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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti – Podcast Goals for March 2023

Angela Ambrosia and Patti Oskvarek are sharing our March 2023 podcast goals and asking for our listeners support to help achieve them.

Goals for March 2023:

❤️ Reach 200+ new listens per episode in 30 days

❤️ 50 + new followers on Spotify in 30 days

How can you help?

❤️ Listen to all the episodes

❤️ Share the podcast Spotify link with others

❤️ Share your favorite episode on your social media

❤️ Like and Follow our podcast on Spotify

BBR podcast Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rVQIdCNrMoU3gRhZsvLt9

Thank you so much for listening and supporting our podcast. We appreciate you! ❤️ Angela and Patti

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Exploring The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 7 – The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of being unheard and underappreciated at work?

This topic is for anyone who feels that they are not recognized or appreciated. As a manager and supervisor, this is a daily occurrence stuck in the middle between top management and employees and getting crap from both sides. So every day, you push down resentment, disappointment, words, anger, and chaos within yourself and others. 

One of these days, it will bubble over, and the dragon will explode with harsh words and actions.

You are to pretend everything is great when you don’t believe it yourself in the decisions made from above, but you have to enforce and ensure it is completed and done that way. You have to convince employees to change how they do things when they disagree and don’t want to.  

When you speak up with your concerns, you are ignored and labeled as trouble-makers or uncooperative. The yes people promote and get recognition for your work. You are the doer and get things done but not acknowledged for all your accomplishments.

Your boss has promised you a promotion numerous times, but it doesn’t happen, and eventually, a yes person gets the position and over you. 

How heartbreaking is that?

You’re so good at your job your boss doesn’t want you to move up they keep you stuck in a dead-end job or career.

Being ethical may get you passed over for a promotion. 

Why is that? 

Do employers want honorable people or not? 

Isn’t it better to be an honest person than not? 

I’m lost for words because this is really happening, people. 

Keeping your mouth shut is expected, and nodding your head in agreement is the norm instead of working together to make things better and sharing ideas and processes to streamline.  

Keeping mouths shut and agreeing is causing chaos, resentment, overload, anxiety, and burnout in the workplace because things aren’t getting done correctly and efficiently.  

How can this change?

How many of you out there has a boss you can sit down with and say; this isn’t working; the staff is frustrated and on overload? If you do. Show some appreciation to them every once in a while. They need encouragement to keep pushing on with a thankless job. These people want to make a difference and want to do what is right, and they do open their mouths and disagree at times, even when rejected and not appreciated.

When people feel appreciated, heard, and can express their ideas, they might go the extra mile to speak up and change the environment from chaos to calm.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am heard and appreciated! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Exploring The Management Philosophy – You’ve Got A Pulse, You’ve Got A Job From Chaos to Calm

The Management Philosophy – You’ve Got A Pulse – You Got The Job! Not A Good Leadership Practice.

To listen to the podcast episode click here.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will be discussing hiring staff and why it is not a good idea to hire someone with the Management Philosophy – If You’ve Got A Pulse – You’ve Got The Job!

I was at an appointment almost a year ago, and the doctor told me that they were desperate to hire someone quickly. She said if they got a pulse, they got the job. We both laughed. She said we need another body in here as soon as possible. I responded, Sometimes, that doesn’t always work out because they may not be the right fit or have a good work ethic. The funny thing is my husband was talking to me a couple of months before that and suggested that I should write a blog post for “You’ve Got A Pulse, You Got the Job!” 

I guess God and the universe were telling me it was time to discuss this topic. So I did write a blog post about this topic back then, and I wanted to share it on the podcast because, as a manager or supervisor, I feel this is not a good leadership practice.

Filling a chair or position to have a body in it is not a very good idea. When hiring managers don’t spend the time to make sure the candidate is someone qualified and will connect well with staff and customers in the long run, it will cause more anguish for everyone involved.  Why is that? 

One person’s bad attitude, incompetency, or lack of motivation can destroy the work environment. 

Yes, I understand that some companies are understaffed and need people immediately because of high turnover, high caseload, or staffing ratio to the patients, or security and safety reasons and with the Great Resignation happening. However, look at the time and expense of training someone; you will eventually have to let go, or worse, keep someone that is incompetent or a kick-starter to the other employees and customers and causes complete chaos in the workplace.

Lowering the hiring standards is not the answer!

Take some time in the hiring process to get to know the candidate. Then, review the resume and job application. 

Does this person change jobs every few months? If so, why? Are they promoting or some other reason listed? If not listed, ask the candidate. 

What kind of positions have they done in the past? Is it equal to the job qualifications? 

Have specific questions about the job in the interview for the candidate to answer. Were the answers clear and concise, and right?

