It’s a New Year! Time for Reflection, Gratitude and Letting Go

It is a New Year!

Time for reflection, gratitude, and letting go (forgiveness).  As a Life Coach, I discuss a variety of topics that many people push under the carpet.  Sometimes these subjects are uncomfortable.  They are even awkward to me at times, but awareness and having strategies to cope is important to move on, let go and live a happy life.

Journaling and reflecting on the past year gets us geared up for whatever 2019 brings our way.

Here are some journaling and reflections prompts to get you started.

Reflection: Looking back at 2018

  • How was 2018?
  • What were some of the changes that occurred in your life?
  • What is a major lesson that you learned from your job in 2018?
  • What will you do differently in 2019?

Having gratitude reduces the feelings of envy, produces happy memories, lets us experience good feelings and helps with reducing stress.

Gratitude: Looking back at 2018

  • What was your biggest accomplishment in your personal life in 2018?
  • What was your biggest accomplishment in your work life in 2018?
  • What was one thing you’ve learned in 2018 that you’re thankful for?
  • What was one aspect about your health that you’re more grateful for?

Letting Go and Forgiveness: Looking back on 2018

One of my latest blog post I discussed Damaged Relationships and suggestions on how to halt unkind words.  Forgiveness is also part of the healing process.

In the past year, I have been seeing, reading and hearing about the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer called Ho’oponopono.  From what I have read the forgiveness prayer can be said in any order.  Repeating the prayer assist with moving forward toward forgiveness.

Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness – Asking for forgiveness!

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

 

Ho’oponopono – Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness – Forgiving Someone!

I’m sorry

I forgive you

I thank you

I love you

 

What am I grateful for?  I am truly thankful for my family, friends, and followers who support me with my coaching business. 🙂 I hope the journaling prompts and the Forgiveness Prayer help you in your life’s journey in 2019. ~ Patti

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Making Good Life Choices

Recently my husband Tom and I were at a local restaurant sitting in the bar area eating pizza and wings.  I heard one of the staff members say to another employee (Jake not his real name) as she was leaving for the night “Please make good choices.”

“Please make good choices.”

I thought wow, why would she say that to Jake her co-worker and friend.  Then I remember Jake had been talking to Tom and I about his family and a woman he has been long distant communicating with from his home state.  Jake is a single parent raising two small children.  Then I realized why Jake’s co-worker was a little worried about him.  He was thinking about packing up and moving back to his home state to be with his old acquaintance.

A few years ago a childhood friend said to me people change, I am not the same person I used to be.  People do change as they move through life journeys.

“I am not the same person I used to be.”

Is this person the same person you fell for all those years ago.  Some would say yes and some would say no.  I believe people do change.  Interests change, goals in life change, careers, relationships and tragic circumstances change us and yes, bad stuff happens that make us view the world in a different way, then we did before.

“I believe people do change.  Interests change, goals in life change, careers, relationships and tragic circumstances change us and yes, bad stuff happens that make us view the world in a different way, then we did before.”

The only way you really get to know someone is to be with them through the good, the bad and the ugly.  I am not the same person I was when I was younger.  I was really shy with a kind heart.  I realized that when I went to a celebration of life recently and meet up with old childhood friends.  I had changed through the years and so have they.

Only Jake can make the best decision for him.  Hopefully, he really gets to know this lady before he packs up his family and moves.  Some would say take a chance on love and others would say only a fool rushes in.  We don’t want to live with regrets or should of’s, however we do need to weigh the possible outcomes.

Relationships take time.  Getting to know the true person isn’t something that happens over night.  It takes spending quality time with someone.  Going through struggles as well as having fun together.  Learning to communicate about the hard stuff instead of avoiding it.  Taking the time to figure out if this is really the right person for me and I can’t live without them. ~ Patti

What would you do if you were Jake?

Would you take a chance on love and move or take the time to get to really know the person? 

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The Many Masks of Loneliness [Podcast]

Episode 3 – The Many Masks of Loneliness Podcast

This episode is about The Many Masks of Loneliness Podcast

What lies behind the masks? 

Warning Signs of Loneliness:
1. Shopping a lot and care a lot about material possessions
2. Binge watching TV
3. Feel don’t get enough sleep. Constantly tired. Sleep fragmentation when you can’t sleep through the night and are continuously waking up.
4. Take a lot of hot showers or baths for comfort.
5. Get sick a lot with colds.
6. Feeling depressed.
7. Spend a lot of time of time on social media.

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I USED TO BE A PEOPLE PERSON THEN PEOPLE RUINED IT!

I used to be a people person then people ruined it! ~ unknown

My husband and I were at WalMart and we saw this phrase on a T-shirt.  I held up the T-shirt and said I am going to buy this.  Being a leadership and work-life balance coach my job is to encourage people not to feel this way.  So why did I want to buy the T-Shirt?  Well, to be honest I had many days that I felt this way.

