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How To Conquer The “What If’s” Syndrome Of Hiring

It is time to hire – A valuable team member who has taken another position, and it is time to start the hiring process for their job. You think you won’t be able to find someone else who could bring as much value to the workplace or be a nightmare of “The What If’s.”

As a Manager, hiring can be challenging and stressful at the same time. Thoughts run through your head of “The What if’s.”

What if’s – I choose the wrong person for the position. They have interviewed well and know what to say, but they are not coachable or have a toxic attitude towards customers, coworkers, and me when they come in.

Yes, hiring someone may be stressful for you, your team, and the interviewee. Wanting to make the right decision can at times overtake you. Relax, pause and take time to clear your mind to reason. You don’t have to make the final decision in one day. List the pros and cons of the top two candidates. What did they communicate from the interview and resume (CV), and what strengths does the team want and need from the potential candidate to make the team unit more substantial and more efficient? What expertise does this candidate bring that can help the team succeed.

Things to consider in the hiring process:

  • Have a least one team member in the first interview. 
  • How about bringing back the two top candidates for a second interview and have them interact with your team. 
  • Have team members go over the job duties and show them an average day on the job. Candidates feel at ease when with a team member and may open up more.
  • After their interaction with the candidate, have them meet with you again informally to ask questions they may have. Putting this into action will tell you a lot the more relaxed they are and get more of a feel of their personality.
  • Later after the top two candidates have come back for the second interview and met with staff, ask the staff what their thoughts are. Remember they have to work with this person. Their opinions are priceless because they could save a lot of damage to you and the team in the end, and this is where trust and honesty come into play. Do they feel comfortable telling you how they think? Do they feel safe to express their opinions? 
  • Now you have the ultimate decision and are responsible for it. If you have communicated well with your team, and understand that and respect your decision. Your employees need to know that you appreciate their feedback and respect their perspectives. 
  • Some employees may feel more comfortable giving feedback privately, and sometimes the team may want a group meeting to share their thoughts with you. That is where you know you have a team that cares about the job and the work environment and you as their leader.

If you are blessed to have this hiring practice and employees honest feedback, it is rare in a workplace. As a manager or supervisor, you want to strive for this kind of teamwork and work environment.

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Perfection Doesn’t Equal A Outstanding Leader!

I’m sure we have all meet someone who seems to have it all together and projects they have a perfect life. They post all this fun and fabulous stuff on Facebook about their life. They have a great career, a huge house, a brand new car, and a loving home life from appearances, then, later on, you find out it was all a show.  

What about a leader that appears to be perfect?

Is anyone genuinely perfect? Hell no, we all have quirks, habits, personalities that may rub someone the wrong way at times and make mistakes; that is what a human does.  

Do you respect someone who looks and acts like they are perfect, or do you question their authenticity? 

Who do you respect more, someone who is a hot mess but holds it all together or a fake perfect person that is always looking to make a great impression?

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should scatter all your dirty laundry around at work. However, when someone comes across as always perfect and doesn’t make mistakes, it leaves suspicion and lack of trust. By not showing your human side, it is hard to build lasting relationships. You may be called a fair-weather person.

What makes a good leader is they admit they are imperfect and care about doing a good job, the staff, their coworkers, and customers.

What are your thoughts?
🦋 Does perfection equal an outstanding leader?
🦋 Or something completely different?

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You’ve Got A Pulse – You Got The Job! The Cause and Affect of This Philosophy.


The other day I was at an appointment, and the doctor told me that they were desperate to hire someone quickly. She said if they got a pulse, they got the job. We both laughed. She said we need another body in here as soon as possible. Sometimes, I said, you know, that doesn’t always work out because they may not be a good fit or worker with that philosophy. The funny thing is my husband was talking to me a while back and suggested that I should write a blog post for “You’ve Got A Pulse, You Got the Job!” I guess God and the universe are telling me it is time to write it.

Filling a chair or position to have a body in it is not a very good idea. When hiring supervisors don’t spend the time to make sure the candidate is someone qualified and will connect well with staff and customers in the long run, it will cause more anguish for everyone involved.  Why is that?  

One person’s bad attitude, incompetency, or lack of motivation can destroy a cohesive work environment.

Yes, I understand that some companies are understaffed and need people immediately because of high turnover, high caseload, or staffing ratio to the patients or security and safety reasons. However, look at time and expense training someone you will eventually have to let go, or worse, keep someone that is incompetent or a kick-starter to the other employees and customers and causes turmoil in the workplace.

Lowering the hiring standards is not the answer!

Take some time in the hiring process to get to know the candidate. Review the resume and job application. Does this person change jobs every few months? If so, why? Are they promotions or some other reason listed? If not listed, ask the candidate. What kind of positions have they done in the past? Is it equal to the job qualifications? Have specific questions about the job in the interview for the candidate to answer. Were the answers clear and concise, and right? After the interview, call the candidate’s references. Have specific questions about attendance, team player, customer service, and work performance.

