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How To Be Proactive, So You Don’t Reach The Point Of No Return and Burnout!

Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.

Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.

How did you get to this point?

High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.

Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown

What is burnout?

It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

What are some warn signs?

Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work

Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started

Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients

Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite

No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate

No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort

Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety

Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all

Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping

If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.

How to change?

Focus on your recent and past accomplishments
Stop self-criticizing yourself and others
Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer
Make and write in a daily gratitude journal

Change your workflow!
Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion
Take regular breaks
Limit working overtime
Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.

Do you have a happy place?

If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?

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How to Respond to Unprofessional People!

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone who was unprofessional. They may come across, like they don’t care, or don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or don’t even realize their behavior is unprofessional. How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. Why? because it is uncomfortable. There are a lot of supervisors whether new or experienced that shy away from confrontation thinking that the behavior will go away. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse, because it’s not dealt with.

Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. People can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

Calmly explain to the unprofessional person, how to be treated with respect. Give an example of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some examples:

  • “When you roll your eyes at me while I am speaking to you, this makes me feel disrespected. ”
  • “When you don’t respond to me with an answer, I feel frustrated and ignored. Please respond promptly.” (In this example it could be in person, email, text, etc.)

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ~ Ashleigh Warner

If we are all totally honest there are times in our careers when we have been an unprofessional person. A coworker pushed us over the edge with a passive-aggressive comment. The harsh boss that embarrassed you in front of your peers or in a group meeting and yells at everyone because of one coworker’s bad behavior and ruins everyone’s day. A argument in a staff meeting that went over the top.

I think this is one of the most challenging aspects of any job when working with the public or collaborating with coworkers. “How do I respond to unprofessional people?”

Why?

There are numerous reasons. Coworkers can be defensive, rude, sarcastic, have their own personal agenda and can be plain difficult. Some even enjoy causing workplace drama and spreading rumors. They get a high while watching the sh*t fly as the tension builds and the hostility grows around them.

We spend more time with our coworkers than with family. Coworkers sometimes know us better than we know ourselves. Some even like to push our buttons, so we will react unfavorably.

Some people don’t have speaking filters. They talk at the same time as the thoughts enter their head. They don’t even know what they said was unkind, disrespectful or demeaning. Some people you can’t approach them about their unprofessional behavior as a coworker. You may need to discuss the situation with your supervisor.

Beautiful things happen in your life when you distance yourself from all the negativity and drama. ~ Unknown

How can you make the most of it?

Before you approach the unprofessional person, think about how they will respond. Have a plan of action on how to communicate with recommended solutions. Be prepared. Will they accept the feedback or react unfavorably towards you.

No matter how awful someone treats you. Stop, reflect, and walk away. Believe me, I know, it is hard to walk away when emotions overtake you. However, just because you don’t react, it doesn’t mean you didn’t notice the behavior or accept it. The only way to stop a toxic person is not to engage with them. Address the situation later when you both have time to think it over and calm down, not in the heat of the moment. Choose your battles carefully, sometimes responding in anger makes you look like the fool in front of others.

Questions:

Looking back in your career.

What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessionals?

What did you learn from these experiences?

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Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!

Lately, I have been hearing this phrase when people are talking about their coworkers.

Dont be that guy! 

Employers and staff may use this term when someone has committed bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong. In some organizations, they use this term Dont be that (Guy) Person for humiliation or an example of what not to do. The poster child of what not to be in the workplace.

Is shaming an effective management strategy?

Some say yes because it represents what not to do in the workplace and halts people from doing it.

How does “Don’t be that Person” cope with being the scapegoat?

Some quit some stay and deal with the whispering behind their backs and the harsh judgment while others checkout (isolate themselves).

Maybe some organizations want this type of shaming to keep things under control. If so, something is wrong. Someone once told me you live in a fantasy world if you think this type of management strategy will change.

What do you think?


Comments are welcome. What are your thoughts on this topic?

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Patti Answering Leadership and Work-Life Balance Questions [Video]

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Do you have any Leadership or Work-Life Balance questions? If yes, please reply below and I will answer them. Recorded live unedited.

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How Can We Show Up As Better Leaders?

