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Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

To listen to Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

Today Angela and Patti will explore how to interact with Social Media and keep yourself focused on the impact that social media and addictive viral media has on how you treat others with care or carelessness. When Angela trained in Mass Communication we researched the history of documentary and fiction film, radio, creative video and theater. She used the term Mass Communication and the modern forms of Social Media and Viral Media grew out of these forms of mass communication as a way for every human to participate actively in all forms of mass communication. Social Media was a way for the people to create their own stories and respond to the mass media being projected on them or about them.

Is this similar to shadow work?

Shadow work comes from the term “the shadow self,” which was coined by famed 20th-century psychologist Carl Jung. In Jungian psychology, this term describes the unconscious parts of the personality that our conscious ego doesn’t want to identify in itself.  Shadow work is a process of inner work in which you bring those unwanted parts to the surface to purify, heal, and integrate into yourself. Your shadow isn’t something to be ashamed of or something to hate. It simply points to where you have work to do and where you got to give yourself more love.

In spiritual work we call this type of collective back and forth of thoughts, words, feelings, emotions and communication in humanity – Mass Consciousness.  Angela always been struck by how Mass Communication and Mass Consciousness are two very different worlds of the media and spirituality that have a lot to offer each other about how to control or worsen the negative aspects of human thoughts and emotions.   Mass Consciousness is the collective thoughts and emotions created, experienced and projected by humans through all time.  This includes all the literature, all media, all the thoughts your ancestors had, all the thoughts you have when you’re not even aware you’re having thoughts. Some people also refer to Mass Consciousness as the thought sphere.  However, Mass Consciousness is not just thoughts. It is the emotions and thoughts that have been experienced by humanity through all time. And these are not just in written form. Many cultures did not use writing, they used spoken words, they used art, architecture and all cultures had love and relationships, families, communities, tribes and these had thoughts and feelings. So Mass Consciousness is the collective of all these thoughts and feelings. 

There is always a reason any social media triggers you.

Often if you watch that media, if you literally just watched how the media makes you FEEL, you would get the TRUE impact of that viral media.

Try this experiment:  Before you even get on social media – take a note of how you feel and write it down.  Then go on social media for 5 minutes. Get off – and notice how you feel and write down how you feel. And be honest. If you do this experiment over time. You will see the difference.

There are some positive examples of viral media – like my favorite eurovision band from Iceland- that had a dance craze from their song “Think about things”  from Dadi Freyr and Gagnamagnið.

What are some Strategies to help listeners start to pay attention to how social media makes them uncaring, numb or disingenuous to their relationships?

Create or purchase a gratitude journal. Every day in the journal, write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.  When you practice being thankful for the things and people in your life this helps you appreciate others more which in turn you become more caring.

Be aware of your emotions and feelings when on social media. Remove yourself from social media  if you feel triggered and emotions of overwhelm, comparison or anger happen.  Don’t reply to a post when your emotions are high, if you do need to respond.  Respond back in a couple of hours when you have time to cool off, rewrite your response several times before hitting the reply button for the whole world to see.  Ask someone else you trust for honest feedback before replying. Reflect after writing the response – Is it kind, is it necessary, how would you feel if someone responded to you with this response? 

Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about a situation or comparison envy during and after reviewing social media.  One thing Patti does is skip on by posts that she knows will trigger her.   

The definition of resilience is the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.  Patti calls these life lessons.  

Let’s say we are overthinking about a situation that can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks, and so much more.  

Being resilient is the process of healing and requires constant mental work of positive self-talk, the ability to let it go and move on.  

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Episode 46 – How to Calm Anxiety with Work and Money

In this podcast, we’re going to look at money anxiety. Angela shares some thoughts about the new economy based on sharing and caring about yourself and others which can help relieve tension and look at money from a collaborative and self-value-affirming perspective.  

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Summary:

During the pandemic, many of us stopped work, school, living the way we lived. Discovered many activities at home, which were things we used to do before life got busy, such as cooking, baking, making craft, making music, art, home-based exercise, journaling, talking to people, playing cards, etc.  And many people realized they were working and living in a way they didn’t like.  

Patti’s workbook the 21 Days to Optimal Work-Life Balance.

