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Exploring the Feelings of Working in a Toxic Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor

Click to listen to the podcast Episode 25 Exploring the Feelings of Working in a Toxic Workplace as a Manager and Supervisor

Hi,

Managers and Supervisors

How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feelings of working in a toxic workplace as a manager and supervisor. 

Are we responsible for other’s attitudes and responses toward us and others? 

It depends on how we treat people and ourselves. If we are abrupt, condescending, and demanding, we may be responsible for how people respond and react to that behavior towards them. How do you feel or respond to a boss, co-worker, peers, and others in the workplace or outside of work who are rude, unkind, or harsh in their tone with you?

What are the effects of working in a toxic environment?

I know how I felt. I didn’t like the person I was becoming, working in a hostile and toxic environment. I lost my compassion, empathy, joy, and excitement and was untrusting and sometimes judgmental towards others. The untrusting thoughts of thinking people had an unsavory agenda, feeling unsafe, bulldozing me, watching the Sh*t Storm every day around me, and trying to cope with the emotions of dealing with the daily grind and having to fake it to get by. 

Daily, I felt like I was giving away my power and values or losing kindness and happiness through people’s interactions and nasty behaviors, which had nothing to do with me. Still, I was feeling responsible for the unhappiness around me. Being highly sensitive can be a blessing and a curse in the workplace and home. Is it my stuff, or is it others? The trick is identifying whose crap it is. Letting go and not holding on to it or overthinking all of it. It’s not about me; I needed to remind myself that it’s not my responsibility for other people’s BS.

Empathy without boundaries doesn’t work and can be self-destructive and disruptive to the workplace. 

When I became a supervisor, I wanted to help people and make a positive difference in my employee’s lives. As managers and supervisors, we coach, teach, and mentor the others around us, but they have the choice of how they show up, respond, and behave. When out of balance, we project on the people around us. Taking time away is good for us to regroup, refocus, and destress when we feel we have lost empathy and compassion. 

Are our actions contributing to a positive, negative, or neutral outcome in the workplace environment energy? 

What are the results of working in a cohesive, collaborative, supportive environment?

When we realize how we show up daily in our workplace as someone who wants to make a positive difference in other people’s lives, the work environment becomes productive, enjoyable, and cohesive, and the atmosphere changes for the better. 

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I choose to let go of what I can’t control!

I would love your thoughts on this topic, and if there is a topic you would like me to explore, please leave a comment. 

If you are struggling with the daily grind and feel alone, a leadership coach like me will help you work through those everyday challenges to continue moving forward to where you want to be. 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next time when we meet again!

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Exploring Reversing Rude Behavior in Meetings from Chaos to Calm

In this podcast episode we explore reversing rude behaviors in meetings.

Click to listen Episode 24 – Exploring Reversing Rude Behavior in Meetings from Chaos to Calm

Have you ever been in a meeting where at least one person or all attendees have nothing positive to say about anything?

As Managers or Supervisors, having efficient and effective meetings is crucial to running a successful business. Group meetings that aren’t productive waste valuable time and cost the company money.

Let’s explore what may be considered rude behaviors in meetings.

  • Interrupting the person speaking
  • Not listening, acting bored, or lack of engagement
  • Being disrespectful to the speaker
  • Two people are talking privately among themselves while someone else is speaking
  • People are just plain hostile to each other
  • Arguing over whose point is right
  • Overtalking each other
  • Sarcastic mean comments to the speaker or each other
  • Being very judgmental of each other
  • Participants take everything that is said very personally due to the hostile interaction
  • Embarrassing the host or leader with malicious remarks

I have been in group meetings where all of these actions have happened, been the target, and participated in some disrespectful behaviors. I am not proud of how I acted; I was discourteous and unprofessional sometimes, but it was acceptable to voice your opinion. Was this behavior a way to conquer and get what was needed? Not really. Did anything get resolved? Most of the time, nothing got accomplished.

What happened to common courtesy, collaboration, and respectfulness towards each other?

How can we change the behavior in meetings? 

It takes one person at a time, starting with Managers and Supervisors, to lead by example and reverse this unprofessional behavior.

Here are some tips:

  • Set up rules of conduct for the meeting(s). Go over them at the beginning of each session as a reminder. Have the code of conduct on the agenda template. As time passes with the same group of attendees, the code of conduct will only need addressing if a new person attends the meeting and reads the code of conduct at the beginning.
  • When someone says something negative, turn to them and say something positive about the topic or person.
  • When someone intentionally breaks meeting etiquette, politely remind them or refer to the code of conduct.
  • As the manager or supervisor, focus on following the code of conduct, leading by example, and positive meeting etiquette will become achievable by all participants.
  • Redirect the “off-topic” discussions for later.