After the interview, call the candidate’s references. Have specific questions about attendance, team player, customer service, and work performance.

If references check out with positive recommendations to the questions answered, ask the candidate to come back and meet your staff if this is allowable in your company. 

Have the candidate engage with the team and see what the job duties entail. 

Remember, the employees have a vested interest because they have to work with this person. If you have an open, honest relationship with your employees, they will give you their opinion. Ultimately you have the final answer on who to hire and who not to hire.

Spending a little time checking out the candidate may save you, your staff, and customers frustration and protect the company’s bottom-line on training and hiring the wrong person.

Here are some Self Reflection Questions to Ponder or Journal about:

What have been my hiring experiences in the past?  

What worked well and what didn’t?

What suggestions from this podcast will I incorporate into my hiring process?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I make good hiring decisions!

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Episode 56 – Being Your Authentic Me in Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 56 – Being Your Authentic Me in Relationships

Summary

In this episode – Being Your “Authentic Me” in Relationships, we have a special guest Davina Lyons.  She will be sharing about Being Your “Authentic Me” and so much more.

Davina Lyons is the founder of the “Authentic Me“. Community and Workshops for Women, a safe space for women to collectively do the work of self-awareness and resilience.

This means discovering more about and redefining themselves, along with elevating their personal living standards. Davina has overcome many hardships: childhood trauma, multiple miscarriages, abusive relationships, and unfulfilling careers.

However, she learned from her journey that those challenging experiences do not define her life. She is now on a mission to help women love and embrace their authentic selves to live their BEST life and reach their highest potential.

Davina Lyons wrote a chapter in the book – The Lemonade Stand From Sour to Sweet.

“Many of us wear masks to hide our authentic selves. It’s time to take off those masks!” Davina Lyons

Davina, How can our listeners find you or contact you about your products, services, and workshops?

Mindfulness journal for teens and young adults: https://amzn.to/3BIATYB

Davina Lyons Email: info@davinalyons.com

Website: https://davinalyons.com

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Episode 55 – The Great Resignation – The Beliefs of How It Should Be

This podcast episode looks at our beliefs about life and work and invites you to consider how things should be about work and life choices. To listen to the podcast click here.

Do you find yourself challenged by the pandemic and questioning everything?

Do you live in regret?

What to consider before joining the Great Resignation:

Reflect on when you first started at your current position.

What attracted you to the job in the first place?

What did you like about the job?

What has changed?

What would make your job more enjoyable?

What do you truly want in a career?

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Self-reflect or journal about what you want in life.

What’s keeping me here?

Are there other options?

If, so what are they?

What did your answers tell you?

Think about why I am staying in a job that you dislike. Is there something better for me what”lights me up”?

Before joining the great resignation, come up with a solid exit plan. Then, whatever decision you make to either stay or go, focus on what kind of trade or career you want and prepare yourself for that.

We often complain about something before we leave it. We make something bad, like a job, boss, or relationship, but actually, what is awful is teaching you something about yourself and the original attraction to the job. Touches your dreams and beliefs of how things should be, and if you follow those questions which we’ll have in the show notes – you can discover what you have been avoiding or conditioning in your dream to live the life you want.

We know we gave you a lot to think about and would love to hear about your beliefs and move past them without any regrets.

Angela’s recommendation of the book – For I Am John: Channelled Paperback – by Helen Barton (Author)  DISCLOSURE: Please be aware that we shared an affiliate link in this post. Please know that we only share products or services that we have used and found great value.

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Episode 53 – Is Marriage Built To Last?

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a special guest John Helton, the Blind Fury, from the podcast “Martial Monkey Mania Radio Show” and the podcast topic “Is Marriage Built To Last?”

John, AKA “The Blind Fury,” is President/Founder of The Blood Wall Ministries. Marital Monkey, one of those ministries, which teaches biblical principles of God’s design for marriage and puts the fun back in marriage with the Marital Monkey Mania Radio Show.  John Helton’s teaching and interaction with the Marital Monkey Mondays workshop, certified relationship coaching services, a soon-to-be Marital Monkey Preparation Course. He has a detailed book to hopefully be released in 2022 called “Marital Monkey: Helping You Navigate the Marriage Jungle God’s Way!” He is also a Christian inspirational speaker and author, amongst other things like being a professional goofball.

“Martial Monkey Mania Radio Show” episode “Cell Phones Harm Relationships.”   Can you give the listeners some examples of why cell phones can harm relationships?  https://anchor.fm/maritalmonkey/episodes/Marital-Monkey-Mania-Radio-Show-Cell-Phones-Harm-Relationships-August-5–2021–WEMM-107-9-FM-e15jkm9

Here is how to contact John about his services:

johnhelton777@gmail.com

Contact@MaritalMonkey.com

www.MaritalMonkey.com – www.TheBlindFury.com

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Exploring The Pressure of Perfection on Managers and Supervisors From Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will talk about the pressures of perfection on managers and supervisors.

