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When There Isn’t Enough and Emotions Get in the Way

In today’s blog post I am going to tell a story about getting upset over a situation which may sound ridiculous.

Recently, I was at the bowling alley.  I get to the bowling alley pretty early to reserve a table and chairs for my team. Tables are precious commodity because there are not enough tables for all the bowling teams.  If you don’t get a table your team has to sit down on the lanes or stand up all night.

Past experience:

I’ve had people actually move my stuff off the table or take chairs if I walked away.  Now, when I get a table I feel I can’t even walk away until one of my bowling team members comes and sits down.

Usually, I am pretty easy-going and don’t confront people on their rude behaviors.  But this particular day I had enough and said something.

My version of what happened:

This guy (I will call him Fred) from another bowling team grabbed one of the chairs at my table and move it so his daughter could sit down and Fred put her right in front of our table.  He didn’t say anything to me just grabbed the chair.  If Fred had asked me I would have said sure she can have the chair and go get another chair.

Here are the thoughts that were going in my head:

I get there an hour and a half early to reserve the table and chairs and Fred walks in 15 minutes before bowling starts and acts like he owns the place.

So I said to Fred you need to get me another chair.  He said ma’am you are being rude just take another chair from the table next to you.  Then one of his team members says to me “you already have 6 chairs”.  I had 5 chairs for the 5 team members on my team.  I wasn’t going to take one from another reserved table.

Then Fred commanded his daughter to grab a chair from the table next to me which another team had been saving almost as long as me.   His daughter didn’t want to do it.  But Fred insisted and she did.

I was so angry.  Usually, I wouldn’t have been mad or even said anything but his attitude and arrogance reeked of “I don’t care” and “I am going to do what I want”.  No consideration at all to others.

So I told (Chuck, not real name) on another team what happened and Fred said “quit talking behind my back the chair was for my daughter”.  This made Chuck very uncomfortable, he got up and said I don’t know what to tell you, talk to the league secretary.  Later, I found out Fred and Chuck are sort of friends.  (Awkward!).  The reason I told Chuck is because he was there early just like me and has had similar things happen with his tables.

Feeling embarrassed and betrayed I did a group text to my bowling team about the chair incident.  This foolish chair escapade had me upset all night, needless to say I didn’t bowl good, however Fred did.

At the end of the bowling night one of my team members (Seth, not real name) went and spoke with Fred.  Fred told Seth that he had a rough day and he was just getting the chair for his daughter.  Seth said to Fred if you asked her she would have gladly given you the chair.

Why do we get so upset over the little things and continue not to let it go?

Yes, I should have probably handled the situation in a totally different way but I didn’t.  Yes, I probably shouldn’t have gotten other people involved, but I did.

Was it ridiculous to get upset over a chair?

Maybe, however the small things will continue to add up into bigger things when the issue is not resolved.

Takeaway:

We all make choices whether good or bad throughout life.  Each day is a learning lesson.  Sometimes not saying anything is the best result.  Maybe the less we respond to rude people, the less drama we create in our lives.  Here is a good reminder. You may never know what someone else is going through and just maybe they’re having a really bad day.  Be kind anyways. ~ Patti 🦋

🦋 My question for you 🦋

 How would you have handled this situation?

 

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Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job?

How do you know when you are in a dead-end job?

I have spoken to a lot of people who feel they are stuck in a dead-end job.  When Sunday comes around they dread thinking about going into work the next morning.  On Monday mornings they hit the snooze button multiple times and force themselves out of bed.  On the way to work, they push themselves with positive affirmations or the opposite with “I hate my job” self-talk.

🦋  Do you feel like you could do your job in your sleep?

🦋  Are there no advancement opportunities where you work?

🦋  Do you feel hateful and resentful when you walk through your workplace?

🦋  Do you get any acknowledgement for a job well done?

Well, here are some questions below to ask yourself.  Answer them with the first reaction you have.

🦋  Am I learning any new aspects in my position?

🦋  Are my job duties challenging to me?

🦋  Do I enjoy going to work everyday?

🦋  Am I motivated and strive to increase my productivity level?

🦋  Do I feel I am making a difference?

🦋  Are my coworkers positive at work?

🦋  Am I positive at work?

If you answered no to these questions, you may be feeling stuck in a dead end job.

What are some options to improve my career situation?

Create a Career Journal to keep track of your career goals, action steps, certifications, accomplishments, achievements, and references all in one area.

Making or adding to your career journal is a great way to be organized and to refocus on your career path.

What’s in a Career Journal:

  • Career goals and ideas
  • Keep track of career progress
  • Lessons learned
  • Coaching strategies
  • Advice from mentors
  • A private place to vent career disappointments
  • Keep positive affirmations and quotes
  • Gain a new perspective
  • Resume, cover letters, interview tips, interview questions, thank you letters, recommendations, references and certifications
  • Mission statement and values
  • Develop a career action plan
  • Keep motivated and inspired
  • To celebrate the small successes

How to Get Started:

  • Get a large binder; put all your career paperwork and ideas into it
  • Then decide if you want to put all your information into a computer document, on-line journal, a book journal, or a binder
  • Organize by categories
  • Add to your career journal regularly
  • Keep it in a secure place

Self-Reflection Questions for Career Journal:

  • What did I learn?
  • What did I accomplish?
  • Did I receive any compliments?  If so, what was it and who said it?
  • How did I make a difference?
  • Did I have any setbacks and how did it affect me?
  • How can I change my situation and get new career opportunities?
  • Where should I start networking to meet new people and look for better job opportunities?

