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Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business

Summary:

To listen to podcast episode, Episode 64 – Exploring a Better Balance with Men and Women’s Relationships at Work and in Business.

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a conversation about women and men in the workplace and more.  

(Patti) Angela, I recently saw an Instagram Reel of a young lady from Alabama who was looking for a place to do her eyelash business, and because she was a woman she was having a hard time getting a place even though her business was successful and had the money to make the rent.  She even had a male friend call and the landlords were going to rent to him but not to her.  This was shocking to me because I thought those days were gone. The link https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cbh4ClCjXkM/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

(Patti) Do men make more money in the same position as women? YES or NO
To participate.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/polls/ or on Spotify.

(Angela) The Gig Economy is where everyone is moving away from full-time or part-time work to casual on-call work, as an Uber driver to an Online Entrepreneur to offering services in exchange for a fixed fee – like a coach or trainer, or other service providers.
And women have jumped on this for thousands of years before what we have now as a way to provide for their families while also cooking, housekeeping, and raising their young families. The modern gig economy is also increasing the demand for work-life balance so women and men can have time to be with their families and not work full-time hours.

How can women change their mindset to feel comfortable asking for what they are worth?

  1. Practice in the mirror asking for what you want at work.
  2. Write a script and memorize it so the words come out easy and confident.
  3. Say powerful daily affirmations for confidence and getting what you want.
  4. Get a mentor or coach to work with you on strategies to get what you want.

How can we have a better balance in the workplace between men and women whether it is pay, top management, or respecting each other?   We would love to hear your comments and feedback on this question.

Thank you so much for listening, please share the podcast with others and give us a 5-Star review or a clap on the Anchor podcast app so more people can find and listen to our podcast.

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Exploring Journaling For Managers and Supervisors From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 9 – Exploring Journaling For Managers and Supervisors From Chaos To Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors, How’s it going?

In today’s podcast episode, we will be exploring the technique of journaling in the workplace as a manager and supervisor and how it may help keep you in the proper perspective during challenging situations.

Journaling may work out specific problems, generate ideas, and brainstorm. Writing down thoughts, ideas, and emotions can help release tension and encourage creative thinking. This writing can help develop new ideas for products and services and improve customer service techniques. Focusing on the concept, process, or development through journaling may challenge you to discover creative solutions.

Journaling Questions:

  1. What happens if you react right now or at this moment?
  2. What will happen if you decide not to respond?
  3. What are the benefits of walking away and taking time to reflect before handling the situation?
  4. How can you handle this situation calmly?
  5. How will you overcome obstacles in the way?
  6. After you have time to reflect, how will you respond?
  7. What are your action steps now?

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Today’s podcast Affirmation:
I journal to make good decisions!

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Until next we meet again!

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Episode 63 – Becoming a Leader in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Click to listen to Episode 63 – Becoming a Leaders in the Workplace for Better Relationships

Patti and Angela explore leadership in the workplace.  

Patti is a Leadership and Work-Life Balance coach specializing in helping Managers and Supervisors. Patti has a monthly mini-podcast called Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm. This podcast is for you if you are a manager or supervisor who has focused on your career for years and now wants to live a more purposeful and balanced life outside of work. These mini-podcast episodes inspire life and work strategies to maintain sanity within your busy day, from chaos to calm. Patti’s Podcast Exploring Life and Work with Patti from Chaos to Calm tackles issues that affect leaders directly. https://anchor.fm/exploringlifeandwork.

Here some questions to ask yourself and reflect on if you’re in a leadership role or thinking about pursuing a leadership position?

How do you speak to others?

Do you enjoy working with others?

Are you a team player?

Are you willing to be accountable for other people’s actions?

Are you ready to hold yourself responsible for your actions, admit when you are wrong, and apologize when needed?

Are you ready to give honest, constructive feedback to staff members?

Are you dedicated, dependable, trustworthy, ethical, and loyal to your company and employees?

How did you feel after answering these questions?

