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Is My Coaching Style Right for You? 🦋

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I’m not the right coach for everyone—and that’s okay.

I haven’t really talked about this before, but I think it’s important to understand that different people look for different things from a coach.

My coaching style is for people who are ready to look within themselves, reflect on what is happening, and take action toward the changes they want to make.

Coaching Is a Partnership

When you work with me, I won’t tell you what to do.

I believe coaching is a partnership.

I’ll ask questions, sometimes deep questions, that encourage you to think about your situation in a different way.

We may explore what you truly want, what is working, what isn’t working, and what you would like to change.

Sometimes that kind of self-reflection can be uncomfortable.

But it can also help you discover things about yourself and your situation that you may not have considered before.

The Action Is Yours

One of the most important parts of coaching is taking action.

I can support you. I can ask questions. I can help you create an action plan. I can encourage you and celebrate your progress.

But I can’t take the steps for you.

You decide what you want to do and then take those steps.

That’s an important part of the coaching relationship.

My goal isn’t for you to depend on me to make your decisions. My goal is to support you as you discover what you want and move toward it.

Who I Work Well With

My coaching may be a good fit if you’re ready to:

  • Look honestly at what is happening in your life or work
  • Reflect on your choices and what you truly want
  • Consider different perspectives
  • Explore what may need to change
  • Create an action plan
  • Take steps toward your goals
  • Participate actively in the coaching process

You don’t have to have everything figured out before you begin.

You may simply know that something isn’t working the way you want it to.

Maybe you’re thinking about a career decision.

Maybe you’re growing into a leadership role.

Maybe work has started taking more of your energy than you’d like.

Maybe you have a personal goal you keep putting aside.

Or maybe you simply know that you want something different.

Those can all be places where coaching can help you explore what comes next.

I Am Here to Support You

I genuinely want my clients to succeed.

I want you to live a positive life that you love. I want you to enjoy your work. I want you to have meaningful relationships and make time for what matters to you.

And I want to support you as you work toward those things.

I’ll ask the questions.

I’ll listen.

I’ll encourage you.

I’ll help you create the plan.

And I’ll celebrate your progress with you.

But the action belongs to you.

Not every coach is the right fit for every person, and that’s perfectly okay.

What matters is finding a coaching relationship that fits what you’re looking for and supports the way you want to grow.

If you’re ready to make a change and take action toward the life you desire, I’d love to explore whether my coaching style is right for you. 🦋

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Day 4 – Unleash Your Voice Challenge with Noleen Sliney.

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A Full Calendar Doesn’t Mean a Full Life 🦋

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When you look at your calendar, does it have room for the life you actually want?

It’s easy to look at a full calendar and think we’re doing well.

We’re busy. We’re productive. We’re getting things done, and sometimes I think we need to stop and ask a different question:

Is my calendar full because it reflects what truly matters to me, or is it simply full?

Is There Room for the Unexpected?

Imagine your calendar is packed from morning until night.

You wake up, grab your coffee, jump in the car, and maybe you drink it while you drive because there’s no time to sit down and enjoy it.

The day continues.

One thing.

Then another.

Then another.

And before you know it, you’re home and still moving from one thing to the next.

Where is the time to rest?

Where is the time to think?

Where is the time to be?

And what happens when a friend calls and says:

“Want to go have coffee?”

Or:

“Want to go to a movie?”

Or perhaps your family wants to sit down and play a game together.

If your calendar is full, you may find yourself saying no, not because you don’t want to go, but because there’s simply no room.

The Little Things Matter

I think sometimes we underestimate the importance of the little things.

A conversation with a friend.

A walk in the park.

Watching a baseball game.

Playing a game with your children.

Sitting down with your family and talking about the day.

Having coffee without rushing.

Spending time with the people you love.

Giving yourself time to rest.

These moments may not always make the list of accomplishments.

But they can become some of the moments we remember most.

Because life keeps moving.

Children grow up.

Friendships change.

Relationships evolve.

And we don’t always know which ordinary moment will become a memory we treasure.

When Being Busy Becomes the Default

There is nothing wrong with having a full calendar.

