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How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership

As a leader, have you stopped, pause, and reflected before reacting?  I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis.  We want to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.  When pausing, we won’t jump immediately into the wrong conclusion.

Incorporating the Art of Pause into Leadership:

The PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
When at work and someone is rude to you. Or you don’t agree with them.  Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will give you time to reframe your reply or decide not to respond at all.

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send an email response you will regret!
I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending sometime or another.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?  
 Before responding to the email.  Write out your reply. Don’t send it and walk away. If possible sleep on it.  Then rewrite the email response, when you have calmed down. Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

“Anger doesn’t solve anything.  It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – unknown

Don’t get me wrong as a leader. There are times you have to be direct with employees for them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue. Have a plan on how to address it.  Write it out and practice what and how to say it. There are also times when you do need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect. What is happening around you?  It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

Discussion Questions:

What are your thoughts about the art of pause?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Comments are always welcome.  You can always use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to respond.  🙂   Did you find this helpful?  if so, please share this blog post with your colleagues, friends, and family on all your social networks!  Thank you. 🙂

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Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

This mini course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in life beyond their career.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!

Enroll today for $25.00

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 9 – Take Time for You and Your Family

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Episode 9 – Take Time for You and Your Family

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss the importance of alone time for yourself, incorporating family time, visualizing better family dynamics with some tips and strategies to make it happen.

To Listen to the Podcast Click Here

Patti  talks about the benefits of taking time for yourself and spending precious time with family.

  • Let’s the brain rest
  • Improves concentration
  • Boosts creativity
  • Helps with problem solving
  • Reflection time to understand yourself and be a nicer person
  • Creates relaxation and calmness

Spend time with family, spouse/partner and really give them our full attention without focusing and thinking of work.

  • How do we do this?
  • When should we do this?
  • How often should we do this?
  • What is really important to you?

Reflect on these questions and realize we really need our family, our spouse/partner in our lives.  They keep us balanced, grateful and loved.

Here are the links to Patti’s blog posts about spending time with family and planning a vacation:

Summertime Inspiration https://wp.me/p3W3dA-URL

Time to Plan a vacation https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UHC

Do you want harmony and balance in your life? Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program. The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective. During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook.  www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com

Angela talks about Family Dynamics and they can often be challenging for reasons we can’t always put our finger on. There is often a tension in families – that create unexpressed hurts from a situation in the past. So if you have a challenging family start by realizing your family is not unusual! We all have quirks in families – and some of us have really strong issues in families – so we tend to run away from them!

How do you move past these?

Go back to questions above:

  • How do we do this?
  • When should we do this?
  • How often should we do this?
  • What is really important to you?

Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

Please share this podcast with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.  Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Anchor for contributing to this podcast.

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Taking Time for You and Your Family – Today’s Facebook Live

Join us live with your questions at Building Better Relationships Facebook Group we will be discussing:

Taking Time for You and Your Family

May 20, 2019

6:00 PM PST,

9:00 PM EST,

and 11:00 AM May 21, 2019 in Sydney, Australia.

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

or

Listen to our monthly podcast – click the link below:

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Podcast

Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics?   Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and  discover more about the program.

Do you want harmony and balance in your life?  Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program.  The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective.  During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook.

 

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 8 – Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth

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   Episode 8 – Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth!  

To Listen to the Podcast Click Here 

What is the concept of Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth?

Each day is a new beginning.  The sunrises and the sunsets. Time to release the old and start again.  Wiping the slate clean.  It’s often difficult to release bad situations, relationships or past regrets.  Rediscovering is about looking forward to the future and letting go of the past, which is holding us back on what we really want in life.  When you watch a sunrise it affirms a brand new day and life continues to go on. In the cycle of life, plants died in the fall and rebirth in spring. There is a time to end and a time to begin.  The challenge is facing the fear of transition or change and be willing to rediscover yourself.   

A Time for Everything    

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 New International Version (NIV)

Patti  talks about career transition and making a career journal. You can more learn more about these topics from the following blog posts below:

Making a Career Journalhttps://wp.me/p3W3dA-UfY

Lifescaping ~ What is holding you back in life?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-V8n

Feeling Stuck in a Dead End Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

This Job is Killing Me… What to Do? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UOY

Angela talks about rebirthing the Body. Sometimes your body needs to restore so your natural rhythms can come into sync and you can rebirth your spiritual energy or reinvigorate your aspirations.

Creating a “Fallow field” for the Personality Habit of Pushing.  Giving yourself time to slow down.   Become in rhythm with your needs, nature and not rush.  Modern Society forces you to rush and it is becoming faster.   How do you say – NO and find your natural rhythm? Letting go.

