Davina Lyons is the founder of the “Authentic Me“. Community and Workshops for Women, a safe space for women to collectively do the work of self-awareness and resilience.
This means discovering more about and redefining themselves, along with elevating their personal living standards. Davina has overcome many hardships: childhood trauma, multiple miscarriages, abusive relationships, and unfulfilling careers.
However, she learned from her journey that those challenging experiences do not define her life. She is now on a mission to help women love and embrace their authentic selves to live their BEST life and reach their highest potential.
In today’s podcast, we will share some techniques to refocus your energy, which can also help you reset yourself for the year.
What is Physical Self-Healing?
Physical self-healing is learning and creating habits that support you, your body, and your spirit. And recognize and release patterns that are out-dated and need to go, such as workaholic tendencies, wasting your energy, thinking bad about yourself and others, and putting your body’s health last.
Angela’s Tips on Resetting your Physical and Emotional Energy:
Setting an intention for the year to determine your focus for your life. How does the intent take you further than last year? Did you achieve your goals for last year? Why not What would you love to try this year? Is it more or less of what you are doing?
Physical Reset Tips:
1. Shower. And imagine the water washing over you is fresh life energy and white light. Feel that light is releasing the past.
2. Go to the ocean and release old energy.
3. Visualize yourself in a bubble of light to accept who you are just the way you are without attempting to change or be different. Light is used in healing to wash in different vibrations because we are vibrating; from our blood flow to our heartbeat, we are always vibrating. You can even now imagine yourself in a bubble of any color light and notice how it makes you feel.
4. Angela does meditation to walk you through this technique quickly on the podcast. BREATHE. FEEL HEART AND FEEL BREATH and LET GO of OLD and FOCUS ON NEW BREATH. Take a few breaths to refocus your energy.
Ask the following and see what comes to you.
WHAT IS IT YOU WANT FOR YOU?
WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR WORLD?
How to write an affirmation:
*Start with the words I am?
*Use the word or statement in the present tense.
*State it in the positive. Affirm what you want.
*Keep it brief, specific, clear, and straightforward.
*Have a word with (ing)
*Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
*Make the affirmation, so it resonates with you!
Affirmation: I am resetting my focus on my dreams!
Patti gave this example: Someone that works all the time and has little attention or focus on their body or health.
*What are the benefits of leaving work on time?
*What actions will you put in place to leave work on time?
*How will you use this extra time to focus on a healthy lifestyle?
Patti’s 21 Days to Optimal Work/Life Balance Program with its reflection questions helps open your mind to a new way of looking at what you want in life. It resets your mindset as well as physical reset with some of the topics. There are affirmations in the program, and Patti made companion affirmation cards for support and inspiration to keep you on track.
Let’s think about – What are the benefits of being more grateful, thankful, light-hearted, friendly, kind, and positive?
Here are some possible benefits:
❤️ Positive thinking attracts good things to you.
❤️ A positive outlook creates meaningful relationships.
❤️ Being positive decreases depression and anxiety.
❤️ Positive thoughts increase motivation, inspiration, and creativity.
❤️ Being positive improves the immune system.
While, Reflecting on these benefits, why do you think society isn’t more positive?
How do we change a negative culture? Changing the focus to a positive, and an encouraging outlook towards each other, which increases motivation, creativity, better health, improves relationships whether at home or work, and it makes the environment a better place too.
What else can we do?
❤️ Affirmations are a great way to help change your outlook to the better. I would use Affirmation driving on my way to work and to get me through the day. Here is an example of an Affirmation. “Positive thinking is changing my relationships for the better!” Repeat it throughout the day, silently or out loud.
❤️ Self-reflection is another strategy to improve and change our attitude for the better. Here is a self reflection question to journal about: How am I creating more positivity in my life?
❤️ Pray to God for the change you want to see in your life, for the world and have faith it will happen. It may not happen the way you thought it would, it will probably be so much better. Keeping the faith in the good around us and not in the fear and anger being thrown in our direction. 🙂
❤️Spend time in meditation to calm and lighten your spirit. Smile, think good thoughts and speak kindly to those around you. By doing this it will change the way others treat you as well.
❤️ Tell your spouse/partner, children, and parents you love them every time you talk to them or see them. Love can change the world. People who feel loved, radiate love. How am I creating more positivity in my life?
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Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.
Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.
How did you get to this point?
High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.
Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.
“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown
What is burnout?
It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.
What are some warn signs?
🦋 Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work
🦋 Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started
🦋 Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients
🦋 Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite
🦋 No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate
🦋 No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort
🦋 Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety
🦋 Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all
🦋 Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping
If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.
How to change?