Sometimes life genuinely requires a lot from us.

Work has busy seasons.

Families have busy seasons.

Appointments, responsibilities, deadlines, and commitments fill our time.

The question isn’t whether your calendar is full.

The question is:

Does your calendar reflect the life you want to be living?

If it does, that’s wonderful.

But if you look at your calendar and realize there isn’t room for the things that matter most to you, it may be worth taking another look.

Creating More Balance

Creating more balance doesn’t always mean adding another activity to your schedule.

Sometimes it means taking something away.

Maybe there’s a commitment that no longer matters as much as it once did.

Maybe you’re saying yes to things automatically.

Maybe you’ve filled every available space because a space feels like something that needs filling.

What if it didn’t?

What if you left some room?

Room for a friend.

Room for your family.

Room for rest.

Room for joy.

Room for something spontaneous.

Room for yourself.

Take a Look at Your Calendar

So here’s a little challenge for you.

Open your calendar, review it, and ask yourself these self-reflecting questions:

Where am I saying yes automatically here?

Is there room on the calendar for the people and experiences that matter most to me?

Is there any room for rest or something spontaneous?

If my calendar stayed exactly as it is, would I be happy with the life it represents?

If the answer is yes, that’s wonderful.

If the answer is no, you don’t have to change everything.

You can start by making one adjustment.

Because sometimes creating more balance isn’t about fitting more into our lives.

Sometimes it’s about making room for what matters.

A Full Calendar Doesn’t Mean a Full Life

We can fill every minute of our day and still miss the moments that matter.

We can accomplish a lot and still wish we had slowed down.

We can have a very busy life without necessarily having the life we want.

So perhaps today, instead of asking:

“How can I fit one more thing into my day?”

we can ask:

“What matters most to me, and does my calendar make room for it?”

Because the goal isn’t simply to have a full calendar.

It’s to have a life that feels meaningful to you.

Make room for what matters.

🦋 Let’s keep exploring life and work, creating more calm, balance, and a life that’s meaningful to you.

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Day 3 – Unleash Your Voice Challenge with Noleen Sliney.

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When Saying Yes to Others Means Saying No to Yourself 🦋

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I thought saying yes made me a good person.

Now, I can see how often I chose what I thought would make other people happy instead of stopping to ask myself what I wanted.

One experience in particular has stayed with me.

The Writing Workshop I Didn’t Attend

Years ago, one of my favorite authors was doing a writing workshop.

She wrote mystery and suspense, and I really enjoyed her books. I was excited about the opportunity to attend the workshop and possibly meet her.

I asked a family member who also enjoys writing if she wanted to go with me.

She said no because she wanted to do something else.

Instead of saying, “Okay, maybe we can do your something else another day,” I changed my plans.

And I didn’t go.

At the time, it probably didn’t seem like a big decision.

But it was a big deal to me.

I have been disappointed ever since because I have never had another chance to meet that author.

Looking back, I realize I put someone else’s preference ahead of something important to me.

I was trying to please someone else, and I didn’t stop and reflect:

“This is important to me. I want to go.”

I could have gone to the workshop on my own.

I could have enjoyed the experience.

And I could have made plans to do something with my family member another time.

Instead, I gave up something I really wanted.

That experience has stayed with me because it helped me recognize something about people-pleasing.

Sometimes saying yes to someone else means saying no to yourself.

Often, we are trying to be kind, helpful, supportive, or considerate.

But when putting other people first becomes our automatic response, we can eventually find ourselves wondering:

“Where did I fit into all of this?”

Self-Reflection and Journal Prompts:

🦋 Have you ever given up something you really wanted because you were trying to please someone else?

🦋 Where might you be saying yes because it feels easier than saying what you really want?

🦋 What are you saying no to when you automatically say yes to someone else?

I still hope I get another opportunity to meet that author someday. And if I do, I will go for sure.

Let’s keep exploring life and work, creating more calm, balance, and a life that’s meaningful to you.

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Don’t Let Someone Else’s Words Take Away Your Dream 🦋

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Has someone ever said something that made you question something you loved doing?

Recently, I was watching a television show called Best Medicine, and one of the storylines really made me stop and think.