On May 11, 2019 Angela will be doing a Movement Meditation ~ Align with Nature in Sydney Australia.  https://www.facebook.com/events/308427649823591

Interested in releasing karma?  Why not set up a Relationship Clarity Call with Angela to remove once and for all old habits of relationships. https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com

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Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

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Building Better Relationships Facebook Live Today

Join us at Building Better Relationships Facebook Group we will be discussing Rediscovering Yourself & Rebirth.  April 29, 2019  6:00 PM PST 9:00 PM EST and 11:00 AM Next Day in Sydney.

What is the concept of Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth?

Each day is a new beginning.  The sunrises and the sunsets. Time to release the old and start again.  Wiping the slate clean.  It’s often difficult to release bad situations, relationships or past regrets.  Rediscovering is about looking forward to the future and letting go of the past, which is holding us back on what we really want in life.  When you watch a sunrise it affirms a brand new day and life continues to go on. In the cycle of life, plants died in the fall and rebirth in spring. There is a time to end and a time to begin.  The challenge is facing the fear of transition or change and be willing to rediscover yourself.

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

To listen to our monthly podcasts click below:

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Podcast

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When There Isn’t Enough and Emotions Get in the Way

In today’s blog post I am going to tell a story about getting upset over a situation which may sound ridiculous.

Recently, I was at the bowling alley.  I get to the bowling alley pretty early to reserve a table and chairs for my team. Tables are precious commodity because there are not enough tables for all the bowling teams.  If you don’t get a table your team has to sit down on the lanes or stand up all night.

Past experience:

I’ve had people actually move my stuff off the table or take chairs if I walked away.  Now, when I get a table I feel I can’t even walk away until one of my bowling team members comes and sits down.

Usually, I am pretty easy-going and don’t confront people on their rude behaviors.  But this particular day I had enough and said something.

My version of what happened:

This guy (I will call him Fred) from another bowling team grabbed one of the chairs at my table and move it so his daughter could sit down and Fred put her right in front of our table.  He didn’t say anything to me just grabbed the chair.  If Fred had asked me I would have said sure she can have the chair and go get another chair.

Here are the thoughts that were going in my head:

I get there an hour and a half early to reserve the table and chairs and Fred walks in 15 minutes before bowling starts and acts like he owns the place.

So I said to Fred you need to get me another chair.  He said ma’am you are being rude just take another chair from the table next to you.  Then one of his team members says to me “you already have 6 chairs”.  I had 5 chairs for the 5 team members on my team.  I wasn’t going to take one from another reserved table.

Then Fred commanded his daughter to grab a chair from the table next to me which another team had been saving almost as long as me.   His daughter didn’t want to do it.  But Fred insisted and she did.

I was so angry.  Usually, I wouldn’t have been mad or even said anything but his attitude and arrogance reeked of “I don’t care” and “I am going to do what I want”.  No consideration at all to others.

So I told (Chuck, not real name) on another team what happened and Fred said “quit talking behind my back the chair was for my daughter”.  This made Chuck very uncomfortable, he got up and said I don’t know what to tell you, talk to the league secretary.  Later, I found out Fred and Chuck are sort of friends.  (Awkward!).  The reason I told Chuck is because he was there early just like me and has had similar things happen with his tables.

Feeling embarrassed and betrayed I did a group text to my bowling team about the chair incident.  This foolish chair escapade had me upset all night, needless to say I didn’t bowl good, however Fred did.

At the end of the bowling night one of my team members (Seth, not real name) went and spoke with Fred.  Fred told Seth that he had a rough day and he was just getting the chair for his daughter.  Seth said to Fred if you asked her she would have gladly given you the chair.

Why do we get so upset over the little things and continue not to let it go?

Yes, I should have probably handled the situation in a totally different way but I didn’t.  Yes, I probably shouldn’t have gotten other people involved, but I did.

Was it ridiculous to get upset over a chair?

Maybe, however the small things will continue to add up into bigger things when the issue is not resolved.

Takeaway:

We all make choices whether good or bad throughout life.  Each day is a learning lesson.  Sometimes not saying anything is the best result.  Maybe the less we respond to rude people, the less drama we create in our lives.  Here is a good reminder. You may never know what someone else is going through and just maybe they’re having a really bad day.  Be kind anyways. ~ Patti 🦋

🦋 My question for you 🦋

 How would you have handled this situation?

 

Comments are always welcome.  

Please share this blog post with your colleagues, friends, and family on all your social networks! 

