It’s a New Year! Time for Reflection, Gratitude and Letting Go

It is a New Year!

Time for reflection, gratitude, and letting go (forgiveness).  As a Life Coach, I discuss a variety of topics that many people push under the carpet.  Sometimes these subjects are uncomfortable.  They are even awkward to me at times, but awareness and having strategies to cope is important to move on, let go and live a happy life.

Journaling and reflecting on the past year gets us geared up for whatever 2019 brings our way.

Here are some journaling and reflections prompts to get you started.

Reflection: Looking back at 2018

  • How was 2018?
  • What were some of the changes that occurred in your life?
  • What is a major lesson that you learned from your job in 2018?
  • What will you do differently in 2019?

Having gratitude reduces the feelings of envy, produces happy memories, lets us experience good feelings and helps with reducing stress.

Gratitude: Looking back at 2018

  • What was your biggest accomplishment in your personal life in 2018?
  • What was your biggest accomplishment in your work life in 2018?
  • What was one thing you’ve learned in 2018 that you’re thankful for?
  • What was one aspect about your health that you’re more grateful for?

Letting Go and Forgiveness: Looking back on 2018

One of my latest blog post I discussed Damaged Relationships and suggestions on how to halt unkind words.  Forgiveness is also part of the healing process.

In the past year, I have been seeing, reading and hearing about the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer called Ho’oponopono.  From what I have read the forgiveness prayer can be said in any order.  Repeating the prayer assist with moving forward toward forgiveness.

Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness – Asking for forgiveness!

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

 

Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness – Forgiving Someone!

I’m sorry

I forgive you

I thank you

I love you

 

What am I grateful for?  I am truly thankful for my family, friends, and followers who support me with my coaching business. 🙂 I hope the journaling prompts and the Forgiveness Prayer help you in your life’s journey in 2019. ~ Patti

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Daily Forgiveness Practices

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A few weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The fifth key action step is working on daily forgiveness practices and forgiving yourself and others.

This is a difficult topic even for me.  I have my own battles with forgiveness.  It is not easy and I continue to keep working on it daily.  There are some relationships that may not ever be where I want them to be and forgiveness is a work in progress.  It is important to continue being positive and forgiveness will follow.  Like the old saying goes “Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.” ~ John Lockwood Huie

How do we forgive when someone has hurt us deeply and we comprehend that they will probably not ever apologize?  They may think what they said or did was justified.  They may think they did nothing wrong.  They may think they have every right to behave in that way.  They may be too selfish or self-centered to even realize they hurt you.  Or they may have the attitude, just don’t care and going to say whatever they feel without any regards to others feelings.  They may have the philosophy “Life is short, so say what you feel” and use it as an excuse to say hurtful things.

Forgiveness maybe even harder, when it is a family member.  The holidays and family special occasions are more difficult when these circumstances are in the mix.  These gatherings don’t feel joyful, it feels more like sadness, anger, anxiety and overwhelm.  Sometimes family members take sides and the hurt keeps hurting.  There may be rude intentional remarks towards you or other family members.  Conversations move toward your past mistakes instead of encouraging you or a happy to see you.  So how do we move past these situations and be able to forgive?

Okay, now let’s talk about some strategies to help deal with moving forward and not letting these occasions open up those old feelings of pain, anger, anxiety or an emotional breakdown and turn them into happy memorable times.

  • Listen to happy, soothing, spiritual or religious music when feelings of unforgiveness starts to surface within you.
  • Think happy thoughts and find something fun to do.  A hobby, an art project, a sport activity, go for a walk or run.
  • Practice mediation and/or pray of “Letting Go”.
  • Use positive affirmations daily as well as before, during and after family gatherings.
  • Imagine yourself having a great time at the gathering and you have changed your perception of the unforgiven person as if they are someone you truly liked being around and admire.
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when you assume other peoples motives.  Become aware of those negative thoughts and/or assumptions, push them away with positive thinking. When there is continual negative thoughts and/or assumptions this will keep you stuck in the past.  Thinking with positive thoughts and action steps is a great way towards forgiveness.
  • When faced in a situation with the person who engages in being rude and demeaning towards you, calmly excuse yourself from the conversation, walk away and find someone who you like being around to uplift your spirits.  Smile and laugh with them to ease  the tension or apprehension you may be feeling.
  • After the occasion think about only all the good conversations you experienced and any special things that happened.  Journal about all these good things that happened and reflect on only them.

Being angry and unforgiving only hurts you.  Let go of the unforgiveness inside you and move towards experiencing peace, love, joy and true happiness in life. ~ Patti

Another saying:  “I believe that life is short, and there is too much time wasted bearing grudges, and I like to move on”. ~ Sam Taylor-Johnson

Self-Reflection Question:

What action steps will you do to achieve forgiveness in your life?

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It is a New Year!

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Welcome to another new year.  How is this year going to be different from last year and the year’s before?  What changes, challenges, struggles and acknowledgments are you going to face?  Well, we can’t see into the future however we can strive to make things better in our lives.

Here are some life changing subjects to consider incorporating this year:

Putting gratitude into our life and actions

Acknowledging and thanking others

Using daily affirmations

Developing an achievable budget and change spending habits to relieve stress and overwhelm

Work on daily forgiveness practices – Forgiving yourself and others

Practice journaling

Connect with others and build friendships

Remove gossip, negative thoughts and self-doubt from daily life

Enhance personal development: update resume, take a class, join an association in your field, develop a retirement plan, and take up a hobby

Self-Care to improve health and wellness

Questions for self-reflection and action:

Which of these topics above would change your life for the better?

Are you willing to incorporate it?

Are you willing to stick with it and stay focused?  Even if it is hard and you have to make sacrifices?

How would your life change for the better by incorporating this into your life?

How are you going to make this happen?

When are you going to start?

What obstacles may you face and how will you succeed to overcome them?

What would your life look like when you have incorporated this action into your daily life?

Life is full of challenges, obstacles and unknowns however if we have something to strive for daily it gives us purpose.  With purpose we have something to look forward to even when those challenges can be overwhelming.  Feel free to share what you will be incorporating in your life to make this year memorable. ~ Patti 🙂

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