A character named Elaine is passionate about her YouTube show. She loves creating it, and people enjoy watching it.

Then someone makes a harsh and judgmental comment about her show.

The words affect Elaine so deeply that she stops doing something she truly loves.

As I watched, I started thinking about how often something similar happens in real life.

How Much Can One Comment Affect Us?

Sometimes someone says something about our dream, our work, our creativity, or something we’re passionate about.

Maybe they don’t understand it.

Maybe they don’t like it.

Maybe they have a very different opinion.

And sometimes their words stay with us.

We may begin questioning ourselves.

We may lose confidence.

We may stop sharing our ideas.

And sometimes, we may even stop doing the thing we loved in the first place.

That’s what made Elaine’s story stand out to me.

How many of us have had something like this happen?

Maybe it wasn’t a YouTube show.

Maybe it was a career choice.

A business idea.

Something creative.

A personal goal.

Or simply something that brought you joy.

But There Is Another Side

While thinking about this, I also started thinking about our own words.

Have we ever said something that affected another person more than we realized?

Sometimes we don’t intend to hurt someone.

We may simply be sharing our opinion.

We may think we’re being honest.

We may not understand why something matters so much to the other person.

But our words can still have an impact.

That doesn’t mean we can never disagree with someone or offer feedback.

It simply gives us something to think about.

How are we communicating with the people around us?

And what might they be taking away from our words?

What If It’s Time to Rekindle Something?

If someone else’s criticism has caused you to step away from something you once loved, I want to invite you to think about it again.

Is the passion still there?

Do you still think about it?

Do you still wish you were doing it?

If the answer is yes, it may be worth exploring.

You don’t have to return to it exactly as you did before.

You might approach it differently.

You might make some changes.

Or you might start again.

Someone else’s opinion is their opinion.

It doesn’t have to determine what you do with your life.

Many other people may appreciate what you do.

And just as importantly, you may still love doing it.

Self-Reflection and Journal Prompts:

Here are a few questions to think about:

🦋 Has someone’s criticism ever caused you to stop doing something you loved?

🦋 Is there something you have thought about returning to?

🦋 What would it feel like to explore that passion again?

🦋 Have you ever said something that you now realize may have affected someone else’s confidence or their willingness to pursue something important to them?

We all have opportunities to learn from our experiences.

Sometimes the reflection itself can help us see something differently.

Maybe you have set aside a dream, passion, or goal because of someone else’s words.

Maybe it’s worth taking another look.

Maybe it’s time to rekindle something that still matters to you.

Let’s keep exploring together. 🦋

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Day 1: Unleash Your Voice Video Challenge with Noleen Sliney.

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Ladies Diary — Women Who Do It All – But Forget Themselves | Women’s Health Awareness [Patti’s Guest Appearance]

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I was a guest on this (LIVE) Ladies Diary episode and had a wonderful conversation with these lovely ladies. 

In this episode of Ladies Diary, we’re diving into a conversation that so many women live every single day but rarely stop to acknowledge: doing everything for everyone else while slowly neglecting themselves.

During Women’s Health Awareness Month, this topic becomes even more important because the truth is, many women don’t ignore their health on purpose; it happens over time. 

It happens in the middle of responsibilities, expectations, and the constant pressure to show up for everyone else, no matter what. 

We’re talking about the women who work nonstop, take care of others, carry emotional weight, keep things running, and still somehow convince themselves that their own needs can wait. 

Whether it’s physical health, mental exhaustion, stress, or burnout, the warning signs are often there, but they get pushed aside in favor of “just one more thing” that needs to get done. This isn’t just about self-care in the surface-level sense. 

This is about understanding why women are conditioned to put themselves last, why it feels uncomfortable to choose yourself, and how easy it is to fall into patterns that slowly drain you without even realizing it. 

We’re getting real about the cost of constantly running on empty, the impact it has on your body and mind, and the moment when “handling everything” starts to feel much heavier. 

We’ll also talk about what it actually looks like to start shifting that mindset. Not perfection, not overnight change, but small, real decisions that move you from survival mode into something more sustainable. 

