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How To Be Proactive, So You Don’t Reach The Point Of No Return and Burnout!

Lately, I have been hearing that the “new” working from home has been very hard for some. They are saying they are working more hours then if they were in the office and it is leading to burnout and frustration.

Burnout is not fun. When you reach that point, you are exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally. Sometimes, you don’t even realize what happened. You have changed within. You feel confused, angry, and so tired of everything and everyone and no patience.

How did you get to this point?

High-achievers should continually be on the lookout for the warning signs of burnout because they don’t always see it coming. The doers are passionate about their work progress and tend to work long hours. They take on heavier workloads and put high expectations on themselves, which may lead to burnout if not monitored by pausing with some self-care techniques. Trying to be everything and anything to everyone, putting work 24/7 above rest, relaxation, a little fun, family, and friends. That’s how.

Is there a way to reverse it. Of course, but you have to take some time away from work mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not stepping away for a while could cost you your career, health, and relationships.

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough”. ~ unknown

What is burnout?

It is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress.

What are some warn signs?

Cynical, critical, pessimism, anger or irritable at work

Disliking the job, forcing yourself to get up and go to work or having a hard time getting started

Irritable or impatient with others, coworker, boss, customers or clients

Lack of energy or low productivity or chronic fatigue or loss of appetite

No focus, mind wanders, forgetfulness, or hard to concentrate

No satisfaction from achievements, feeling unappreciated for all the extra work effort

Feelings of disillusionment about career, isolation, depression, and anxiety

Using alcohol, drugs, or food to feel better or not to feel at all

Change in sleeping patterns, maybe insomnia or oversleeping

If not addressed, burnout can leave people feeling empty, exhausted, depressed, and unable to deal with daily life’s demands.

How to change?

Focus on your recent and past accomplishments
Stop self-criticizing yourself and others
Create a happy space to spend time in for self-reflection, meditation, and prayer
Make and write in a daily gratitude journal

Change your workflow!
Stop multitasking and focus on one task at a time towards completion
Take regular breaks
Limit working overtime
Journal about things that are bothering you and come up with solutions to resolve them.

If you are experiencing some of these symptoms, it’s time to take some action to reverse it. Self-reflect and make some changes to reduce stress and anxiety. Take control of your workload and have reasonable expectations about what is achievable.

Do you have a happy place?

If yes, where is it? I would love to hear about your happy place. If no, why not?

How may I help you?  Are you interested in coaching with me?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact me at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

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How to Respond to Unprofessional People!

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone who was unprofessional. They may come across, like they don’t care, or don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or don’t even realize their behavior is unprofessional. How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. Why? because it is uncomfortable. There are a lot of supervisors whether new or experienced that shy away from confrontation thinking that the behavior will go away. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse, because it’s not dealt with.

Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. People can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

Calmly explain to the unprofessional person, how to be treated with respect. Give an example of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some examples:

  • “When you roll your eyes at me while I am speaking to you, this makes me feel disrespected. ”
  • “When you don’t respond to me with an answer, I feel frustrated and ignored. Please respond promptly.” (In this example it could be in person, email, text, etc.)

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom. ~ Ashleigh Warner

If we are all totally honest there are times in our careers when we have been an unprofessional person. A coworker pushed us over the edge with a passive-aggressive comment. The harsh boss that embarrassed you in front of your peers or in a group meeting and yells at everyone because of one coworker’s bad behavior and ruins everyone’s day. A argument in a staff meeting that went over the top.

I think this is one of the most challenging aspects of any job when working with the public or collaborating with coworkers. “How do I respond to unprofessional people?”

Why?

There are numerous reasons. Coworkers can be defensive, rude, sarcastic, have their own personal agenda and can be plain difficult. Some even enjoy causing workplace drama and spreading rumors. They get a high while watching the sh*t fly as the tension builds and the hostility grows around them.

We spend more time with our coworkers than with family. Coworkers sometimes know us better than we know ourselves. Some even like to push our buttons, so we will react unfavorably.

Some people don’t have speaking filters. They talk at the same time as the thoughts enter their head. They don’t even know what they said was unkind, disrespectful or demeaning. Some people you can’t approach them about their unprofessional behavior as a coworker. You may need to discuss the situation with your supervisor.

Beautiful things happen in your life when you distance yourself from all the negativity and drama. ~ Unknown

How can you make the most of it?

Before you approach the unprofessional person, think about how they will respond. Have a plan of action on how to communicate with recommended solutions. Be prepared. Will they accept the feedback or react unfavorably towards you.

No matter how awful someone treats you. Stop, reflect, and walk away. Believe me, I know, it is hard to walk away when emotions overtake you. However, just because you don’t react, it doesn’t mean you didn’t notice the behavior or accept it. The only way to stop a toxic person is not to engage with them. Address the situation later when you both have time to think it over and calm down, not in the heat of the moment. Choose your battles carefully, sometimes responding in anger makes you look like the fool in front of others.