A couple of weeks ago, a friend was telling me about her work situation and why she decided to give her notice. She brightens up people’s days with her friendly demeanor. She worked at the front desk. Having a friendly employee as the first contact with your customers is crucial. Customers will continue to come if they feel welcome, the same for employees.

Why do good employees leave?

A shortage of appreciation, praise, acknowledgement, or recognition from management

Manager only pointing out what went wrong

Lack of trust in employees

Bad communication – Not sharing important information or changes in company policies

Unsatisfied relationships with coworkers and/or management

Employee feeling unchallenged or bored with their work

The organization culture or the companies vision

Little growth and no promotional opportunities

Blatant employee favoritism

Lack of work-life balance, being over-worked, feeling over-stressed and having no work boundaries (on duty 24/7)

How can we show up as a better leader and save good employees?

Build a trusting environment. Give opportunities for employees to learn new tasks and give them clear verbal instructions with written procedures. When a situation arises be truthful. Come up with the right solution together. Acknowledge good work performance. Share policies changes in person and written form. Be open to answering employees’ questions. Care about the job and value staff.

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Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Dont Like!

Angela and Patti share communication tips at work.  How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships.  How to ask yourself the questions to determine how to manage your emotions.  

Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

What does this meme tell you?

Take a look at yourself.  
Is the relationship problem really you?  
What is it about this person that triggers you?  
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone?  Do they remind you of something you dont like within yourself?

Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.

Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding.  This gives you time to change your response or dont respond at all.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?  
Before responding back to the email.  Write out your response.  Dont send it!  Walk away for awhile.  Sleep on it, if you dont have to respond within the same day.  Then rewrite it when you have calmed down.  Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button. 

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons?  Make your decision from there.  Is there more good reason to stay?  Or reasons to leave.  

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Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore.

How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

Warning Signs – Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs

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Are you interested in one on one coaching with Angela? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

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Facebook Live Today – Have You Ever Worked With Someone You Dont Like?

Come check us out today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

July 23, 2019
5:30 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:30 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:30 PM Central Standard Time
8:30 PM Eastern Standard Time
July 24, 2019
10:30 AM Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

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Micro-Manage or Not to Mirco-Manage

Manager Yelling in the Phone

What is the definition of micro-management? It meansa management style of a manager who closely observes or controls the work of subordinates and/or manages with excessive control and/or attention to details. The manager has a lack of trust, isnever quite satisfied, enjoys finding errors in others work, wants to be in control of all the decision making.Micromanagement usually has a negative effect in the workplace.

This topic has a lot of different opinions and viewpoints. This is my personal viewpoint, there may be times as a Leader you will have to utilize some aspects of micro-managing with a staff member.

Possible reasons of when to use some aspects ofmicro-management in a positive way:

There are times when you need to review employees work flow, time management, work performances and when an employee is experiencing lack of motivation and focus with tasks or is just plain struggling with work performance. When this is occurring assist the employee through coaching, give additional training and feedback which may include an action plan to assist them with how to succeed.

The choice is up to the employee if they want to succeed by accepting the coaching, training, and action plan. The leader can provide the guidance and tools however it is truly up to the employee if they want to be open to success through listening, asking additional questions and be accountable for their career. The employee needs to take responsibility for their mistakes and correct them. By learning from those mistakes and doing it right the next time.

Possible situations for constructive feedback, review of performance, coaching tips and additional training:

  • A new employee
  • A new project or implementation of procedures
  • A high profile case
  • Highly confidential material or circumstance
  • An employee is making continual mistakes
  • An employee not understanding how to accomplish the task

When to prepare a corrective action plan including scheduled dates and times to meet with employee to review their work performance:

  • An employee is not meeting the minimum standards
  • An employee is not following policies and procedures
  • An employee is not following security and safety guidelines

A good leader knows when to use some elements of micro-managing and when not to micro-manage their employees. Employees who are knowledgeable, understand what is expected, accomplish their goals, have a good work ethic and do a good job should not be micro-managed. A good leader is part of the solution through open honest dialog with good suggestions on how the employee can improve their work performance and meet their goals.

 

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