Because taking care of yourself shouldn’t feel like a luxury or something you have to earn; it’s necessary. 

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but still feel worn down, overlooked, or exhausted, and if you’ve ever said “I’ll take care of it later” and kept pushing through, this conversation is for you. 

You’re not alone in that feeling, and you don’t have to stay stuck in it either. 

Disclaimer: This video is for educational and inspirational purposes only. The coaching tools, personal experiences, shared are intended to support personal growth and healthier relationships. They are not a substitute for professional medical, mental health, legal, or financial advice. Please seek guidance from a qualified professional for your individual circumstances.

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Ep 101: When to Walk Away from a Work or Personal Relationship (And How)

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When Is It Time to Walk Away From a Job or Relationship?

Sometimes, we know something isn’t working anymore.

Maybe it’s a job that leaves you drained and dreading Monday.

Maybe it’s a relationship where you no longer feel respected, supported, or even like yourself anymore.

And yet, knowing something isn’t right doesn’t always make it easy to walk away.

We may stay because of fear, security, history, guilt, or hope that things will change for the better, but they never do.

One question from Episode 101 of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti really stood out to me:

Am I staying because this is right for me today, or because it was right for me yesterday?

Sometimes the answer isn’t about leaving. It may be about looking at what’s happening, setting boundaries, having a difficult conversation, or deciding what you want to help make the best decision for you.

🦋 Let’s Take a Pause and Self-Reflect or Journal:

If you’re thinking about a relationship, job, or situation in your life, take a few moments to reflect:

What relationship or situation have I outgrown?

What would happen if I walked away?

What kind of relationship or life do I want to create?

You don’t have to decide immediately. Sometimes, giving yourself time to pause and explore is the first step toward deciding.

Watch or Listen to Episode 101

In this podcast episode, Angela and I explore when it may be time to stay, when it may be time to make changes, and when it may be time to walk away from a work or personal relationship.

We also share healthy ways to leave, create a transition plan, exit plan, deal with mixed emotions, and find closure when we don’t get the ending we hoped for.

Sometimes walking away isn’t closing a door on someone else.

Sometimes it’s opening a door to yourself.

Watch or listen to Episode 101 – When to Walk Away from a Work or Personal Relationship (And How).

If this topic resonates with you, I hope you will take a few minutes to watch or listen and explore what may be possible for you.

Podcast Episode Affirmation:

“I release relationships and situations that keep me stuck and unhappy and keep those relationships that bring me joy, peace, calm, growth, confidence, love, trust, and hope.”

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Patti’s Links:

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If you would like to learn more about working with Patti for coaching services⁠⁠

Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm Podcast ⁠⁠

Angela’s Links:

Angela’s new eBook, The Empath’s Guide: How to Stop Taking on Other People’s Energy ⁠https://bit.ly/empathebook1⁠

Join Angela’s online Movement Class 7 pm Mondays, Sydney time ⁠https://classbento.com.au/dance-healing-feel-more-relaxed-and-at-home-in-your-body⁠

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Why I Love My Work as a Coach 🦋

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Hi, I wanted to share about why I love coaching so much and I love coaching work.

The reason why I love it so much is because when I see my clients succeeding in what they really want in life, it brings so much joy to them as well as to me.

I’m going to give you an example. I had a client that she was getting ready to go on a trip solo, and she hadn’t gone on a trip on an airplane for 20 years.

And she was experiencing fear of the technology, fear of going alone, fear of anxiety of the trip. And she was going to see her daughter. So it was very important that we work together to get her over the fear and to have a plan of action to take to go on this trip.

So we started with talking about her anxiety and fear of going on the trip because she was really ready to back out.

So I helped her download the apps and plan her route, plan everything to help her feel confident and comfortable going. So we did all of these different techniques and was able to get her to feel comfortable and go on the trip.

And when she came back, she was so happy that she went and she now knows that she can go on the trip again by herself. I wanted to share this because so many times we think we can’t do something and it holds us back.

But if you find the way to confidently do it, and have somebody to help you. You can succeed in what you want. And she did. She learned how to put apps on her phone. She learned how to use them. She learned how to get to the airport, where to park, how to pull up her ticket on the app, and to go through the checkout and everything and able to change planes if needed.