A set code of conduct and behavior etiquette is essential to successful meetings. Being courteous and respectful allows everyone to speak, be heard, participate, and engage, which is when great results will happen. Be organized and prepared. As Managers and Supervisors, we lead by example; if we are focused and engaged, our employees will be too.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I conduct productive meetings! 

I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor on meetings.

If you are struggling with the daily grind and feel alone, a leadership coach like me will help you work through those everyday challenges to continue moving forward to where you want to be. 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next time when we meet again!

If you would like to learn more about working with me for coaching services, go to my website: www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com/coaching

I would love your thoughts on this topic, and if there is a topic you would like me to explore, please leave a comment. 

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Exploring The Feelings Of Aloneness As A Manager or Supervisor from Chaos to Calm

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Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of aloneness as a Manager and Supervisor. 

Click to listen to the podcast Episode 23 Exploring The Feelings Of Aloneness As A Manager or Supervisor from Chaos to Calm

Have you ever felt that as a leader, you are isolated and not having anyone to talk to about work situations?

I know I have. I think we have all been there. Our decisions are sometimes tough and tax our minds, body, and soul. The relationships within the workplace, at times, are brutal.

It reminds me of the TV Show Alone. This show is about ten survival experts put in a remote area at least 10 miles away from each other to fend for themselves with ten survival items, some clothes, and live off the land. 
It is interesting to follow each participant on their journey of living alone and how they cope with surviving from dealing with emotional, physical, and mental challenges with a lack of food and harsh elements. 

 
What is their breaking point?

What keeps them going out there when they could easily hit a button and go home?

The reasons they are there in the first place, how that goal changes once they experience their time alone, and the hardship they endure. 

How does this compare to your work life?

Are there days when you want to hit a button and go home and never go back?


Days of being a manager and supervisor can be overwhelming, especially when you have no support or lack of trust in others in the workplace due to betrayal, unrealistic expectations, or harsh criticism. 


This life lesson changed their lives in ways they never thought it would. The time they spent in self-reflection about what matters.


To see their struggles, whether physical, mental, or emotional, can bring you to tears. How excited and thankful they get for catching a fish or trapping an animal in a snare. Each day is about trying to hold on and not give up.  


Sometimes, this is how it feels for managers and supervisors dealing with the daily grind “ALONE.”  Trying to hold it together each day—the pressure of being squeezed from top to bottom, trying to survive the criticism and actions of yourself and others, and being judged for every decision made or not made. The fear of what will happen when you walk into the office can be the breaking point of success or ruin.  


 Worrying about layoffs, unreasonable workload demands, meetings that don’t amount to anything, expectations of successfully managing the chaos each day, and ridiculous emails to answer—trying to work or lead your team without showing emotions. 

Feeling emotions is natural, and what happens if you don’t have anymore?

When did the career strip you of all humanity?

The Alone series teaches us there is so much more to life than boatloads of money, fame, and a demanding career that requires attention 24/7 and eventually leads to burnout, overwhelm, health problems, and anxiety.
The lessons learned from the show are to be grateful, love deeply, cherish the peacefulness, enjoy life to the fullest, and go home and spend time with your family and friends. 

What actions have you implemented to combat the feeling of aloneness in the workplace? 

I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor while surviving the daily grind of feeling alone.

If you are struggling with the daily grind and feel alone, a leadership coach like me will help you work through those everyday challenges to continue moving forward to where you want to be. 

Today’s podcast Affirmation
I am supported in my work and a good leader! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next time when we meet again!

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Exploring Changing The Feeling of Dread At Work To Excitement Again From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to Episode 13 – Exploring Changing The Feeling of Dread At Work To Excitement Again From Chaos to Calm.

This podcast episode will discuss and reflect on changing the feeling of dread at work to excitement again. 

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Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

Do you remember the days you were excited to get up and work?

You loved having this career and learning new things. You lit up the office with your enthusiasm. You were like a sponge; you soaked up all the knowledge you could get. 

When did everything at work change from excitement to dread?

Was it a slow fade over time?

How did it happen?

What changed in you, and when did you start to dread going into the office?

Was there disappointment or being set up for failure?

A new boss, was there Unethical people getting promoted?

A shift in the company vision or goals?

Unreasonable workload?

Have the work duties changed?

Too many ridiculous meetings?

Too many emails to answer?

Are the work schedule boundaries blurred?

We all have been here at some time or another with a job. We want something more challenging and exciting if you feel like this; maybe it is time for a new direction in your career path. 

As managers or supervisors, we must realize that our employees also get to this point of dread when they no longer feel challenged or excited to come to work. We need to look for those signs that they are bored and the job is not lighting them up anymore. 

