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Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 14 Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm I am going to explore staying positive in an unfavorable work environment.

When you are a manager and supervisor, you get harsh treatment and judgment from your superiors and subordinates. The top tells you to do things your employees don’t want to do, and you are stuck in the middle and have to enforce it.  

How do you stay upbeat when continually being pushed down by others?

I understand how easy it is to get sucked into negativity, drama, or a bad attitude when in a toxic work environment. Some people want to pull you into their emotional drama—rude comments about others, sarcastic undertones, and the energy vampires who want to drag everyone else down with them. But unfortunately, people don’t even realize that they have a negative attitude because it has become a habit and spills into their personal lives.

Self-reflect are you personally responsible for the drama since you are in charge of your area? If yes, how can you change it?

When working in a toxic environment, people may start to take everything personally because of the feeling of being verbally attacked, one-upping, taken advantage of, or pointing out mistakes or faults, especially if peers want to move higher in management. They will do anything to make you look bad if they feel you are a threat. As time goes on, it takes a toll on people’s emotions, values, and self-worth.

We all contribute to the workplace vibe in some way or another by how we interact and communicate our thoughts, instructions, crucial feedback, praise, and dealing with backstabbing, betrayal, and interpersonal relationships.

This situation is one of the biggest challenges people face when working with others.

However, there is hope.

What are some strategies to help you stay positive?

  1. When your peer is causing conflict, think about the best way to handle this situation. What are their motives? Should you walk away and not engage and excuse yourself from the conversation? How will it appear if you walk away or stay and engage? Is this person setting you up to react unfavorably in front of others? If you react and respond unfavorably, is it worth the consequences? If it is an employee, you will need to engage in private after both of you have had time to self-reflect on the situation and calm down the heated emotions—Journal how you are feeling and brainstorm solutions to resolve the conflict or crisis. Keep your journal in a locked, safe place.
  2. When there are unkind remarks about someone else, say something nice about that person. This action tends to halt the conversation.
  3. Listen to uplifting music, recite positive affirmations and go for a walk to get clarity.

Be the person you want to be around. Focus on what you want in your life and remove the thoughts of what you don’t—set goals for how you will change your situation and put them into action. Hire a leadership and life coach to help you get where you want to be. ~ Patti

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am a positive influence in the workplace!

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Until next time when we meet again!

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Exploring Changing The Feeling of Dread At Work To Excitement Again From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to Episode 13 – Exploring Changing The Feeling of Dread At Work To Excitement Again From Chaos to Calm.

This podcast episode will discuss and reflect on changing the feeling of dread at work to excitement again. 

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

Do you remember the days you were excited to get up and work?

You loved having this career and learning new things. You lit up the office with your enthusiasm. You were like a sponge; you soaked up all the knowledge you could get. 

When did everything at work change from excitement to dread?

Was it a slow fade over time?

How did it happen?

What changed in you, and when did you start to dread going into the office?

Was there disappointment or being set up for failure?

A new boss, was there Unethical people getting promoted?

A shift in the company vision or goals?

Unreasonable workload?

Have the work duties changed?

Too many ridiculous meetings?

Too many emails to answer?

Are the work schedule boundaries blurred?

We all have been here at some time or another with a job. We want something more challenging and exciting if you feel like this; maybe it is time for a new direction in your career path. 

As managers or supervisors, we must realize that our employees also get to this point of dread when they no longer feel challenged or excited to come to work. We need to look for those signs that they are bored and the job is not lighting them up anymore. 

What can you do to help them enjoy work again?  

Has something changed in the work environment? If so, what is it? What’s the true undercurrent causing the dread? Is there a solution?

A leader’s words, actions, and deeds set the path for how the team interacts with you, the team, and customers, contributing to the energy and flow of the work environment. 

Are you leading by your emotions, your staff’s emotions, company policies, or critical thinking? 

How is your attitude at work affecting those around you and yourself?  

You know what you want and what you don’t want. So what is holding you in a job that you feel bored and on the road to nowhere? What can you do to change this back to feeling excited again? Do you have a mentor or coach helping you to succeed and promote within your company?

How is your employee’s attitude at work? 

What’s holding them back in their job performances? 

Are you mentoring and coaching them to succeed?

What could make you feel alive again in your work situation? 

