.

Do you see a lesson in this? ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

Due to Chief Inspector Barnaby’s dedication to his job, he ends up disappointing his wife Joyce continuously.  He is a good man.  He loves his wife, but his job always comes first.  He does have a habit of not showing up when working a murder case.

He will set up dinner dates with his wife while he is still investigating his case.  He may even take her to a restaurant and be watching a suspect. Joyce will get up early to cook him breakfast and usually he rushes out without eating her prepared meal.  They will plan on meeting up for a party or some other occasion and he either arrives late or not at all.

The cleverest lies are those were already inclined to believe. ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

Joyce wants to spend more quality time with her husband, but he is always on the job 24/7.  Does any of this sound familiar? 

In one episode, Chief Inspector Barnaby was suppose to meet his wife Joyce at home and go with her to a party.  He didn’t show up and Joyce went without him and had a wonderful time.  He was locked in a cellar with Sgt. Scott all night and she didn’t even realize he didn’t come home.  I think it surprised him that she wasn’t even worried about him.

In another episode, Joyce and his daughter Cully wanted to purchase a houseboat. Thinking a houseboat would create more family time together.  The houseboat Joyce and Cully were looking at turned out to be the killers.  No houseboat was purchased.

In another episode, Joyce wanted Chief Inspector Barnaby to start planning for his retirement and to become a mystery writer.  She thought he would make more money and be around more.  It wasn’t Chief Inspector Barnaby’s idea of retirement after the murder investigation.

What now? I’m going to have my cake and eat it.~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

In the TV show Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby is considered a family man. When he does arrive home for dinner, he is usually called out again.

How does his marriage survive?  No work-life balance here!

Of course, he is a fictional character.  

Do you think this is why he is still in a relationship? 

 

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I USED TO BE A PEOPLE PERSON THEN PEOPLE RUINED IT!

I used to be a people person then people ruined it! ~ unknown

My husband and I were at WalMart and we saw this phrase on a T-shirt.  I held up the T-shirt and said I am going to buy this.  Being a leadership and work-life balance coach my job is to encourage people not to feel this way.  So why did I want to buy the T-Shirt?  Well, to be honest I had many days that I felt this way.

Have you ever felt this way?  I know I did throughout my career especially when knee-deep in the day-to-day grind (Bull Sh*t).  There were days I would go home and think why are people so hateful, judgmental, petty and disrespectful.  Myself included.

What happened to kindness, empathy and compassion?

Reflection Questions About Daily Interactions With Ambitious People

Why is everything about who can “one up” each other?

Why is “knowledge power”?  Instead of sharing it.

What happened to being genuinely happy for a coworker and recognizing their accomplishments?

Why is being so “busy” acceptable and “ignoring” family okay?

When will these concepts change in leadership?

Is anybody else out there ready for a mind shift in some basic decency and respect towards others? I know I am!

How about you?

To answer the 🔥 burning question:  Did I buy the T-Shirt?Yes, I did. 🙂

P.S.  I have received so many comments from people when I wear this T-Shirt.  Like: That shirt is so funny.  Oh, that shirt is so true.  I love that shirt! Why do you think that is?

Would love to see your thoughts and comments about this topic. ~ Patti

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Day 5 of 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge

Welcome to Day 5 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

Today’s challenge is to Compliment instead of Gossip.

I was listening to the Happier Podcast with Gretchen Rubin awhile back and they were talking about using the practice of reverse gossip.  This means when someone is gossiping about another person to you.  Say something nice about the person being gossiped about.  The gossiper usually stops talking about that person.  I have tried this technique a few times and it really has worked.

A compliment is a precious gift, so why aren’t we giving them out more?

Offering a sincere compliment makes people feel valued and accepted.  Awareness of the good in others helps us to think more positive.  Not getting sucked into gossip and the courage to walk away from it can reflect a lot about someone’s character.  If more people said nice things about each other instead of the dreadful, this world would be a much happier place.  Walk away from hurtful mean words.  Most gossip isn’t true anyway and it causes anguish to the person who is being gossiped about.  No good comes from gossip.  A compliment can change someone’s day from feeling very low to experiencing worthiness.  When receiving a compliment, listen, smile and then say thank you.

When someone gives you a compliment, believe them. ~ Molly Simms

The Day 5 Challenge:

  • Give at least one compliment each day to someone.  Be genuine and honest with your compliment.  Some examples: Write a note, letter or send a text to someone and tell them what they mean to you or thank them in person for something nice they did.
  • Use the technique of reverse gossip and/or walk away from the conversation.

A compliment is verbal sunshine! ☀️~ Robert Orben

We all have negative emotions and it’s okay.  We can’t be positive every moment of the day, that is literally impossible.  Bad stuff happens.  Even upbeat happy fun loving people aren’t feeling it all the time.  You can strive to be a good person and give a kind compliment.  You may never know what that nice gesture meant to someone and how it could brighten their day for the better. ☀️ ~ Patti

How about making someone’s day today by giving them a compliment! 🙂

The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer everybody else up! ~ Mark Twain

Thank you for spending time with me during this 5 Day challenge.  My wish for you is that these daily challenges inspired more positivity within your life and shined out to those around you! ☀️

Share your compliment experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your comments and what types of reactions you got! ❤️

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Bad Leadership Styles Series

Bad Leadership Styles Series

Thank you for joining me with the Bad Leadership Styles series. I know as a leader, I have been all of these at one point or another. Recognizing it and realizing there are going to be bad days and we are going to mess up.

