I was asked this question recently. I was at a convenience store getting something to drink and fueling up the vehicle. As the clerk was scanning my drinks, he said to me, ” Do you think there is a difference between being friendly and being a friend”? I replied, well yes, there is a difference. He looked at me and said that is what a co-worker said to him. “I was just being friendly”. I could tell what was said to him, truly hurt him and he was visibly upset, by the expression on his face. He had assumed his co-worker was his friend, but it turned out they weren’t.
I think everyone has a different viewpoint of what friendship means and what being friendly means. Let’s look at the definitions of friendship and friendly.
What is friendship?
A friend is a good listener and responds back truthfully.
A friendship is about supporting each other through the good, bad and ugly.
A friend accepts you as who you are.
A true friend will make time for you.
A real friend will encourage you.
A true friend won’t use your friendship for their personal gain.
A real friend gives unconditionally and doesn’t expect anything in return.
A true friend is loyal to you even when things are at there worst.
A friend forgives you when you make a mistake and your apology is sincere.
A friend is one who overlooks your broken fence and admires the flowers in your garden. ~ Unknown
What is being friendly?
Being polite to someone using common manners. Examples: Saying good morning, thank you, you’re welcome and it’s my pleasure.
A friendly person is down to earth, welcoming, approachable, smiles, includes others, and creates a positive atmosphere.
A friendly person is considerate, kind and compassionate towards others.
A friendly person talks to people at the grocery store, holds doors open for others, says hi, nods and smiles.
Don’t wait for people to be friendly, show them how. ~ Unknown
The world truly needs more friendly people. People in general need trusted friendships. I believe if people were more friendly, polite, compassionate and less judgmental, harsh, back-stabbing, criticizing, and self-serving; the world would be a much more peaceful place and just maybe more friendship would come to be!
What does being a friend mean to you?
Call to Action:
Take your answer to this question and become a better friend.
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