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Episode 55 – The Great Resignation – The Beliefs of How It Should Be

This podcast episode looks at our beliefs about life and work and invites you to consider how things should be about work and life choices. To listen to the podcast click here.

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Do you find yourself challenged by the pandemic and questioning everything?

Do you live in regret?

What to consider before joining the Great Resignation:

Reflect on when you first started at your current position.

What attracted you to the job in the first place?

What did you like about the job?

What has changed?

What would make your job more enjoyable?

What do you truly want in a career?

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Self-reflect or journal about what you want in life.

What’s keeping me here?

Are there other options?

If, so what are they?

What did your answers tell you?

Think about why I am staying in a job that you dislike. Is there something better for me what”lights me up”?

Before joining the great resignation, come up with a solid exit plan. Then, whatever decision you make to either stay or go, focus on what kind of trade or career you want and prepare yourself for that.

We often complain about something before we leave it. We make something bad, like a job, boss, or relationship, but actually, what is awful is teaching you something about yourself and the original attraction to the job. Touches your dreams and beliefs of how things should be, and if you follow those questions which we’ll have in the show notes – you can discover what you have been avoiding or conditioning in your dream to live the life you want.

We know we gave you a lot to think about and would love to hear about your beliefs and move past them without any regrets.

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Playcation – It’s Time To Plan It and Do It!

It’s officially summer. The weather is changing to enjoy outdoor adventures. It’s time to start planning and going on vacation activities. Scheduling it on the calendar is the first step to make it happen. After that, the time is blocked out, and work will not occur.

For some planning, a vacation can be overwhelming. Booking the flight, lodging, activities, rent a car, or not renting a car, etc. Staying local and pursuing fun, entertainment, and recreation may be a good option.

What is a playcation?  Here is my explanation of a playcation as doing something fun and enjoyable on vacation. I recommend blocking out and scheduling specific enjoyable activities to do physically while getting some fresh air and sunlight. Maybe it is golfing, parasailing, snorkeling, zip-lining, water skiing, camping, hiking, getting the body moving, and so much more.

What has been your bucket list or what I call adventure list that you always wanted to do? If you don’t have an adventure list, it’s time to make one. Making an adventure list will help you plan future adventures and playcations.

I started making an adventure list by each state in two notebooks; as I see something on TV, Facebook, Pinterest, or hear about it from someone to visit and do that activity, I will write it in the books. If I don’t have the books with me, I put them on my phone in notes and then later write them in the book under that state.

As you begin to plan a playcation, take out your adventure list. I find this is a great motivation tool to experience something new a different and inspire me to do it.

How about making an adventure list and putting it into action?

I would love to hear or see your adventure list. Become carefree and just do it. Let the adventure begin!

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What Keeps You Going – When You Feel Like Giving Up?

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At the time of writing this blog post, it had been a struggle for me. I knew I wanted to write a blog post, and I couldn’t think of a topic. I hadn’t been feeling well, and everything seemed to be hard to focus on and do. I had the COVID vaccine and an allergy shot. It hit me hard.  

I talked with my husband about the struggle of a topic, and he said maybe you should write a blog post about this subject.  What keeps you going?  

It is hard to be inspired when you just aren’t feeling it. 🙂 I’m sure we all have felt that way some time or another. 

Pushing through it happens daily for people going to a job they hate. 

How do they get through it?

Is it a mindset of “I have bills to pay, a family to feed, or goals to achieve to make my life easier, and people are relying on me?”

What keeps you going when you don’t feel like doing it?

I think we sometimes put heavy expectations on ourselves as well. So what if I didn’t write a blog post this week? I’m sure my followers would understand or maybe not even notice that I missed a week. I love coaching, writing, podcasting, blogging, and traveling; it inspires me, and my hope is it inspires others.

We all go through things in our lives that can throw us out of wack. It could be a hopeless mindset, family circumstances, a tyrant boss, health issues, or a tragedy. How do we move past it and keep going?

Something to believe in or the will of not giving up?

I asked my followers – What keeps you going – when you feel like giving up?

Here are some of the comments:

  1. Look around you
  2. Never thought to give up, but after a long exhausting day, just seeing my dogs makes me at peace again 
  3. Life is precious, have a good cry sure does help.
  4. Coaches like you!
  5. Faith
  6. Prayer
  7. Family
  8. A cocktail
  9. Friends
  10. Beer
  11. Chocolate

Life circumstances have a way of knocking us down when we weren’t expecting it —having strategies to cope and putting them in place when starting to feel the emotions of giving up helps.

Let’s talk about some quick and easy strategies to get through the day.  

