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Exploring The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 7 – The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of being unheard and underappreciated at work?

This topic is for anyone who feels that they are not recognized or appreciated. As a manager and supervisor, this is a daily occurrence stuck in the middle between top management and employees and getting crap from both sides. So every day, you push down resentment, disappointment, words, anger, and chaos within yourself and others. 

One of these days, it will bubble over, and the dragon will explode with harsh words and actions.

You are to pretend everything is great when you don’t believe it yourself in the decisions made from above, but you have to enforce and ensure it is completed and done that way. You have to convince employees to change how they do things when they disagree and don’t want to.  

When you speak up with your concerns, you are ignored and labeled as trouble-makers or uncooperative. The yes people promote and get recognition for your work. You are the doer and get things done but not acknowledged for all your accomplishments.

Your boss has promised you a promotion numerous times, but it doesn’t happen, and eventually, a yes person gets the position and over you. 

How heartbreaking is that?

You’re so good at your job your boss doesn’t want you to move up they keep you stuck in a dead-end job or career.

Being ethical may get you passed over for a promotion. 

Why is that? 

Do employers want honorable people or not? 

Isn’t it better to be an honest person than not? 

I’m lost for words because this is really happening, people. 

Keeping your mouth shut is expected, and nodding your head in agreement is the norm instead of working together to make things better and sharing ideas and processes to streamline.  

Keeping mouths shut and agreeing is causing chaos, resentment, overload, anxiety, and burnout in the workplace because things aren’t getting done correctly and efficiently.  

How can this change?

How many of you out there has a boss you can sit down with and say; this isn’t working; the staff is frustrated and on overload? If you do. Show some appreciation to them every once in a while. They need encouragement to keep pushing on with a thankless job. These people want to make a difference and want to do what is right, and they do open their mouths and disagree at times, even when rejected and not appreciated.

When people feel appreciated, heard, and can express their ideas, they might go the extra mile to speak up and change the environment from chaos to calm.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am heard and appreciated! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm Podcast (Poll)

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Exploring The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Click here to listen to Episode 6 – The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will be discussing the technique of pausing before reacting or responding as a Manager or Supervisor.

Have you ever responded from a knee-jerk reaction and wished you hadn’t?

Have you considered stopping, pausing, and reflecting before reacting as a manager and supervisor when in the middle of chaos?

I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis. However, in leadership, we’re geared to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.

When taking a pause and time to reflect, we won’t jump immediately to the wrong conclusion or react unfavorably or lash out.

Many times in my career, I didn’t pause and reflect before responding, and I regretted it because it went from calm to chaos by my knee-jerk reaction.

Have you done that as well?

Think about all the times you reacted harshly or over the top.

How did that work for you?

Probably not good for you looking like an ass or for the person or people around you.

Do you wish you could go back in time and change your response?

Using the pause, reflecting before responding can help you not regret your reaction if used at that moment.

When at work and someone is rude to you and disagrees. Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will allow you time to reframe your response or decide not to react and change the situation from the emotions of chaos to calm.

Have you ever received an email at work that put you into a rage?

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send the email response right away. You may regret it and could damage your career or reputation!

I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending or replying some time or another.

What if you do receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?

Before responding to the email:

  • Write out your reply.
  • Please don’t send it and walk away. If possible, sleep on it.
  • Rewrite the email response when you have calmed down.
  • Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

Here’s A Quote To Remember: “Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – author unknown

Don’t get me wrong, as a manager or supervisor. You have to be direct with employees to inspire them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue.

  • Have a plan on how to address it.
  • Write it out and practice what and how to say it.

There are also times when you need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect.

What is happening around you?

It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

How can you practice pausing and reflecting into your leadership routine and have it become a habit?

Here are some Self Reflection Questions to Ponder or Journal about:

What are your thoughts about pausing and reflecting?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Today’s podcast Affirmation ~ I pause and reflect before responding!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until next we meet again! ~ Patti

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Exploring How To Respond To Unprofessionalism From Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, Patti discusses interaction with unprofessional people.

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone unprofessional. They may come across like they don’t care, don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or even realize their behavior is unprofessional. 

How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. 

Why? 

Because it is uncomfortable. Whether new or experienced, many managers and supervisors shy away from confrontation, thinking that the behavior will go away or disappear. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse when it’s not dealt with and continues.Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. However, people can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

Calmly explain to the unprofessional person how to be treated with respect. Give some examples of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some Self Reflections to Ponder or Journal about:

1. What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessionalism?

2. What did you learn from these experiences?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I recognize the beauty around me, even when I am in the presence of unprofessionalism.

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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