Questions:

Looking back in your career.

What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessionals?

What did you learn from these experiences?

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How to Deal with Words Left Unsaid

I am sure every single one of us has had a life situation where we wish we told someone how we truly felt. Whether it was a childhood crush or wishing we spoke up at a group meeting or knew something was happening that wasn’t right.

Fear can immobilize us not to act. Then guilt or regret lingers on and on inside of us. This may continue throughout our lifetime. Guilt or regret can leave us feeling empty, unsatisfied or longing for something we didn’t have the guts to pursue. We all probably heard the old saying “Time heals all wounds.” Does it really?

“Time Heals All Wounds.” Does it really?

There are some wounds that will never heal, until they are dealt with. I know this is easier said then done.

How many of us have been ghosted sometime in our life?

It may have been a relationship, a job offer, a networking acquaintance or a business deal.

Did you want to know the reason why?

Unfortunately, most of the time a reason why, will never come.

Overthinking about the situation can really take a toll on a person. It may cause depression, anger, suicidal thoughts, sadness, ulcers, overwhelm, uncontrollable crying, anxiety attacks and so much more.

Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” ~ Roy T. Bennett

Time may soften the disappointment, regret and hurt, but it’s still there deep down inside. Time is not the healer, it is the inner work of dealing with the emotions that heals you. Healing requires constant mental work of positive self talk and the ability of letting it go.

How do you get over it and move on?

Recite positive affirmations for healing and to eliminate negative thoughts.

Create a gratitude journal. Everyday in the journal write one to three things you are grateful for in your daily life.

Be aware of your emotions and feelings. Work on halting the complaining and overthinking about the situation.

Spend time with positive, happy and motivated people.

Pick your battles. Sometimes chasing the person may cause more damage to you. If the recipient doesn’t want to hear from you they won’t respond. Start focusing on want you really want in life.

Hire a life coach or therapist to help you let go of the hurt and disappointment.

“Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did. Let it go!” ~ Mandy Hale

Takeaway:

Isn’t it time to be happy. Being upset, angry and overthinking really isn’t working. Love yourself and those around you enough to let it go. A huge part of healing is believing you deserve a better life of peace, joy and love. ~ Patti

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Don’t Be That (Guy) Person!

Lately, I have been hearing this phrase when people are talking about their coworkers.

Dont be that guy! 

Employers and staff may use this term when someone has committed bad behavior or done something procedurally wrong.  In some organizations they use this term Dont be that (Guy) Person for humiliation or an example of what not to do. The poster child of what not to be in the workplace.

Is shaming an affective management strategy? 

Some say yes, because it represents what not to do in the workplace and halts people from doing it.

How does the “Don’t be that Person” cope with being the scapegoat?

Some quit, some stay and deal with the whispering behind their backs and the harsh judgement while others totally checkout (isolate themselves).

Maybe some organizations want this type of shaming to keep things under control.  If so, something is definitely wrong.  Someone once told me you live in a fantasy world if you think this type of management strategy will change. 

What do you think?


Comments are welcome. What are your thoughts on this topic?

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Patti Answering Leadership and Work-Life Balance Questions [Video]

The Coaches Lounge Group

Do you have any Leadership or Work-Life Balance questions? If yes, please reply below and I will answer them. Recorded live unedited.

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How Can We Show Up As Better Leaders?

A couple of weeks ago, a friend was telling me about her work situation and why she decided to give her notice. She brightens up people’s days with her friendly demeanor. She worked at the front desk. Having a friendly employee as the first contact with your customers is crucial. Customers will continue to come if they feel welcome, the same for employees.

Why do good employees leave?

A shortage of appreciation, praise, acknowledgement, or recognition from management

Manager only pointing out what went wrong

Lack of trust in employees

Bad communication – Not sharing important information or changes in company policies

Unsatisfied relationships with coworkers and/or management

Employee feeling unchallenged or bored with their work

The organization culture or the companies vision

Little growth and no promotional opportunities

Blatant employee favoritism

Lack of work-life balance, being over-worked, feeling over-stressed and having no work boundaries (on duty 24/7)

How can we show up as a better leader and save good employees?

Build a trusting environment. Give opportunities for employees to learn new tasks and give them clear verbal instructions with written procedures. When a situation arises be truthful. Come up with the right solution together. Acknowledge good work performance. Share policies changes in person and written form. Be open to answering employees’ questions. Care about the job and value staff.

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Does A Worry Stone Really Banish Anxiety and Stress?

