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My Facebook Live Interview with Noleen Sliney, Video Confidence Mentor

In case you didn’t get a chance to watch my exciting interview with Noleen Sliney, a Video Confidence Mentor. Noleen inspires and encourages her clients and pushes them out of their comfort zone to try new things within their business. She interviewed me on August 13, 2022.

Click here to watch the video Facebook live.

Here’s what Noleen Sliney wrote about the interview. I had the absolute privilege of interviewing our view own changemaker Patti Oskvarek today over on my Facebook page. This was such an interesting, inspirational and fun conversation. Patti was incredible and was very generous in sharing many of her tips and words of wisdom on how to bring balance into your life and work. She also shared some very interesting things about herself. 😁 Be sure to go and watch the interview to find out what it is as well as be inspired by Patti. We would also very much appreciate your support to boost engagement and get this seen by more people by leaving a comment under the video. Thanks in advance. Noleen Sliney

You can watch the interview here:
https://www.facebook.com/NoleenSlineyMakeupArtist/videos/515471713285528

Thank you so much for your support and watching. ~ Patti

Posted in Blog, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast

Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 14 Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode Exploring Staying Positive In A Unfavorable Work Environment As A Manager and Supervisor From Chaos To Calm I am going to explore staying positive in an unfavorable work environment.

When you are a manager and supervisor, you get harsh treatment and judgment from your superiors and subordinates. The top tells you to do things your employees don’t want to do, and you are stuck in the middle and have to enforce it.  

How do you stay upbeat when continually being pushed down by others?

I understand how easy it is to get sucked into negativity, drama, or a bad attitude when in a toxic work environment. Some people want to pull you into their emotional drama—rude comments about others, sarcastic undertones, and the energy vampires who want to drag everyone else down with them. But unfortunately, people don’t even realize that they have a negative attitude because it has become a habit and spills into their personal lives.

Self-reflect are you personally responsible for the drama since you are in charge of your area? If yes, how can you change it?

When working in a toxic environment, people may start to take everything personally because of the feeling of being verbally attacked, one-upping, taken advantage of, or pointing out mistakes or faults, especially if peers want to move higher in management. They will do anything to make you look bad if they feel you are a threat. As time goes on, it takes a toll on people’s emotions, values, and self-worth.

We all contribute to the workplace vibe in some way or another by how we interact and communicate our thoughts, instructions, crucial feedback, praise, and dealing with backstabbing, betrayal, and interpersonal relationships.

This situation is one of the biggest challenges people face when working with others.

However, there is hope.

What are some strategies to help you stay positive?

  1. When your peer is causing conflict, think about the best way to handle this situation. What are their motives? Should you walk away and not engage and excuse yourself from the conversation? How will it appear if you walk away or stay and engage? Is this person setting you up to react unfavorably in front of others? If you react and respond unfavorably, is it worth the consequences? If it is an employee, you will need to engage in private after both of you have had time to self-reflect on the situation and calm down the heated emotions—Journal how you are feeling and brainstorm solutions to resolve the conflict or crisis. Keep your journal in a locked, safe place.
  2. When there are unkind remarks about someone else, say something nice about that person. This action tends to halt the conversation.
  3. Listen to uplifting music, recite positive affirmations and go for a walk to get clarity.

Be the person you want to be around. Focus on what you want in your life and remove the thoughts of what you don’t—set goals for how you will change your situation and put them into action. Hire a leadership and life coach to help you get where you want to be. ~ Patti

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am a positive influence in the workplace!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until next time when we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Posted in Blog, Video, Work-Life balance

How do I use what I do in my daily life?

I am Patti Oskvarek, leadership and work-life balance coach and reiki practitioner.

How do I use what I do in my daily life? 

I understand that I have to slow down and bring some balance in my life because if I don’t, things become blurred and can affect my health and relationships. I tend to over-push myself to the point of exhaustion or overload. When I start to feel tired or overloaded, I know that I need to spend alone time to recharge and refresh. Spend time outside, whether in my backyard or going out in nature. Take time to reflect, meditate or pray, listen to some calming music and do some self reiki myself. 