If references check out with useful recommendations to the questions answered, ask the candidate to come back and meet your staff if this allowable in your company. Have the candidate engage with the team maybe see what the job duties entail. Remember, the employees have a vested interest because they have to work with this person too. If you have an open, honest relationship with your employees, they will give you their opinion. Ultimately you have the final answer on who to hire and who not to hire.

Spending a little time checking out the candidate may save you, your staff, and customers frustration and protect the company bottom-line on training the wrong person.

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Sweet Home Carolina – The Story of a Woman Who Had Burnout and Then Found Joy!

This month’s topic theme is going to be about burnout. Has it ever happened to you? It is not fun, but it is becoming more common for people in management positions and high demanding careers.

I came across this movie, “Sweet Home Carolina,” on Tubi. It starts with Diane sitting in her office, not answering her office phone, and hyperventilating into a brown bag.

Burnout is what happens when the soul whispering against an unhealthy job or relationship. – Dr. Dina Glouberman

Diane is an Advertising Executive, and her personal life is a mess. She works long hours and has a habit of picking up her youngest child late from school. Her oldest teenage daughter is angry with her over the divorce of her parents and blames Diane. Diane is receiving collection notices in the mail. She is a train wreck ready to happen. Family dinners consist of frozen lasagna and Diane drinking a few glasses of wine before going to bed.

Don’t get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life. – Dolly Parton

When Diane thought her life couldn’t get any worst. Her boss called her into his office and gave away her biggest client to a coworker. Then told her she needed to take some time off (permanently). A life preserver happened; her Aunt, who recently passed away, left her a house in a small town in South Carolina. The stipulations were taking care of her Aunt’s dog and living in the house for a year. She subleased her home in Los Angeles, and she and her daughters moved.

Don’t accept burnout as the price or definition of success. – Jon Acuff

The demanding career, the big house, and a fancy car is not everything. What makes true happiness? In Diane’s case, she realized that most important to her was a loving, respectful relationship with her daughters, a good man who loved her deeply, and a small town of caring people.

Sometimes we choose a career because of the large paycheck and later realize the job has cost us more than we bargained. No social life, no friends, damaged love life, estranged family, health problems, a lack of purpose, and what happened to my enthusiasm and happiness?

Think about your life. Is this the way I want my story to end?  

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What! Sensitively Training?

Recently I was searching for something to watch on Prime Video and came across the movie “Sensitively Training.” I thought it would be interesting since this is a pretty hot topic, and it is about a business/life coach and her reluctant client.

Serena (client) is a microbiologist, and she is excellent with bacteria but not so good with people. She had no filter; she said whatever she thought no holding back. After belittling a colleague in a staff meeting, and then the coworker committed suicide, Serena is mandated into sensitivity training with Caroline (coach). Caroline has a positive outlook of life, and she represents everything Serena dislikes, but Caroline is determined to help Serena. Caroline was at a crossroads in her coaching career. She wanted to coach on more than sexual harassment cases and make a difference in people’s lives. In the movie, the coaching/client relationship becomes unprofessionally blurred at times; however, Serena had positive behavioral results from the coaching process.

What is sensitively training?
It is a form of training, with the goal of making people more aware of their own goals as well as their prejudices, and more sensitive to others and to the dynamics of group interaction. 

What is workplace sensitivity training?
 It ensures that everyone in the workplace is respected and treated appropriately, regardless of who they are while learning to be respectful and consider the perspectives of others.

What is respectful workplace training?  It has a different approach, which isn’t about being broken and needing to be fixed. It allows you to be you, but with a different lens to look through.

What are some coaching and training topics for Workplace Sensitivity and Respectful Workplace?

  1. Anger Management
  2. Bullying
  3. Communication & Coaching for Leaders
  4. Managing Workplace Conflict
  5. Promoting Positive Personal Conduct
  6. Respectful Workplace and Communication
  7. Sexual Harassment

Serena had a wake-up call (Sensitivity Coaching and Training) that changed her personal and professional life forever. She was smiling, happy, and enjoying life for the first time. Serena had a friend, a pet (turtle), and a relationship with her half-brother. She was listening and engaging with her staff. As a team, they came up with a solution to a problem bacteria, for Serena sensitivity coaching and training was the best thing that had ever happened to her.

There are times throughout our careers; we may say something offensive to someone and not even realize it. It was unintentional; however, we learn from those mistakes and continue to grow as managers, supervisors, and leaders. Apologize when appropriate. Take time to listen, observe, and be open to other people’s points of view. Be coachable. Take training courses on new leadership strategies. Hire a coach to help you get through any challenges you are facing. Learn from your daily interactions and reflect on how to do better next time around. ~ Patti

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Laughter in the Workplace? Why is it Important?