As a leadership and work-life balance coach, I am always open to new ways to banish stress and anxiety and sharing different techniques with others. In today’s blog post, I will be discussing worry stones and the method of rubbing away stress and anxiety.

The practice of rubbing worry stones has been around for centuries. When I was a kid, instead of worry stones, there were pet rocks and colored stones. I have always enjoyed looking at rocks by stopping, picking up the stones and admiring them. Their beautiful shapes, sizes, and colors.

What are some other common names for worry stones?
Fidget stones, feeling stones, soothing stones, sensory stones and thumb stones.

According to Wikipedia the origins of worry stones:
As a folk practice implement, worry stones have many origins. Variations on the concept originate in ancient GreeceTibetIreland, and multiple Native American tribes. The concept of a worry stone began by the simple action of picking a smooth stone and fiddling with the stone.[3] Worry stones made by sea water were generally used by Ancient Greeks.[4] Native American tribes would continuously give them to younger generations, creating a sense of connection from previous family members.[3] They also believed these worry stones were considered a sacred item and they were extra special if they were made out of quartz.[4]

What is a Worry Stone?
A worry stone is a smooth flat rock about the size of a thumb. When rubbing the stone between thumb and fingers, it has a calming effect. The stones are small enough to carry around in your pocket or purse. Stones come in all different colors, sizes, shapes and minerals. They can be river stones, crystals, sea glass, tumbled gems or a smooth flat rock from your backyard. You can purchase stones at craft and arts stores, amazon, mineral-rock shops and rock and gems shows. Some worry stones have an indent inside the size of a thumb. Other stones may have inspirational quotes, one-word sayings, affirmations, religious symbols, etc. Also, painting flat rocks is another way to relax and a way to make the stone more personal to fit your personality or style.

I recently watched a YouTube video called DIY Worry Stones on how to make worry stones from colored baked clay.

How Do You Use A Worry Stone?
Place the flat stone in your hand between your thumb and index finger and rub the stone back and forth.

Does Rubbing on a Worry Stone Help Reduce Anxiety and Stress?
A worry stone works as a form of reflexology or nerve pressure when rubbed. While rubbing the stone it touches the reflex areas in your thumb and fingers creating a sensation of relaxation and calm within the body. Reflexology is commonly known for applying gentle pressing on certain parts of the body, usually on the feet.

My stone:
It is a smooth clear thumb size stone. I purchased it at a mineral-rock store. I like the feel of it in my hand. I do rub it from time to time. When using the worry stone, I will switch up my hands while rubbing it. Using just your dominant hand is fine.

When are good times to rub a worry stone?

While sitting at a doctor’s office.

Before taking a test.

Before giving a presentation.

When feeling anxious or upset.

While a customer is yelling at you on the phone.

Before delivering bad news.

While contemplating on a big decision or large purchase.

Before going to sleep.

Does it work?
For me, it is a pleasant distraction because I am focusing on rubbing the stone and it does help me gain a new perspective.

For others, I think it depends on the individual and being open to the process. When taking those few moments of rubbing the stone, it can settle the mind.

Takeaway:
Carrying a worry stone around with you, especially when feelings of anxiety, anger, or frustration occur. By rubbing your thumb and fingers across the stone it will hit reflex areas and the movement relaxes your mind, body, and spirit.

Please share your answers to the following questions in the comments below:

Have you rubbed a worry stone? 

What was your experience like? 

When do you use your worry stone?

What color is it?

How did you chose it?

Share a photo of your stone.

If not,  After reading this blog post would you try one?

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Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Dont Like!

Angela and Patti share communication tips at work.  How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships.  How to ask yourself the questions to determine how to manage your emotions.  

Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

What does this meme tell you?

Take a look at yourself.  
Is the relationship problem really you?  
What is it about this person that triggers you?  
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone?  Do they remind you of something you dont like within yourself?

Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.

Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding.  This gives you time to change your response or dont respond at all.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?  
Before responding back to the email.  Write out your response.  Dont send it!  Walk away for awhile.  Sleep on it, if you dont have to respond within the same day.  Then rewrite it when you have calmed down.  Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button. 

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons?  Make your decision from there.  Is there more good reason to stay?  Or reasons to leave.  

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Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore.

How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?  https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu

Warning Signs – Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs

Are you interested in one to one coaching with Patti?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact Patti at patti@coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

Are you interested in one on one coaching with Angela? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to BBRatHomeandWork@gmail.com

If you found this podcast helpful. Please share with others. Push the like button on Anchor and leave us an encouraging review.  Listener support is very much appreciated. Thank you for listening!

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Facebook Live Today – Have You Ever Worked With Someone You Dont Like?

Come check us out today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

July 23, 2019
5:30 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:30 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:30 PM Central Standard Time
8:30 PM Eastern Standard Time
July 24, 2019
10:30 AM Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

OR

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