Have you ever felt this way?  I know I did throughout my career especially when knee-deep in the day-to-day grind (Bull Sh*t).  There were days I would go home and think why are people so hateful, judgmental, petty and disrespectful.  Myself included.

What happened to kindness, empathy and compassion?

Reflection Questions About Daily Interactions With Ambitious People

Why is everything about who can “one up” each other?

Why is “knowledge power”?  Instead of sharing it.

What happened to being genuinely happy for a coworker and recognizing their accomplishments?

Why is being so “busy” acceptable and “ignoring” family okay?

When will these concepts change in leadership?

Is anybody else out there ready for a mind shift in some basic decency and respect towards others? I know I am!

How about you?

To answer the 🔥 burning question:  Did I buy the T-Shirt?Yes, I did. 🙂

P.S.  I have received so many comments from people when I wear this T-Shirt.  Like: That shirt is so funny.  Oh, that shirt is so true.  I love that shirt! Why do you think that is?

Would love to see your thoughts and comments about this topic. ~ Patti

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Day 5 of 5 Day Power of Positivity Challenge

Welcome to Day 5 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

Today’s challenge is to Compliment instead of Gossip.

I was listening to the Happier Podcast with Gretchen Rubin awhile back and they were talking about using the practice of reverse gossip.  This means when someone is gossiping about another person to you.  Say something nice about the person being gossiped about.  The gossiper usually stops talking about that person.  I have tried this technique a few times and it really has worked.

A compliment is a precious gift, so why aren’t we giving them out more?

Offering a sincere compliment makes people feel valued and accepted.  Awareness of the good in others helps us to think more positive.  Not getting sucked into gossip and the courage to walk away from it can reflect a lot about someone’s character.  If more people said nice things about each other instead of the dreadful, this world would be a much happier place.  Walk away from hurtful mean words.  Most gossip isn’t true anyway and it causes anguish to the person who is being gossiped about.  No good comes from gossip.  A compliment can change someone’s day from feeling very low to experiencing worthiness.  When receiving a compliment, listen, smile and then say thank you.

When someone gives you a compliment, believe them. ~ Molly Simms

The Day 5 Challenge:

  • Give at least one compliment each day to someone.  Be genuine and honest with your compliment.  Some examples: Write a note, letter or send a text to someone and tell them what they mean to you or thank them in person for something nice they did.
  • Use the technique of reverse gossip and/or walk away from the conversation.

A compliment is verbal sunshine! ☀️~ Robert Orben

We all have negative emotions and it’s okay.  We can’t be positive every moment of the day, that is literally impossible.  Bad stuff happens.  Even upbeat happy fun loving people aren’t feeling it all the time.  You can strive to be a good person and give a kind compliment.  You may never know what that nice gesture meant to someone and how it could brighten their day for the better. ☀️ ~ Patti

How about making someone’s day today by giving them a compliment! 🙂

The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer everybody else up! ~ Mark Twain

Thank you for spending time with me during this 5 Day challenge.  My wish for you is that these daily challenges inspired more positivity within your life and shined out to those around you! ☀️

Share your compliment experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your comments and what types of reactions you got! ❤️

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Day 4 of 5 Power of Positivity

Welcome to Day 4 of the 5 Day

Power of Positivity Challenge.

Today’s challenge is about spending time in prayer and meditation to increase positivity in your daily life.

Prayer and meditation is powerful. These activities release the feel-good chemicals into the brain.  What and how we think does have a huge impact on our body, mood and immune system.  Prayer and meditation decreases our reactions to negative situations.

Prayer is talking to God and meditation is listening to God! ~ unknown

When feeling stressed, angry or out of control, step away from the situation and pray about it.  When praying, it removes us from the emotion and we give it to God.  People who pray often see health benefits and experience peace.

Every positive thought is a silent prayer which will change your life. ~ Bryant McGill

Here is an example of a short prayer to ask for guidance for positivity:

Dear God,
When I have negative thoughts, please help me to quickly recognize them and guide me to focus on what is good and positive in my life. ~ Amen

Meditation is a habitual process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts.  When meditating it has been proven to increase calmness, improve relaxation and help one cope with chronic illnesses.  Some people use meditation to create a more positive outlook on life.

Here is a short meditation to get you started:

Your mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission. ~ Arnold Bennet

Day 3 challenge is when you feel upset or overwhelmed, step away and quickly pray about it.  Ask for peace and calmness with the situation.  Also, listen to the short meditation daily.

My prayer for this 5 Day ~ Power of Positivity Challenge, is for all who are participating to be inspired with positivity and that God gives you the strength to resist the negativity around you. ~ Amen

Share your experiences in the “leave a reply” below. I would love to see your comments and maybe it will inspire others as well! ❤️

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