Are you interested in one to one coaching with me?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

Do you want better relationships? If yes, come hang out with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship coach and me while listening to all of our podcast adventures called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Podcast

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Episode 7 – How Change Inspires Relationships! [Podcast]

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

How Change Inspires Relationships!

To listen to Episode 7 click here – How Change Inspire Relationships!

Patti’s Thoughts on work relationships:
Change is good in the workplace because people don’t get bored and they learn new things.  It is easy to go through the motions if you do the same job function everyday.  People leaving the team and new people coming onto the team is good.  New ideas and new energy comes to the team.  New projects and different new challenges keeps everyone thinking and motivated.  The same old stuff day after day demotivates staff.  Learning new ways and methods helps the team members grow.  Now, change can come with upheaval at first.  People have to learn how to communicate with each other.  There maybe some growing pains.  It also puts new perspective on the job.  If you don’t like what is changing you have other options to move on yourself.  That isn’t a bad thing.  It is a way of reflecting is it time for me to make a change as well.  It could be a new boss or a new job assignment that you just don’t like.  What is this telling you about yourself or the job?  Is it time to move on or will I stay and see how it works out for me?  Change is part of life however at first it is scary and uncertain.  Sometimes it is for the better and sometimes it helps us improve by the experience.  It depends on how hard you fight it.
Angela’s Thoughts on personal relationships:  
Your partner is a mystery. Too often we get comfortable or bored with our partner. How do you know you really know them? You know their habits.  Do you know them?  How can you see your partner as a mystery? Do you have a question that you want to ask your partner – have you already assumed you “know” how they will answer…notice how you tend to put them in a box.  Some ideas on how to get to know your partner in different context.  Board games that involve moral questions like “scruples” a new card game or game, dance class, a challenging hike or outdoor adventure, book a trip somewhere for a weekend and don’t tell them where you’re going.  Take a train ride instead of the car.  Trying different modes of transport and feel what it’s like to share a new experience with your partner.

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Brandless for supporting our podcast.  To learn more about Brandless click here on the link.

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Facebook Live Today – How Change Can Inspire Your Relationships



Come check us out today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

March 18, 2019
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:00 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:00 PM Central Standard Time
8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
March 19, 2019
11 AM Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

To listen to our monthly podcasts click below:

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Episode 2 – Getting Social Beyond Social Media – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti [Podcast]


Episode 2Getting Social Beyond Social Media

In case you missed this past podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss being able to be social without being stuck to the phone.

Click here to listen – Getting Social Beyond Social Media

People are losing face to face contact.  There is home schooling, working from home, solo-entrepreneurs, single parenting and much more.  Distance over internet makes people bold, they feel comfort behind electronics.  Interacting face to face, shy people feel more uncomfortable and their not forced to socialize.

How do you get social away from the phone?

Recap:

  • Go and get face to face with others, and put the phone away.
  • Go to the same place and same time every week and possibly you will see the same people every week and make a connection.
  • Start going to meetups groups.

Patti’s view:

  • Stretch out of your comfort zone.
  • People cut themselves off from social opportunities before they even get there.

Strategy – Pick a place and go once a week.  Get past the What IF of past fear of rejection.  Sometimes you may never know who you may meet by taking a chance.  Take the risk and leave the what-ifs behind.  The most fun times, has been talking to strangers about the weirdest things!

Angela’s view:

Connecting to your heart and writing exercise.

What do you want to experience socially?

  • Not everyone wants romance.
  • If someone invites you to go somewhere.  Say yes.
  • Find people with same interests as you.

Please share this podcast with others, push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Anchor for supporting our podcast.

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

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Building Better Relationships [Podcast] – Episode 6 – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?

Episode 6 podcast – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?   In this podcast Patti and Angela discuss how the cell phone can enhance and limit relationships with others.  They also talk about their personal relationships with their own phones. 

Click here to listen – How’s Your Love Life With Your Phone? 

Take the poll and then listen to Patti and Angela answer to this question.  You may be surprised!

Here’s the quote Patti read in the podcast:

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Discover Patti’s new online course:  INCREDIBLE WORK-LIFE BALANCE HACKS for BUSY LEADERS
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Check out the ENERGY BODY OF SELF ACCEPTANCE PROGRAM 

Put Your Relationship with yourself as a priority and discover a simple energy system with movement and exercises that empower you to accept yourself, overcome old habits and discover what love is that allows self acceptance to happen effortlessly. https://bit.ly/2BMG79s

Read Angela’s blog post Turn OFF Your Phone and Get Turned ON 

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Brandless for supporting our podcast.  To learn more about Brandless click here on the link.

Want even more relationships tips? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

Are you interested in coaching with Patti?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com