Angela talked about The Stanford Social Innovation Review (SSIR) has an article on The Vision of a Well-Being Economy, which shares how “We must shift how we understand and build societal health and prosperity, looking beyond economic growth to collective well-being and environmental sustainability.”

Patti discussed – When negative thoughts or emotions enter your mind, you can allow them and redirect them. The trouble with worrying about money and work can consume you, but having strategies can relieve the anxiety.

Spend some time in meditation to calm your thoughts.

Listen to upbeat music to manage anxiety and manifest money.

Pray about the situation for guidance and peace. Journal about the problem which is causing the worry.

Go for a walk, the gym, bicycle ride, yoga or fitness classes or any type of exercise.

Repeat positive affirmations.

Hire a financial coach to help develop a healthy money mindset and reasonable financial goals.

Angela shares about Sondra Ray and Leonard Orr’s book Rebirthing in the New Age. It is hard to get a copy of it now.

One of her powerful ones is “I deserve to be loved.”Shakti Gawain has a great book called “Creating True Prosperity”that gets to your underlying beliefs around money and abundance and T Harv Eker book The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

Dr. Patrick Wanis that is a paid meditation download. 

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Episode 45 – Daily Habits to Prevent Depression During Stressful Times While Strengthening Your Relationships!

In this episode Angela and Patti will be discussing daily habits to prevent depression during stressful times and strengthen your relationships.

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The definition of depression according to the American Psychiatric Association website:

Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Angela recommends the Megaway Shakes. It has 13 powerfoods, like maca, ashwagandha, cinnamon, lucuma, barley greens, and the list goes on. Brigitte from the megaway formulated her shake to directly affect the mood and hormonal system of the body. You can find out about her shake at www.themegaway.com

Angela talks about Spiritual Mantras are really good for clearing the air in your home environment when things get stagnated by your thoughts and feelings. 

Forest therapy is used in Japan to treat depression and anxiety. Patti shared forest bathing technique in episode Episode 41 – How Spending Time in Nature Can Help You and Your Relationships.

Angela talks about the book that shares how we all carry trauma called “The body keeps the score” by Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk.

Angela shares about seeing the musical Come from Away in Sydney

For those of you interested in meditation as a way to touch your own light.

Angela is starting a new 8 week course on July 8, 2021 in the USA and July 9, 2021 in Australia. It’s meditation for relaxation and transformation where we explore how to transform old ways of being with yourself and learn how to relax, enjoy and dive deeper into your true energy – which is the energy of joy. Meditation for Relaxation and Transformation.

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Episode 34 – Communicating in Conflict! (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti get real and have a conversation about communicating in conflict.

When we came up with this topic, we explored being okay to say no and have a fall-out with someone. People pleasers struggle with saying no because they are scared, leading to the person not liking them or getting upset with them.

Nowadays, people are quick to avoid or ghost others instead of talking to each other. They wash their hands of people and walk away. It is easier to bail than to communicate. We hope this not the case; we know it is better to discuss things, whether pleasant or not, for relationships to last. Patti wrote a blog called “Damaged Relationships – Are They Salvageable?” It is about fall-out relationships and how unforgiveness causes physical and emotional harm.

In episode Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked! Angela and Patti talked about communicating at work or when working from Home when overwhelmed with the workload.

Working relationships do have fall-outs that are not pretty. Avoidance makes more stress within the Workplace because the little things start adding up to big things when not addressed. That’s when all hell breaks loose in the Workplace, and people explode, get burnt out, start overthinking, become anxious, have low morale and no motivation, or even worse, quit and walk out without any notice. Patti did a blog called – How to Respond to Unprofessional People! Journal about what happened. Reflect on how they may respond to you. Create a plan of action on how to communicate calmly and to respond sensibly.

In the blog post series called Bad Leadership Styles. The series is how to identify different styles of Leadership with suggestions on guidance to address these negative behaviors. I will provide the link in the show notes.

Tips on How to Keep the Relationship While Dealing With Conflict:

Work on your feelings first: 

❤️ Are you angry and denying it?

❤️ What are you feeling?

❤️ If it’s about being right.

❤️ Why do you need to be, right?

❤️ Being right is always based on a belief that you should be better than someone.

