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Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships.

Summary

This podcast topic came from a listener’s request about not taking everything so personally.

Why do some people or cultures make it look so easy not to take things personally and others take every little thing to heart?

Is it the environment of how we are raised?

Or do some people have DNA that can let things roll off their back or turn the other cheek with ease?

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly sensitive in nature? 

How to overcome hurt by someone’s harsh words:
Remind yourself it’s about them not about you at that moment.  Maybe you did something they didn’t like. What did their words really say?  Was it about the behavior?  Or something else?


One tip is to watch your conditioning:
What are the annoyed and angry voices in your head regarding the household chores?
You will hear your expectations, you may hear your parents, but you will hear the frustration of someone else not doing what you want and thinking about what should be done.

This is your conditioning. So once you hear it. Simply say – ok – that’s my conditioning. It’s not that this person hates me or is insulting me – or wants me dead or ignores me.

This is my expectation about how things should be done. And then if you’re really angry maybe don’t speak with the other person!

But then think about how you could say to them what you want. But don’t expect them to do it the way you want because that may not be their conditioning!

Some strategies to help deal with and not take things personally:

  • Listen to happy, soothing, calming, or spiritual music when feelings start to surface within you.
  • Find something fun to do to help redirect thoughts.
  • Practice meditation and pray for “Letting Go” of things people have said.  
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when around certain people. Become aware of those thoughts and assumptions. Reflect on why these reactions are happening and how you can release or address them?
  • With friendships, coworkers, partners and family how has taking things personally affected these relationships?  What can I do to change it for the better

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly-sensitive in nature?

Do you feel you’re Feeling too much?

Feeling everything about you – you are the center of attention – are you the most important thing in a relationship?

What is a relationship?

A relationship is not just about you.

A relationship is like a dance – two people having a tango – push-pull. Not about just you and your feelings. ~ Angela Ambrosia

For meditations to help with hurt in relationships here is the video series “Choose the Relationship” by Angela Ambrosia. The meditations are at the end of the videos.


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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business

Summary:

To listen to podcast episode, Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business.

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a conversation about women and men in the workplace and more.  

(Patti) Angela, I recently saw an Instagram Reel of a young lady from Alabama who was looking for a place to do her eyelash business, and because she was a woman she was having a hard time getting a place even though her business was successful and had the money to make the rent.  She even had a male friend call and the landlords were going to rent to him but not to her.  This was shocking to me because I thought those days were gone. The link https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cbh4ClCjXkM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

(Patti) Do men make more money in the same position as women? YES or NO
To participate.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/polls/ or on Spotify.

(Angela) The Gig Economy is where everyone is moving away from full-time or part-time work to casual on-call work, as an Uber driver to an Online Entrepreneur to offering services in exchange for a fixed fee – like a coach or trainer, or other service providers.
And women have jumped on this for thousands of years before what we have now as a way to provide for their families while also cooking, housekeeping, and raising their young families. The modern gig economy is also increasing the demand for work-life balance so women and men can have time to be with their families and not work full-time hours.

How can women change their mindset to feel comfortable asking for what they are worth?

  1. Practice in the mirror asking for what you want at work.
  2. Write a script and memorize it so the words come out easy and confident.
  3. Say powerful daily affirmations for confidence and getting what you want.
  4. Get a mentor or coach to work with you on strategies to get what you want.

How can we have a better balance in the workplace between men and women whether it is pay, top management, or respecting each other?   We would love to hear your comments and feedback on this question.

Thank you so much for listening, please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to our podcast.

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Exploring Journaling For Managers and Supervisors From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 9 – Exploring Journaling For Managers and Supervisors From Chaos To Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors, How’s it going?

In today’s podcast episode, we will be exploring the technique of journaling in the workplace as a manager and supervisor and how it may help keep you in the proper perspective during challenging situations.

Journaling may work out specific problems, generate ideas, and brainstorm. Writing down thoughts, ideas, and emotions can help release tension and encourage creative thinking. This writing can help develop new ideas for products and services and improve customer service techniques. Focusing on the concept, process, or development through journaling may challenge you to discover creative solutions.

