Davina Lyons is the founder of the “Authentic Me“. Community and Workshops for Women, a safe space for women to collectively do the work of self-awareness and resilience.
This means discovering more about and redefining themselves, along with elevating their personal living standards. Davina has overcome many hardships: childhood trauma, multiple miscarriages, abusive relationships, and unfulfilling careers.
However, she learned from her journey that those challenging experiences do not define her life. She is now on a mission to help women love and embrace their authentic selves to live their BEST life and reach their highest potential.
Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.
Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.
How did you get to this point?
High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.
Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.
“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown
What is burnout?
It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.
What are some warn signs?
🦋 Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work
🦋 Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started
🦋 Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients
🦋 Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite
🦋 No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate
🦋 No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort
🦋 Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety
🦋 Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all
🦋 Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping
If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.
How to change?
🦋 Focus on your recent and past accomplishments 🦋 Stop self-criticizing yourself and others 🦋 Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer 🦋 Make and write in a daily gratitude journal
Change your workflow! 🦋 Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion 🦋 Take regular breaks 🦋 Limit working overtime 🦋 Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.
If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.
Do you have a happy place?
If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?
In this episode Surviving Social Isolation, Angela and Patti will give some tips and tricks on how to deal with social distancing and surviving isolation. Click on the link below to listen to the full podcast episode:
Our prayers and thoughts go out to everyone who is affected by this virus.
This is the perfect time for slowing down and taking some self-care.
How can you still be in contact with others while being isolated?
Facetime or video chat with family and friends
Adult coloring or coloring with the children
Play board games with family and do a puzzle
Blowing bubbles outside with the children
Draw or write with chalk outside with the kids
Have a virtual meetup; On Facebook, Skype, or Zoom. Example: a book club, a meeting you usually might have in person but instead do it virtually
Start a group text, in the WhatsApp with people who get you and can help you get support
Here’s a journal exercise Angela discussed to move and release those feelings.
Write down on a piece of paper.
1. What you feel you have lost in this situation? 2. What you feel you need? 3. Why do you need this? 4. How could you meet this need?
With the feelings: – Acknowledge what you are feeling and tell yourself it’s OK to feel this way. Other people are feeling a lot at the moment, too (their own feelings) the more you acknowledge what you feel helps others to acknowledge theirs. With the need – find words that meet your emotional need eg. to feel safe, to get rid of anxiety, to not go crazy!
Why do you need this? – When you understand more deeply why you need what you think you need – you may begin to see that your “why” can give you more solutions from Patti’s list of me-time or we-time. And it will help you vocalize your need to others and those you love…or you may realize something about your need – like its actually not that important!
How could you meet this need? Is it reaching out for support or getting personally creative/nurturing.
Look at a list of tips we are sharing. Notice which of your needs are the most important? Often one habit/action meets all of your needs. If you are an introvert, texting and telepathy are good places to start to connect to others. Telepathy is sending the thought out and putting good energy to it, so that later when you reach out to others, they feel that energy.
When you send a text – Put a good feeling into it – people will feel it. Its the most amazing thing in these times, people are willing and ready to connect and wishing well for people.
I have spoken to a lot of people who feel stuck in a dead-end job. When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going to work the next morning. On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed. They push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk on the way to work.
🦋 Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?
🦋 Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?
🦋 Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?
🦋 Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?
Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself. Answer them with the first reaction you have.
🦋 Am I learning any new aspects in my position?
🦋 Are my job duties challenging to me?
🦋 Do I enjoy going to work every day?
🦋 Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?
🦋 Do I feel I am making a difference?
🦋 Are my coworkers positive at work?
🦋 Am I positive at work?
If you answered no to these questions, you might be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.
What are some options to improve my career situation?
Create a Career Journal to track your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.
Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and refocus on your career path.
What’s in a Career Journal:
Career goals and ideas
Keep track of career progress
Advice from mentors
A private place to vent career disappointments
Keep positive affirmations and quotes
Gain a new perspective
Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you notes, recommendations, references, and certifications
Mission statement and values
Develop a career action plan
Keep motivated and inspired
To celebrate the small successes
How to Get Started:
Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
Organize by categories
Add to your career journal regularly
Please keep it in a secure place
Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:
What did I learn?
What did I accomplish?
Did I receive any compliments? If so, what was it, and who said it?
How did I make a difference?
Did I have any setbacks, and how did it affect me?
How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?
What to consider:
Should I stay at my current employment or move on?
Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go.” Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!
What’s keeping me here?
Are there other options?
If, so what are they?
A Transfer within the company?
Start job hunting?
Hire a career coach?
Go back to school and learn something new?
After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go.”What did this list tell you?
Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement. Leap of faith and try something different. You will have a career purpose with meaning again. Whatever decision you make to either stay or go, having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals and prepare you for the next career opportunity. ~ Patti
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