In this podcast episode Angela and Patti explore how to be honest about what’s not working in a relationship.
“Being honest” does not mean being mean. Being honest does not mean you are right and the other person is wrong. It is sharing your feelings so things can change. Being honest means being clear about your feelings and contributing solutions to what you want to change or need based on your perception of the situation.
When you feel upset and discouraged inside towards others, pull out your journal and start writing exactly how you feel. Then, step away from the situation until you have calmed down. I know this may be hard at first, but it can change how you feel and save relationships whether it is a friendship, marriage and your reputation at work by taking these small steps.
Angela talks about Graham Gibbs created a great Reflective Practice with 6 steps that helps break down what your feelings are about a situation so that concrete actions can be implemented that help include the value of our feelings.Description of the experience
Feelings and thoughts about the experience
Evaluation of the experience, both good and bad
Analysis to make sense of the situation
Conclusion about what you learned and what you could have done differently
Action plan for how you would deal with similar situations in the future, or general changes you might find appropriate.
Honesty with oneself and others is one of the biggest challenges in life. Being Authentic is not about hurting, criticizing, manipulating, pushing your viewpoint, or offending others. It’s about being kind, compassionate, respectful about the other person while keeping it real. Honesty delivered in the right way expresses wisdom, boundaries and releases expectations.
Think before you speak – Is it true, Is it helpful, Is it inspiring, Is it necessary, Is it kind (Author unknown)
Here are some reflection questions to think about and write in your journal.
* What is the difference between being honest and insensitive to others?
* How can honesty with yourself change your life and relationships at home and work?
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