Reflect on all these questions and think about what are some solutions for you. You know something needs to give, but the only way it will change is if you put it into action.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

Each day I am developing my career and my staff!

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Until next time when we meet again!

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Exploring How To Say No When Overcommitted From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to Episode 12 How to Say No When Overcommitted From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

How do we truly have a balanced life? 

Between running a business or having a demanding career, family time, alone time with spouse, volunteering, hobbies, taking a vacation and all other promised commitments. 

We get pulled in many different directions, sometimes bringing us to our breaking point. Being overwhelmed can create the appearance that someone wants you to do something for them, and you feel obligated to do it, and you are already overbooked and can’t do one more thing.

What are the signs it is time to say no?

  • feel stress, anxiety, and panic.
  • You don’t want to do it.
  • It is not something you enjoy
  • You’re the go-to person.
  • You can’t get what you already promised completed
  • by the deadline dates.
  • You feel if you say no to that person, they won’t like you,
  • or worse, your boss will be disappointed and punish you somehow.

Do any of these statements describe your situation? 

If yes, are you ready to start saying no?

Action Steps:

  • Make a list of all your obligations.
  • Checkmark the ones you enjoy doing.
  • Circle the ones you don’t.
  • The commitments you don’t want, slowly start
  • removing them from your life.

Take one step at a time and say no to things you don’t have time for or don’t want to do. When you start saying no, it will feel uncomfortable at the start; however, you will be set free to enjoy being you.

Today’s Podcast Affirmation:

I say “NO” easily!

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Until next we meet again!

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Exploring Good Boundaries In The Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 10 – Exploring Good Boundaries In The Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In today’s podcast, we explore having good boundaries in the workplace.

Have you ever worked with someone who has no sense of boundaries?

What do I mean? 

Heres’ an example:

Someone who asks you personal things or wants you to do something for them is entirely out of line, sarcastic, embarrassing, and takes advantage? They have no filter or common sense that it is not appropriate.

It could be your boss, a co-worker, or an employee. 

How do you handle these situations without feeling rude, resentful, or used?

Here’s an example of setting boundaries with a person with no filter or asking things that are none of their business

I’ve worked with people who would say what they were thinking without stopping and pausing before speaking. There was no holding back if the words were unkind, insensitive, rude, pushy, harsh, gossip, or nosy. 

I remember working with a person that loved to gossip about everyone at work. She would come into my office and start talking about others or trying to get information out of me. I would say I am swamped right now or change the subject or stand up and tell her I have to go. Finally, she stopped coming into my office to gossip.

What if someone is harsh, unkind, rude, and pushy to you? Ask them – how you are doing or what’s going on. You would be surprised how that can change the conversation from hostile to civil. Stating what’s going on gives them a chance to explain how they feel about their situation or problem.

Here’s an example of someone that takes advantage – the Doer and Slacker 

The doer personality will sometimes take on your people’s work without recognizing that the slacker is pawning it off. Especially when a project is close to a deadline in a team environment, the Doer will step in to finish the project on time.  

How does a Doer get the slacker to complete their part of the project? By not rescuing them. Let the project deadline go over, and don’t protect the slacker, the uncompleted task assigned to the slacker, and everyone knows it. If the slacker is accountable for their actions, they will have to start stepping up to complete their part when everyone doesn’t let them get away with it. Keeping up with the boundary of not doing the slacker work is necessary to change the behavior and for the boss to become aware. Remember, it is not your responsibility for that person’s lack of completion. You are responsible for yourself and you alone; this is a complex concept for the Doer, but setting the boundary of not covering and doing all the work will stop being taken advantage of and give you more time to do the things you enjoy. 

As a manager or supervisor, there are times when employees push the boundaries, asking you things you can’t discuss and communicating to them that you can’t comment on this.

What are some boundary techniques you use at work?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I have good boundaries at work!

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Until next we meet again!

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Exploring The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 7 – The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of being unheard and underappreciated at work?

This topic is for anyone who feels that they are not recognized or appreciated. As a manager and supervisor, this is a daily occurrence stuck in the middle between top management and employees and getting crap from both sides. So every day, you push down resentment, disappointment, words, anger, and chaos within yourself and others. 

