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Drumming Out the STRESS?

I was watching my grandchildren one-day last week and one of the toys we have is a child’s drum with percussions. My Mom bought it for my granddaughter last Christmas. My granddaughter loves it. We had a good jam session with it. She loves music and dancing around. She smiles so big and dances endlessly. It is so joyful to watch.

Being a leadership and work-life balance coach, I am always looking for new ways to release stress and to share these different methods. A couple of years ago one of my good friends told me about drum circles she attended and that they relieve stress. I’ve been thinking about going to a drum circle for a while and wanted to try it out.

So the adventure began. I found a drum circle on www.meetup.com and signed up to go. I asked my husband if he would accompany me. (He really needed to release some stress!) He looked at me with apprehension and said what is it? I explained that a drum circle is where everyone beats on a drum. I wanted to check it out to see how it helps to reduce stress levels and possibly write a blog post about the experience. He was hesitant at first. I said, oh come on let’s make it an adventure. He said okay. 🙂

Photo by Dmitrij Makovejev from Pexels

When we arrived, there were all different sizes of African drums to pick from. The instructor showed us how to hold the drums correctly. Both of us picked a tall drum to sit with between our legs to play. The participants sat in either chair or on a couch in a circle so we could see each other around the room. The instructor started hand drumming slowing with a hand rhythm and we would follow the pattern. Then she would slowly increase the pace for us to follow along.

My husband Tom was natural. He picked up playing the beats quickly. I was all over the place but was having fun banging on the drum. As the class went on, each one of us in the drum circle would start a beat and everyone else would follow. We even had one lady dancing around with a percussion towards the end. She was really enjoying herself and all of us like watching her dance around to the beat of the music. Some of the other participants would switch instruments by using different types of drums or percussions. Handheld drums, floor drums and assorted of percussions. Tom and I keep to the same drum. Towards the last few minutes of the drum circle event, I tried a percussion. It looks similar to a cheese grater but was shaped like a banana and raddled and had a rake to scrap the outside. I would shake it and rake it to make sounds to the beat of the drums. To be honest I wasn’t really to the beat of the music but I tried my best. Haha!

Photo by Josh Meeder from Pexels

How was the experience?

I enjoyed it. I had to really concentrate on the hand movements to follow the rhythm.

Did it relieve stress?

Yes, I think it did. The sound of the vibrations and movement of hands took your mind off of everything but what was happening around you.

Would I do it again?

Definitely, I really did enjoy it. My hands hurt a little afterward but not for too long. I asked Tom his thoughts and he said maybe he would go again if it was closer to home and the timing was right. He didn’t think it really reduced stress but it surprised him that he had a talent he didn’t even know he had. He hadn’t played a musical instrument before.

My only regret was we didn’t take any photos while we were there to share with this post.

Takeaway:

A drum circle was a way to be focussed and concentrate on the hand rhythm and beat of making beautiful sounds. It was an adventure of getting out of our comfort zone, trying something new, meeting different people and getting our minds off of everything else, except the sound and vibration of the music. Everyone should try something new and get out of their comfort zone every once in awhile. In my opinion, it was two hours well spent. ~Patti

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How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership

As a leader, have you stopped, pause, and reflected before reacting?  I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis.  We want to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.  When pausing, we won’t jump immediately into the wrong conclusion.

Incorporating the Art of Pause into Leadership:

The PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
When at work and someone is rude to you. Or you don’t agree with them.  Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will give you time to reframe your reply or decide not to respond at all.

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send an email response you will regret!
I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending sometime or another.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?  
 Before responding to the email.  Write out your reply. Don’t send it and walk away. If possible sleep on it.  Then rewrite the email response, when you have calmed down. Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

“Anger doesn’t solve anything.  It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – unknown

Don’t get me wrong as a leader. There are times you have to be direct with employees for them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue. Have a plan on how to address it.  Write it out and practice what and how to say it. There are also times when you do need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect. What is happening around you?  It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

Discussion Questions:

What are your thoughts about the art of pause?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Comments are always welcome.  You can always use your initials or anonymous for your name, if this makes you feel more comfortable to respond.  🙂   Did you find this helpful?  if so, please share this blog post with your colleagues, friends, and family on all your social networks!  Thank you. 🙂

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Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 9 – Take Time for You and Your Family

Check out our latest podcast

Episode 9 – Take Time for You and Your Family

In this podcast episode Angela and Patti discuss the importance of alone time for yourself, incorporating family time, visualizing better family dynamics with some tips and strategies to make it happen.

