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Podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) – Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

In podcast Episode 19 – Reaching Midlife and Handling Life Changes (Bending Your Knees) Angela and Patti share about reaching midlife and handling what comes your way.

Angela tell us a little bit about the podcast title and Bending Your Knees?  

We thought about this topic a while back, but I really thought about it when I had trouble bending my knees after recovering from surgery.  It was a shock after being flexible most of life I couldn’t bend the knees easily. Everything about surgery was a shock – but also in recovery, I experienced a lot of feelings not being able to be like I used to be, and there was fear about the future and uncertainty about who I was going to become now.  

Midlife-is an important time to look at your life and see what you are not able to do. Not so that you pine about “being old” or look at the past as something that you’ve lost – although you may have a period of grieving.  

After grieving or during grieving it’s important and valuable to take stock, reflect on what results of your life thus far?  

How do you feel about your life?  

If you reflect on your life constructively, it will help get you out of the cycle of thinking and feeling you have lost something or that your life has amounted to nothing. And will help you start to REALLY see –

❤️ What is your life about?

What was the purpose of all that running around, learning, working, not working, having kids, being sick, being healthy – etc. –

❤️ What was it all for?  Bending the knee reflects flexibility – and humility. In my case, I had setbacks – such as getting a little better than getting sick or weak again. What that taught me is to do things differently to go with my needs and energy better.  Mid-life is a great time to realize, there is only so much you can do – so how can you do it better, with less energy – and less ego about how you look, how young you are – it’s also a time to measure what success for you is? Is success about how much money you have? Or is it how happy you are?  

Patti tells us aboutWhat have you found stops people embracing the possibility of change in mid-life?  

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.  

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?  

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?  

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?  

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?  

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects of my position?  

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?  

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work every day?  

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?  

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?  

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?  

🦋  Am I positive at work?  

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.  

What are some options to improve the career situation?  

Use daily affirmations to get you through the day.  Patti created some work-life balance affirmation cards, these cards are good to use for any day in and day out work or home situations.   

Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards

❤️ What do you want our world to be?  

Answer this question on Building Better Relationship at Home and Work with Angela and Patti Facebook group page: What are things, experiences, joys that you really really would like to experience?

Angela and I would like to thank you for following and supporting our podcast!

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Podcast Episode 17 – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?

In this episode, Angela and Patti discuss a topic request from a listener; Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?  Angela is the expert on this topic being a Love and Relationship Coach and she coaches on family dynamics.   

Click the link to listen to the podcast – Is A Family Member Putting A Guilt Trip on You? How to Deal?

Let’s look at guilt. It is the inner ward process of beating yourself up through harsh thoughts. Nobody can put a guilt trip on you, but you, because these are your thoughts. Some of the thoughts could be – I’m not going to make them happy or do what they want. They are going to dislike me or leave me. They are going to think I’m not a good person.

How do you go your own way without the guilt? 

Many people live with regret because they did what their parents wanted instead of what they want to do.

1.  Why do you feel guilty?

2. How has this guilt shown up in my family before? When do you first remember this guilt?

3. What would be the one thing that inner child would love to do or love to hear and love to express?

4. What could you say to the family member to tell them about what you really want to do instead of the ‘trip’ they think you should do?

5. Do you value yourself?

Angela references Patrick Wains here is his website link https://www.patrickwanis.com/

If you want more relationship tips checkout our facebook group – Building Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti.  Ask us about a relationship question in the facebook group or leave a voice message on the anchor podcast app.

Our email is at BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com.

Angela has another podcast on love and relationships it is called “The Love Oracle” – check it out.

Angela will be speaking at the online Lasting Love Summit the week of May 5, 2020 click on the link to register and attend the free summit.

Angela and I would like to thank you for listening and supporting this podcast.

