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Exploring Self-Talk and Emotions of the Manager and Supervisor

How’s it going, Managers and Supervisors!

Today, we will explore self-talk and emotions as a manager or supervisor when everything seems not to be going right in the workday, from employees to yourself, and how to change the chaos to calm.

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Have you ever felt so underappreciated at work? You try so hard, and it just doesn’t seem to go as you planned. Others don’t seem to get the big picture no matter how many times you think you communicated it. You feel like everyone doesn’t seem to care. So why don’t they get it?

It can be chaotic to a Manager or Supervisor; heightened emotions and frustration levels escalate towards others.  

I felt this way many times. Thinking I was communicating clearly and later realizing that was not the case. How does the communication style change from chaotic to calm?

Here are some possible questions that may be going through your mind during these times of frustration:

  • Did I communicate what I wanted correctly?
  • I feel I didn’t handle my disappointment and frustration very well?
  • How, as a supervisor, do I handle this situation in a calm manner?
  • What happened to people’s passion for their work or careers?
  • Have people lost their sense of purpose?
  • Why are so many people just going through the motions towards their jobs?
  • Is there no sense of pride anymore?
  • What happened?

Stop, take a deep breath, and pause.

What positive affirmations can you recite to shift your perspective towards yourself and others to communicate better? 

How about reciting these affirmations to get you started and through the day? 

I am a good communicator!

I am a confident leader!

When you believe you can make a shift, you usually do! 

Being a manager or supervisor, you may have encounter situations throughout your day and get very frustrated. However, I believe most people are not doing what they want to be doing. They may have outgrown the job and may not be pursuing their true calling or career path in life. So they dread getting up every day to a job that brings no satisfaction or purpose in life. If so, they would love to get up every morning and be excited to go to work every day instead of hitting that snooze button numerous times and dragging themselves out of bed with no purpose or passion.

Getting to know the person you are talking to, their learning style, and personality traits is a good start in connecting and communicating better.

How can you help bring some spark back in the workplace and assist your employees in igniting some passion for their job?  

  • Ask the employee is there a project, task, or something they would like to learn within your department. Could you give, teach or mentor them on a particular project? Some employees don’t want to learn anything new; they want to do their job and go home. That’s okay by asking the employee you know if they do or don’t want to learn something new.
  • Talk with them about what aspects they like about their job, and this will give you some ideas for future tasks or assignments to give them in the future. 
  • Listen to them talk about their aspirations in life.
  • Help them set attainable work goals.
  • Schedule training classes with them for self-development or new skills they would like to learn.
  • Delegate different job assignments to them. Get their feedback on what they liked and what they didn’t like about the work.
  • Give them some variety in their job duties, so they don’t become complacent and unhappy.

By trying these techniques, you will find more job satisfaction in the workplace. In addition, employees will have something to look forward to accomplishing and may even stop hitting the snooze button each morning.  

When employees are satisfied and happy at work, it spills out towards the customers, clients, each other, then towards you and company goals and increasing profitability.  

This podcast episode self-reflection question to ponder or journal about:

What keeps me motivated and encouraged to get through my workday as a manager and supervisor?

Today’s podcast episode affirmations:

I am a good communicator!

I am a confident leader!

Until next time!

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How to Stop Ignoring The Hard Stuff and Go From Chaos to Calm

Episode 1 Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, I will discuss – How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm.

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Have you ever had something to do at work, and you didn’t want to do it?

There are things as a manager or supervisor you don’t want to do, but it is an essential part of the job. You know what I mean, and not addressing it can cause more havoc in the workplace.

Let me give you some examples:

  • Not having crucial conversations with an employee about poor performance
  • Prolonging a discussion with the team about not making goals
  • An email you are told to write by your boss
  • Calling back an angry customer or client
  • Not participating or wanting to go to mandatory leadership meetings
  • Delivering bad news, for example, no bonus, no raises, or possible layoffs within the company

I am sure all of us at one time or another has put something off that might be uncomfortable or didn’t want to do but was loading us down with it continually there, whether in worry, thought, or others depending on it.  