Being accountable for yourself and others is not something to take lightly. There are times when mistakes happen, and you have to accept the consequences of those mistakes and not blame everyone else around you but take responsibility even when one of your staff members did it. Then, learn from it and move on; believe me, Patti, know this is hard.

We tend to overthink it and beat ourselves up when mistakes happen, but reflecting on what happened as a lesson learned helps ease the process and strengthens relationships with yourself and others.

Leadership is an ongoing process of sometimes making mistakes and learning from those mistakes, and choosing not to make them again.

Reflect back on your working experience with your previous bosses.

What did you like about their leadership style?

What did you not like?

What makes a good leader?

How does a good leader create leaders in others?

 To work with Angela– https://dancewithangelahealing.as.me/discovermore

To work with Patti  https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/CFIDFQF/services

To learn more or purchase the Building Better Relationships Journal and Meditation

go to https://bit.ly/BBRJournal

Incredible Work-Life Balance Hacks for Busy Leaders.  https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/

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Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to Episode 8 – Exploring Building Self-Confidence in a Work Environment that Tears You Down From Chaos to Calm.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast, I talk about the real things that most people are afraid to talk about as a manager and supervisor.

Why is that? Fear. 

If not discussed, how will change happen?

As good managers and supervisors, our job is to lift employees’ to their highest potential, encourage them, build their self-confidence and help them succeed in what they do at work. 

What if the work culture doesn’t support this type of leadership philosophy?

Do it anyway. You and your employees need and want to be encouraged to flourish.  

But who inspires and uplifts the manager and supervisor?

(Yourself) and sometimes your staff will inspire you on difficult days.  

The area you manage will prosper compared to the work culture that tears others down around you.

How do you build self-confidence when others tear you down in the workplace?

  • Recite Affirmations throughout the day.
  • Take a break and get away from the office for a few minutes.
  • Take a walk to clear your mind.
  • Listen to some calming music.

Remember that people unhappy with themselves will tear down others, thinking they look good. But, instead, they don’t look good at all. When someone is verbally mean to you, step back and remember this. What is driving them to act unkind or controlling? 

Some people think that tearing down others makes them look better than others. But unfortunately, they are too busy clawing their way to the top to care about how they make others feel.

Say your boss gives you a project, and they take it back because you aren’t doing it the way they would. Again, it is their control issues that are surfacing. I understand this can hurt, primarily if you work very hard on the project. Reflect on what you can do in the future, so this doesn’t happen again? Ask questions on their thought process of what they want from this project. Occasionally update them on the project and how it is going. If you are silent and not updating, they may assume you are not as far ahead as you are. 

You are in a management meeting and asked for your opinion. A coworker disagrees with you wanting to show they are better than you to your boss while trying to provoke you to get upset react unprofessionally towards them. Before responding, reflect on this person who wants you to respond unfavorably. Breathe. If a response is expected, calmly say why this is your opinion and why it will work without lashing out at the coworker.

Make a difference in your workplace by being compassionate, empathic, a good mentor, honest, straightforward, and kind. The workplace needs more of this kind of leadership than destroying each other’s self-confidence and reputation; creating a cohesive workplace and lifting people will help change the workplace from chaos to calm.  

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am confident! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Exploring The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work From Chaos to Calm

Click to listen to podcast Episode 7 – The Feeling of Being Unheard and Underappreciated at Work.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, we will explore the feeling of being unheard and underappreciated at work?

This topic is for anyone who feels that they are not recognized or appreciated. As a manager and supervisor, this is a daily occurrence stuck in the middle between top management and employees and getting crap from both sides. So every day, you push down resentment, disappointment, words, anger, and chaos within yourself and others. 

One of these days, it will bubble over, and the dragon will explode with harsh words and actions.

You are to pretend everything is great when you don’t believe it yourself in the decisions made from above, but you have to enforce and ensure it is completed and done that way. You have to convince employees to change how they do things when they disagree and don’t want to.  

When you speak up with your concerns, you are ignored and labeled as trouble-makers or uncooperative. The yes people promote and get recognition for your work. You are the doer and get things done but not acknowledged for all your accomplishments.