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In Case You Missed It on May 11, 2018 ~ My Video Discussion with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship Coach on Honesty in the Workplace and Family Dynamics

 

The World Needs More Honesty and Less Fakeness with Coaches Patti and Angela

My Video Discussion with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship Coach on Honesty in the Workplace and Family Dynamics

If you found this video helpful, please share this post with your colleagues, friends, family and on your social networks for others to get inspired!  Please feel free to comment and ask questions on the Angela’s Facebook Page and we will answers questions about the topic.  

Patti Oskvarek is a personal, leadership and work life balance coach. She is passionate about coaching supervisors and managers on becoming better leaders and creating a balanced fulfilling life.

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Angela Ambrosia is a teacher who helps people love and understand themselves using dance, body movement and energy healing so they can resolve and manage their emotions and experience great love and joy in themselves and their relationships.

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Announcing Friday Facebook Live Blab on April 20, 2018, Topic: THE WORLD NEEDS MORE ACCEPTANCE & LESS JUDGMENT

 

Love & Relationship Coach, Angela Ambrosia and myself are having a FACEBOOK LIVE BLAB on Friday, April 20, 2018
5pm PST
8pm EST  
10am on Saturday, Sydney, Australia Time
 
OUR TOPIC:
THE WORLD NEEDS MORE ACCEPTANCE & LESS JUDGMENT
 
Come watch us on Facebook click on the link below:
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What is the difference between being friendly and friendship?

What is the difference between being friendly and friendship?

I was asked this question recently.  I was at a convenience store getting something to drink and fueling up the vehicle.  As the clerk was scanning my drinks, he said to me, ” Do you think there is a difference between being friendly and being a friend”?  I replied, well yes, there is a difference.  He looked at me and said that is what a co-worker said to him.  “I was just being friendly”.  I could tell what was said to him, truly hurt him and he was visibly upset, by the expression on his face.  He had assumed his co-worker was his friend, but it turned out they weren’t.

Has this happened to you?  You thought someone was your friend, but later found out they really weren’t.  What was your reaction?  How did you handle it?

What is true friendship?  How do you know if someone is truly your friend or not?  What are the warning signs they are not a friend?  What indications reflect they are a friend?

I think everyone has a different viewpoint of what friendship means and what being friendly means.  Let’s look at the definitions of friendship and friendly.

Merriam-Webster Dictionary Definition of Friendship

Definition of Friendship

  • the state of being friends they have a long-standing friendship

  • the quality or state of being friendly :friendliness the friendship shown him by his coworkers

Merriam-Webster Dictionary Definition of Friendly

Definition of Friendly 

  • Relating to, or befitting a friend: such as:  showing kindly interest and goodwill friendly neighbors: not hostile friendly merger offeralsoinvolving or coming from actions of one’s own forces friendly fire :  cheerfulcomforting the friendly glow of the fire.

What is friendship?

A friend is a good listener and responds back truthfully.

A friendship is about supporting each other through the good, bad and ugly.

A friend accepts you as who you are.

A true friend will make time for you.

A real friend will encourage you.

A true friend won’t use your friendship for their personal gain.

A real friend gives unconditionally and doesn’t expect anything in return.

A true friend is loyal to you even when things are at there worst.

A friend forgives you when you make a mistake and your apology is sincere.

Quote:

A friend is one who overlooks your broken fence and admires the flowers in your garden. ~ Unknown

What is being friendly?

Being polite to someone using common manners.  Examples: Saying good morning, thank you, you’re welcome and it’s my pleasure.

A friendly person is down to earth, welcoming, approachable, smiles, includes others, and creates a positive atmosphere.

A friendly person is considerate, kind and compassionate towards others.

A friendly person talks to people at the grocery store, holds doors open for others, says hi, nods and smiles.

Quote:

Don’t wait for people to be friendly, show them how. ~ Unknown

The world truly needs more friendly people.  People in general need trusted friendships.  I believe if people were more friendly, polite, compassionate and less judgmental, harsh, back-stabbing, criticizing, and self-serving; the world would be a much more peaceful place and just maybe more friendship would come to be!

Reflection Question:

What does being a friend mean to you?

Call to Action:

Take your answer to this question and become a better friend.

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