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How to Overcome Feeling Inadequate

At some point or another most of us have experienced some feeling of anxiety that we are not good enough, that we didn’t earn or deserve something and we will be exposed for it.  This is called “impostor syndrome”.

What is impostor syndrome?

Impostor syndrome is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud.

This syndrome causes overthinking, overanalyzing, second-guessing yourself and worrying about being judged.

What can you do to overcome these feelings?

  • Focus on your accomplishments and what you have to offer.
  • Embrace challenges.
  • Stop comparing yourself to others.
  • Accept who you are and celebrate all your successes.

Ask yourself the following questions:

Who am I?

Why do I feel like an impostor?

Does my career really define me as a person?

Does what I do for a living, conflict with my core values or my personality?

When at work, what I am feeling like inside?  What I am portraying on the outside?

Am I truly fulfilled? If yes, why? If no, why not?

Am I happy and satisfied with my job duties and work progress?

Do I enjoy going to work each day? If yes, why? If no, why not?

What makes me feel motivated to get up each morning with excitement?

Is it time for a change?  If so, what is holding me back?

We often don’t recognize are gifts and talents, which may not come naturally for others. This is what makes us successful.  Don’t discount yourself, you are unique, capable and you are not impostor.

Call to Action:

Take your answers to these questions and start focusing on what makes you unique and talented.

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Halloween at the Office… Tips, Ideas and How Not to Get Carried Away [GUEST BLOGGER]

Halloween, fZombie worker. Vector flat cartoon illustrationor some, is the most wonderful time of the year without question.  For those of us who become giddy at the sight of October on the calendar, know that we can get a bit carried away with decorations, treats and of course, costumes.

As a manager, it is your responsibility to set guidelines prior to the big day to lessen the chance of insensitivity, outrageousness, and inappropriateness.  I encourage all companies, large or small, to send out a memo outlining expectations, celebration announcements and most of all, costume guidelines. While this season is sure to bring a slew of Harley Quinn’s out of the woodwork for the big night, we want to be sure she doesn’t show up at work.  In the same token, during a presidential election year, it isn’t quite right to bring those politics into the workspace. Halloween can be fun in the office if planned well.


When it comes to costumes and fun, contests are always a big hit, especially with your competitive sales teams.  Offer prizes that relate to work incentives;  prime parking space for a month, free lunch, items from the promotional closet, day off, half-day Fridays for a month, sleep in Mondays for a month, special plaque or statue award…. possibilities are endless. Create categories for winners; Best Overall Costume, Most Creative Costume, Best Ironic Costume etc.  You can also offer a theme for the day; favorite television or movie character, characters from The Office, Parks & Rec or other office genre show; favorite candy or cereals are fun (it may be best not to choose favorite superheroes…masks and makeup should not be worn covering the entire face at work).

Offer costume ideas if you are so inclined.  Click  here to visit my Office Costume Pinterest board.  You may find some pretty cool, appropriate costume ideas…. 


Remember that not everyone celebrates Halloween for various reasons.  Questioning why someone is not in costume or their reasons for not celebrating is discriminatory and should not be done.  

If you really want to boost morale in the office, host a Halloween Pet Parade and invite staff to bring their (well trained, non-exotic) pets to work for the afternoon or even better, host an evening family party and set up a trick or treat trail for the kids.  Both of these take a bit more work and effort but if you can find an overzealous Halloween fan, they are most likely willing to spearhead the project.

Wishing you a fun & Happy Halloween!

By Guest Blogger, Kharma Finley-Wallace