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Episode 96 – What You’re Carrying That No One Asked You To Hold

Sometimes the heaviest things we carry are the ones no one asked us to hold.

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In this episode of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti, we explore the emotional load—the invisible responsibility of managing thoughts, feelings, and expectations for others.

You may recognize it in the way you replay conversations, anticipate needs, or try to keep everything running smoothly.

This conversation gently invites you to notice what you’re carrying—and consider what you may be ready to release.


Key Takeaways

• Emotional load is often invisible—but deeply felt
• Holding what’s unsaid creates mental and emotional strain
• Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring
• Awareness is the first step toward change


Reflection

What have I been holding that may not be mine?


Affirmation

I am allowed to release what is not mine to carry.


If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who may be carrying too much too.


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Patti’s Links:

To schedule a life and work-life balance coaching or Reiki session

If you would like to learn more about working with Patti for coaching services⁠⁠

Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm Podcast ⁠⁠


Angela’s Links:

Angela’s new eBook, The Empath’s Guide: How to Stop Taking on Other People’s Energy ⁠https://bit.ly/empathebook1⁠

Join Angela’s online Movement Class 7 pm Mondays, Sydney time ⁠https://classbento.com.au/dance-healing-feel-more-relaxed-and-at-home-in-your-body⁠

Join Angela on Facebook: Energy and Dance Healing for Intuitives⁠ www.facebook.com/groups/energydancehealing/⁠


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Episode 67 – Does Intentional Creativity Build Better Relationships with Special Guest Kami Pollvogt

In this podcast episode, we have a special guest Kami Pollvogt and she will be discussing Does Intentional Creativity Build Better Relationships.  Kami did a previous guest podcast, Episode 57 called Wish You Knew Why The People In Your Life Do What They Do?

Kami Pollvogt is a Transformational Life Coach, an Intentional Creativity Coach, and the founder of Change by Design; a creative personal development company that focuses on teaching, guiding, and accelerating personal change through the practice of living intentionally. She is a Certified Intentional Creativity Coach. Intentional Creativity is an approach to creating with mindfulness that she utilizes with her clients to catalyze consciousness towards self-agency. Kami is here to share about Intentional Creativity, her program Best at Being ME! and how it fits into helping you, our listening audience, to Build Better Relationships at Home and Work.

For more information about Kami Pollvogt her website is www.changebydesign.life

Kami has an upcoming summer workshop in 2022 called Best at Being ME! This workshop is for every woman who feels like they are in the midst of a life transition.  To learn more about her workshop go to www.changebydesign.life

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Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships.

Summary

This podcast topic came from a listener’s request about not taking everything so personally.

Why do some people or cultures make it look so easy not to take things personally and others take every little thing to heart?

Is it the environment of how we are raised?

Or do some people have DNA that can let things roll off their back or turn the other cheek with ease?

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly sensitive in nature? 

How to overcome hurt by someone’s harsh words:
Remind yourself it’s about them not about you at that moment.  Maybe you did something they didn’t like. What did their words really say?  Was it about the behavior?  Or something else?


One tip is to watch your conditioning:
What are the annoyed and angry voices in your head regarding the household chores?
You will hear your expectations, you may hear your parents, but you will hear the frustration of someone else not doing what you want and thinking about what should be done.

This is your conditioning. So once you hear it. Simply say – ok – that’s my conditioning. It’s not that this person hates me or is insulting me – or wants me dead or ignores me.

This is my expectation about how things should be done. And then if you’re really angry maybe don’t speak with the other person!

But then think about how you could say to them what you want. But don’t expect them to do it the way you want because that may not be their conditioning!

Some strategies to help deal with and not take things personally:

  • Listen to happy, soothing, calming, or spiritual music when feelings start to surface within you.
  • Find something fun to do to help redirect thoughts.
  • Practice meditation and pray for “Letting Go” of things people have said.  
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when around certain people. Become aware of those thoughts and assumptions. Reflect on why these reactions are happening and how you can release or address them?
  • With friendships, coworkers, partners and family how has taking things personally affected these relationships?  What can I do to change it for the better

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly-sensitive in nature?

Do you feel you’re Feeling too much?

Feeling everything about you – you are the center of attention – are you the most important thing in a relationship?

What is a relationship?

A relationship is not just about you.

