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How Can We Show Up As Better Leaders?

A couple of weeks ago, a friend was telling me about her work situation and why she decided to give her notice. She brightens up people’s days with her friendly demeanor. She worked at the front desk. Having a friendly employee as the first contact with your customers is crucial. Customers will continue to come if they feel welcome, the same for employees.

Why do good employees leave?

A shortage of appreciation, praise, acknowledgement, or recognition from management

Manager only pointing out what went wrong

Lack of trust in employees

Bad communication – Not sharing important information or changes in company policies

Unsatisfied relationships with coworkers and/or management

Employee feeling unchallenged or bored with their work

The organization culture or the companies vision

Little growth and no promotional opportunities

Blatant employee favoritism

Lack of work-life balance, being over-worked, feeling over-stressed and having no work boundaries (on duty 24/7)

How can we show up as a better leader and save good employees?

Build a trusting environment. Give opportunities for employees to learn new tasks and give them clear verbal instructions with written procedures. When a situation arises be truthful. Come up with the right solution together. Acknowledge good work performance. Share policies changes in person and written form. Be open to answering employees’ questions. Care about the job and value staff.

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Does A Worry Stone Really Banish Anxiety and Stress?

As a leadership and work-life balance coach, I am always open to new ways to banish stress and anxiety and sharing different techniques with others. In today’s blog post, I will be discussing worry stones and the method of rubbing away stress and anxiety.

The practice of rubbing worry stones has been around for centuries. When I was a kid, instead of worry stones, there were pet rocks and colored stones. I have always enjoyed looking at rocks by stopping, picking up the stones and admiring them. Their beautiful shapes, sizes, and colors.

What are some other common names for worry stones?
Fidget stones, feeling stones, soothing stones, sensory stones and thumb stones.

According to Wikipedia the origins of worry stones:
As a folk practice implement, worry stones have many origins. Variations on the concept originate in ancient GreeceTibetIreland, and multiple Native American tribes. The concept of a worry stone began by the simple action of picking a smooth stone and fiddling with the stone.[3] Worry stones made by sea water were generally used by Ancient Greeks.[4] Native American tribes would continuously give them to younger generations, creating a sense of connection from previous family members.[3] They also believed these worry stones were considered a sacred item and they were extra special if they were made out of quartz.[4]

What is a Worry Stone?
A worry stone is a smooth flat rock about the size of a thumb. When rubbing the stone between thumb and fingers, it has a calming effect. The stones are small enough to carry around in your pocket or purse. Stones come in all different colors, sizes, shapes and minerals. They can be river stones, crystals, sea glass, tumbled gems or a smooth flat rock from your backyard. You can purchase stones at craft and arts stores, amazon, mineral-rock shops and rock and gems shows. Some worry stones have an indent inside the size of a thumb. Other stones may have inspirational quotes, one-word sayings, affirmations, religious symbols, etc. Also, painting flat rocks is another way to relax and a way to make the stone more personal to fit your personality or style.

I recently watched a YouTube video called DIY Worry Stones on how to make worry stones from colored baked clay.

How Do You Use A Worry Stone?
Place the flat stone in your hand between your thumb and index finger and rub the stone back and forth.

Does Rubbing on a Worry Stone Help Reduce Anxiety and Stress?
A worry stone works as a form of reflexology or nerve pressure when rubbed. While rubbing the stone it touches the reflex areas in your thumb and fingers creating a sensation of relaxation and calm within the body. Reflexology is commonly known for applying gentle pressing on certain parts of the body, usually on the feet.

My stone:
It is a smooth clear thumb size stone. I purchased it at a mineral-rock store. I like the feel of it in my hand. I do rub it from time to time. When using the worry stone, I will switch up my hands while rubbing it. Using just your dominant hand is fine.

When are good times to rub a worry stone?

While sitting at a doctor’s office.

Before taking a test.

Before giving a presentation.

When feeling anxious or upset.

While a customer is yelling at you on the phone.

Before delivering bad news.

While contemplating on a big decision or large purchase.

Before going to sleep.

Does it work?
For me, it is a pleasant distraction because I am focusing on rubbing the stone and it does help me gain a new perspective.

For others, I think it depends on the individual and being open to the process. When taking those few moments of rubbing the stone, it can settle the mind.

Carrying a worry stone around with you, especially when feelings of anxiety, anger, or frustration occur. By rubbing your thumb and fingers across the stone it will hit reflex areas and the movement relaxes your mind, body, and spirit.

Please share your answers to the following questions in the comments below:

Have you rubbed a worry stone? 

What was your experience like? 

When do you use your worry stone?

What color is it?

How did you chose it?

Share a photo of your stone.

If not,  After reading this blog post would you try one?

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Why are You Killing Yourself for a Job that will Replace You in a Week?

“Why are you killing yourself for a job that will replace you in a week if you died? Take care of yourself!” ~ Unknown

Lately, I have been seeing more and more people posting this quote on social mediaand as a work-life balance leadership coach; I should probably address my thoughts on this quote.

Throughout my work life journeys and coaching experiences, I have come to the realization that maybe this quote may absolutely be true. However, my goal is to change this through my coaching.

It is important to work hard and be a diligent loyal employee but thinking about work 24/7 is not good for you mentally or physically. Everyone needs to take vacations and get away to rest and relax.

Why are employees feeling this way?

From what I hear, people are working themselves into overwhelm and burn-out. Some employees care way too much about their jobs to the point of making themselves physically sick. While others do the bare minimum not to get fired and appear to be the happiest.

Why is that?

I hear this scenario repeatedly from others, that the people who do the least amount of work get promoted while the dedicated doers get passed over time and time again. The Doers are conscientious about their job duties day in and day out, work late and get the job done with little to no praise or acknowledgment and are slowly killing themselves in the process. They have high anxiety, stress, diabetes, heart disease, no work-life balance strategies, no work boundaries and so on. While the lazy worker is smiling, laughing, playing on their cell phone all day and really content with collecting their paycheck, while everyone else is covering their job, completely stressed-out and resentful.

Why do leaders let this happen?

Leaders need to spend time with the employees and get to know them instead of locking themselves in their offices. Don’t they want to knowwhat is really going on? Someone once told me, because the Leader doesn’t care. Reviewing staff’s workload and time management is key to assist with eliminating overload and overwhelm. Coaching the lazy worker to do their share of the workload is an important job duty of the supervisor. The Doer’s need to feel comfortable to be able to honestly state to their manager they are in overwhelm and need assistance as well as the ability to say no to more tasks when they have too much to handle.

Why doesn’t the Leader care?

When loyal hard-working employees leave by either transferring to another department for the same or less salary, or go to the competition or just plain leave as a Leader you should be asking this question! Why are they leaving?

Losing good employees hurts the business and the bottom line. Yes, they may make a high salary but the cost of training new staff and their expertise is now gone, and this alone is very detrimental to a company.

A good leader finds out what is really going on within their company. They don’t just sit in their office with the door closed, they ask questions and want the truth, not lip service. They know who is really doing the work and who isn’t. They care about the staff and want them to succeed. When hiring internally the good leader recognizes who is the right person to promote, since they know the employees quality of work, interpersonal skills and if they are the right fit for the job.

What are some solutions to change this concept?

  • Find the strengths of the complacent worker and give them those projects.
  • Coach the complacent employee on doing their work tasks and pulling their share of the workload.
  • Meet with them daily on their progress for 10 to 15 minutes, getting updates on where they are with their work assignments.
  • Have them set up daily goals on their work tasks and review their progress.

Isthis concept a forgottenprinciple?

Would love to see your thoughts, comments and your experiences on this subject. ~ Patti

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