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Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

Angela and Patti share communication tips at work.  How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships.  How to ask yourself the questions to determine how to manage your emotions.  

Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

What does this meme tell you?

Take a look at yourself.  
Is the relationship problem really you?  
What is it about this person that triggers you?  
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone?  Do they remind you of something you don’t like within yourself?

Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.

Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding.  This gives you time to change your response or don’t respond at all.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?  
Before responding back to the email.  Write out your response.  Don’t send it!  Walk away for awhile.  Sleep on it, if you don’t have to respond within the same day.  Then rewrite it when you have calmed down.  Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button. 

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons?  Make your decision from there.  Is there more good reason to stay?  Or reasons to leave.  

For more information about Becoming a Better Leader [e-Book]  Click here to download your copy.

Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore.

How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

Warning Signs – Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs

Are you interested in one to one coaching with Patti?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact Patti at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

Are you interested in one on one coaching with Angela? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

If you found this podcast helpful. Please share with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.  Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

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How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership

As a leader, have you stopped, pause, and reflected before reacting?  I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis.  We want to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.  When pausing, we won’t jump immediately into the wrong conclusion.

Incorporating the Art of Pause into Leadership:

The PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
When at work and someone is rude to you. Or you don’t agree with them.  Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will give you time to reframe your reply or decide not to respond at all.

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send an email response you will regret!
I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending sometime or another.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?  
 Before responding to the email.  Write out your reply. Don’t send it and walk away. If possible sleep on it.  Then rewrite the email response, when you have calmed down. Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

“Anger doesn’t solve anything.  It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – unknown

Don’t get me wrong as a leader. There are times you have to be direct with employees for them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue. Have a plan on how to address it.  Write it out and practice what and how to say it. There are also times when you do need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect. What is happening around you?  It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

Discussion Questions:

What are your thoughts about the art of pause?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Comments are always welcome.  You can always use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to respond.  🙂   Did you find this helpful?  if so, please share this blog post with your colleagues, friends, and family on all your social networks!  Thank you. 🙂

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 9 – Take Time for You and Your Family

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Episode 9 – Take Time for You and Your Family

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss the importance of alone time for yourself, incorporating family time, visualizing better family dynamics with some tips and strategies to make it happen.

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Patti  talks about the benefits of taking time for yourself and spending precious time with family.

  • Let’s the brain rest
  • Improves concentration
  • Boosts creativity
  • Helps with problem solving
  • Reflection time to understand yourself and be a nicer person
  • Creates relaxation and calmness

Spend time with family, spouse/partner and really give them our full attention without focusing and thinking of work.

  • How do we do this?
  • When should we do this?
  • How often should we do this?
  • What is really important to you?

Reflect on these questions and realize we really need our family, our spouse/partner in our lives.  They keep us balanced, grateful and loved.

Here are the links to Patti’s blog posts about spending time with family and planning a vacation:

Summertime Inspiration https://wp.me/p3W3dA-URL

Time to Plan a vacation https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UHC

Do you want harmony and balance in your life? Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program. The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective. During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook.  www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com

Do you want even more work-life balance strategies? Come and join the Facebook group called Work-Life Balance with Patti

Angela talks about Family Dynamics and they can often be challenging for reasons we can’t always put our finger on. There is often a tension in families – that create unexpressed hurts from a situation in the past. So if you have a challenging family start by realizing your family is not unusual! We all have quirks in families – and some of us have really strong issues in families – so we tend to run away from them!

How do you move past these?

Go back to questions above:

  • How do we do this?
  • When should we do this?
  • How often should we do this?
  • What is really important to you?

Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

Please share this podcast with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.  Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Anchor for contributing to this podcast.

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 8 – Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth

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   Episode 8 – Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth!  

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What is the concept of Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth?