A relationship is like a dance – two people having a tango – push-pull. Not about just you and your feelings. ~ Angela Ambrosia

For meditations to help with hurt in relationships here is the video series “Choose the Relationship” by Angela Ambrosia. The meditations are at the end of the videos.


 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Episode 62 – Building A Better Relationship With Your Body

Click to listen to Episode 62 – Building A Better Relationship With Your Body

In this unedited podcast episode, we discuss Angela’s Body of Love Journey and her book Body of Love: 10 Steps to Love Yourself and Your Body – A Workbook. Link to the Workbook http://amzn.to/2o28JFB.

It’s been ten years since Angela wrote the Body of Love in 2012. Happy 10th Anniversary Congratulations, Angela!

Today, Angela will celebrate what she has learned and so much more about the Body ten years later, and Angela is excited to share pieces of her teachings from the Body of Love and how they can help you change how you relate to the Body. Angela also discusses how different dance experiences helped shape her mindset to love her body.

“The time you spend connecting to yourself and your body is how you develop and make a relationship with the reservoir of love inside of you that allows you to share that love with others.” ~ Angela Ambrosia

“The Body of Love is the part of you so in love with life that it is beyond the suffering you experience in love and loving others, or yourself or in being here in the world. The more you love yourself, the more you are able to be who you truly are.” ~ Angela Ambrosia

“The concept of “service” is stepping into loving and knowing who you are so that you no longer live a lie, and in doing so, you allow others to live their truth and step into their own loving being.” ~ Angela Ambrosia 

“But as you grow through life with higher principles of love, you develop ways to accept people, tolerate differences and enjoy their differences without expecting others to live according to your version of love and find creative ways for us to grow and live together.”

“The greatest service you can do for others is to allow them the gift of loving themselves. When people feel that you encourage this self-love in them as you allow it for yourself, they will flock to you and want to be your best friend.” ~Angela Ambrosia

To learn more about Angela’s book Body of Love and to purchase Angela books http://amzn.to/2o28JFB

We would love to hear about your Body of Love Journey.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to this podcast.

To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore.

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation, go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

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Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Click to listen to Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Angela and Patti discuss forgiving family members and hurtful words in this podcast episode.

Have you ever said something so hurtful and regretted it?

The same is true for family members who have said angry, hurtful words to you. Hurting people lash out at others. Words hurt profoundly, and a lot of times, and not forgotten. Speaking in anger can be dangerous for all relationships, even if it is accurate and how you are feeling at that moment in time. The damage has been created and really can’t take back.

Why do we say hurtful words? First, it’s helpful to understand why people become habituated to saying unkind things.

Understanding why people say hurtful things will help you see what the person is experiencing underneath the words.

Patti often says in our podcasts, “hurt people – hurt other people.”

Angela – I see that hurt people have no way to heal their hurt or resolve it – so they project it out – like spitting out the poison inside them – or when you spit out something that you don’t like in your mouth.

The thing is – it seems pretty stupid to spit out your hurt on someone else – if you want to stay friends with them.

So why would we do that?

Well, monkey sees – monkey do.

How do you forgive?

Forgiveness is the hardest thing for most people. Unforgiveness is a poison on your soul and spirit. Unfortunately, people with unforgiveness spill it out on others, and the cycle continues down the line.

Questions to journal or self reflect on:

Are apologies needed to be said before healing can happen? YES or NO

What if apologies never occur?

What if the family member doesn’t want to make amends?

How will you let go and forgive without an apology?

When unforgiveness takes over your thoughts and heart, recite the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer Ho’oponopono” at least three or more times. First, say the person’s name and then the prayer. Or you may not get a chance to apologize or get an apology; this prayer will assist in healing and forgive with a genuine desire to heal the relationship.

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

We would love to hear about your family dynamics and how you conquered and let go of the hurt from angry words said, whether you were telling them or directed at you.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-star review so more people can find and listen to the podcast.

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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation.

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Episode 57 – Wish You Knew Why The People In Your Life Do What They Do?

Click to listen to Episode 57 – Wish You Knew Why The People In Your Life Do What They Do?

In this episode, Angela and Patti have a special guest Kami Pollvogt, a Transformational Life Coach and Intentional Creativity Coach, and founder of Change by Design; a creative personal development company that focuses on teaching, guiding, and accelerating personal change through the practice of living intentionally.

