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Removing Gossip, Negative Thoughts and Self-Doubt from Daily Life


A few weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The eighth key action step is working on “Removing Gossip, Negative Thoughts and Self- Doubt from daily life”.

Removing Gossip, Negative Thoughts and Self-Doubt:

Start With Creating Peace, Love and Joy.  When I ask this question:  What do you really want in life?  People have expressed all they really want in their lives is peace and love. How do you find peace and love in your life?  I believe before you can have peace, joy and love in your life. You should reflect peace and love within yourself.

How do you reflect peace?   By realizing, yes, you have made some mistakes and those mistakes sometimes follow you. Everyone makes mistakes and it is time to let go of that baggage which loads you down and forgive yourself. Once you learn to love and respect yourself your heart will open to receive love from others.  You will begin to treat others with love and kindness and love and kindness will circle back to you.  Peace and calmness will come into your life as well as those around you.  Walking away from gossip and speaking bad about others will improve your relationships and discontinue negative thought patterns.

How to Halt Negative Thought Patterns:

To stop those negative thoughts about yourself and others. Begin by obtaining a small journal and writing down all your good qualities and the good qualities of people around you. Make a list of the good qualities you want to reflect in your life.  Anytime you start to feel the self-doubt or negative thoughts. Pull out that small journal and reflect on those words you written and read them.  Perform this exercise to open your heart to receive love and peace within.

Being Confident and Removing Self-Doubt:

Back in January of 2014 I had created this poll.

The number one reason was Self-Doubt or Confidence.

Why do you think Self-Doubt or Confidence was number one?

Why are people afraid to pursue their dreams or aspirations?  Isn’t it better to go after your dreams?  Absolutely!  Have a plan, it will take time and perseverance.  I recall sometime back I had read an article which discussed when people were close to dying they wished they took more chances and didn’t worry about what others thought of them.

Can you imagine how many happy and satisfied people there would be in this world, if they pursued their goals and dreams? 

How do you live the life you imagined?

Start with creating an action plan.  Ask yourself the following questions:

  • What do you really want in your life?
  • What do you need in your life to accomplish it?
  • What steps will you take?
  • What may prevent you from achieving it?
  • How will you move past those obstacles and achieve what you want?

Right now!  The life you’re leading:

  • Is it acceptable or satisfying to you? 
  • Is there something more you want? 
  • Can you imagine how different your life would be if you followed these steps to accomplish the life you imagined?

Self-doubt hinders you.  Be passionate, persistent, patient and flexible. Keep moving forward.   It will happen!  Life is an adventure where are you taking yours? – Patti

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Look up and see LIFE!

Look up

What is around YOU?

Two weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  One of the key action steps was putting gratitude into our life and actions.

The other day I read a post from actor Keanu Reeves.  It was absolutely beautiful about seeing life around you.  Here is what he said about a photo of him and the background of a busy city and everyone rushing around:

You see these people behind me? They are rushing to work and not paying attention to anything. Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily lives that we forget to take the time out to enjoy the beauty in life. It’s like we’re zombies. Look up and take your head phones out. Say Hi to someone you see and maybe give a hug to someone who looks like they’re hurting. Help out someone. You have to live every day like it’s your last. What people don’t know about me is that I had depression a couple of years back. I never told anyone about it. I had to fight my way out of depression. The person who was holding me back from my happiness was ME. Every day is precious so let’s treat it like that. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so live today! I hope you share this post to spread love this holiday.” ~ Keanu Reeves

So many people are lonely and/or depressed.  Reaching out with a hello, a smile or hug could really change their day for the better.  We make ourselves so busy we lose sight of what is really important in life.  Look up, enjoy life and others.

I also read this wonderful story a few days ago and I don’t know who wrote it but I thought I would share:

“One day a very wealthy father took his son on a trip to the country for the sole purpose of showing his son how it was to be poor. They spent a few days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.

After their return from the trip, the father asked his son how he liked the trip. “It was great, Dad,” the son replied. “Did you see how poor people can be?” the father asked. “Oh Yeah,” said the son.

“So what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father. The son answered, “I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.

We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.

We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.” The boy’s father was speechless. Then his son added, “It showed me just how poor we really are.”

What a great perspective.  Too many times we forget what we have and concentrate on what we don’t have. What is one person’s worthless object is another’s prize possession. It is all based on one’s perspective.  Sometimes it takes the perspective of a child to remind us what’s important.” ~ Unknown

Some people are not thankful for what they have and are wanting what others have.  They are not grateful for the love ones they have in their life and are too busy wanting more instead of enjoying what they have.

The moral of these two stories is to be grateful, enjoy what you have and what is around you.  Be kind and love others.  Quit comparing yourself to others and appreciate what you have because what someone else has may not be right for you.  Enjoy life to the fullest. ~ Patti 🙂

Self-reflection questions:

  • What are you grateful for in your life?
  • How are you going to show kindness towards others?
  • How are you going to stop comparing yourself to others?
  • What steps are you going to take to enjoy life?

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Feeling Isolated

Have you ever felt so alone?  Even when there are many people all around you?  We all go through heart ache or times when we just want to pull the covers over our heads and not get up.  How do we get over this?  Everyone handles things differently. My experience is letting people in even when you feel like shutting down and pushing them away.  It is really hard for me personally to let friends or family in when I’m shutting down and wanting to isolate myself.  Being an only child, I like the feeling of being alone it recharges me, however isolating myself when things are rough is not always the answer.  What is the remedy?

Well, that’s a good question?  Everyone is different and their wants and needs vary.  Think about what you wanted when you were going through difficult times?  Did you want someone to listen to you?  How had you interacted with others?  What would of made things easier for you?  How do you wish people would have treated you?  If a friend or family member is going through something grueling or painful put yourself in their shoes and treat them like you want to be treated.  Listen with your ears and feel compassion with your heart.  Be kind, gentle, and compassionate to them. Show you care by being YOU. ~ Patti


What steps will you take to remove loneliness in your life?

How can you show up in others lives?

What can you possibly do to help others going through loneliness, sadness or loss?

It would be wonderful to see your thoughts and comments on this topic.  Please share below. 

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Judging and Assuming the Worst in Others

Judging and Assuming the Worst in Others

Why do some people look for the worst or negative in others or in situations?  Why do people assume you are judging them?  Why are people so quick to point out their opinions and interrupt you when you are talking?  Or express such harsh points of view that are not even close to the truth instead of listening and assuming the worst.  Why are some so quick to judge instead of being open and listen to the other person to explain the situation?  Why don’t people talk to each other instead of behind the other persons back?  Why has this concept become acceptable?  What happened to compassion, integrity and respect of others?  Why do people feel the need to gossip and create drama everywhere they go?  Why are some people just so mean?  Why is there so much hostility towards one another?

What happen to kindness, patience and truthfulness?

How can we change this behavior in our personal lives and work environment?  I think one person at a time not getting sucked into this conduct by walking away or stating I’m not going to participate in this activity anymore.

Why would we want discord and upheaval in our lives?  We should want to encourage others to follow their dreams and aspirations?  When people are complacent they sometimes become miserable and angry with their situation and take it out on others.  It is time to change this demeanor and be pleasant to each other by listening and having some empathy?  How about it? Let’s live our lives with joy instead of distress! 🙂 ~ Patti

What are your thoughts?

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