What can you do to help them enjoy work again?  

Has something changed in the work environment? If so, what is it? What’s the true undercurrent causing the dread? Is there a solution?

A leader’s words, actions, and deeds set the path for how the team interacts with you, the team, and customers, contributing to the energy and flow of the work environment. 

Are you leading by your emotions, your staff’s emotions, company policies, or critical thinking? 

How is your attitude at work affecting those around you and yourself?  

You know what you want and what you don’t want. So what is holding you in a job that you feel bored and on the road to nowhere? What can you do to change this back to feeling excited again? Do you have a mentor or coach helping you to succeed and promote within your company?

How is your employee’s attitude at work? 

What’s holding them back in their job performances? 

Are you mentoring and coaching them to succeed?

What could make you feel alive again in your work situation? 

Reflect on all these questions and think about what are some solutions for you. You know something needs to give, but the only way it will change is if you put it into action.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

Each day I am developing my career and my staff!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next time when we meet again!

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Episode 63 – Becoming a Leader in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 63 – Becoming a Leaders in the Workplace for Better Relationships

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Patti and Angela explore leadership in the workplace.  

Patti is a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach specializing in helping Managers and Supervisors. Patti has a monthly mini-podcast called Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm. This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who has focused on your career for years and now wants to live a more purposeful and balanced life outside of work. These mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day, from chaos to calm. Patti’s Podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm tackles issues that affect leaders directly. https://anchor.fm/exploringlifeandwork.

Here some questions to ask yourself and reflect on if you’re in a leadership role or thinking about pursuing a leadership position?

How do you speak to others?

Do you enjoy working with others?

Are you a team player?

Are you willing to be accountable for other people’s actions?

Are you ready to hold yourself responsible for your actions, admit when you are wrong, and apologize when needed?

Are you ready to give honest, constructive feedback to staff members?

Are you dedicated, dependable, trustworthy, ethical, and loyal to your company and employees?

How did you feel after answering these questions?

Being accountable for yourself and others is not something to take lightly. There are times when mistakes happen, and you have to accept the consequences of those mistakes and not blame everyone else around you but take responsibility even when one of your staff members did it. Then, learn from it and move on; believe me, Patti, know this is hard.

We tend to overthink it and beat ourselves up when mistakes happen, but reflecting on what happened as a lesson learned helps ease the process and strengthens relationships with yourself and others.

Leadership is an ongoing process of sometimes making mistakes and learning from those mistakes, and choosing not to make them again.

Reflect back on your working experience with your previous bosses.

What did you like about their leadership style?

What did you not like?

What makes a good leader?

How does a good leader create leaders in others?

 To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

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Exploring The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 7 – The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of being unheard and underappreciated at work?

This topic is for anyone who feels that they are not recognized or appreciated. As a manager and supervisor, this is a daily occurrence stuck in the middle between top management and employees and getting crap from both sides. So every day, you push down resentment, disappointment, words, anger, and chaos within yourself and others. 

One of these days, it will bubble over, and the dragon will explode with harsh words and actions.

You are to pretend everything is great when you don’t believe it yourself in the decisions made from above, but you have to enforce and ensure it is completed and done that way. You have to convince employees to change how they do things when they disagree and don’t want to.  

When you speak up with your concerns, you are ignored and labeled as trouble-makers or uncooperative. The yes people promote and get recognition for your work. You are the doer and get things done but not acknowledged for all your accomplishments.

Your boss has promised you a promotion numerous times, but it doesn’t happen, and eventually, a yes person gets the position and over you. 

How heartbreaking is that?

You’re so good at your job your boss doesn’t want you to move up they keep you stuck in a dead-end job or career.

Being ethical may get you passed over for a promotion. 

Why is that? 

Do employers want honorable people or not? 

Isn’t it better to be an honest person than not? 

I’m lost for words because this is really happening, people. 

Keeping your mouth shut is expected, and nodding your head in agreement is the norm instead of working together to make things better and sharing ideas and processes to streamline.  

Keeping mouths shut and agreeing is causing chaos, resentment, overload, anxiety, and burnout in the workplace because things aren’t getting done correctly and efficiently.  

How can this change?

How many of you out there has a boss you can sit down with and say; this isn’t working; the staff is frustrated and on overload? If you do. Show some appreciation to them every once in a while. They need encouragement to keep pushing on with a thankless job. These people want to make a difference and want to do what is right, and they do open their mouths and disagree at times, even when rejected and not appreciated.

When people feel appreciated, heard, and can express their ideas, they might go the extra mile to speak up and change the environment from chaos to calm.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am heard and appreciated! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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