What to consider:

Should I stay at my current employment or move on?

Make a list of “why to stay” and “why to go”.  Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter!

What’s keeping me here?

Are there other options?

If, so what are they?

  • A Transfer within the company?
  • Start job hunting?
  • Hire a career coach?
  • Go back to school and learn something new?
  • Retirement?

After making and reviewing the list to “stay or go”.  What did this list tell you?

Take Away:
Don’t stay in a job where there is no opportunity for advancement.  Take a leap of faith and try something different.  You will have a career purpose with meaning again.  Whatever decision you make to either stay or go; having a career journal will keep you organized and focused on your career goals as well as helping you be ready for the next career opportunity.

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A Facebook Live Today – How’s Your Love Life with your Phone?

Come check us out today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Home and Work Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

February 18, 2019
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:00 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:00 PM Central Standard Time
8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time

February 19, 2019
12 PM (Noon) Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work [Podcast] – Episode 5 – What is Being Authentic?

Episode 5 podcast – Angela and Patti discuss “What is Being Authentic?”

Click here to listen – “What is Being Authentic?”

Patti’s view: A truly authentic person doesn’t put on a mask and become someone they are not or change to fit in.  They express their true thoughts, feelings and views without apologizing.  Being authentic is having integrity and being true to oneself and others.

Angela’s view: Sharing without forcing people to agree.  Sharing without proving you are right or anyone is wrong.  Sharing from your heart.  Sharing to get understanding between people.  Being in the heat of anger and needing to stand up and fight for what you believe in.

What is being authentic mean to you?

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Angela and I would like to thank our sponsor Brandless for supporting our podcast.  To learn more about Brandless click here on the link.

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Doing a Facebook Live Today on “What is being Authentic?”

You can watch us today on Facebook at the Building Better Relationships at Work and Home Facebook group page.

Here is the link below to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

Here are the dates and time zones to catch it live.

January 28, 2019
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:00 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:00 PM Central Standard Time
8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time

January 29, 2019
12 PM (Noon) Sydney, Australia Time

If you miss the Live Event you can always watch it later on the Facebook group page.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/351340705675175

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Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela & Patti Podcast

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Building Better Relationships [Podcast] Episode 4 – Beyond Comparison and Accepting One-Self


In case you missed the Facebook Live Video where Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship Coach and Patti Oskvarek, Leadership & Work-Life Balance Coach discuss Beyond Comparison and Accepting One-Self.

Or

You can listen to the Podcast Episode 4 – Beyond Comparison and Accepting One-Self.

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Please feel free to share, comments and questions are always welcome.   

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The Many Masks of Loneliness – A Facebook Live on November 27, 2018

You can watch us today on Facebook Live at this Facebook page:
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November 27, 2018
5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
6:00 PM Mountain Standard Time
7:00 PM Central Standard Time
8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time

November 28, 2018
12 PM (Noon) Sydney, Australia Time

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Come join me September 12, 2018 – On Facebook Live discussing “When to say No and When to say Yes!”

 

Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti

September 12, 2018
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PARIS TIME 7:30 PM
When to say No and when to say Yes!
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Why Have Good Communication Skills?

Recently I went to a local bookstore to turn in some books. I’m starting to declutter my home little by little.  I have a long way to go and have been taking baby steps, one huge bag at a time.  I have books in every room of the house.  I guess you could say I became a book hoarder. 🙂   

When I was at the bookstore I saw a sign that said you can reserve a space on their large couch area for book clubs.  I thought this would be a great place for the Coffee, Coaching & More group.  When I asked about reserving the area none of the staff knew how I could reserve the space.  The manager was out and one of the staff members said to me they didn’t even know there was a space in the bookstore to reserve.  

As I was leaving, I said to one of the employees I’m a life coach and wanted to reserve the space to coach small groups.  She said to me, we need a coach here because the communication in the place is terrible.  I smiled and said yes, communication is very important and I can do group coaching on how to improve communication.  She went over and grabbed a bookstore flyer and said to me, call in a few days when the manager gets back. 

Quote: “Communication is the real work of Leadership” ~ Nitin Nohria

As a leader, communication is an extremely crucial skill to have.  The ability to communicate and train employees to assist customers when the boss is away is vital.  Employees need to feel confident to answer customers questions and not have to rely on the manager.

A supervisor is not helping their employees or customers by hoarding all the information. Being a good leader is about preparing employees to tackle all challenges that arise and provide excellent customer service so the business runs smoothly, no matter what.

Self Reflection Question:

When you are unavailable do you feel confident the business will run efficiently without you?

Please share your thoughts on this question:  What have you personally done lately to increase your communication skills with others?

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