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Exploring Self-Talk and Emotions of the Manager and Supervisor

How’s it going, Managers and Supervisors!

Today, we will explore self-talk and emotions as a manager or supervisor when everything seems not to be going right in the workday, from employees to yourself, and how to change the chaos to calm.

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Have you ever felt so underappreciated at work? You try so hard, and it just doesn’t seem to go as you planned. Others don’t seem to get the big picture no matter how many times you think you communicated it. You feel like everyone doesn’t seem to care. So why don’t they get it?

It can be chaotic to a Manager or Supervisor; heightened emotions and frustration levels escalate towards others.  

I felt this way many times. Thinking I was communicating clearly and later realizing that was not the case. How does the communication style change from chaotic to calm?

Here are some possible questions that may be going through your mind during these times of frustration:

  • Did I communicate what I wanted correctly?
  • I feel I didn’t handle my disappointment and frustration very well?
  • How, as a supervisor, do I handle this situation in a calm manner?
  • What happened to people’s passion for their work or careers?
  • Have people lost their sense of purpose?
  • Why are so many people just going through the motions towards their jobs?
  • Is there no sense of pride anymore?
  • What happened?

Stop, take a deep breath, and pause.

What positive affirmations can you recite to shift your perspective towards yourself and others to communicate better? 

How about reciting these affirmations to get you started and through the day? 

I am a good communicator!

I am a confident leader!

When you believe you can make a shift, you usually do! 

Being a manager or supervisor, you may have encounter situations throughout your day and get very frustrated. However, I believe most people are not doing what they want to be doing. They may have outgrown the job and may not be pursuing their true calling or career path in life. So they dread getting up every day to a job that brings no satisfaction or purpose in life. If so, they would love to get up every morning and be excited to go to work every day instead of hitting that snooze button numerous times and dragging themselves out of bed with no purpose or passion.

Getting to know the person you are talking to, their learning style, and personality traits is a good start in connecting and communicating better.

How can you help bring some spark back in the workplace and assist your employees in igniting some passion for their job?  

  • Ask the employee is there a project, task, or something they would like to learn within your department. Could you give, teach or mentor them on a particular project? Some employees don’t want to learn anything new; they want to do their job and go home. That’s okay by asking the employee you know if they do or don’t want to learn something new.
  • Talk with them about what aspects they like about their job, and this will give you some ideas for future tasks or assignments to give them in the future. 
  • Listen to them talk about their aspirations in life.
  • Help them set attainable work goals.
  • Schedule training classes with them for self-development or new skills they would like to learn.
  • Delegate different job assignments to them. Get their feedback on what they liked and what they didn’t like about the work.
  • Give them some variety in their job duties, so they don’t become complacent and unhappy.

By trying these techniques, you will find more job satisfaction in the workplace. In addition, employees will have something to look forward to accomplishing and may even stop hitting the snooze button each morning.  

When employees are satisfied and happy at work, it spills out towards the customers, clients, each other, then towards you and company goals and increasing profitability.  

This podcast episode self-reflection question to ponder or journal about:

What keeps me motivated and encouraged to get through my workday as a manager and supervisor?

Today’s podcast episode affirmations:

I am a good communicator!

I am a confident leader!

Until next time!

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How to Stop Ignoring The Hard Stuff and Go From Chaos to Calm

Episode 1 Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, I will discuss – How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm.

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Have you ever had something to do at work, and you didn’t want to do it?

There are things as a manager or supervisor you don’t want to do, but it is an essential part of the job. You know what I mean, and not addressing it can cause more havoc in the workplace.

Let me give you some examples:

  • Not having crucial conversations with an employee about poor performance
  • Prolonging a discussion with the team about not making goals
  • An email you are told to write by your boss
  • Calling back an angry customer or client
  • Not participating or wanting to go to mandatory leadership meetings
  • Delivering bad news, for example, no bonus, no raises, or possible layoffs within the company

I am sure all of us at one time or another has put something off that might be uncomfortable or didn’t want to do but was loading us down with it continually there, whether in worry, thought, or others depending on it.  