I have a work-life balance workbook called The Optimal Work-Life Balance workbook motivates you to focus, de-stress, and gain a new perspective of a balanced lifeThe downloadable workbook has advice and tips on improving your life while working at your own pace. It is self-paced, achievable, and reusable throughout your life! Also included, you will receive 21 -Days of inspirational emails with tips and information daily that will set you on the path of creating your balanced life.

I also created the Work-Life Balance Affirmations Cards to inspire and encourage; read and repeat them throughout the day. Post them around your home, work area, or in your vehicle. They are pocket-size which makes them easy to carry around with you.

The cards are a companion to the Optimal Work-Life Balance Workbook. I use these cards to encourage when working on a particular topic or program day; I read and repeat them throughout the day. I post them around your home, work area, or in my vehicle. They are pocket-size which makes them easy to carry around.

How I use them:

Shuffle and randomly select a card, and reflect and repeat the affirmation throughout the day. Then, shuffle and pull a random card.  

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Posted in Blog, Exploring Life and Work with Patti Podcast, Leadership Inspiration, Work-Life balance

Exploring Why I Became Leadership and Work-Life Balance Coach From Chaos To Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, Patti discusses her personal journey on why she became a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach.

Today’s podcast Affirmation:
Each day I am Developing Positive Work-Life Balance Habits!

To purchase Work-Life Balance Affirmation Cards 
https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards/

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

#managers #supervisors #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #anchorpodcast #managementpodcast #leadershippodcast #management #worklifebalance

Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 66 – Reconnecting Relationships through Music with Special Guest Robert Alexander

Click to Listen to Episode 66 – Reconnecting Relationships through Music with Special Guest Robert Alexander

In this episode – Reconnecting Relationships through Music, we have a special guest Robert Alexander.

He shares how to use music for healing, rebuild relationships with centered self and the chakras, and reconnect with others as we move through these challenging and changing times. We will share a few samples of the Chakra Collection in the podcast.

Robert Alexander is an Audio Alchemist located in Southern CA. With this LifeRhythms business, he offers healing work via private sessions and designs unique personalized pieces of music to help his clients find healing away from the work they do with him. Alongside his LifeRhythms business, Robert has a label-signed music project called Evlov. His music is found on various platforms online. Robert also was the creator and host of LifeRhythms Radio; an online Radio show made to help you find relatable content that can help you create more of what you desire in your life!

(1) Resonance Recordings are personalized pieces of audio that help you attract more of what is most sacred and desirable in your life – to learn more https://liferhythms.us/customized-affirmations/

2) To listen to the Chakra Collection Vol 1. – https://liferhythms.bandcamp.com/album/chakra-collection-vol-1

3) Music Lounge – https://liferhythms.us/music-lounge/

4) LifeRhythms Radio – https://mercurybroadcasting.net/category/liferhythms-radio/

5) For more information about the Genie In The Headphones – Email: robert@liferhythms.us

To contact or learn more about Robert Alexander and his services and products:

Email: robert@liferhythms.us

Website: https://liferhythms.us/my-story/

Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/message

Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/support

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Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 65 – Changing the Perspective of Not Taking Everything Personally In Relationships.

Summary

This podcast topic came from a listener’s request about not taking everything so personally.

Why do some people or cultures make it look so easy not to take things personally and others take every little thing to heart?

Is it the environment of how we are raised?

Or do some people have DNA that can let things roll off their back or turn the other cheek with ease?

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly sensitive in nature? 

How to overcome hurt by someone’s harsh words:
Remind yourself it’s about them not about you at that moment.  Maybe you did something they didn’t like. What did their words really say?  Was it about the behavior?  Or something else?


One tip is to watch your conditioning:
What are the annoyed and angry voices in your head regarding the household chores?
You will hear your expectations, you may hear your parents, but you will hear the frustration of someone else not doing what you want and thinking about what should be done.

This is your conditioning. So once you hear it. Simply say – ok – that’s my conditioning. It’s not that this person hates me or is insulting me – or wants me dead or ignores me.