As Managers and Supervisors, we put a lot of expectations on ourselves as well as others. 

So why do we feel we have to be perfect? 

Are we putting those expectations on ourselves, or do people expect us to be perfect with our attitude, appearance, decisions, and performance?

It appears that perfection is expected and pressured onto Managers and Supervisors, which trickles down to the employees — the appearance of being perfect and pointing out other people’s mistakes and faults accompanied by harsh judgment has become the norm in workplaces. In this type of environment, there is a lack of focus, creativity, and willingness to try new things. As a result, people don’t grow, nor do the products, services, and revenue.  

It’s okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and not continually repeat them. How feedback is delivered can make or break a person, whether at work, home, volunteering, or among friends. Too much nitpicking and micromanaging is why good employees leave. 

A good leader will let employees try new and different processes, especially if the current approach isn’t working, outdated, or becoming mundane. Listening is essential to know what is working and what is not. Being approachable and welcoming is the first step to building trust, hearing what people feel and new ideas, and realizing that mistakes happen. Finally, good leaders are flexible —having a crucial conversation on what happened and working together on how to fix the situation—talking about what worked and what didn’t and coming up with a plan to make it better with an agreeable resolution.

What if you are a manager or supervisor who doesn’t like conflict?

Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage, and promotes better communication skills. Start by responding to emails, voicemails, and texts, even short and the point. Something is better than nothing. Meet with employees, listen, and be engaged. As you address complex situations, it does get easier as time goes on. Communication skills are an essential part of becoming a better leader.  

Managers and Supervisors are the hardest on themselves. When projects fail, they take it to heart and feel awful and embarrassed.

Here are some Self-Reflect Questions to ponder when a mistake or failure happens.

What did I learn?

What will I do differently next time?

What areas do I need to improve?

What did I learn about myself, customers, clients, superiors, and employees from this experience?

An Affirmation to recite to get you through during or after a mistake or failure:

I will not let mistakes from the past carry on into today.

Pretty much everyone wants to do a good job and wants to please their superiors, customers, employees, and clients. So when mistakes happen, knowledging them by taking action steps to rectify them. By doing this, it will reflect, you are an honest person with integrity. This imperfect world sure does need more managers and supervisors like this. Letting go of perfection and being authentic changes the workplace from chaos to calm. 

Until next we meet again!

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Exploring How to Stop Ignoring The Hard Stuff and Go From Chaos to Calm

Episode 1 Exploring Life and Work with Patti (Podcast)

In this podcast episode, I will discuss – How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm.

Click to listen to Episode 1 – How to Stop Ignoring the Hard Stuff and Go from Chaos to Calm

Have you ever had something to do at work, and you didn’t want to do it?

There are things as a manager or supervisor you don’t want to do, but it is an essential part of the job. You know what I mean, and not addressing it can cause more havoc in the workplace.

Let me give you some examples:

  • Not having crucial conversations with an employee about poor performance
  • Prolonging a discussion with the team about not making goals
  • An email you are told to write by your boss
  • Calling back an angry customer or client
  • Not participating or wanting to go to mandatory leadership meetings
  • Delivering bad news, for example, no bonus, no raises, or possible layoffs within the company

I am sure all of us at one time or another has put something off that might be uncomfortable or didn’t want to do but was loading us down with it continually there, whether in worry, thought, or others depending on it.  

Wouldn’t it make life and work more enjoyable if it was no longer in front of us but completed?

Getting it completed takes off a heavy burden, and then you can focus on the other things you want to do.

One of the ways to tackle the hard stuff is to do it first thing in the morning and get it out of the way. If it is a massive project, break it down into tasks. Then, as you complete a portion of the project, you will feel like you are moving forward on getting it done. Checking that section off your to-do list, spreadsheet, or Trello board feels like an achievement and inspiration. 

Putting off the hard stuff or undesirable tasks doesn’t contribute to becoming successful. However, once finished, you can move on to more enjoyable tasks and have a great sense of accomplishment.

How to Break Free of Ignoring the Hard Stuff:

  • Identify it is happening and
  • Recognize it and decide to
  • Focus on the task until completed
  • Celebrate when finished

Take control of all distractions such as responding immediately to email notifications, incoming voice mail messages, texts, instant messages, social media notifications. Set specific times and limits for these activities. Block off your calendar for the task. Concentrate by tuning out or turning off all distractions and commit to that particular task. 