Wouldn’t it make life and work more enjoyable if it was no longer in front of us but completed?

Getting it completed takes off a heavy burden, and then you can focus on the other things you want to do.

One of the ways to tackle the hard stuff is to do it first thing in the morning and get it out of the way. If it is a massive project, break it down into tasks. Then, as you complete a portion of the project, you will feel like you are moving forward on getting it done. Checking that section off your to-do list, spreadsheet, or Trello board feels like an achievement and inspiration. 

Putting off the hard stuff or undesirable tasks doesn’t contribute to becoming successful. However, once finished, you can move on to more enjoyable tasks and have a great sense of accomplishment.

How to Break Free of Ignoring the Hard Stuff:

  • Identify it is happening and
  • Recognize it and decide to
  • Focus on the task until completed
  • Celebrate when finished

Take control of all distractions such as responding immediately to email notifications, incoming voice mail messages, texts, instant messages, social media notifications. Set specific times and limits for these activities. Block off your calendar for the task. Concentrate by tuning out or turning off all distractions and commit to that particular task. 

If working in the office, let others know you are working on something with a deadline or need to finish with no distractions if they could wait on questions. By blocking the time on your digital calendar can help with limiting distractions.  

Halt any negative self-talk and replace these thoughts with positive Affirmations. An example – I get things done! By telling yourself, I can do this, and pray for strength to continue and remove all obstacles in the way; it will inspire you to keep going. There were many times I would be sitting at my desk and thinking I can’t do this, and I would pray, journal, and recite positive affirmations to get me through the task, situation, or sh*t storm happening around me.

Envision how you will feel after completing the project. Then, celebrate; it doesn’t have to be something big or expensive. It could be getting a cup of your favorite coffee or taking a break to read a good book, something special to you that feels like a reward. 

Sometimes getting started is the hardest, but the rewards are endless. Setting your goal, coming up with a plan of action, and the most important thing is putting the plan into action. Getting started and motivated to take action steps is crucial to change the habit of ignoring the hard stuff. However, it doesn’t help you attain your goal or dream until you get it done. To get what you want, you have to pursue it, and it starts with motivation to want to get things done.

Here are some Self Reflections to ponder:

What are some key factors which are enabling you to put off the hard stuff?

What have you been putting off?

How will it change your circumstances by getting them completed?

Today’s podcast Affirmation is I get things done!

Until next time!

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Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

I have a new podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm.

Welcome to Exploring Life and Work with Patti – From Chaos to Calm. Join me as we explore the good, the bad, and the chaotic in the life of a manager or supervisor.

This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who feels burnt out, stressed out, or overworked from your demanding job. Now, you’re looking to find some calm and balance in life, both inside and outside of work.

These monthly mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day from chaos to calm.

I am your host Patti Oskvarek, a Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach.

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Let the adventure begin.

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A Refreshing Trip To The Beach

As a Work-Life Balance and Leadership coach, my goal is to encourage managers and supervisors to take time away from work and enjoy life. I started this travel adventure blog to inspire others to get away from work and spend time with family and friends, whether for a day trip, weekend, or a week-long or more vacation. It can be a spur of the moment or a well-planned adventure. 

On this travel adventure, my daughter, son-in-law, and grandchildren invited me to go to Puerto Penasco, Mexico, for a three-day beach trip. We stayed at an Airbnb house within walking distance of the beach. I hadn’t been to Rocky Point since I was a child and didn’t remember it at all. However, I was grateful and looking forward to seeing it and spending time with my family. 

The Airbnb house had an iron gate around the whole property with two full-sized bedrooms, queen-sized beds, and one room with bunk beds, a bathroom with a shower, kitchen, and living room. The yard was large for parking and had a place to wash off the sand after going into the beach. You couldn’t see the ocean from the house, but it had a lovely sunset view. Unfortunately, I didn’t get up early enough to see the sunrise, but I wish I had. We could hear live music from a bar not too far away outside on the patio at the house in the evening. The band was good, and we had fun dancing to the music. 