🦋 Focus on your recent and past accomplishments 🦋 Stop self-criticizing yourself and others 🦋 Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer 🦋 Make and write in a daily gratitude journal
Change your workflow! 🦋 Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion 🦋 Take regular breaks 🦋 Limit working overtime 🦋 Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.
If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.
Do you have a happy place?
If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?
In this episode Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation. Click on the link below to listen to the full podcast episode:
Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.
This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care.
How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?
Facetime or video chat with family and friends
Adult coloring or coloring with the children
Play board games with family and do a puzzle
Blowing bubbles outside with the children
Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
Have a virtual meetup; On Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually
Start a group text, in the WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support
Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.
Write down on a piece of paper.
1. What you feel you have lost in this situation? 2. What you feel you need? 3. Why do you need this? 4. How could you meet this need?
With the feelings: – Acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need – find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!
Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need – you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time. And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love…or you may realize something about your need – like its actually not that important!
How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing.
Look at a list of tips we are sharing. Notice which of your needs are the most important? Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it, so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.
When you send a text – Put a good feeling into it – people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.
I enjoy being out in nature or just plain outside. Whether it is a few moments outdoors on my patio drinking coffee, a hike in the mountains, or camping lakeside taking time outdoors seems to rejuvenate me. So I am not surprised that others feel the same way.
There is a new craze called Forest Bathing (a Japanese practice of shinrin-yoku), which means spending time in nature and using all your senses. There is scientific research on this concept of Forest Bathing. According to the study being in nature restores our mood, refreshes, and rejuvenates us. It can lower blood pressure and decrease stress levels. When you feel overwhelmed, go outside, take a brief walk alone and see if this uplifts your spirit.
This weekend my husband and I went to a cabin in the woods. It was lightly raining, and the smell of the trees was so refreshing. After the rain stopped, we went for a walk to the nearby creek. The sounds of the rushing the water and the birds in the trees were very relaxing.
How to Forest Bath:
🦋 Go outdoors and find some trees or a large garden area with a variety of plants and trees.
Being in nature is soothing, especially when having a chaotic day. Making some time to go outdoors and get fresh air and a little bit of sunshine can uplift our spirit and decrease anxiety.
How about trying it today?
What did you notice?
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Time for reflection, gratitude, and letting go (forgiveness). As a Life Coach, I discuss a variety of topics that many people push under the carpet. Sometimes these subjects are uncomfortable. They are even awkward to me at times, but awareness and having strategies to cope is important to move on, let go and live a happy life.
Journaling and reflecting on the past year gets us geared up for whatever 2019 brings our way.
Here are some journaling and reflections prompts to get you started.
Reflection: Looking back at 2018
How was 2018?
What were some of the changes that occurred in your life?
What is a major lesson that you learned from your job in 2018?
What will you do differently in 2019?
Having gratitude reduces the feelings of envy, produces happy memories, lets us experience good feelings and helps with reducing stress.
Gratitude: Looking back at 2018
What was your biggest accomplishment in your personal life in 2018?
What was your biggest accomplishment in your work life in 2018?
What was one thing you’ve learned in 2018 that you’re thankful for?
What was one aspect about your health that you’re more grateful for?
Letting Go and Forgiveness:Looking back on 2018
One of my latest blog post I discussed Damaged Relationships and suggestions on how to halt unkind words. Forgiveness is also part of the healing process.
In the past year, I have been seeing, reading and hearing about the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer called Ho’oponopono. From what I have read the forgiveness prayer can be said in any order. Repeating the prayer assist with moving forward toward forgiveness.
Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness – Asking for forgiveness!
Please forgive me
I love you
Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness – Forgiving Someone!
I forgive you
I thank you
I love you
What am I grateful for? I am truly thankful for my family, friends, and followers who support me with my coaching business. 🙂 I hope the journaling prompts and the Forgiveness Prayer help you in your life’s journey in 2019. ~ Patti
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Are you on the edge looking down the cliff of disaster? Is there something you are doing or feeling that is not right for you which may hurt you or others and you need to stop? Are you in a dead end job and you just can’t take it anymore and you are doing nothing to change your situation? Are you hanging out with people who are dragging you down instead of encouraging you to pursue your goals and aspirations? Do you constantly complain to friends and family about your situation but don’t take any steps to change it?
Why do we do these things to ourselves instead of stopping and self-reflecting “What is making me so unhappy” and staying in these conditions?
Do you think it is time to look at what is making you miserable and fix it?
Change the situation and make life better.
What is holding you back and you need to get rid of?
How will you change this situation?
Life is so much better if you shift your mindset.
What about hiring a coach to assist you in figuring out what is dragging you down and get you off the edge of that cliff. Isn’t it time to start looking up at the sky with meaning, purpose and happiness?
Having someone support, encourage and hold you accountable is the first step to change. What are you waiting for? ~ Patti
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