Wouldn’t it make life and work more enjoyable if it was no longer in front of us but completed?

Getting it completed takes off a heavy burden, and then you can focus on the other things you want to do.

One of the ways to tackle the hard stuff is to do it first thing in the morning and get it out of the way. If it is a massive project, break it down into tasks. Then, as you complete a portion of the project, you will feel like you are moving forward on getting it done. Checking that section off your to-do list, spreadsheet, or Trello board feels like an achievement and inspiration. 

Putting off the hard stuff or undesirable tasks doesn’t contribute to becoming successful. However, once finished, you can move on to more enjoyable tasks and have a great sense of accomplishment.

How to Break Free of Ignoring the Hard Stuff:

  • Identify it is happening and
  • Recognize it and decide to
  • Focus on the task until completed
  • Celebrate when finished

Take control of all distractions such as responding immediately to email notifications, incoming voice mail messages, texts, instant messages, social media notifications. Set specific times and limits for these activities. Block off your calendar for the task. Concentrate by tuning out or turning off all distractions and commit to that particular task. 

If working in the office, let others know you are working on something with a deadline or need to finish with no distractions if they could wait on questions. By blocking the time on your digital calendar can help with limiting distractions.  

Halt any negative self-talk and replace these thoughts with positive Affirmations. An example – I get things done! By telling yourself, I can do this, and pray for strength to continue and remove all obstacles in the way; it will inspire you to keep going. There were many times I would be sitting at my desk and thinking I can’t do this, and I would pray, journal, and recite positive affirmations to get me through the task, situation, or sh*t storm happening around me.

Envision how you will feel after completing the project. Then, celebrate; it doesn’t have to be something big or expensive. It could be getting a cup of your favorite coffee or taking a break to read a good book, something special to you that feels like a reward. 

Sometimes getting started is the hardest, but the rewards are endless. Setting your goal, coming up with a plan of action, and the most important thing is putting the plan into action. Getting started and motivated to take action steps is crucial to change the habit of ignoring the hard stuff. However, it doesn’t help you attain your goal or dream until you get it done. To get what you want, you have to pursue it, and it starts with motivation to want to get things done.

Here are some Self Reflections to ponder:

What are some key factors which are enabling you to put off the hard stuff?

What have you been putting off?

How will it change your circumstances by getting them completed?

Today’s podcast Affirmation is I get things done!

Until next time!

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Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

I have a new podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm.

Welcome to Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm. Join me as we explore the good, the bad, and the chaotic in the life of a manager or supervisor.

This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who feels burnt out, stressed out, or overworked from your demanding job. Now, you’re looking to find some calm and balance in life, both inside and outside of work.

These monthly mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day from chaos to calm.

I am your host Patti Oskvarek, a Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach.

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Episode 49 – How Balancing Thoughts and Feelings Make Your Relationships Better

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti will be discussing how having balance with thoughts and feelings can improve your relationships with others at home and work.

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Summary:

Angela: All of us have thoughts that are not happy thoughts. We all have thoughts out of balance, not kind, not great, and better not shared. However, once you think, an idea adds to the collective thoughts of consciousness in all human beings. 48 Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media for Caring Relationships I talked about Mass Consciousness, which is the collective thoughts and emotions created, experienced, and projected by humans through all time. 

Patti: Adding a little more to this about our unhappy thoughts – When we feel victimized, our thoughts and feelings become unbalanced. Working through those feelings helps to maintain balance and interactions with others. For example, looking towards the future with hope and gratitude while realizing the past was a life lesson to navigate a better tomorrow.  

Angela: Patti, you do Coaching for Inspiration with Patti. You inspire people with ideas, thoughts to think differently, creatively and solution focussed.  Do you find that humans are balanced in their thoughts?

Patti: Most people have a lot thrown at them throughout the day. They have not spent any time shutting off. They are overload and overwhelmed, and some are just going through the motions. Some are constantly in fear or defensive mode. So to answer the question, no.  