Your boss has promised you a promotion numerous times, but it doesn’t happen, and eventually, a yes person gets the position and over you. 

How heartbreaking is that?

You’re so good at your job your boss doesn’t want you to move up they keep you stuck in a dead-end job or career.

Being ethical may get you passed over for a promotion. 

Why is that? 

Do employers want honorable people or not? 

Isn’t it better to be an honest person than not? 

I’m lost for words because this is really happening, people. 

Keeping your mouth shut is expected, and nodding your head in agreement is the norm instead of working together to make things better and sharing ideas and processes to streamline.  

Keeping mouths shut and agreeing is causing chaos, resentment, overload, anxiety, and burnout in the workplace because things aren’t getting done correctly and efficiently.  

How can this change?

How many of you out there has a boss you can sit down with and say; this isn’t working; the staff is frustrated and on overload? If you do. Show some appreciation to them every once in a while. They need encouragement to keep pushing on with a thankless job. These people want to make a difference and want to do what is right, and they do open their mouths and disagree at times, even when rejected and not appreciated.

When people feel appreciated, heard, and can express their ideas, they might go the extra mile to speak up and change the environment from chaos to calm.

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I am heard and appreciated! 

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Exploring The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Click here to listen to Episode 6 – The Power of Pausing, Reflecting Before Responding from Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will be discussing the technique of pausing before reacting or responding as a Manager or Supervisor.

Have you ever responded from a knee-jerk reaction and wished you hadn’t?

Have you considered stopping, pausing, and reflecting before reacting as a manager and supervisor when in the middle of chaos?

I know this can be difficult at times, especially when in the middle of a crisis. However, in leadership, we’re geared to resolve the problem as quickly as possible.

When taking a pause and time to reflect, we won’t jump immediately to the wrong conclusion or react unfavorably or lash out.

Many times in my career, I didn’t pause and reflect before responding, and I regretted it because it went from calm to chaos by my knee-jerk reaction.

Have you done that as well?

Think about all the times you reacted harshly or over the top.

How did that work for you?

Probably not good for you looking like an ass or for the person or people around you.

Do you wish you could go back in time and change your response?

Using the pause, reflecting before responding can help you not regret your reaction if used at that moment.

When at work and someone is rude to you and disagrees. Pause for three to five seconds before responding. Pausing will allow you time to reframe your response or decide not to react and change the situation from the emotions of chaos to calm.

Have you ever received an email at work that put you into a rage?

Pause, Reflect and Don’t send the email response right away. You may regret it and could damage your career or reputation!

I think everyone has sent an email they regretted sending or replying some time or another.

What if you do receive a nasty passive/aggressive email?

Before responding to the email:

  • Write out your reply.
  • Please don’t send it and walk away. If possible, sleep on it.
  • Rewrite the email response when you have calmed down.
  • Have someone else read it to help tone down the language before hitting the send button.

Here’s A Quote To Remember: “Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”. – author unknown

Don’t get me wrong, as a manager or supervisor. You have to be direct with employees to inspire them to improve their work performance. We can’t ignore the situation and let it continue.

  • Have a plan on how to address it.
  • Write it out and practice what and how to say it.

There are also times when you need to respond immediately and make a quick decision. When possible, take the opportunity to pause and reflect.

What is happening around you?

It may change your approach and captivate a great solution.

How can you practice pausing and reflecting into your leadership routine and have it become a habit?

Here are some Self Reflection Questions to Ponder or Journal about:

What are your thoughts about pausing and reflecting?

How will you incorporate it into your leadership style?

Today’s podcast Affirmation ~ I pause and reflect before responding!

Did you find this helpful? If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until next we meet again! ~ Patti

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

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Exploring The Management Philosophy – You’ve Got A Pulse, You’ve Got A Job From Chaos to Calm

The Management Philosophy – You’ve Got A Pulse – You Got The Job! Not A Good Leadership Practice.

To listen to the podcast episode click here.