She is a Certified Independent COLOR CODE Trainer which is based upon the personality science research done by Dr. Taylor Hartman who published his work The Color Code in 1987 (almost 35 years ago) subsequent editions are titled The People Code.

Kami shares all about Color Code and how it fits into helping our audience Build Better Relationships at Home and Work.

To learn more about  Kami Pollvogt products, services, and workshops click the links below:

https://changebydesign.life 

https://www.facebook.com/changebydesignaz

Best At Being Me Workshop

Interested in a color code assessment from Kami Pollvogt, Email her at kami@changebydesign.life

Kami Pollvogt will be coming again on the podcast in 2022 to discuss another aspect of her coaching practice Intentional Creativity.

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Thank you so much for listening! 

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Episode 52 – Claiming Your Value at Work or Entrepreneur

Summary of podcast:

In this episode, we look at the changing expectations in the marketplace where people are moving to offer their services for sale versus working in a job with a fixed salary and how this forces you to claim your value versus having employers or your own perceptions determine what you are worth.

To listen to this episode click on the link.

Self-Reflection Questions for Determining a Raise:

Do I exceed expectations of my job duties, job description, and why?

Am I the go-to person who gets things done?

Do I take on additional tasks, projects, and responsibilities outside of my job description?

Do others come to me for my advice, knowledge, and leadership?

Am I increasing my learning and knowledge within my industry?

Do people at work describe me as vital within the company?

How Do You Claim Your Value as an Entrepreneur?

Is the world interested in what you share?

Does the world understand what you share?

Do you have something of value to others?

And if you do – do you know how to communicate that effectively to others?

Can people afford what you have to share?

Will people want to pay for what you have to offer?

There are so many other people offering what you have; why would they want what you’ve got to share?

Self-Doubt to Self-Assured Common stuff that goes through people minds:

How much do I share?

Did I share too much?

Do people want to hear about it?

Will it make a difference?

Am I too pushy?

What if no one buys my products or services?

What if people are making fun of me or judging me?

Here are some questions and Journal exercises about thinking about your value and how you condition your value.

If you want to claim your value, you need to see the conditions you put on it, so that you will understand why you are using your time and energy the way you are and so that IF you want to, can change your perception about your value you can:

1. See how to change your mindset or perception about your value

2. Change the way you describe your value to the world, so they understand your value or

3. See how to communicate your value to the world so that they understand it clearly.

It is ONLY the belief that what you offer is worth a certain price.

How do you claim your value in what you offer to the world, whether at work or in personal relationships?

Patti’s new podcast ExploringLife and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm.

Patti has the 21 Days to Optimal Work-life Balance for busy people and entrepreneurs who often fall into the trap that if they DO more, then they are doing good.

To Book an Energy Healing Session with Angela: https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/dancehealing

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Episode 39 – Finding Your Purpose through Loneliness! (Podcast)

In a summary of this podcast episode of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti. We will discuss how to find purpose through loneliness.

With the ongoing pandemic, many people are feeling isolated and lonely. We want to explore this topic and share some tips and strategies to ease the emotions, find your purpose, and put it into action.

What does having a purpose mean?

Do you believe that we are here to serve our purpose?

Is there something that you feel deeply about, and you know you are supposed to pursue it?

What if we don’t find our purpose?

Angela and Patti have been pursuing these questions for years. Why did we feel so strongly about making this podcast? We want to help people have good relationships with oneself and others while living their best life with a purpose and intent.

Angela’s talks about the shadow side. 

What does it need? 

What does this thought or feeling have to say about my purpose?

Why am I here now experiencing these feelings?

Patti’s gives tips on how to connect with others.

Patti’s has an online course through Teachable called – Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders! – This mini-course is for managers, supervisors, anyone in a leadership role who’s crazy busy, working 24/7, and wants something more in life beyond their career. This is an excellent way of finding your purpose outside of work. https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/

Angela’s has a movement meditation class – If you want to explore your spirit moving freely, check out the movement meditation class, where we take a journey through movement to explore how your divine is truly within you. https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/

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Episode 35 – Emotional and Physical Self-Healing Reset! (Podcast)

In today’s podcast, we will share some techniques to refocus your energy, which can also help you reset yourself for the year.

What is Physical Self-Healing?

Physical self-healing is learning and creating habits that support you, your body, and your spirit. And recognize and release patterns that are out-dated and need to go, such as workaholic tendencies, wasting your energy, thinking bad about yourself and others, and putting your body’s health last.