My son-in-law can speak Spanish and knew his way around. It was nice having someone in the group who could communicate, understand, translate, and read menus, especially when shopping and at local restaurants.  

We went in late May; it wasn’t too hot on the beach or outside as long as you were in the shade and wearing a hat when not in the shade. My grandkids loved playing in the sand with their buckets, shovels, rakes and standing in the water while the waves rushed up to them. The water was a cool temperature in the morning and got warmer in the late afternoon. It was fun watching the boats, parasails, and people swimming in the ocean.  

There were a lot of merchants coming up to us with their products and services. Of course, when you’re trying to read a book or relax, that can be an unpleasant experience, but as more people came onto the beach, they started to thin out a bit on approaching us.

It was nice that we began our trip on a Thursday and spent all day on the beach on Friday because it wasn’t packed with people. On Saturday morning, we went to the beach, and it was starting to get jam-packed. So we spent a couple of hours there and drove back home. 

The Takeaway:

Taking time out from the daily grind and getting away for a quick trip to the beach is refreshing and good for the soul. In addition, spending quality time with family is vital to stay connected while making meaningful memories that last forever.   

I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor on how you plan your travel adventures.

If you are struggling with creating a balanced life. How about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

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The Feelings Of Being Alone As A Manager or Supervisor

I have recently been watching the entire TV Series “Alone.” This show is about ten survival experts put in a remote area at least 10 miles away from each other to fend for themselves with ten survival items, some clothes, and live off the land. The survivalist who stays the longest wins 500,000 dollars. In season 7, if a participant lasts 100 days, they will receive 1 million dollars. 

It is interesting to follow each participant on their journey of living alone and isolated how they cope with surviving from dealing with emotional, physical, and mental challenges along the way.  

What is their breaking point? What keeps them going out there when they could easily hit a button and go home? The reasons they are there in the first place and how that goal changes once they experienced their time alone and the hardship they endure. 

How this life lesson changed their life forever in ways, they never thought it would. The time they spent in self-reflection about what matters.

To see their struggles, whether physical, mental, or emotionally, can bring you to tears. How excited and thankful they get for catching a fish or trapping an animal in a snare. Each day is about trying to hold on and not give up.  

Sometimes, this is how it feels for managers and supervisors dealing with the daily grind “ALONE.”  Trying to hold it together each day—the pressure of being squeezed from top to bottom trying to survive the criticism and actions of yourself and others and being judged for every decision made or not made. Every day walking into the office can be the breaking point of success or ruin.  

Employees worried about layoffs, unreasonable workload demands, meetings that don’t amount too much, expectations of successfully managing the chaos each day, and ridiculous emails to answer—trying to work or lead your team without any emotions. 

Feeling emotions are natural, and if you don’t have any, what happened?

When did the career strip you of all humanity?

The Alone series teaches us there is so much more to life than boatloads of money, fame, and a demanding career that requires attention 24/7 and eventually leads to burnout, overwhelm, health problems, and anxiety.

The life lessons learned from the show to be grateful, love deeply, cherish the peacefulness, enjoy life to the fullest, and go home and spend time with your family and friends. 

I would love to hear your thoughts as a manager or supervisor while surviving the daily grind.

If you are struggling with the daily grind how about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

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Posted in Blog, Inspirational Moments, Personal Inspiration

Virtual Hug and Prayer

I am sending virtual hugs to everyone who is reading this. 🤗

Thank you to all the medical field personnel for all you do, to the medical researchers, volunteers, and healers. To the people that go to work and risk their lives every day, to the Correctional Officers and Public Servants. You know who you are. Thank you!

Dear Lord,
Please wrap your love around the world during this coronavirus epidemic. Bring us a miracle to heal the sick, stop the virus from spreading and destroy it.
Amen

Please share your prayers of hope! Patti 🦋

Posted in Blog, Business Inspiration, Career Inspiration, Inspirational Moments, Leadership Inspiration, Personal Inspiration

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?

How do you know when you are in a dead-end job?

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel stuck in a dead-end job. When Sunday comes around, they dread thinking about going to work the next morning. On Monday mornings, they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed. They push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk on the way to work.