Angela: Do you feel thoughts are inherently negative and positive, and then we have to see both negative and positive and see what emerges from the two?

Patti: Depends on the home and work environment. For example, suppose they have a stable, loving, and respectful home life (positive) and have turmoil, criticism, hostility, and lack of love or encouragement in the family unit (negative). In the work environment: Say that they feel challenged, respected. Enjoy their job, encouraged. Acknowledge, praise, and feel heard (positive). However, if the workplace lacks teamwork, it promotes aggressive competitiveness, micro-managing, harsh critiquing, pitting each other against one another, criticizing, and bickering behavior (negative).  

There could be a combination of both excellent home life and horrible work life. Or an awful home life and a great work environment. Then there is both a negative home and work life or both positive home and work life. So which is the most balanced? Is it having joy in both places? Whether people realize it or not, personal and work-life run into each other daily.  

Angela: What is inspiration, and how could inspiration be derived from negative and positive thoughts interacting with each other?

Patti response:  What is inspiration?  

The definition from https://www.dictionary.com/browse/inspiration

Inspiration is inspiring or animating action or influence, as an idea or a result of inspired activity, a thing or person that inspires you. Theology or Spiritual – A divine influence directly and immediately put upon the mind or soul. The divine quality of writing, words of a person so influenced—the act of inspiring the quality or state of being inspired.

To me, inspiration is when you feel compelled or drawn to do something and feel good about it. Someone encourages you, and you feel energized and enjoy doing it.

When something negative happens in life, reflect on that situation, you can either look at it from overwhelm, distraught, resentfulness, un-forgiveness, or anger. That’s okay; we need to go through the process of healing. However, it is not healthy for us when it consumes us for years and holds us back in life, and we can’t move on. It can make us sick and change our perspective towards others that have nothing to do with what happened. When we learn from that experience and share how we moved past it with others who are going through the same thing, we inspire them to heal from it as well. That is taking a negative and moving it to a positive interaction of thoughts and actions.  

Angela: Whenever you have a thought, it could be a thought that has circulated throughout history – it could be a thought from your parents that you think is yours – but is it? 

Changing the thought cycle is important if it is harmful or unkind. An Example: Say, as a child you are verbally abused; how can you stop this cycle with your children? So it doesn’t continue. Change your interaction and words towards them in a kinder way. 

If you’re a parent beating yourself up about your parenting, a good book is Dan Siegels’ Parenting from the Inside Out.

Parenting from the inside out, so you can understand the conflict between how you feel about how you treat your child because of how you were raised. Angela did a Facebook live on mothering and its connection to lack of self-love and hate, which looks at how we blame parents and at the same time damn ourselves to feelings of being separate from love.

Angela: A big part of my relationship healing work is to see all the unconscious and conscious negative thoughts I have had about a person, which can be some time and even years. And then I start to see how those thoughts have kept that person away from me – and actually how the person, even if I never said those words out loud – the person has felt those thoughts.

Patti: Pausing, reflecting, and asking yourself, is this helpful to me and my relationship with him. Does it need to be said? If yes, then do it; if no, then don’t.  

Angela: Most of what is helpful to my relationship is specifically spontaneous in the moment and has no real basis in thought. What is fruitful to the relationship is based in feeling, sentiment, comedy and delighted at the prospect of being in my partner’s presence. And there is no thought in that space. It’s when I get specific charged up thoughts that I know to start paying attention to them to see what they are trying to make me see inside myself – and if they have something loving, helpful, fun and insightful for my partner – they will be thoughts that are not expecting anything from the person that are shared without a thought, without thinking about it – and they just sort of come out of me spontaneously.

Patti: Angela, I love this – What is fruitful to the relationship?

This episode has given us a lot to think about in our relationships, whether social media, home life, and more. We would love to hear your tips, strategies, or inspiring stories on building better relationships at home and work or about this podcast topic. If you enjoy this podcast, How about becoming a supporter? Click on the Support button in the Anchor App. Thank you so much for listening.  

