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Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

Angela and Patti share communication tips at work.  How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships.  How to ask yourself the questions to determine how to manage your emotions.  

Podcast Episode 11 – Tips and Tricks When Working With Someone You Don’t Like!

What does this meme tell you?

Take a look at yourself.  
Is the relationship problem really you?  
What is it about this person that triggers you?  
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone?  Do they remind you of something you don’t like within yourself?

Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.

Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding.  This gives you time to change your response or don’t respond at all.

What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?  
Before responding back to the email.  Write out your response.  Don’t send it!  Walk away for awhile.  Sleep on it, if you don’t have to respond within the same day.  Then rewrite it when you have calmed down.  Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button. 

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons?  Make your decision from there.  Is there more good reason to stay?  Or reasons to leave.  

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Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore.

How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership

Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?

Warning Signs – Is It Time To Look For Another Job?

Are you interested in one to one coaching with Patti?  I have coaching packages available.  Contact Patti at

Are you interested in one on one coaching with Angela? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at and discover more about the program.

If you have a relationship topic you would like us to discuss, please email your relationship topic to

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Angela and I would like to thank  Anchor for hosting this podcast.

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Keeping your cool in the office! (survival tips on handling difficult situations)

Keeping Your Cool Survival Tips

Keeping your cool in the office! (survival tips on handling difficult situations).

Summer is here and it is extremely hot outside (especially in Arizona)☀️.  Patience is out the door this time of year.  At 6:00 in the morning you are getting into your vehicle to go to work and you burn your hands on the steering wheel because you forgot to put up your sun shade screen on your dash-board.  Ouch! 🔥 Not a good way to start your day.  You are probably thinking 6:00 am in the morning and needing a sun shade?  In Arizona the summer temperatures may hit a high of 117 degrees and morning temperatures in the 80’s and 90’s.

Okay, let’s get back to keeping your cool in the office.

How do you keep your cool in the office when you are feeling stressed and tempers are flaring?

This is one that I definitely struggle with myself as a leader, especially when you are dealing with a variety of personalities, some very bad attitudes and poor work performance behaviors.  To be honest there are times when I have failed miserably at keeping my cool.

Here are some tips and strategies to put into action when those tempers are starting to flare.

  • Take a deep breath and walk away for a few minutes.
  • Take a couple of minutes to pray and/or journal about your frustration.
  • Go get something to drink; like a large glass of cold ice water.  Sip slowly.
  • Practice deep relaxation breathing to clear your mind and to calm those feelings of anger and/or dis-satisfaction about the situation.
  • Think about a person you admire and how they would handle the situation.
  • Remind yourself to focus on solutions.
  • Don’t respond in writing until you have calmed down, edited and revise the email or correspondence to be in a professional non-adversarial tone.  Wait until the next day when you have time to sleep on it and reflect about the incident as well as coming up with some agreeable solutions.

The next time you feel your temperature rising and wanting to react unfavorably put these tips and strategies into action.  Sometimes just walking away can make a tremendous difference to your work environment and relationships.  You know the old saying, “You may not be able to control someone’s negative behavior but you can control how long you participate in it”. ~ Unknown

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