  • Get up and move around
  • Go outside and get some fresh air
  • Eat a healthy snack or meal.
  • Exercise
  • Talk to a friend
  • Listen to uplifting music
  • Get creative, paint, color, or draw 
  • Cuddle with your pet 
  • Read a good book
  • Watch or listen to comedy
  • Dance and sing to your favorite songs
  • Do something fun and silly 

Hire a life or career coach like me to help you work through the challenges and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

I would love to hear your strategies and tips on “What keeps you going – when you feel like giving up?

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Know Your Value!

My Business Coach Cheryl Thacker recently posted this story; the author is unknown, and it touched me deeply, and I would like to share it with you.

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Here’s the story:

Before he died, a father said to his son, “Here is a watch that your grandfather gave me. It is almost 200 years old. Before I give it to you, go to the jewelry store and tell them that I want to sell it, and see how much they offer you.” The son went to the jewelry store, came back to his father, and said, “They offered $150.00 because it’s so old.” The father said, “Go to the pawnshop.” The son went to the pawnshop, came back to his father, and said, “The pawnshop offered $10.00 because it looks so worn.” The father asked his son to go to the museum and show them the watch. He went to the museum, came back, and said to his father, “The curator offered $500,000.00 for this rare piece to include in their precious antique collections.” The father said, “I wanted to let you know that the right place values you in the right way. Don’t find yourself in the wrong place and get angry if you are not valued. Those that know your value are those who appreciate you, don’t stay in a place where nobody sees your value.”

I’m sure many of you can relate to the end of the story and felt it.

The right place values you in the right way. Don’t find yourself in the wrong place and get angry if you are not valued. Those that know your value are those who appreciate you, don’t stay in a place where nobody sees your value. ~ unknown

Many of us have worked or currently work in industries where being criticized, under-appreciated, under-minded, devalued, flaws and mistakes are pointed out and not forgiven.

The mind games can bring people to their knees, break them down and destroy good honest people.

Like the story, if a job or career is slowly killing you, it’s time to start putting together a strategy exit plan into action and go somewhere you’re valued. Be with people who light you up and appreciate your talents and contributions.

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When Did You Become So Jaded at Work?

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Do you remember the days when you were excited to get up and go to work? You loved having this career and learning new things. You lit up the office with your enthusiasm. You were like a sponge; you soaked up all the knowledge you could get. 

When did everything at work change from excitement to dread?

Was it a slow fade over time?

How did it happen?

What changed in you, and you started to dread going into the office?

When did your job tasks become mundane?

I think we all have been here at some time or another with a job position. We want something more challenging and exciting if you feel like this; maybe it is time for a new direction in your career path. 

How is your attitude at work affecting those around you and yourself?   

You know what you want and what you don’t want. What is holding you in a job that you feel bored and on the road to nowhere? 

What could make you feel alive again with your work situation? 

Reflect on all these questions and think about what are some solutions for you? You know something needs to give, but the only way it will change is if you put it into action.  

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You’ve Got A Pulse – You Got The Job! The Cause and Affect of This Philosophy.


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The other day I was at an appointment, and the doctor told me that they were desperate to hire someone quickly. She said if they got a pulse, they got the job. We both laughed. She said we need another body in here as soon as possible. Sometimes, I said, you know, that doesn’t always work out because they may not be a good fit or worker with that philosophy. The funny thing is my husband was talking to me a while back and suggested that I should write a blog post for “You’ve Got A Pulse, You Got the Job!” I guess God and the universe are telling me it is time to write it.

Filling a chair or position to have a body in it is not a very good idea. When hiring supervisors don’t spend the time to make sure the candidate is someone qualified and will connect well with staff and customers in the long run, it will cause more anguish for everyone involved.  Why is that?  

One person’s bad attitude, incompetency, or lack of motivation can destroy a cohesive work environment.

Yes, I understand that some companies are understaffed and need people immediately because of high turnover, high caseload, or staffing ratio to the patients or security and safety reasons. However, look at time and expense training someone you will eventually have to let go, or worse, keep someone that is incompetent or a kick-starter to the other employees and customers and causes turmoil in the workplace.

Lowering the hiring standards is not the answer!

Take some time in the hiring process to get to know the candidate. Review the resume and job application. Does this person change jobs every few months? If so, why? Are they promotions or some other reason listed? If not listed, ask the candidate. What kind of positions have they done in the past? Is it equal to the job qualifications? Have specific questions about the job in the interview for the candidate to answer. Were the answers clear and concise, and right? After the interview, call the candidate’s references. Have specific questions about attendance, team player, customer service, and work performance.

If references check out with useful recommendations to the questions answered, ask the candidate to come back and meet your staff if this allowable in your company. Have the candidate engage with the team maybe see what the job duties entail. Remember, the employees have a vested interest because they have to work with this person too. If you have an open, honest relationship with your employees, they will give you their opinion. Ultimately you have the final answer on who to hire and who not to hire.

