Removing Gossip, Negative Thoughts and Self-Doubt from Daily Life

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A few weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The eighth key action step is working on “Removing Gossip, Negative Thoughts and Self- Doubt from daily life”.

Removing Gossip, Negative Thoughts and Self-Doubt:

Start With Creating Peace, Love and Joy.  When I ask this question:  What do you really want in life?  People have expressed all they really want in their lives is peace and love. How do you find peace and love in your life?  I believe before you can have peace, joy and love in your life. You should reflect peace and love within yourself.

How do you reflect peace?   By realizing, yes, you have made some mistakes and those mistakes sometimes follow you. Everyone makes mistakes and it is time to let go of that baggage which loads you down and forgive yourself. Once you learn to love and respect yourself your heart will open to receive love from others.  You will begin to treat others with love and kindness and love and kindness will circle back to you.  Peace and calmness will come into your life as well as those around you.  Walking away from gossip and speaking bad about others will improve your relationships and discontinue negative thought patterns.

How to Halt Negative Thought Patterns:

To stop those negative thoughts about yourself and others. Begin by obtaining a small journal and writing down all your good qualities and the good qualities of people around you. Make a list of the good qualities you want to reflect in your life.  Anytime you start to feel the self-doubt or negative thoughts. Pull out that small journal and reflect on those words you written and read them.  Perform this exercise to open your heart to receive love and peace within.

Being Confident and Removing Self-Doubt:

Back in January of 2014 I had created this poll.

The number one reason was Self-Doubt or Confidence.

Why do you think Self-Doubt or Confidence was number one?

Why are people afraid to pursue their dreams or aspirations?  Isn’t it better to go after your dreams?  Absolutely!  Have a plan, it will take time and perseverance.  I recall sometime back I had read an article which discussed when people were close to dying they wished they took more chances and didn’t worry about what others thought of them.

Can you imagine how many happy and satisfied people there would be in this world, if they pursued their goals and dreams? 

How do you live the life you imagined?

Start with creating an action plan.  Ask yourself the following questions:

  • What do you really want in your life?
  • What do you need in your life to accomplish it?
  • What steps will you take?
  • What may prevent you from achieving it?
  • How will you move past those obstacles and achieve what you want?

Right now!  The life you’re leading:

  • Is it acceptable or satisfying to you? 
  • Is there something more you want? 
  • Can you imagine how different your life would be if you followed these steps to accomplish the life you imagined?

Self-doubt hinders you.  Be passionate, persistent, patient and flexible. Keep moving forward.   It will happen!  Life is an adventure where are you taking yours? – Patti

Feel free to share your thoughts on this subject in the ” leave a reply” box below.

Connecting with Others and Building Friendships

A few weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The seventh key action step is working on connecting with others and building friendships.

I have heard people say there seems to be a trend happening of people lacking a connection to others. More and more people appear to becoming distance, isolated and lonely.  Humans are made to be social, crave friendships, and want to feel accepted and loved.

What can you do today to connect to others?  

If we want to have lasting friendships we have to be willing to open ourselves up to the possibility of failure and to trust people even when we are not sure we can trust.  How can we break down those walls and connect with others to have lasting friendships?  Building friendships is hard work but well worth every minute of working on it.

Do you think there would be less lonely miserable people if we reach out and help others by building bridges instead of constructing walls?

To keep relationships going, make an effort to reach out by contacting and responding back.

If someone takes the time to call, send an email, instant message or text you respond back.  People who do not respond back appear to be rude, self-absorbed or come a cross that you aren’t important to them.  This may not be the case at all but that could be how it is taken.  Respond back even if it is “I got your message.  Thank you!”  To keep good relationships with friends, associates, clients, family and others in your life make some sort of effort or people may give up on you.

We all get busy with work and personal lives.  Sometimes we feel overwhelmed.   When we can take a few minutes every day to reply back to others it strengthens our friendships and happiness. ~ Patti

Questions-  Is this a subject we all may want to improve upon?  How does it make you feel when others don't respond back to you?

 

The Practice of Journaling

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A few weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The sixth key action step is working on the practice of journaling.

Choose a time to journal daily.  It can be when you get up in the morning, on your lunch time or before going to sleep.  You may use the questions from this website or just self-reflect about your day. Journaling can open up your mind to change and help inspire you to pursue your dreams, aspirations and goals.