To Listen to the Podcast Click Here

Patti  talks about the benefits of taking time for yourself and spending precious time with family.

  • Let’s the brain rest
  • Improves concentration
  • Boosts creativity
  • Helps with problem solving
  • Reflection time to understand yourself and be a nicer person
  • Creates relaxation and calmness

Spend time with family, spouse/partner and really give them our full attention without focusing and thinking of work.

  • How do we do this?
  • When should we do this?
  • How often should we do this?
  • What is really important to you?

Reflect on these questions and realize we really need our family, our spouse/partner in our lives.  They keep us balanced, grateful and loved.

Here are the links to Patti’s blog posts about spending time with family and planning a vacation:

Summertime Inspiration https://wp.me/p3W3dA-URL

Time to Plan a vacation https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UHC

Do you want harmony and balance in your life? Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program. The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective. During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook.  www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com

Angela talks about Family Dynamics and they can often be challenging for reasons we can’t always put our finger on. There is often a tension in families – that create unexpressed hurts from a situation in the past. So if you have a challenging family start by realizing your family is not unusual! We all have quirks in families – and some of us have really strong issues in families – so we tend to run away from them!

How do you move past these?

Go back to questions above:

  • How do we do this?
  • When should we do this?
  • How often should we do this?
  • What is really important to you?

Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

Please share this podcast with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.  Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Anchor for contributing to this podcast.

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Taking Time for You and Your Family – Today’s Facebook Live

Join us live with your questions at Building Better Relationships Facebook Group we will be discussing:

Taking Time for You and Your Family

May 20, 2019

6:00 PM PST,

9:00 PM EST,

and 11:00 AM May 21, 2019 in Sydney, Australia.

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

or

Listen to our monthly podcast – click the link below:

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Podcast

Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics?   Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and  discover more about the program.

Do you want harmony and balance in your life?  Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program.  The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective.  During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook.

 

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Check out the training I did on How to Say No, Set Up Professional and Personal Boundaries in Ruby McGuire’s Rock Your Fabulous Biz Facebook Group [Video]

Check out the training I did in Ruby McGuire’s Rock Your Fabulous Biz Facebook Group.

To watch the video click here

I discussed the following topics:

🦋 How to Say No Easily to the Things You Really Don’t Want to Do

🦋 How to Set Up and Keep Personal Boundaries

🦋 How to Set Up and Keep Business Boundaries

 

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Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?

How do you know when you are in a dead-end job?

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgement for a job well done?

Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself.  Answer them with the first reaction you have.

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects in my position?

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work everyday?

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?

🦋  Am I positive at work?

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead end job.

What are some options to improve my career situation?

Create a Career Journal to keep track of your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.

Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and to refocus on your career path.

What’s in a Career Journal:

  • Career goals and ideas
  • Keep track of career progress
  • Lessons learned
  • Coaching strategies
  • Advice from mentors
  • A private place to vent career disappointments
  • Keep positive affirmations and quotes
  • Gain a new perspective
  • Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you letters, recommendations, references and certifications
  • Mission statement and values
  • Develop a career action plan
  • Keep motivated and inspired
  • To celebrate the small successes

How to Get Started:

  • Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
  • Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
  • Organize by categories
  • Add to your career journal regularly
  • Keep it in a secure place

Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:

  • What did I learn?
  • What did I accomplish?
  • Did I receive any compliments?  If so, what was it and who said it?
  • How did I make a difference?
  • Did I have any setbacks and how did it affect me?
  • How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
  • Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!

What’s keeping me here?

Are there other options?

If, so what are they?

  • A Transfer within the company?
  • Start job hunting?
  • Hire a career coach?
  • Go back to school and learn something new?
  • Retirement?