Spending a little time checking out the candidate may save you, your staff, and customers frustration and protect the company bottom-line on training the wrong person.

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Sweet Home Carolina – The Story of a Woman Who Had Burnout and Then Found Joy!

This month’s topic theme is going to be about burnout. Has it ever happened to you? It is not fun, but it is becoming more common for people in management positions and high demanding careers.

I came across this movie, “Sweet Home Carolina,” on Tubi. It starts with Diane sitting in her office, not answering her office phone, and hyperventilating into a brown bag.

Burnout is what happens when the soul whispering against an unhealthy job or relationship. – Dr. Dina Glouberman

Diane is an Advertising Executive, and her personal life is a mess. She works long hours and has a habit of picking up her youngest child late from school. Her oldest teenage daughter is angry with her over the divorce of her parents and blames Diane. Diane is receiving collection notices in the mail. She is a train wreck ready to happen. Family dinners consist of frozen lasagna and Diane drinking a few glasses of wine before going to bed.

Don’t get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life. – Dolly Parton

When Diane thought her life couldn’t get any worst. Her boss called her into his office and gave away her biggest client to a coworker. Then told her she needed to take some time off (permanently). A life preserver happened; her Aunt, who recently passed away, left her a house in a small town in South Carolina. The stipulations were taking care of her Aunt’s dog and living in the house for a year. She subleased her home in Los Angeles, and she and her daughters moved.

Don’t accept burnout as the price or definition of success. – Jon Acuff

The demanding career, the big house, and a fancy car is not everything. What makes true happiness? In Diane’s case, she realized that most important to her was a loving, respectful relationship with her daughters, a good man who loved her deeply, and a small town of caring people.

Sometimes we choose a career because of the large paycheck and later realize the job has cost us more than we bargained. No social life, no friends, damaged love life, estranged family, health problems, a lack of purpose, and what happened to my enthusiasm and happiness?

Think about your life. Is this the way I want my story to end?  

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National Workaholics Day – What Does This Mean?

Today is National Workaholics Day – July 5, 2020.

What does this mean?

This day is to raise awareness to balance work and home life by encouraging the overachievers to schedule time away from work and enjoy life outside of work demands.

What is the definition of a Workaholic? According to Wikipedia:

workaholic is a person who works compulsively. The term originates from alcoholism. The person works at the cost of their sleep, meeting friends or family. While the term generally implies that the person enjoys their work, it can also alternately imply that they simply feel compelled to do it. 

What are some ways to create a little balance in your everyday life?

  1. Do Something Fun
  2. Spend Time Loving Your Family
  3. Journal About the Good Things in Your Life
  4. Smile and Laugh Often

Celebrate Today! 🎉

  • Schedule a massage or spa day.
  • Take a slow pace walk with the family and your pet.
  • Watch a funny movie with your loved ones.
  • Plan an awesome vacation.

Working all the time will eventually lead to burnout. Take a few minutes out of your day today, do something you enjoy outside of work, and plan a getaway from work. Leave a comment on how you celebrated today. 🙂

Take it easy, enjoy today and, live life to the fullest. ~ Patti

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How To Be Proactive, So You Don’t Reach The Point Of No Return and Burnout!

Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.

Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.

How did you get to this point?

High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.

Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown

What is burnout?

It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

What are some warn signs?

🦋 Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work

🦋 Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started

🦋 Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients

🦋 Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite

🦋 No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate

🦋 No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort

🦋 Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety

🦋 Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all

🦋 Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping

If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.

How to change?

🦋 Focus on your recent and past accomplishments
🦋 Stop self-criticizing yourself and others
🦋 Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer
🦋 Make and write in a daily gratitude journal

Change your workflow!
🦋 Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion
🦋 Take regular breaks
🦋 Limit working overtime
🦋 Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.

Do you have a happy place?

If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?

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Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!

Lately, I have been hearing this phrase when people are talking about their coworkers.

Don’t be that guy! 

Employers and staff may use this term when someone has committed bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong.  In some organizations, they use this term “Don’t be that (Guy) Person” for humiliation or an example of what not to do. The poster child of what not to be in the workplace.

Is shaming an effective management strategy? 

Some say yes because it represents what not to do in the workplace and halts people from doing it.

How does “Don’t be that Person” cope with being the scapegoat?

Some quit some stay and deal with the whispering behind their backs and the harsh judgment while others checkout (isolate themselves).

Maybe some organizations want this type of shaming to keep things under control.  If so, something is wrong.  Someone once told me you live in a fantasy world if you think this type of management strategy will change. 

What do you think?


Comments are welcome. What are your thoughts on this topic?

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