🦋 Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?

🦋 Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?

🦋 Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?

🦋 Do you get any acknowledgment for a job well done?

Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself. Answer them with the first reaction you have.

🦋 Am I learning any new aspects in my position?

🦋 Are my job duties challenging to me?

🦋 Do I enjoy going to work every day?

🦋 Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?

🦋 Do I feel I am making a difference?

🦋 Are my coworkers positive at work?

🦋 Am I positive at work?

If you answered no to these questions, you might be feeling stuck in a dead-end job.

What are some options to improve my career situation?

Create a Career Journal to track your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.

Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and refocus on your career path.

What’s in a Career Journal:

  • Career goals and ideas
  • Keep track of career progress
  • Lessons learned
  • Coaching strategies
  • Advice from mentors
  • A private place to vent career disappointments
  • Keep positive affirmations and quotes
  • Gain a new perspective
  • Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you notes, recommendations, references, and certifications
  • Mission statement and values
  • Develop a career action plan
  • Keep motivated and inspired
  • To celebrate the small successes

How to Get Started:

  • Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
  • Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
  • Organize by categories
  • Add to your career journal regularly
  • Please keep it in a secure place

Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:

  • What did I learn?
  • What did I accomplish?
  • Did I receive any compliments? If so, what was it, and who said it?
  • How did I make a difference?
  • Did I have any setbacks, and how did it affect me?
  • How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
  • Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go.” Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!

  1. What’s keeping me here?
  2. Are there other options?
  3. If, so what are they?
  • A Transfer within the company?
  • Start job hunting?
  • Hire a career coach?
  • Go back to school and learn something new?
  • Retirement?

After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go.” What did this list tell you?

Take Away:

Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement. Leap of faith and try something different. You will have a career purpose with meaning again. Whatever decision you make to either stay or go, having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals and prepare you for the next career opportunity. ~ Patti

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The Quiet Struggles of the People Pleaser with Lynn and Patti [Podcast]

Lynn Myers and Patti Oskvarek discuss everything and anything regarding being a People Pleaser.  People Pleasers are the most helpful people you know. They usually don’t say no. They spend a great deal of time doing things for others and disregard their own needs. Being a People Pleaser could cause you to be disappointed because not everyone has the same heart as you do.

What are some of the traits of being a People Person?
* Seeks approval and words of affirmation
* Fears being alone
* Feelings of being selfish or guilty for not meeting the needs of others
* Irritable when others don’t take your advice
* Being the “go to person”, when someone is in need
* Covering for or taking the blame for others
* Giving money away which can lead towards depletion

 

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Episode 1 – What is a People Pleaser?

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I USED TO BE A PEOPLE PERSON THEN PEOPLE RUINED IT!

I used to be a people person then people ruined it! ~ unknown

My husband and I were at WalMart and we saw this phrase on a T-shirt.  I held up the T-shirt and said I am going to buy this.  Being a leadership and work-life balance coach my job is to encourage people not to feel this way.  So why did I want to buy the T-Shirt?  Well, to be honest I had many days that I felt this way.

Have you ever felt this way?  I know I did throughout my career especially when knee-deep in the day-to-day grind (Bull Sh*t).  There were days I would go home and think why are people so hateful, judgmental, petty and disrespectful.  Myself included.

What happened to kindness, empathy and compassion?

Reflection Questions About Daily Interactions With Ambitious People

Why is everything about who can “one up” each other?

Why is “knowledge power”?  Instead of sharing it.

What happened to being genuinely happy for a coworker and recognizing their accomplishments?

Why is being so “busy” acceptable and “ignoring” family okay?

When will these concepts change in leadership?

Is anybody else out there ready for a mind shift in some basic decency and respect towards others? I know I am!

How about you?

To answer the 🔥 burning question:  Did I buy the T-Shirt?Yes, I did. 🙂

P.S.  I have received so many comments from people when I wear this T-Shirt.  Like: That shirt is so funny.  Oh, that shirt is so true.  I love that shirt! Why do you think that is?

Would love to see your thoughts and comments about this topic. ~ Patti

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