Journaling Questions:

  1. What happens if you react right now or at this moment?
  2. What will happen if you decide not to respond?
  3. What are the benefits of walking away and taking time to reflect before handling the situation?
  4. How can you handle this situation calmly?
  5. How will you overcome obstacles in the way?
  6. After you have time to reflect, how will you respond?
  7. What are your action steps now?

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Today’s podcast Affirmation:
I journal to make good decisions!

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Until next we meet again!

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Episode 63 – Becoming a Leader in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 63 – Becoming a Leaders in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Patti and Angela explore leadership in the workplace.  

Patti is a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach specializing in helping Managers and Supervisors. Patti has a monthly mini-podcast called Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm. This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who has focused on your career for years and now wants to live a more purposeful and balanced life outside of work. These mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day, from chaos to calm. Patti’s Podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm tackles issues that affect leaders directly. https://anchor.fm/exploringlifeandwork.

Here some questions to ask yourself and reflect on if you’re in a leadership role or thinking about pursuing a leadership position?

How do you speak to others?

Do you enjoy working with others?

Are you a team player?

Are you willing to be accountable for other people’s actions?

Are you ready to hold yourself responsible for your actions, admit when you are wrong, and apologize when needed?

Are you ready to give honest, constructive feedback to staff members?

Are you dedicated, dependable, trustworthy, ethical, and loyal to your company and employees?

How did you feel after answering these questions?

Being accountable for yourself and others is not something to take lightly. There are times when mistakes happen, and you have to accept the consequences of those mistakes and not blame everyone else around you but take responsibility even when one of your staff members did it. Then, learn from it and move on; believe me, Patti, know this is hard.

We tend to overthink it and beat ourselves up when mistakes happen, but reflecting on what happened as a lesson learned helps ease the process and strengthens relationships with yourself and others.

Leadership is an ongoing process of sometimes making mistakes and learning from those mistakes, and choosing not to make them again.

Reflect back on your working experience with your previous bosses.

What did you like about their leadership style?

What did you not like?

What makes a good leader?

How does a good leader create leaders in others?

 To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation

go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/

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Bonus Episode 1 – About BBR – Why Building Better Relationships Is Our Future With You

Click here to listen to the full podcast episode of Bonus Episode 1 – About BBR – Why Building Better Relationships Is Our Future With You.

Angela and Patti shared why they started Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti’s podcast in this bonus unedited live episode. Their vision for Building Better Relationships at Home and Work podcast, the future of relationships, and why we created the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation.

Right now, we understand that many people are struggling with relationships. The spectrum of problems ranges from isolation, social anxiety, and feeling unloved to unsatisfying relationships to relationships full of conflict and even abuse.

Patti and Angela started this podcast before the pandemic because, as a leader in the workplace, Patti saw people being taken advantage of and companies not appreciating employees.

As a teacher of love and relationships, Angela saw that people weren’t interested in looking at themselves and seemed to have lost the ability to find love because they didn’t know how to love or accept themselves.

We saw how more and more people at work and in society were becoming inconsiderate, lacking empathy, and just lost. But, most of all, we want to help our listeners have long-lasting loving relationships.

Follow us on Spotify and participate in the polls and answer the questions. https://open.spotify.com/show/4rVQIdCNrMoU3gRhZsvLt9

To purchase and find out more about the journal and meditation, go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal.

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Episode 61 – Twin Flame is it a Myth or Reality

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In this episode, Angela and Patti will discuss whether Twin Flame is a myth or the real deal.

This topic came about when someone asked Patti about twin flame. Patti didn’t know much about twin flame, so Patti asked Angela if she knew about the twin flame concept. Angela does and suggested we do a podcast episode on this topic.

Does the twin flame concept give the appearance of Fear of Missing Out? “Everyone else has this ideal relationship but I don’t”.

Constant Craving – remember KD Lang? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXqPjx94YMg

Angela – Remember the Diary of Bridget Jones Movies? 

1. Why do you want to have this powerful intimate connection?

2. If you want a life-long powerful intimate connection – what are you excited about sharing with someone over a life-time?  A life-long connection requires a different way of thinking about love – like being there for when this person goes through sickness, grief and even death.

3. What do you want to experience in being a witness to someone else’s life and journey?

4. If this person that you think is your twin flame does not stay in your life – why do you still want them to be in your life? What is it that you deeply want from a physical relationship with a partner?