All of those things brought her confidence with technology, as well as confident in herself to be able to travel solo.

I just wanted to share that today as inspiration that sometimes we hold ourselves back, but we can do things that we didn’t think that we could.

Self-Reflection or Journal Question:

Take a moment to think about something that you have been holding back from doing.

What steps you could do, to make it happen?

If there’s something you’ve been wanting to accomplish but fear, uncertainty, or self-doubt has been getting in the way, coaching can help you turn that goal into manageable steps and move forward with greater confidence.

Let’s explore what’s possible together.

How about scheduling a coaching session with me?

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Sometimes You Just Want a Moment of Calm 🦋

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Sometimes you just want a moment of calm. Maybe it’s sitting outside with your coffee. Maybe it’s taking a walk. Maybe it’s listening to music, reading a few pages of a book, or simply sitting quietly for a few minutes.

It doesn’t have to be anything complicated.

When life gets busy, we can get caught up in everything that comes along. We move from one thing to another without giving ourselves much time to stop and enjoy where we are.

🦋 The most productive thing you can do is slow down.

🦋 Take a moment.

🦋 Enjoy the moment.

🦋 Savor those moments of peace and calm.

You don’t always need to accomplish something during those moments. Sometimes you just might want to enjoy them.

And giving yourself that time isn’t selfish. It can be a simple way to create more calm and balance in your day.

You may have things waiting for you. There may always be another email, another task, or another thing on your list, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a few moments of calm.

Self-Reflection or Journal Question:

What is something simple that helps you slow down and enjoy a moment of peace and calm?

So instead of waiting for the perfect time to slow down, consider creating a little time for yourself along the way.

I would love to hear what works for you in the comments. 🦋

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A Little Reminder: You Don’t Have to Do It All Today 🦋

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I know how easy it is to look at everything that needs to get done and feel like you need to keep going until it’s all finished.

🦋 The emails.
🦋 The work.
🦋 The errands.
🦋 The things at home.
🦋 The things you’ve been putting off.

But what if everything doesn’t actually need to get done today?

Sometimes creating more calm and balance starts with simply deciding what really needs my attention right now.

🦋 Choose what’s important.

🦋 Let some things wait.

🦋 And give yourself permission to pause.

Pausing doesn’t mean you’re giving up or falling behind. Sometimes a pause is exactly what we need to step away, clear our minds, and come back with a little more energy and a new perspective.

You don’t have to finish everything on your list to have had a productive day.

Maybe today, instead of asking yourself, “How am I going to get everything done?” ask yourself:

“What is the most important right now?”

Then give yourself permission to let the rest wait.

A Self-Reflection or Journal Question

What is one thing you could let wait today so you can create a little more calm for yourself?

I would love to hear from you in the comments. 🦋

A little reminder:
You don’t have to do it all today.
Choose what’s important.
Let some things wait.
Give yourself permission to pause. 🦋

Sometimes that pause gives us the time to think more clearly, reconnect with what truly matters. ~ Patti

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Which One Would You Like To Create More of this September? 🦋

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Which one would you like to create more of this month, September?

1: Creating More Calm
2: Creating More Balance

Maybe you want a few more quiet moments in your day. Time to breathe. Sit outside. Meditate. Listen to music. Pray. Simply be.

Or maybe you want more balance, creating boundaries around work, stepping away from your computer, making time for yourself, taking a weekend off, or doing something you enjoy.

Or just maybe you want a little of both. 🙂

Which are you wanting more of right now in your life?

👇 1: Creating More Calm
👇 2: Creating More Balance

Share your choice in the comments! 🦋

🦋 Hi, I am Patti Oskvarek of Coaching For Inspiration with Patti. I’m a Leadership, Work-Life Balance, and Life coach, as well as a Reiki Master, who helps individuals achieve their dreams, goals, and aspirations and live more purposeful, balanced lives outside of work.

I share strategies for achieving work-life balance, practical work and life tips, work-life balance affirmations, building better relationships, navigating leadership situations, and more.

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