Journaling allows you to alter your thoughts which block you from achieving your goals.  We all need someplace to think and rejuvenate.  Are you taking time for you?   Would scheduling some time help?  Is this something to consider for creating balance in your life?  If you don’t have a place, imagine where to find one?  It could be anywhere you feel at peace.  Why not consider journaling and let me know how it made a difference in your life.  ~ Patti

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Daily Forgiveness Practices

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A few weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The fifth key action step is working on daily forgiveness practices and forgiving yourself and others.

This is a difficult topic even for me.  I have my own battles with forgiveness.  It is not easy and I continue to keep working on it daily.  There are some relationships that may not ever be where I want them to be and forgiveness is a work in progress.  It is important to continue being positive and forgiveness will follow.  Like the old saying goes “Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.” ~ John Lockwood Huie

How do we forgive when someone has hurt us deeply and we comprehend that they will probably not ever apologize?  They may think what they said or did was justified.  They may think they did nothing wrong.  They may think they have every right to behave in that way.  They may be too selfish or self-centered to even realize they hurt you.  Or they may have the attitude, just don’t care and going to say whatever they feel without any regards to others feelings.  They may have the philosophy “Life is short, so say what you feel” and use it as an excuse to say hurtful things.

Forgiveness maybe even harder, when it is a family member.  The holidays and family special occasions are more difficult when these circumstances are in the mix.  These gatherings don’t feel joyful, it feels more like sadness, anger, anxiety and overwhelm.  Sometimes family members take sides and the hurt keeps hurting.  There may be rude intentional remarks towards you or other family members.  Conversations move toward your past mistakes instead of encouraging you or a happy to see you.  So how do we move past these situations and be able to forgive?

Okay, now let’s talk about some strategies to help deal with moving forward and not letting these occasions open up those old feelings of pain, anger, anxiety or an emotional breakdown and turn them into happy memorable times.

  • Listen to happy, soothing, spiritual or religious music when feelings of unforgiveness starts to surface within you.
  • Think happy thoughts and find something fun to do.  A hobby, an art project, a sport activity, go for a walk or run.
  • Practice mediation and/or pray of “Letting Go”.
  • Use positive affirmations daily as well as before, during and after family gatherings.
  • Imagine yourself having a great time at the gathering and you have changed your perception of the unforgiven person as if they are someone you truly liked being around and admire.
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when you assume other peoples motives.  Become aware of those negative thoughts and/or assumptions, push them away with positive thinking. When there is continual negative thoughts and/or assumptions this will keep you stuck in the past.  Thinking with positive thoughts and action steps is a great way towards forgiveness.
  • When faced in a situation with the person who engages in being rude and demeaning towards you, calmly excuse yourself from the conversation, walk away and find someone who you like being around to uplift your spirits.  Smile and laugh with them to ease  the tension or apprehension you may be feeling.
  • After the occasion think about only all the good conversations you experienced and any special things that happened.  Journal about all these good things that happened and reflect on only them.

Being angry and unforgiving only hurts you.  Let go of the unforgiveness inside you and move towards experiencing peace, love, joy and true happiness in life. ~ Patti

Another saying:  “I believe that life is short, and there is too much time wasted bearing grudges, and I like to move on”. ~ Sam Taylor-Johnson

Self-Reflection Question:

What action steps will you do to achieve forgiveness in your life?

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Using Daily Affirmations

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Four weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The third key action step is using affirmations in our daily life.

Affirmations are positive words or sentences that may assist you to stay focused in an encouraging manner.  If you repeat an affirmation every day, throughout the day you may notice an optimistic transformation in your attitude towards yourself and others.  This may help improve your relationships at home, in the workplace and may even increase career opportunities.

Examples of Daily Affirmations for home and work.

Daily Personal Affirmation:   I reflect love and happiness!

Exercise:  Practice this affirmation daily and reflect on how it made you feel through out the day.

Daily Workplace Affirmation:   I achieve my goals!

Exercise:  Practice this affirmation daily at work and reflect on how it made you feel.

Some people either like to use affirmations and some don’t believe in them.   I personally use affirmations myself.  Here is a good blog post article by Ruby McGuire at http://www.RubyMcGuire.com about Affirmations – Love or Hate them? .

Do you use affirmations or not?  If yes, have you noticed a positive change in your attitude? If no, have you ever tried them?

Feel free to share your thoughts on using affirmations in the ” leave a reply” box below.