Angela – In that film – I’m not spoiling it – but Susan Sarandon’s character says that she sees her role as a partner to be a witness to her husband and him to do that for her. For Angela is the greatest gift you can have with anybody – to witness their life and share in that person’s journey. Couples I see deeply bonded without labeling themselves as twin flames have discovered complete freedom in their relationship because they no longer look for their partner to fulfill some concept of love. – Instead, they sincerely appreciate the gift of being able to witness someone’s life and be part of their journey. The movie Shall we Dance does a great job of sharing that.

What soul group do you think is Angela and Patti?

Thank you, Angela, for sharing your expertise, in-depth explanation and opinion of twin flame and soulmates with the listeners and me.

We would love to hear about your perception, belief and experience with twin flame relationships.

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Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 8 – Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast, I talk about the real things that most people are afraid to talk about as a manager and supervisor.

Why is that? Fear. 

If not discussed, how will change happen?

As good managers and supervisors, our job is to lift employees’ to their highest potential, encourage them, build their self-confidence and help them succeed in what they do at work. 

What if the work culture doesn’t support this type of leadership philosophy?

Do it anyway. You and your employees need and want to be encouraged to flourish.  

But who inspires and uplifts the manager and supervisor?

(Yourself) and sometimes your staff will inspire you on difficult days.  

The area you manage will prosper compared to the work culture that tears others down around you.

How do you build self-confidence when others tear you down in the workplace?

  • Recite Affirmations throughout the day.
  • Take a break and get away from the office for a few minutes.
  • Take a walk to clear your mind.
  • Listen to some calming music.

Remember that people unhappy with themselves will tear down others, thinking they look good. But, instead, they don’t look good at all. When someone is verbally mean to you, step back and remember this. What is driving them to act unkind or controlling? 

Some people think that tearing down others makes them look better than others. But unfortunately, they are too busy clawing their way to the top to care about how they make others feel.

Say your boss gives you a project, and they take it back because you aren’t doing it the way they would. Again, it is their control issues that are surfacing. I understand this can hurt, primarily if you work very hard on the project. Reflect on what you can do in the future, so this doesn’t happen again? Ask questions on their thought process of what they want from this project. Occasionally update them on the project and how it is going. If you are silent and not updating, they may assume you are not as far ahead as you are. 

You are in a management meeting and asked for your opinion. A coworker disagrees with you wanting to show they are better than you to your boss while trying to provoke you to get upset react unprofessionally towards them. Before responding, reflect on this person who wants you to respond unfavorably. Breathe. If a response is expected, calmly say why this is your opinion and why it will work without lashing out at the coworker.

Make a difference in your workplace by being compassionate, empathic, a good mentor, honest, straightforward, and kind. The workplace needs more of this kind of leadership than destroying each other’s self-confidence and reputation; creating a cohesive workplace and lifting people will help change the workplace from chaos to calm.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am confident! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Click to listen to Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Angela and Patti discuss forgiving family members and hurtful words in this podcast episode.

Have you ever said something so hurtful and regretted it?

The same is true for family members who have said angry, hurtful words to you. Hurting people lash out at others. Words hurt profoundly, and a lot of times, and not forgotten. Speaking in anger can be dangerous for all relationships, even if it is accurate and how you are feeling at that moment in time. The damage has been created and really can’t take back.

Why do we say hurtful words? First, it’s helpful to understand why people become habituated to saying unkind things.

Understanding why people say hurtful things will help you see what the person is experiencing underneath the words.

Patti often says in our podcasts, “hurt people – hurt other people.”

Angela – I see that hurt people have no way to heal their hurt or resolve it – so they project it out – like spitting out the poison inside them – or when you spit out something that you don’t like in your mouth.

The thing is – it seems pretty stupid to spit out your hurt on someone else – if you want to stay friends with them.

So why would we do that?

Well, monkey sees – monkey do.

How do you forgive?

Forgiveness is the hardest thing for most people. Unforgiveness is a poison on your soul and spirit. Unfortunately, people with unforgiveness spill it out on others, and the cycle continues down the line.

Questions to journal or self reflect on:

Are apologies needed to be said before healing can happen? YES or NO

What if apologies never occur?

What if the family member doesn’t want to make amends?

How will you let go and forgive without an apology?