Breathe, pause, pray about it, then regroup and apologize when needed. Forgive and let go.

Mistakes and bad experiences help us grow to become better leaders. My intention for this series is to give you insight and wisdom on your own personal leadership journey.

A truly great Boss is hard to find, difficult to part with and impossible to forget!  ~ unknown

I hope this series inspired you to become a great boss. ~ Patti

In case you missed any of the Bad Leadership series here are the links below:

The Destruction of the Absentee Leader

The Hazardous Results of the Inflexible Leader

The Signs of a Workplace Bully Leader

The Dangers of Leadership Ghosting

The Draining of Leadership Vampires

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The Draining of Leadership Vampires

The Draining of Leadership Vampires

This is a bonus post of the Bad Leadership series.  I was talking to one of my coaching friend’s Plynn Gutman about the Bad Leadership blog series.  She said to me, you have to do an extra one on Leadership Vampires who steal employees successes and claim them as their own.  In other words, does not give credit where credit is due.  This blog post is for you Plynn and thank you for the suggestion.

How does it feel when your boss takes credit for your work?  Not good at all. People don’t feel satisfied or appreciated when they are not acknowledge for their contributions.  This happens and is a common practice within some organizations.

How do you handle this when it happens?  (Pause and Reflect)

What is the organization culture?  

Do they recognize people ideas or suggestions?  

This will make a huge difference on how to react.  Is it acceptable to stand up and take credit for your ideas.  Will your direct supervisor support you when you do?  Is it worth standing up and saying look at me?

I believe, yes, everyone should be recognized for their contributions. However, some managers don’t give credit where credit is due.  Remember to pick your battles carefully especially when you work for Vampire Leaders.

Ask yourself:

Do I want to announce to everyone, hey, this was my idea?  

If yes, (Stop, Pause and Reflect) – Will this halt any future career opportunities for me?

If no, schedule time to meet with your boss privately to discuss it.

When I think of Leadership Vampires, it is a Boss that sucks the life right out of you.  They are harsh, aggressive, demanding and belittling.  They show favoritism and leave you feeling beat down mentally and physically.  When around them you may feel anxious, sick, angry or depressed.  They have a habit of reprimanding staff in front of others and micro-managing employees time.  They lack empathy and drain the positivity and creativity right out of you.

How do you deal with this type of Leadership?

  • Don’t react
  • Be calm
  • Listen patiently
  • Don’t interrupt
  • Don’t disagree
  • Pick your battles wisely
  • Apologize when necessary
  • Give them nothing to feed on. They love drama!

Take away:

Working for a Vampire leader is exhausting.  Keep calm and don’t react to the harshness.  Work hard and listen carefully.  Say your daily positive affirmations throughout the day to keep yourself going. You got this!

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The Dangers of Leadership Ghosting

The Dangers of Leadership Ghosting

Over the last few months, I have been hearing the term “Ghosting”.

What does Ghosting mean?

According to Wikipedia-Ghosting definition means:

Ghosting is breaking off a relationship by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as avoiding or ignoring and refusing to respond to the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate.
What is Leadership Ghosting?
Here is my definition:
A leader who ceases to properly communicate, is unavailable, refuses or ignores to respond to questions or suggestions, but thinks he/she knows what is happening within the business.  They make decisions that are bad or unreasonable and are disengaged from staff.  They run the business through emails or texts. Misunderstandings occur due to lack of face to face contact or verbal conversation for details and guidance.  The Ghosting Leaders make decisions without knowing the full scope of the situation or ask questions and these decisions are harmful to the organizations, the bottom line and the staff become very resentful due to the cause and effects of these decisions, as well as the lack of input.
Behavior of Leadership Ghosting:
  • A ghosting leader withdrawals communication with staff
  • Ignore employees
  • Fears conflict
  • Fears disappointing someone or looking like the “bad person”
  • Doesn’t want to deal with someone’s anger

These type of leaders don’t like to deal with uncomfortable situations.  Instead of addressing the circumstance they avoid the situation altogether.

Examples of Ghosting:

  • Your boss said you would get a promotion and months later nothing
  • You apply for a position and go through the interview and weeks go by and you find out someone else got the position.  The ghost leader didn’t tell you
  • You’re promised information by a certain day and time and never receive it

The dangers of Leadership Ghosting leaves employees feeling undervalued, disregarded and disappointed.  This type of leadership style is unprofessional, rude and cruel.

 

If you recognize ghosting leaders in your organization or within yourself.  Here are a few tips to encourage behavioral change in this leadership style.

  • Sit down with them and discuss the behavior you have observe
  • Ask questions, give feedback on their management style and suggestions on how to improve engagement with staff
  • Schedule leadership training courses – Udemy.com or Lynda.com
  • Schedule interpersonal communication courses – Udemy.com or Lynda.com
  • Schedule conflict resolution courses – Udemy.com
  • Schedule constructive criticism courses – Udemy.com
  • Get them a mentor who is a successful leader
  • Hire a leadership coach to help them succeed
  • Becoming a Better Leader [e-Book] Click here to download your copy.

Takeaway:

Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage and promotes better communication skills.  Start by responding back to emails, voicemails and texts even if it is short and to the point.  Something is better than nothing.  Meet with employees, listen and be engaged.  As you address difficult situations it does get easier as time goes on.

Have you experienced Leadership Ghosting?  

If yes, What was it like?

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