After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go”.  What did this list tell you?

Take Away:
Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement.  Take a leap of faith and try something different.  You will have a career purpose with meaning again.  Whatever decision you make to either stay or go; having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals as well as helping you be ready for the next career opportunity.

Comments are always welcome.  

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Facebook Live Today – How Change Can Inspire Your Relationships



Come check us out today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

March 18, 2019
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:00 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:00 PM Central Standard Time
8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time
March 19, 2019
11 AM Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

To listen to our monthly podcasts click below:

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New Online Course by Coaching for Inspiration with Patti

Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life! 

This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and want something more in their life.  7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so-called busy life!

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Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby Has A Great Work Ethic but Lacks Work-Life Balance


 

I recently started watching the long-running TV series Midsomer Murders on Netflix.  The main character Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby is very dedicated to his job and capturing the murder(s).  He is excellent at his job.  While on a murder case he is very focused on his work, 24/7 until the murders(s) are caught and charged.

Chief Inspector Barnaby loves his job.  It gives him purpose.  He coaches and trains his sergeants to be dedicated, knowledgeable, reliable and very good detectives.

Trust is something hard to win, easy to lose and never to be taken lightly. ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

In one episode Sargeant Dan Scott was getting rough with a suspect. After the incident and they were both alone in the vehicle Chief Inspector Barnaby told Sgt. Scott, you will not conduct yourself like that ever again under my watch. As a leader, Inspector Barnaby is not afraid to address bad behavior with his employees.

Do you see a lesson in this? ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

Due to Chief Inspector Barnaby’s dedication to his job, he ends up disappointing his wife Joyce continuously.  He is a good man.  He loves his wife, but his job always comes first.  He does have a habit of not showing up when working a murder case.

He will set up dinner dates with his wife while he is still investigating his case.  He may even take her to a restaurant and be watching a suspect. Joyce will get up early to cook him breakfast and usually he rushes out without eating her prepared meal.  They will plan on meeting up for a party or some other occasion and he either arrives late or not at all.

The cleverest lies are those were already inclined to believe. ~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

Joyce wants to spend more quality time with her husband, but he is always on the job 24/7.  Does any of this sound familiar? 

In one episode, Chief Inspector Barnaby was suppose to meet his wife Joyce at home and go with her to a party.  He didn’t show up and Joyce went without him and had a wonderful time.  He was locked in a cellar with Sgt. Scott all night and she didn’t even realize he didn’t come home.  I think it surprised him that she wasn’t even worried about him.

In another episode, Joyce and his daughter Cully wanted to purchase a houseboat. Thinking a houseboat would create more family time together.  The houseboat Joyce and Cully were looking at turned out to be the killers.  No houseboat was purchased.

In another episode, Joyce wanted Chief Inspector Barnaby to start planning for his retirement and to become a mystery writer.  She thought he would make more money and be around more.  It wasn’t Chief Inspector Barnaby’s idea of retirement after the murder investigation.

What now? I’m going to have my cake and eat it.~ Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby, Midsomer Murders

In the TV show Chief Inspector Tom Barnaby is considered a family man. When he does arrive home for dinner, he is usually called out again.

How does his marriage survive?  No work-life balance here!

Of course, he is a fictional character.  

Do you think this is why he is still in a relationship? 

 

If this blog post article really resonated with you. I have a new online course called Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   This course is for leaders who are crazy busy, working 24/7 and wants something more in life than just their career.   

Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders who LOVE their Career but Want MORE in Life!   The course has 7 easy hacks to create some personal life balance in this so called busy life!

Enroll today for $25.00

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Building Better Relationships [Podcast] – Episode 6 – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?

Episode 6 podcast – How’s Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone?   In this podcast Patti and Angela discuss how the cell phone can enhance and limit relationships with others.  They also talk about their personal relationships with their own phones. 

Click here to listen – How’s Your Love Life With Your Phone? 

Take the poll and then listen to Patti and Angela answer to this question.  You may be surprised!

Here’s the quote Patti read in the podcast:

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Read Angela’s blog post Turn OFF Your Phone and Get Turned ON 

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