When unforgiveness takes over your thoughts and heart, recite the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer Ho’oponopono” at least three or more times. First, say the person’s name and then the prayer. Or you may not get a chance to apologize or get an apology; this prayer will assist in healing and forgive with a genuine desire to heal the relationship.

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

We would love to hear about your family dynamics and how you conquered and let go of the hurt from angry words said, whether you were telling them or directed at you.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-star review so more people can find and listen to the podcast.

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Exploring The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 7 – The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of being unheard and underappreciated at work?

This topic is for anyone who feels that they are not recognized or appreciated. As a manager and supervisor, this is a daily occurrence stuck in the middle between top management and employees and getting crap from both sides. So every day, you push down resentment, disappointment, words, anger, and chaos within yourself and others. 

One of these days, it will bubble over, and the dragon will explode with harsh words and actions.

You are to pretend everything is great when you don’t believe it yourself in the decisions made from above, but you have to enforce and ensure it is completed and done that way. You have to convince employees to change how they do things when they disagree and don’t want to.  

When you speak up with your concerns, you are ignored and labeled as trouble-makers or uncooperative. The yes people promote and get recognition for your work. You are the doer and get things done but not acknowledged for all your accomplishments.

Your boss has promised you a promotion numerous times, but it doesn’t happen, and eventually, a yes person gets the position and over you. 

How heartbreaking is that?

You’re so good at your job your boss doesn’t want you to move up they keep you stuck in a dead-end job or career.

Being ethical may get you passed over for a promotion. 

Why is that? 

Do employers want honorable people or not? 

Isn’t it better to be an honest person than not? 

I’m lost for words because this is really happening, people. 

Keeping your mouth shut is expected, and nodding your head in agreement is the norm instead of working together to make things better and sharing ideas and processes to streamline.  

Keeping mouths shut and agreeing is causing chaos, resentment, overload, anxiety, and burnout in the workplace because things aren’t getting done correctly and efficiently.  

How can this change?

How many of you out there has a boss you can sit down with and say; this isn’t working; the staff is frustrated and on overload? If you do. Show some appreciation to them every once in a while. They need encouragement to keep pushing on with a thankless job. These people want to make a difference and want to do what is right, and they do open their mouths and disagree at times, even when rejected and not appreciated.

When people feel appreciated, heard, and can express their ideas, they might go the extra mile to speak up and change the environment from chaos to calm.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am heard and appreciated! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Exploring The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Click here to listen to Episode 6 – The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will be discussing the technique of pausing before reacting or responding as a Manager or Supervisor.

Have you ever responded from a knee-jerk reaction and wished you hadn’t?

Have you considered stopping, pausing, and reflecting before reacting as a manager and supervisor when in the middle of chaos?

I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis. However, in leadership, we’re geared to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.

When taking a pause and time to reflect, we won’t jump immediately to the wrong conclusion or react unfavorably or lash out.

Many times in my career, I didn’t pause and reflect before responding, and I regretted it because it went from calm to chaos by my knee-jerk reaction.

Have you done that as well?

Think about all the times you reacted harshly or over the top.

How did that work for you?

Probably not good for you looking like an ass or for the person or people around you.

Do you wish you could go back in time and change your response?

Using the pause, reflecting before responding can help you not regret your reaction if used at that moment.

When at work and someone is rude to you and disagrees. Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will allow you time to reframe your response or decide not to react and change the situation from the emotions of chaos to calm.

Have you ever received an email at work that put you into a rage?

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send the email response right away. You may regret it and could damage your career or reputation!

I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending or replying some time or another.

What if you do receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?

Before responding to the email:

  • Write out your reply.
  • Please don’t send it and walk away. If possible, sleep on it.
  • Rewrite the email response when you have calmed down.
  • Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

Here’s A Quote To Remember: “Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – author unknown

Don’t get me wrong, as a manager or supervisor. You have to be direct with employees to inspire them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue.

  • Have a plan on how to address it.
  • Write it out and practice what and how to say it.

There are also times when you need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect.

What is happening around you?

It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

How can you practice pausing and reflecting into your leadership routine and have it become a habit?

Here are some Self Reflection Questions to Ponder or Journal about:

What are your thoughts about pausing and reflecting?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Today’s podcast Affirmation ~ I pause and reflect before responding!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until next we meet again! ~ Patti

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