Dan Siegel’s & Mary Hartzell Parenting from the Inside Out – (affiliate link)

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Episode 48 – Building Resilience with Social and Viral Media to Create Caring Relationships

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Today Angela and Patti will explore how to interact with Social Media and keep yourself focused on the impact that social media and addictive viral media has on how you treat others with care or carelessness. When Angela trained in Mass Communication we researched the history of documentary and fiction film, radio, creative video and theater. She used the term Mass Communication and the modern forms of Social Media and Viral Media grew out of these forms of mass communication as a way for every human to participate actively in all forms of mass communication. Social Media was a way for the people to create their own stories and respond to the mass media being projected on them or about them.

Is this similar to shadow work?

Shadow work comes from the term “the shadow self,” which was coined by famed 20th-century psychologist Carl Jung. In Jungian psychology, this term describes the unconscious parts of the personality that our conscious ego doesn’t want to identify in itself.  Shadow work is a process of inner work in which you bring those unwanted parts to the surface to purify, heal, and integrate into yourself. Your shadow isn’t something to be ashamed of or something to hate. It simply points to where you have work to do and where you got to give yourself more love.

In spiritual work we call this type of collective back and forth of thoughts, words, feelings, emotions and communication in humanity – Mass Consciousness.  Angela always been struck by how Mass Communication and Mass Consciousness are two very different worlds of the media and spirituality that have a lot to offer each other about how to control or worsen the negative aspects of human thoughts and emotions.   Mass Consciousness is the collective thoughts and emotions created, experienced and projected by humans through all time.  This includes all the literature, all media, all the thoughts your ancestors had, all the thoughts you have when you’re not even aware you’re having thoughts. Some people also refer to Mass Consciousness as the thought sphere.  However, Mass Consciousness is not just thoughts. It is the emotions and thoughts that have been experienced by humanity through all time. And these are not just in written form. Many cultures did not use writing, they used spoken words, they used art, architecture and all cultures had love and relationships, families, communities, tribes and these had thoughts and feelings. So Mass Consciousness is the collective of all these thoughts and feelings. 

There is always a reason any social media triggers you.

Often if you watch that media, if you literally just watched how the media makes you FEEL, you would get the TRUE impact of that viral media.

Try this experiment:  Before you even get on social media – take a note of how you feel and write it down.  Then go on social media for 5 minutes. Get off – and notice how you feel and write down how you feel. And be honest. If you do this experiment over time. You will see the difference.

There are some positive examples of viral media – like my favorite eurovision band from Iceland- that had a dance craze from their song “Think about things”  from Dadi Freyr and Gagnamagnið.

What are some Strategies to help listeners start to pay attention to how social media makes them uncaring, numb or disingenuous to their relationships?

Create or purchase a gratitude journal. Every day in the journal, write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.  When you practice being thankful for the things and people in your life this helps you appreciate others more which in turn you become more caring.

Be aware of your emotions and feelings when on social media. Remove yourself from social media  if you feel triggered and emotions of overwhelm, comparison or anger happen.  Don’t reply to a post when your emotions are high, if you do need to respond.  Respond back in a couple of hours when you have time to cool off, rewrite your response several times before hitting the reply button for the whole world to see.  Ask someone else you trust for honest feedback before replying. Reflect after writing the response – Is it kind, is it necessary, how would you feel if someone responded to you with this response? 

Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about a situation or comparison envy during and after reviewing social media.  One thing Patti does is skip on by posts that she knows will trigger her.   

The definition of resilience is the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.  Patti calls these life lessons.  

Let’s say we are overthinking about a situation that can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks, and so much more.  

Being resilient is the process of healing and requires constant mental work of positive self-talk, the ability to let it go and move on.  

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Episode 47 – How To Be Honest About What’s Not Working in a Relationship!

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti explore how to be honest about what’s not working in a relationship.

“Being honest” does not mean being mean. Being honest does not mean you are right and the other person is wrong. It is sharing your feelings so things can change. Being honest means being clear about your feelings and contributing solutions to what you want to change or need based on your perception of the situation.