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Acknowledging and Thanking Others

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Acknowledging and Thanking Others

Three weeks ago I wrote about life changing subjects to consider incorporating into ourselves this year in the blog post It is a New Year.  The second key action step was acknowledging and thanking others in our daily life.

Why is this important in our life?  I feel there is not enough kindness, thankfulness and acknowledging each other in this world today.  A lot of people are so focused on climbing the corporate ladder or only into their own wants and needs they tend to forget about what is really important in life.  Their relationships with others.

Who is going to remember how you climbed up that corporate ladder other than the people you abused and manipulated along the way?  Is that how you want to be remembered?  Are you going to have anyone who truly cares about you when you are no longer at the top and forced to retire?

What lives did you wreck to get there?   Where you really happy alone at the top?   Did you make people’s lives miserable.  Do you really trust anyone?   Are you always watching your back because you are afraid someone will betray you or even worse take your job?  What did you truly gain?  Did you really have anyone who truly loved you or did they just use you for your status?  Where are they now?

Something to think about:
When I was a new Supervisor my Manager and I were talking about leadership.  She was telling me about her career path and how important it is to treat your employees respectfully because someday they could be your boss.  I really appreciated her sharing this with me because you never know who will be your leader and relationships are the key to success.

The song “Lying Eyes” by the legendary band the “Eagles” is a good reflection of having it all but still it was not enough.

Maybe it is time to do some self-reflection before it is too late.

  • How do you treat others as a leader, co-worker, friend, parent, partner or spouse?
  • Are you really paying attention on what is happening around you?
  • Are you too busy dealing with work and clawing your way to the top?
  • What really truly matters in life?  Example: Your job or your family?
  • How do you speak to others?  Example:  Is it demanding or polite?
  • When was the last time you really had a good laugh with someone?
  • Or truly had a good conversation with someone and really listened to them?
  • When was the last time you gave your full attention to someone instead of on your iPad or iPhone?
  • When was the last time you actually said something nice about a colleague or your boss?

If these questions hit a nerve.  It may be time to do some more self-reflecting.  I know it hit a nerve with me.

  • When did you lose the interpersonal skills?
  • What made you become hard and cold?
  • Where is the old you?  The fun, loving, caring, and adventurous person?
  • What do you truly want in life?
  • Are you where you want to be?

This week I would like all the readers of this blog post to truly self-reflect on these questions.  Which questions were hard for you to look at within yourself?

My challenge for you this week is to compliment, acknowledge, recognize or praise someone in your life at work and at home.  Then really reflect on it.

  • Did it change the environment around you?  Was it more enjoyable?
  • What was the reaction you saw?  Did you see a smile?  Did you smile?
  • Did it make a difference to that person?
  • Did it make a difference in you?

My wish is this blog post will inspire more joy, peace and better working relationships in your daily life. ~ Patti

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It is a New Year!

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Welcome to another new year.  How is this year going to be different from last year and the year’s before?  What changes, challenges, struggles and acknowledgments are you going to face?  Well, we can’t see into the future however we can strive to make things better in our lives.

Here are some life changing subjects to consider incorporating this year:

Putting gratitude into our life and actions

Acknowledging and thanking others

Using daily affirmations

Developing an achievable budget and change spending habits to relieve stress and overwhelm

Work on daily forgiveness practices – Forgiving yourself and others

Practice journaling

Connect with others and build friendships

Remove gossip, negative thoughts and self-doubt from daily life

Enhance personal development: update resume, take a class, join an association in your field, develop a retirement plan, and take up a hobby

Self-Care to improve health and wellness

Questions for self-reflection and action:

Which of these topics above would change your life for the better?

Are you willing to incorporate it?

Are you willing to stick with it and stay focused?  Even if it is hard and you have to make sacrifices?

How would your life change for the better by incorporating this into your life?

How are you going to make this happen?

When are you going to start?

What obstacles may you face and how will you succeed to overcome them?

What would your life look like when you have incorporated this action into your daily life?

Life is full of challenges, obstacles and unknowns however if we have something to strive for daily it gives us purpose.  With purpose we have something to look forward to even when those challenges can be overwhelming.  Feel free to share what you will be incorporating in your life to make this year memorable. ~ Patti 🙂

Coaching for Inspiration

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com – TM

To contact me for a private confidential discovery coaching session.   Fill out the contact form below.   In the comment section specify you would like a free 30 minute discovery session.

Coaching sessions can be conducted in various methods.

  • By Phone
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  • In Person