During these uncertain and stressful times, more than ever, we need joy in our daily lives. Whether at work or home. A smile can change someone’s day from gloomy to joyful; showing some compassion when a coworker is at their breaking point or providing a little laughter can help everyone get through these unusual circumstances.

A good laugh heals a lot of hurts. — Madeleine L’Engle

What are the benefits of laughter in the workplace?

Laughter can lower stress and boredom, strengthen the immune system, and enhance team engagement, collaboration, creativity, and well-being. It relaxes the body and defuses conflict.

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. — Victor Borge

Reflections Questions:

How can you brighten someone’s day with a little laughter?

When were some times you and your team laugh at work?

What can you do to encourage laughter in the workplace?

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How to Respond to Unprofessional People!

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone unprofessional. They may come across like they don’t care, don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or even realize their behavior is unprofessional. How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. Why? Because it is uncomfortable. Whether new or experienced, many supervisors shy away from confrontation, thinking that the behavior will go away. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse when it’s not dealt with and continues.

Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. People can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

🦋 Calmly explain to the unprofessional person how to be treated with respect. Give an example of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some examples:

  • “When you roll your eyes at me while I am speaking to you, this makes me feel disrespected. ”
  • “When you don’t respond to me with an answer, I feel frustrated and ignored. Please respond promptly.” (In this example, it could be in person, email, text, etc.)

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ~ Ashleigh Warner

If we are all honest, there are times in our careers when we have been unprofessional. A coworker pushed us over the edge with a passive-aggressive comment. The harsh boss that embarrassed you in front of your peers or a group meeting and yelled at everyone because of one coworker’s lousy behavior and ruins everyone’s day. An argument in a staff meeting went over the top.

I think this is one of the most challenging aspects of any job when working with the public or collaborating with coworkers. “How do I respond to unprofessional people?”

Why?

There are numerous reasons. Coworkers can be defensive, rude, sarcastic, have their own agenda, and be plain difficult. Some even enjoy causing workplace drama and spreading rumors. They get high while watching the sh*t fly as the tension builds and the hostility grows around them.

We spend more time with our coworkers than with family. Coworkers sometimes know us better than we know ourselves. Some even like to push our buttons so that we will react unfavorably.

Some people don’t have speaking filters. They talk at the same time as the thoughts enter their head. They don’t even know what they said was unkind, disrespectful, or demeaning. Some people, you can’t approach them about their unprofessional behavior as a coworker. You may need to discuss the situation with your supervisor.

How can you make the most of it?

Before you approach the unprofessional person:

  1. Think about how they will respond.
  2. Have a plan of action on how to communicate with recommended solutions.
  3. Be prepared.

Will they accept the feedback or react unfavorably towards you.

No matter how awful someone treats you. Stop, reflect, and walk away. I know it is hard to walk away when emotions overtake you. However, just because you don’t react, it doesn’t mean you didn’t notice the behavior or accept it. The only way to stop a toxic person is not to engage with them. Address the situation later when you both have time to think it over and calm down, not in the heat of the moment. Choose your battles carefully. Sometimes responding in anger makes you look like a fool in front of others.

Questions:

Reflect on your career.

🦋 What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessional?

🦋 What did you learn from these experiences?

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Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!

Lately, I have been hearing this phrase when people are talking about their coworkers.

Don’t be that guy! 

Employers and staff may use this term when someone has committed bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong.  In some organizations, they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. The poster child of what not to be in the workplace.

Is shaming an effective management strategy? 

Some say yes because it represents what not to do in the workplace and halts people from doing it.

How does “Don’t be that Person” cope with being the scapegoat?

Some quit some stay and deal with the whispering behind their backs and the harsh judgment while others checkout (isolate themselves).

Maybe some organizations want this type of shaming to keep things under control.  If so, something is wrong.  Someone once told me you live in a fantasy world if you think this type of management strategy will change. 

What do you think?


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Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

Angela and Patti share communication tips at work.  How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships.  How to ask yourself the questions to determine how to manage your emotions.  To listen to the full podcast episode click below:

What does this meme tell you?

Take a look at yourself.  
Is the relationship problem really you?  
What is it about this person that triggers you?  
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone?  Do they remind you of something you don’t like within yourself?

Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.

Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding.  This gives you time to change your response or don’t respond at all.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?  
Before responding back to the email.  Write out your response.  Don’t send it!  Walk away for awhile.  Sleep on it, if you don’t have to respond within the same day.  Then rewrite it when you have calmed down.  Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button. 

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons?  Make your decision from there.  Is there more good reason to stay?  Or reasons to leave.  

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Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore.

How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

Warning Signs – Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs

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