When you feel upset and discouraged inside towards others, pull out your journal and start writing exactly how you feel. Then, step away from the situation until you have calmed down. I know this may be hard at first, but it can change how you feel and save relationships whether it is a friendship, marriage and your reputation at work by taking these small steps.

Angela talks about Graham Gibbs created a great Reflective Practice with 6 steps that helps break down what your feelings are about a situation so that concrete actions can be implemented that help include the value of our feelings.Description of the experience
Feelings and thoughts about the experience
Evaluation of the experience, both good and bad
Analysis to make sense of the situation
Conclusion about what you learned and what you could have done differently
Action plan for how you would deal with similar situations in the future, or general changes you might find appropriate.

Hamlet is a tragedy written by William Shakespeare

Honesty with oneself and others is one of the biggest challenges in life.  Being Authentic is not about hurting, criticizing, manipulating, pushing your viewpoint, or offending others. It’s about being kind, compassionate, respectful about the other person while keeping it real.  Honesty delivered in the right way expresses wisdom, boundaries and releases expectations.

Think before you speak – Is it true, Is it helpful, Is it inspiring, Is it necessary, Is it kind (Author unknown)

Here are some reflection questions to think about and write in your journal.

* What is the difference between being honest and insensitive to others?

* How can honesty with yourself change your life and relationships at home and work?

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Episode 46 – How to Calm Anxiety with Work and Money

In this podcast, we’re going to look at money anxiety. Angela shares some thoughts about the new economy based on sharing and caring about yourself and others which can help relieve tension and look at money from a collaborative and self-value-affirming perspective.  

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Summary:

During the pandemic, many of us stopped work, school, living the way we lived. Discovered many activities at home, which were things we used to do before life got busy, such as cooking, baking, making craft, making music, art, home-based exercise, journaling, talking to people, playing cards, etc.  And many people realized they were working and living in a way they didn’t like.  

Patti’s workbook the 21 Days to Optimal Work-Life Balance.

Angela talked about The Stanford Social Innovation Review (SSIR) has an article on The Vision of a Well-Being Economy, which shares how “We must shift how we understand and build societal health and prosperity, looking beyond economic growth to collective well-being and environmental sustainability.”

Patti discussed – When negative thoughts or emotions enter your mind, you can allow them and redirect them. The trouble with worrying about money and work can consume you, but having strategies can relieve the anxiety.

Spend some time in meditation to calm your thoughts.

Listen to upbeat music to manage anxiety and manifest money.

Pray about the situation for guidance and peace. Journal about the problem which is causing the worry.

Go for a walk, the gym, bicycle ride, yoga or fitness classes or any type of exercise.

Repeat positive affirmations.

Hire a financial coach to help develop a healthy money mindset and reasonable financial goals.

Angela shares about Sondra Ray and Leonard Orr’s book Rebirthing in the New Age. It is hard to get a copy of it now.

One of her powerful ones is “I deserve to be loved.”Shakti Gawain has a great book called “Creating True Prosperity”that gets to your underlying beliefs around money and abundance and T Harv Eker book The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

Dr. Patrick Wanis that is a paid meditation download. 

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Episode 45 – Daily Habits to Prevent Depression During Stressful Times While Strengthening Your Relationships!

In this episode Angela and Patti will be discussing daily habits to prevent depression during stressful times and strengthen your relationships.

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The definition of depression according to the American Psychiatric Association website:

Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Angela recommends the Megaway Shakes. It has 13 powerfoods, like maca, ashwagandha, cinnamon, lucuma, barley greens, and the list goes on. Brigitte from the megaway formulated her shake to directly affect the mood and hormonal system of the body. You can find out about her shake at www.themegaway.com

Angela talks about Spiritual Mantras are really good for clearing the air in your home environment when things get stagnated by your thoughts and feelings. 

Forest therapy is used in Japan to treat depression and anxiety. Patti shared forest bathing technique in episode Episode 41 – How Spending Time in Nature Can Help You and Your Relationships.