One of these days, it will bubble over, and the dragon will explode with harsh words and actions.

You are to pretend everything is great when you don’t believe it yourself in the decisions made from above, but you have to enforce and ensure it is completed and done that way. You have to convince employees to change how they do things when they disagree and don’t want to.  

When you speak up with your concerns, you are ignored and labeled as trouble-makers or uncooperative. The yes people promote and get recognition for your work. You are the doer and get things done but not acknowledged for all your accomplishments.

Your boss has promised you a promotion numerous times, but it doesn’t happen, and eventually, a yes person gets the position and over you. 

How heartbreaking is that?

You’re so good at your job your boss doesn’t want you to move up they keep you stuck in a dead-end job or career.

Being ethical may get you passed over for a promotion. 

Why is that? 

Do employers want honorable people or not? 

Isn’t it better to be an honest person than not? 

I’m lost for words because this is really happening, people. 

Keeping your mouth shut is expected, and nodding your head in agreement is the norm instead of working together to make things better and sharing ideas and processes to streamline.  

Keeping mouths shut and agreeing is causing chaos, resentment, overload, anxiety, and burnout in the workplace because things aren’t getting done correctly and efficiently.  

How can this change?

How many of you out there has a boss you can sit down with and say; this isn’t working; the staff is frustrated and on overload? If you do. Show some appreciation to them every once in a while. They need encouragement to keep pushing on with a thankless job. These people want to make a difference and want to do what is right, and they do open their mouths and disagree at times, even when rejected and not appreciated.

When people feel appreciated, heard, and can express their ideas, they might go the extra mile to speak up and change the environment from chaos to calm.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am heard and appreciated! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Exploring The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Click here to listen to Episode 6 – The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will be discussing the technique of pausing before reacting or responding as a Manager or Supervisor.

Have you ever responded from a knee-jerk reaction and wished you hadn’t?

Have you considered stopping, pausing, and reflecting before reacting as a manager and supervisor when in the middle of chaos?

I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis. However, in leadership, we’re geared to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.

When taking a pause and time to reflect, we won’t jump immediately to the wrong conclusion or react unfavorably or lash out.

Many times in my career, I didn’t pause and reflect before responding, and I regretted it because it went from calm to chaos by my knee-jerk reaction.

Have you done that as well?

Think about all the times you reacted harshly or over the top.

How did that work for you?

Probably not good for you looking like an ass or for the person or people around you.

Do you wish you could go back in time and change your response?

Using the pause, reflecting before responding can help you not regret your reaction if used at that moment.

When at work and someone is rude to you and disagrees. Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will allow you time to reframe your response or decide not to react and change the situation from the emotions of chaos to calm.

Have you ever received an email at work that put you into a rage?

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send the email response right away. You may regret it and could damage your career or reputation!

I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending or replying some time or another.

What if you do receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?

Before responding to the email:

  • Write out your reply.
  • Please don’t send it and walk away. If possible, sleep on it.
  • Rewrite the email response when you have calmed down.
  • Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

Here’s A Quote To Remember: “Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – author unknown

Don’t get me wrong, as a manager or supervisor. You have to be direct with employees to inspire them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue.

  • Have a plan on how to address it.
  • Write it out and practice what and how to say it.

There are also times when you need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect.

What is happening around you?

It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

How can you practice pausing and reflecting into your leadership routine and have it become a habit?

Here are some Self Reflection Questions to Ponder or Journal about:

What are your thoughts about pausing and reflecting?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Today’s podcast Affirmation ~ I pause and reflect before responding!

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Until next we meet again! ~ Patti

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Exploring How To Respond To Unprofessionalism From Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, Patti discusses interaction with unprofessional people.

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone unprofessional. They may come across like they don’t care, don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or even realize their behavior is unprofessional. 

How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. 

Why? 

Because it is uncomfortable. Whether new or experienced, many managers and supervisors shy away from confrontation, thinking that the behavior will go away or disappear. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse when it’s not dealt with and continues.Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. However, people can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

Calmly explain to the unprofessional person how to be treated with respect. Give some examples of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some Self Reflections to Ponder or Journal about:

1. What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessionalism?

2. What did you learn from these experiences?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I recognize the beauty around me, even when I am in the presence of unprofessionalism.

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Until we meet again!

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