Angela’s Tips on Resetting your Physical and Emotional Energy:

Setting an intention for the year to determine your focus for your life. How does the intent take you further than last year? Did you achieve your goals for last year? Why not What would you love to try this year? Is it more or less of what you are doing?

Physical Reset Tips:

1. Shower. And imagine the water washing over you is fresh life energy and white light. Feel that light is releasing the past.

2. Go to the ocean and release old energy.

3. Visualize yourself in a bubble of light to accept who you are just the way you are without attempting to change or be different. Light is used in healing to wash in different vibrations because we are vibrating; from our blood flow to our heartbeat, we are always vibrating. You can even now imagine yourself in a bubble of any color light and notice how it makes you feel.

4. Angela does meditation to walk you through this technique quickly on the podcast. BREATHE. FEEL HEART AND FEEL BREATH and LET GO of OLD and FOCUS ON NEW BREATH. Take a few breaths to refocus your energy.

Ask the following and see what comes to you.

WHAT IS IT YOU WANT FOR YOU?

WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR WORLD?

How to write an affirmation:

*Start with the words I am?

*Use the word or statement in the present tense.

*State it in the positive. Affirm what you want.

*Keep it brief, specific, clear, and straightforward.

*Have a word with (ing)

*Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.

*Make the affirmation, so it resonates with you!

Affirmation: I am resetting my focus on my dreams!

Patti gave this example:  Someone that works all the time and has little attention or focus on their body or health.  

Reflection questions:

*What are the benefits of leaving work on time?

*What actions will you put in place to leave work on time?

*How will you use this extra time to focus on a healthy lifestyle?

*Describe your life after achieving this?

Every Monday in 2021, Angela has a Facebook Live https://www.facebook.com/transformedrelationships where you can breathe for 7 minutes and focus on what you want to manifest and focus on during the week.

Angela is starting a new meditation class.  Jan 13, 2021, at 9:00 pm EST and 7:00 pm MT and 6:00 pm PT on Wednesdays or 1:00 pm Thursdays Jan 14, 2021, in Sydney the next day. https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/meditationtobalance

Patti’s 21 Days to Optimal Work/Life Balance Program with its reflection questions helps open your mind to a new way of looking at what you want in life. It resets your mindset as well as physical reset with some of the topics. There are affirmations in the program, and Patti made companion affirmation cards for support and inspiration to keep you on track.  

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Episode 34 – Communicating in Conflict! (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti get real and have a conversation about communicating in conflict.

When we came up with this topic, we explored being okay to say no and have a fall-out with someone. People pleasers struggle with saying no because they are scared, leading to the person not liking them or getting upset with them.

Nowadays, people are quick to avoid or ghost others instead of talking to each other. They wash their hands of people and walk away. It is easier to bail than to communicate. We hope this not the case; we know it is better to discuss things, whether pleasant or not, for relationships to last. Patti wrote a blog called “Damaged Relationships – Are They Salvageable?” It is about fall-out relationships and how unforgiveness causes physical and emotional harm.

In episode Episode 21- Lack of Communication and Overworked! Angela and Patti talked about communicating at work or when working from Home when overwhelmed with the workload.

Working relationships do have fall-outs that are not pretty. Avoidance makes more stress within the Workplace because the little things start adding up to big things when not addressed. That’s when all hell breaks loose in the Workplace, and people explode, get burnt out, start overthinking, become anxious, have low morale and no motivation, or even worse, quit and walk out without any notice. Patti did a blog called – How to Respond to Unprofessional People! Journal about what happened. Reflect on how they may respond to you. Create a plan of action on how to communicate calmly and to respond sensibly.

In the blog post series called Bad Leadership Styles. The series is how to identify different styles of Leadership with suggestions on guidance to address these negative behaviors. I will provide the link in the show notes.

Tips on How to Keep the Relationship While Dealing With Conflict:

Work on your feelings first: 

❤️ Are you angry and denying it?

❤️ What are you feeling?

❤️ If it’s about being right.

❤️ Why do you need to be, right?

❤️ Being right is always based on a belief that you should be better than someone.

❤️ Why do you have to be better than someone?

If you’re listening to this in the holidays and you want to focus on having better relationships, then take this time to envision or pray or imagine the type of affection or connection you would love in your relationships.

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