Angela talks about the book that shares how we all carry trauma called “The body keeps the score” by Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk.

Angela shares about seeing the musical Come from Away in Sydney

For those of you interested in meditation as a way to touch your own light.

Angela is starting a new 8 week course on July 8, 2021 in the USA and July 9, 2021 in Australia. It’s meditation for relaxation and transformation where we explore how to transform old ways of being with yourself and learn how to relax, enjoy and dive deeper into your true energy – which is the energy of joy. Meditation for Relaxation and Transformation.

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Episode 44 – Accepting Responsibility for Choices in Your Relationships – The Good, the Bad and the Narcissist!

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti discuss taking responsibility for your choices.

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It’s becoming common now that people are starting to label and blame the end of a relationship on their former partner. Instead of taking responsibility for their choices within the relationship and the other person, they were a narcissist. Is it easier to blame everything on the other person instead of self-reflecting on what went wrong within the relationship?

What did you learn?

What will you look for before entering into a relationship next time?

What do you want from a relationship?

What are the deal breakers?

Angela talks about the book  Brain Wash by David Perlmutter. He has many studies showing that narcissistic behaviors are connected to the generations that use more social media. So that could make it easier for people to blame people for selfish behavior because it is a typical cultural attitude.

When self-reflecting, ask these questions to yourself:

*What did I learn?

*What will I look for before entering into a relationship next time?

*What do I want from a relationship?

*What are the deal breakers for me?

Patti wrote blog posts about Making Good Choices and A Workplace Phenomenon – the Narcissistic Manager.

Angela speaks about dance and meditation. Dance is about feeling yourself. Meditation is about seeing yourself. Both dance and meditation help you to look inward – not outward. Want to Dance with Angela?

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Episode 43 – Managing Negative Emotions in Relationships Whether at Home or Work!

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss how to deal with negative emotions and energy whether in the workplace or in your personal life.

Patti:  Being negative is easy, everyone is doing it.  How does it affect you in your career and personal life? You may lose a promotion or worse yet all relationships by being a constant complainer, talking bad about others, when displaying anger and hostility or a victim mentally.  I’ve heard some people say that being positive all the time is toxic. 

Why do you think that is?

Angela: Perhaps they see people being falsely positive without dealing with the underlying issues that are creating imbalance in the workplace or home. And without facing the real issues of sadness, anger or fear that go unaddressed when people are trying to be positive.  Some people are fearful of positive energy for fear that they can’t ever be happy. When you are addicted to suffering, it is very hard to enjoy someone’s happiness. Plus people from the beginning of humanity have had jealousy when they think that they can’t have what others have. So if you see someone too happy, it can trigger ancient fears that somehow you are missing out.

Patti: 

How do we change these situations from toxic to kindness?

What if people stopped watching the news?What if people smiled more?

What about looking at the good in others and appreciating each other?Do you think things would change for the better?

Patti: Angela, you have told me many times it is okay to show your emotions. 

To feel them and release them. 

How do you do that without taking it out on the other person or projecting those emotions on them?

Angela: Have you heard of Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence?

1. Self Awareness of your Emotions.

2. Managing your Emotions.

3. Awareness of Social Relationships

4. Management of those Relationships.

Angela: The book “Noise” by Daniel Kahneman is looking at how companies can make better decisions and stop errors at the company level that cost the company thousands of dollars. 

Patti: Strategies to help stay positive?

  1. Walk away when drama is happening around you. Excuse yourself from the conversation.
  2. When there are unkind remarks about someone else, say something nice about that particular person. This action tends to halt the conversation.
  3. Plug in your headphones and listen to uplifting music.
  4. Recite Positive Affirmations.
  5. Journal about how you are feeling.
  6. Go for a quick walk and pray about the situation, listen to an uplifting podcast, music or recite positive affirmations.
  7. Concentrate on your work tasks.

For more tips on how to handle negative workplace environments Patti has a blog post series on Bad Leadership Styles.   We would love to hear your ideas and what you are doing with Managing Negative Emotions in Relationships Whether at Home or Work!

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