This is my expectation about how things should be done. And then if you’re really angry maybe don’t speak with the other person!

But then think about how you could say to them what you want. But don’t expect them to do it the way you want because that may not be their conditioning!

Some strategies to help deal with and not take things personally:

  • Listen to happy, soothing, calming, or spiritual music when feelings start to surface within you.
  • Find something fun to do to help redirect thoughts.
  • Practice meditation and pray for “Letting Go” of things people have said.  
  • Watch your reactions and triggers when around certain people. Become aware of those thoughts and assumptions. Reflect on why these reactions are happening and how you can release or address them?
  • With friendships, coworkers, partners and family how has taking things personally affected these relationships?  What can I do to change it for the better

Are some people more sensitive than others because they are empathic or highly-sensitive in nature?

Do you feel you’re Feeling too much?

Feeling everything about you – you are the center of attention – are you the most important thing in a relationship?

What is a relationship?

A relationship is not just about you.

A relationship is like a dance – two people having a tango – push-pull. Not about just you and your feelings. ~ Angela Ambrosia

For meditations to help with hurt in relationships here is the video series “Choose the Relationship” by Angela Ambrosia. The meditations are at the end of the videos.


 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/support

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Posted in Blog, Building Better Relationships Podcast, Podcasts

Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business

Summary:

To listen to podcast episode, Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business.

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a conversation about women and men in the workplace and more.  

(Patti) Angela, I recently saw an Instagram Reel of a young lady from Alabama who was looking for a place to do her eyelash business, and because she was a woman she was having a hard time getting a place even though her business was successful and had the money to make the rent.  She even had a male friend call and the landlords were going to rent to him but not to her.  This was shocking to me because I thought those days were gone. The link https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cbh4ClCjXkM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

(Patti) Do men make more money in the same position as women? YES or NO
To participate.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/polls/ or on Spotify.

(Angela) The Gig Economy is where everyone is moving away from full-time or part-time work to casual on-call work, as an Uber driver to an Online Entrepreneur to offering services in exchange for a fixed fee – like a coach or trainer, or other service providers.
And women have jumped on this for thousands of years before what we have now as a way to provide for their families while also cooking, housekeeping, and raising their young families. The modern gig economy is also increasing the demand for work-life balance so women and men can have time to be with their families and not work full-time hours.

How can women change their mindset to feel comfortable asking for what they are worth?

  1. Practice in the mirror asking for what you want at work.
  2. Write a script and memorize it so the words come out easy and confident.
  3. Say powerful daily affirmations for confidence and getting what you want.
  4. Get a mentor or coach to work with you on strategies to get what you want.

How can we have a better balance in the workplace between men and women whether it is pay, top management, or respecting each other?   We would love to hear your comments and feedback on this question.

Thank you so much for listening, please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to our podcast.

 To work with Angelahttps://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/message

Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/bbr-at-home-and-work/support

#workplace #workplacerelationships #betterrelationships #podcast #relationshippodcast #lifecoaching #relationshipsathomeandwork #buildingbetterrelationshipsathomeandwork #anchorpodcast #listen

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Exploring Journaling For Managers and Supervisors From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 9 – Exploring Journaling For Managers and Supervisors From Chaos To Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors, How’s it going?

In today’s podcast episode, we will be exploring the technique of journaling in the workplace as a manager and supervisor and how it may help keep you in the proper perspective during challenging situations.

Journaling may work out specific problems, generate ideas, and brainstorm. Writing down thoughts, ideas, and emotions can help release tension and encourage creative thinking. This writing can help develop new ideas for products and services and improve customer service techniques. Focusing on the concept, process, or development through journaling may challenge you to discover creative solutions.

Journaling Questions:

  1. What happens if you react right now or at this moment?
  2. What will happen if you decide not to respond?
  3. What are the benefits of walking away and taking time to reflect before handling the situation?
  4. How can you handle this situation calmly?
  5. How will you overcome obstacles in the way?
  6. After you have time to reflect, how will you respond?
  7. What are your action steps now?