❤️ Why do you have to be better than someone?

If you’re listening to this in the holidays and you want to focus on having better relationships, then take this time to envision or pray or imagine the type of affection or connection you would love in your relationships.

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Episode 29 – Balancing Play and Work to Better Your Relationships! Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss the importance of work-life balance and having more play in our daily lives and relationships.

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❤️ Do you have work-life balance in your relationships?

❤️ Are you spending valuable time with your family and close friends?

Some say work-life balance is not achievable, while others say you can. What is a balanced life, really? It is what you choose it to be. There will be times in our lives when we think it can never be achievable. The question may come – How do you stay balanced when you feel everything is crashing down around you?

❤️ It may be time to step back, say enough, and refocus on what truly matters.

Play can be challenging if you come from a life where you are expected to be serious. Maybe you don’t allow yourself to play or need permission to play. Perhaps you need a purpose for play. So give yourself a purpose for the play. The purpose for play could be “I’m stimulating my creative mind” or “discovering lateral thinking and new ways of coming up with solutions”. 

❤️ What does play mean for you?

❤️ What will it add to your life?

This can be a great way to encourage play and provide an opportunity to invigorate your life.

Life will be chaotic, hectic, and disappointing, but having some strategies will soften the experience. How we react to it is what determines happiness. Put some of these suggestions into practice and don’t forget to step back, breathe, enjoy your life, schedule playtime with family and friends, and let go of what does not matter. Live life to the fullest!

❤️ Do you want more balance and play in your life?

If yes, Patti has a 21 Days Work-Life Balance Program 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Workshop. ➡️ www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com

Interested in Patti’s Affirmation cards ➡️ https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards

Patti also has a mini-course called Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   This course is for crazy busy leaders, working 24/7, and want something more in their life. Seven easy hacks to create some personal life balance.

If you want to dance with Angela, you can find out about her online movement classes with Angela by going to ➡️ https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/

Thank you so much for listening. 

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Episode 23 – How To Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy, and Menopause with Yourself and Others! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast Episode 23 – How To Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy & Menopause with Yourself and Others! Angela and Patti discuss handling moving forward with emotions and relationships after ovarian cancer, hysterectomy, and menopause.  To listen to the full podcast, click below:

In previous Episodes 12 and 13, Angela shared her journey of recovering from ovarian cancer, hysterectomy, and much more. 

In this episode, we shared how to deal with relationships with oneself and others after these life-changing events. 

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Here is the link to the TED Talk – How menopause affects the brain by Lisa Mosconi

For more information about supporting friends and family going through cancer, click on the link www.Cancer.net

A Short audio clip of Episode 23How to Move Forward After Having Ovarian Cancer, Hysterectomy & Menopause with Yourself and Others!

We would love to hear from you about this topic. 

Thank you for listening to our podcast. 

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Episode 18 – Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti (Podcast)

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss – Just Be – Go Beyond Social Expectations that Influence Suicide. We feel this topic needs to be discussed openly and not avoided because it is uncomfortable. Lives matter. To listen to the full podcast episode, click below:

How did we get this topic title?

Angela and I were talking about how there has been an increase in suicide. Over the years, the current situation with isolation and other factors. For example, loss of a job can be a risk factor.

The Risk Factors  provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website; 

Alcohol and other substance use disorders
Mental disorders, particularly mood disorders, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, and certain personality disorders
Hopelessness, feelings of no reason to live
Depression, Impulsive and/or aggressive tendencies
History of trauma or abuse, Major physical illnesses
Previous suicide attempt(s), Family history of suicide – Angela talks about breaking the chain of generational loss and hurt –
How to do that.
Job or financial loss
Loss of relationship(s)
Easy access to lethal means
Lack of social support, isolation, and social withdrawal
The stigma associated with asking for help
Lack of healthcare, especially mental health and substance abuse treatment
Exposure to others who have died by suicide (in real life or via the media and Internet)

The Warning Signs provided by the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website; 
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves, communicating suicide intent or plan looking for a way to kill themselves, like searching online or buying a gun
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
Talking about being a burden to others
Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
Sleeping too little or too much
Withdrawing or isolating themselves
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge
Extreme mood swings
Making final arrangements (wills, notes, giving away personal things, etc.