Each day is a new beginning.  The sunrises and the sunsets. Time to release the old and start again.  Wiping the slate clean.  It’s often difficult to release bad situations, relationships or past regrets.  Rediscovering is about looking forward to the future and letting go of the past, which is holding us back on what we really want in life.  When you watch a sunrise it affirms a brand new day and life continues to go on. In the cycle of life, plants died in the fall and rebirth in spring. There is a time to end and a time to begin.  The challenge is facing the fear of transition or change and be willing to rediscover yourself.   

A Time for Everything    

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 New International Version (NIV)

Patti  talks about career transition and making a career journal. You can more learn more about these topics from the following blog posts below:

Making a Career Journalhttps://wp.me/p3W3dA-UfY

Lifescaping ~ What is holding you back in life?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-V8n

Feeling Stuck in a Dead End Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

This Job is Killing Me… What to Do? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UOY

Angela talks about rebirthing the Body. Sometimes your body needs to restore so your natural rhythms can come into sync and you can rebirth your spiritual energy or reinvigorate your aspirations.

Creating a “Fallow field” for the Personality Habit of Pushing.  Giving yourself time to slow down.   Become in rhythm with your needs, nature and not rush.  Modern Society forces you to rush and it is becoming faster.   How do you say – NO and find your natural rhythm? Letting go.

On May 11, 2019 Angela will be doing a Movement Meditation ~ Align with Nature in Sydney Australia.  https://www.facebook.com/events/308427649823591

Interested in releasing karma?  Why not set up a Relationship Clarity Call with Angela to remove once and for all old habits of relationships. https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com

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Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

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Episode 2 – Getting Social Beyond Social Media – Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti [Podcast]


Episode 2Getting Social Beyond Social Media

In case you missed this past podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss being able to be social without being stuck to the phone.

Click here to listen – Getting Social Beyond Social Media

People are losing face to face contact.  There is home schooling, working from home, solo-entrepreneurs, single parenting and much more.  Distance over internet makes people bold, they feel comfort behind electronics.  Interacting face to face, shy people feel more uncomfortable and their not forced to socialize.

How do you get social away from the phone?

Recap:

  • Go and get face to face with others, and put the phone away.
  • Go to the same place and same time every week and possibly you will see the same people every week and make a connection.
  • Start going to meetups groups.

Patti’s view:

  • Stretch out of your comfort zone.
  • People cut themselves off from social opportunities before they even get there.

Strategy – Pick a place and go once a week.  Get past the What IF of past fear of rejection.  Sometimes you may never know who you may meet by taking a chance.  Take the risk and leave the what-ifs behind.  The most fun times, has been talking to strangers about the weirdest things!

Angela’s view:

Connecting to your heart and writing exercise.

What do you want to experience socially?

  • Not everyone wants romance.
  • If someone invites you to go somewhere.  Say yes.
  • Find people with same interests as you.

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Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Anchor for supporting our podcast.

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

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Building Better Relationships [Podcast] – Episode 6 – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?

Episode 6 podcast – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?   In this podcast Patti and Angela discuss how the cell phone can enhance and limit relationships with others.  They also talk about their personal relationships with their own phones. 

Click here to listen – How’s Your Love Life With Your Phone? 

Take the poll and then listen to Patti and Angela answer to this question.  You may be surprised!

Here’s the quote Patti read in the podcast:

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Discover Patti’s new online course:  INCREDIBLE WORK-LIFE BALANCE HACKS for BUSY LEADERS
This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, works 24/7 and wants something more in their life.  The course has 7 hacks to create some balance in this so called busy life! coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti.teachable.com/

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Put Your Relationship with yourself as a priority and discover a simple energy system with movement and exercises that empower you to accept yourself, overcome old habits and discover what love is that allows self acceptance to happen effortlessly. https://bit.ly/2BMG79s

Read Angela’s blog post Turn OFF Your Phone and Get Turned ON 

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Brandless for supporting our podcast.  To learn more about Brandless click here on the link.

Want even more relationships tips? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

Are you interested in coaching with Patti?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 5 – What is Being Authentic?