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Today’s podcast Affirmation:
I journal to make good decisions!

To purchase Work-Life Balance Affirmation Cards 
https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/worklife-balance-affirmations-cards/

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

#managers #supervisors #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #anchorpodcast #managementpodcast #leadershippodcast #management #journaling #journalformanagers #journalingforsupervisors

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Episode 63 – Becoming a Leader in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 63 – Becoming a Leaders in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Patti and Angela explore leadership in the workplace.  

Patti is a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach specializing in helping Managers and Supervisors. Patti has a monthly mini-podcast called Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm. This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who has focused on your career for years and now wants to live a more purposeful and balanced life outside of work. These mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day, from chaos to calm. Patti’s Podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm tackles issues that affect leaders directly. https://anchor.fm/exploringlifeandwork.

Here some questions to ask yourself and reflect on if you’re in a leadership role or thinking about pursuing a leadership position?

How do you speak to others?

Do you enjoy working with others?

Are you a team player?

Are you willing to be accountable for other people’s actions?

Are you ready to hold yourself responsible for your actions, admit when you are wrong, and apologize when needed?

Are you ready to give honest, constructive feedback to staff members?

Are you dedicated, dependable, trustworthy, ethical, and loyal to your company and employees?

How did you feel after answering these questions?

Being accountable for yourself and others is not something to take lightly. There are times when mistakes happen, and you have to accept the consequences of those mistakes and not blame everyone else around you but take responsibility even when one of your staff members did it. Then, learn from it and move on; believe me, Patti, know this is hard.

We tend to overthink it and beat ourselves up when mistakes happen, but reflecting on what happened as a lesson learned helps ease the process and strengthens relationships with yourself and others.

Leadership is an ongoing process of sometimes making mistakes and learning from those mistakes, and choosing not to make them again.

Reflect back on your working experience with your previous bosses.

What did you like about their leadership style?

What did you not like?

What makes a good leader?

How does a good leader create leaders in others?

 To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation

go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/

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Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Click to listen to Episode 60 – Forgiving Family Members for Angry Hurtful Words

Angela and Patti discuss forgiving family members and hurtful words in this podcast episode.

Have you ever said something so hurtful and regretted it?

The same is true for family members who have said angry, hurtful words to you. Hurting people lash out at others. Words hurt profoundly, and a lot of times, and not forgotten. Speaking in anger can be dangerous for all relationships, even if it is accurate and how you are feeling at that moment in time. The damage has been created and really can’t take back.

Why do we say hurtful words? First, it’s helpful to understand why people become habituated to saying unkind things.

Understanding why people say hurtful things will help you see what the person is experiencing underneath the words.

Patti often says in our podcasts, “hurt people – hurt other people.”

Angela – I see that hurt people have no way to heal their hurt or resolve it – so they project it out – like spitting out the poison inside them – or when you spit out something that you don’t like in your mouth.

The thing is – it seems pretty stupid to spit out your hurt on someone else – if you want to stay friends with them.

So why would we do that?

Well, monkey sees – monkey do.

How do you forgive?

Forgiveness is the hardest thing for most people. Unforgiveness is a poison on your soul and spirit. Unfortunately, people with unforgiveness spill it out on others, and the cycle continues down the line.

Questions to journal or self reflect on:

Are apologies needed to be said before healing can happen? YES or NO

What if apologies never occur?

What if the family member doesn’t want to make amends?

How will you let go and forgive without an apology?

When unforgiveness takes over your thoughts and heart, recite the Hawaiian Forgiveness Prayer Ho’oponopono” at least three or more times. First, say the person’s name and then the prayer. Or you may not get a chance to apologize or get an apology; this prayer will assist in healing and forgive with a genuine desire to heal the relationship.

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

We would love to hear about your family dynamics and how you conquered and let go of the hurt from angry words said, whether you were telling them or directed at you.

Thank you so much for listening; please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-star review so more people can find and listen to the podcast.

To work with Angela:

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To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation.

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