If working in the office, let others know you are working on something with a deadline or need to finish with no distractions if they could wait on questions. By blocking the time on your digital calendar can help with limiting distractions.  

Halt any negative self-talk and replace these thoughts with positive Affirmations. An example – I get things done! By telling yourself, I can do this, and pray for strength to continue and remove all obstacles in the way; it will inspire you to keep going. There were many times I would be sitting at my desk and thinking I can’t do this, and I would pray, journal, and recite positive affirmations to get me through the task, situation, or sh*t storm happening around me.

Envision how you will feel after completing the project. Then, celebrate; it doesn’t have to be something big or expensive. It could be getting a cup of your favorite coffee or taking a break to read a good book, something special to you that feels like a reward. 

Sometimes getting started is the hardest, but the rewards are endless. Setting your goal, coming up with a plan of action, and the most important thing is putting the plan into action. Getting started and motivated to take action steps is crucial to change the habit of ignoring the hard stuff. However, it doesn’t help you attain your goal or dream until you get it done. To get what you want, you have to pursue it, and it starts with motivation to want to get things done.

Here are some Self Reflections to ponder:

What are some key factors which are enabling you to put off the hard stuff?

What have you been putting off?

How will it change your circumstances by getting them completed?

Today’s podcast Affirmation is I get things done!

Until next time!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Playcation – It’s Time To Plan It and Do It!

It’s officially summer. The weather is changing to enjoy outdoor adventures. It’s time to start planning and going on vacation activities. Scheduling it on the calendar is the first step to make it happen. After that, the time is blocked out, and work will not occur.

For some planning, a vacation can be overwhelming. Booking the flight, lodging, activities, rent a car, or not renting a car, etc. Staying local and pursuing fun, entertainment, and recreation may be a good option.

What is a playcation?  Here is my explanation of a playcation as doing something fun and enjoyable on vacation. I recommend blocking out and scheduling specific enjoyable activities to do physically while getting some fresh air and sunlight. Maybe it is golfing, parasailing, snorkeling, zip-lining, water skiing, camping, hiking, getting the body moving, and so much more.

What has been your bucket list or what I call adventure list that you always wanted to do? If you don’t have an adventure list, it’s time to make one. Making an adventure list will help you plan future adventures and playcations.

I started making an adventure list by each state in two notebooks; as I see something on TV, Facebook, Pinterest, or hear about it from someone to visit and do that activity, I will write it in the books. If I don’t have the books with me, I put them on my phone in notes and then later write them in the book under that state.

As you begin to plan a playcation, take out your adventure list. I find this is a great motivation tool to experience something new a different and inspire me to do it.

How about making an adventure list and putting it into action?

I would love to hear or see your adventure list. Become carefree and just do it. Let the adventure begin!

If you are struggling with creating a balanced life. How about hiring a leadership, life, or career coach like me to help you work through the daily challenges, and continue moving forward to where you want to be with your life.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Episode 46 – How to Calm Anxiety with Work and Money

In this podcast, we’re going to look at money anxiety. Angela shares some thoughts about the new economy based on sharing and caring about yourself and others which can help relieve tension and look at money from a collaborative and self-value-affirming perspective.  

To listen to the podcast click here

Summary:

During the pandemic, many of us stopped work, school, living the way we lived. Discovered many activities at home, which were things we used to do before life got busy, such as cooking, baking, making craft, making music, art, home-based exercise, journaling, talking to people, playing cards, etc.  And many people realized they were working and living in a way they didn’t like.  

Patti’s workbook the 21 Days to Optimal Work-Life Balance.

Angela talked about The Stanford Social Innovation Review (SSIR) has an article on The Vision of a Well-Being Economy, which shares how “We must shift how we understand and build societal health and prosperity, looking beyond economic growth to collective well-being and environmental sustainability.”

Patti discussed – When negative thoughts or emotions enter your mind, you can allow them and redirect them. The trouble with worrying about money and work can consume you, but having strategies can relieve the anxiety.

Spend some time in meditation to calm your thoughts.

Listen to upbeat music to manage anxiety and manifest money.

Pray about the situation for guidance and peace. Journal about the problem which is causing the worry.

Go for a walk, the gym, bicycle ride, yoga or fitness classes or any type of exercise.

Repeat positive affirmations.

Hire a financial coach to help develop a healthy money mindset and reasonable financial goals.

Angela shares about Sondra Ray and Leonard Orr’s book Rebirthing in the New Age. It is hard to get a copy of it now.

One of her powerful ones is “I deserve to be loved.”Shakti Gawain has a great book called “Creating True Prosperity”that gets to your underlying beliefs around money and abundance and T Harv Eker book The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

Dr. Patrick Wanis that is a paid meditation download. 

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To schedule Angela’s online Meditation Class.  

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