Episode 5 podcast – Angela and Patti discuss “What is Being Authentic?”

Click here to listen – “What is Being Authentic?”

Patti’s view: A truly authentic person doesn’t put on a mask and become someone they are not or change to fit in.  They express their true thoughts, feelings and views without apologizing.  Being authentic is having integrity and being true to oneself and others.

Angela’s view: Sharing without forcing people to agree.  Sharing without proving you are right or anyone is wrong.  Sharing from your heart.  Sharing to get understanding between people.  Being in the heat of anger and needing to stand up and fight for what you believe in.

What is being authentic mean to you?

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Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Brandless for supporting our podcast.  To learn more about Brandless click here on the link.

Want even more tips about creating better relationships? Come join our Facebook group called Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Facebook Group

Are you interested in coaching with me?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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Damaged Relationships – Are They Salvageable?

Most of us have some sort of damaged relationships.  Even I have wounds and I struggle with forgiveness.  I know we should forgive and forget. Non-forgiveness causes physical and emotional harm.  Forgiveness will set us free, but what if the person you want to forgive continues the same hurtful behavior?

  • Apologies are never given.
  • Hurtful words are not forgotten.
  • Gossiping, bullying, and sharp razor tongues continue.
  • Boundaries are pushed aside or dismissed.
  • The people pleasers trying to pacify everyone, instead makes everything worse.
  • Family members speaking ill of each other or about someone’s spouse even when their children are in the room.

When these types of dynamics continue to go on and don’t stop.  Children get hurt and carry those damaged emotions forever and the disruptive behavior carries on.

How can relationships heal if these type of behaviors are allowed to continue and fester?  They can’t.  Something has to change.

Are these relationships salvageable?

To be honest, I believe some yes and some no.

Yes, if both parties want this conflict resolved and if willing to sit down,  respectfully communicate with each other, listen to each other side of the situation and then both apologize.  I believe with continual effort and respectfulness it is salvageable.

No, if one of the parties doesn’t want to resolve it, or apologize, or doesn’t want to make the situation better.

Each individual is responsible for their own actions and the words they speak.  I am very guilty of letting the cycle continue instead of putting a stop to it myself.  Especially when trying to enforce boundaries, so the behavior will stop.  There will be people who will bust down those fences or bully their way in.

Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you. ~ Spanish Proverb

How do you stop the gossiping and ill talk?

One person at a time.  When someone speaks bad about another family member – walk away, change the subject, or say to them politely, I don’t want to hear this, or say something nice about the person who is being gossiped about.  I know this may be uncomfortable.  Believe me, I struggle with this myself.  I am definitely, a work in progress and probably always will be.  Hurtful words are weapons and when people are wounded, they will afflict pain on others.

Strategies to Halt Gossip:

  • Awareness of what is happening
  • Say something nice or nothing at all
  • Don’t repeat gossip or something you were told in confidence
  • Make a conscious decision to stop these behaviors

Words once spoken can never be recalled. ~ Wentworth Dillion

How would you feel, if you heard others speaking unkind about you?

Would you forgive?

Would you react?

Would you ignore it?

Would you not care?

Gossiping and speaking bad about others has become an acceptable social activity.  Whether it is at home or at work.  

The next time you are about to say something unkind about someone.

Pause and reflect:

How would I feel if someone said that about me?

How would it make that person feel?

Would those words hurt others I love?

 

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What is a Good Leader? [Video]

 

What is a Good Leader?

A good leader listens and explains the why.

Has a talented way to give feedback without deflating the employee.

The ability to communicate the strategic plan.

Motivates and encourages to obtain goals.

A good leader is trustworthy and dependable.

They coach and mentor their employees to succeed within their organization.

They are upfront about difficult situations.

Just think of the possibilities, if everyone had a good leader.

These are some of the traits, I believe makes a good leader. ~ Patti

Please feel free to share your comments below “Leave a Reply”on “What you think is a good leader?”

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