For immediate help, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) and talk with a trained counselor at National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

For Australia https://www.lifeline.org.au/

For resources on Teenage Depression https://addictionrehabtreatment.com/mental-health/depression/teenage-depression/

Angela will speak at the online Lasting Love Summit. Click on the link to register to attend the free summit, which will be held the week of May 5, 2020.

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Episode 17 – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal? – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss a topic requested by a listener: Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How do you deal with it? Angela is the expert on this topic, being a Love and Relationship Coach who coaches on family dynamics.   

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Let’s look at guilt. It is the inward process of beating yourself up through harsh thoughts. Nobody can put a guilt trip on you but you because these are your thoughts. Some thoughts could be: I won’t make them happy or do what they want. They are going to dislike me or leave me. They are going to think I’m not a good person.

How do you go your way without the guilt? 

Many people live with regret because they did what their parents wanted instead of what they want to do.

1.  Why do you feel guilty?

2. How has this guilt shown up in my family before? When do you first remember this guilt?

3. What would be the one thing that the inner child would love to do, love to hear, and love to express?

4. What could you say to the family member to tell them about what you want to do instead of the ‘trip’ they think you should do?

5. Do you value yourself?

Angela references Patrick Wains. Here is his website link https://www.patrickwanis.com/

If you want more relationship tips, check out our Facebook group, Building Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti.

Our email is at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com.

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships“The Love Oracle.” Check it out.

Angela will speak at the online Lasting Love Summit the week of May 5, 2020. Click on the link to register and attend the free summit.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening.

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Episode 16 – How to Get Along With Your Teenager! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

This topic came from a listener request, How to Get Along With Your Teenager! Click on the link below to listen to the full podcast:

Patti started by asking the audience these questions.

Reflecting on when you were a teenager.  I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?

What did you want from your parents?  

Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want.

What was it?

Your teenager probably wants the same.  

Angela talks about being a parent: You love them, but you don’t like their behavior, and there’s a consequence for the behavior. Follow through and don’t bend. You’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts—don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off.

What are some deals you can negotiate with them?

Tips from the book Crucial Conversations:

1.  Start with the heart.

2. Ask – What do you want for the relationship?

3. Ask – What do you want for the teen?

4. What do you want for yourself?

5. What is the most outstanding possible outcome for the relationship?

How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart?

Come up with boundaries and consequences if boundaries are not met.

Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.

What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days, which may be similar to and different from what we went through?

1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.

2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying

3. Suicide – For more information about suicide prevention, check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and Reachout https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents, it is free advice in Australia, and Lifeline https://www.lifeline.org.au

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships“The Love Oracle.” Check it out.

Angela and I thank you for listening.

If you have a topic or question, email us at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com.

Thank you for listening and sharing. 🙂

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Episode 15 – Surviving Social Isolation! – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Podcast

In this episode, Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and survive isolation. Click on the link below to listen to the full podcast episode:

Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone affected by this virus.  

This is the perfect time to slow down and take some self-care.

How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?

  1. FaceTime or video chat with family and friends
  2. Adult coloring or coloring with the children
  3. Play board games with family and do a puzzle
  4. Blowing bubbles outside with the children
  5. Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
  6. Have a virtual meetup on Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person, but instead do it virtually
  7. Start a group text on WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support.

    Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.

    Write down on a piece of paper.

    1. What do you feel you have lost in this situation?
    2. What do you feel you need?
    3. Why do you need this?
    4. How could you meet this need?

    With the feelings: Acknowledge your feelings and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings). The more you acknowledge what you feel, the more it helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need: Find words that meet your emotional needs, e.g., to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!

    Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need, you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time.
    It will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love. Or you may realize something about your need—that it’s actually not that important!

    How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing?

    Look at the list of tips we are sharing.
    Notice which of your needs are the most important?
    Often, one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start connecting to others. Telepathy is sending a thought out and putting good energy into it so that later, when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.

    When you send a text, put a good feeling into it—people will feel it. It’s the most amazing thing in these times: people are willing and ready to connect and wish well for others.  

    Angela’s new YouTube channel link: New Energy Body

    Patti’s Prayer of Hope

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