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will be discussing hiring staff and why it is not a good idea to hire someone with the Management Philosophy – If You’ve Got A Pulse – You’ve Got The Job!

I was at an appointment almost a year ago, and the doctor told me that they were desperate to hire someone quickly. She said if they got a pulse, they got the job. We both laughed. She said we need another body in here as soon as possible. I responded, Sometimes, that doesn’t always work out because they may not be the right fit or have a good work ethic. The funny thing is my husband was talking to me a couple of months before that and suggested that I should write a blog post for “You’ve Got A Pulse, You Got the Job!” 

I guess God and the universe were telling me it was time to discuss this topic. So I did write a blog post about this topic back then, and I wanted to share it on the podcast because, as a manager or supervisor, I feel this is not a good leadership practice.

Filling a chair or position to have a body in it is not a very good idea. When hiring managers don’t spend the time to make sure the candidate is someone qualified and will connect well with staff and customers in the long run, it will cause more anguish for everyone involved.  Why is that? 

One person’s bad attitude, incompetency, or lack of motivation can destroy the work environment. 

Yes, I understand that some companies are understaffed and need people immediately because of high turnover, high caseload, or staffing ratio to the patients, or security and safety reasons and with the Great Resignation happening. However, look at the time and expense of training someone; you will eventually have to let go, or worse, keep someone that is incompetent or a kick-starter to the other employees and customers and causes complete chaos in the workplace.

Lowering the hiring standards is not the answer!

Take some time in the hiring process to get to know the candidate. Then, review the resume and job application. 

Does this person change jobs every few months? If so, why? Are they promoting or some other reason listed? If not listed, ask the candidate. 

What kind of positions have they done in the past? Is it equal to the job qualifications? 

Have specific questions about the job in the interview for the candidate to answer. Were the answers clear and concise, and right?

After the interview, call the candidate’s references. Have specific questions about attendance, team player, customer service, and work performance.

If references check out with positive recommendations to the questions answered, ask the candidate to come back and meet your staff if this is allowable in your company. 

Have the candidate engage with the team and see what the job duties entail. 

Remember, the employees have a vested interest because they have to work with this person. If you have an open, honest relationship with your employees, they will give you their opinion. Ultimately you have the final answer on who to hire and who not to hire.

Spending a little time checking out the candidate may save you, your staff, and customers frustration and protect the company’s bottom-line on training and hiring the wrong person.

Here are some Self Reflection Questions to Ponder or Journal about:

What have been my hiring experiences in the past?  

What worked well and what didn’t?

What suggestions from this podcast will I incorporate into my hiring process?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I make good hiring decisions!

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this podcast with others! 

Until next we meet again!

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Exploring How To Respond To Unprofessionalism From Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, Patti discusses interaction with unprofessional people.

Sometimes in our careers, we have all worked with someone unprofessional. They may come across like they don’t care, don’t even know how to behave in a professional setting, or even realize their behavior is unprofessional. 

How do most people usually respond? Avoidance!  They would rather avoid the situation instead of addressing the unprofessionalism. 

Why? 

Because it is uncomfortable. Whether new or experienced, many managers and supervisors shy away from confrontation, thinking that the behavior will go away or disappear. However, in most cases, the behavior gets worse when it’s not dealt with and continues.Is there a way to help or mentor them?

Yes, of course, there is, by addressing the behavior. However, people can’t change if they don’t know their behavior is displeasing.

Calmly explain to the unprofessional person how to be treated with respect. Give some examples of what is respectful and courteous.

Here are some Self Reflections to Ponder or Journal about:

1. What were some of your experiences dealing with unprofessionalism?

2. What did you learn from these experiences?

Today’s podcast Affirmation

I recognize the beauty around me, even when I am in the presence of unprofessionalism.

Did you find this helpful?  If so, please share this podcast with others!

Until we meet again!

Coffee with Patti – is a beautiful way to express your appreciation and support.

If you would like to work with me for coaching services, click the “Schedule Now” button below.

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Episode 53 – Is Marriage Built To Last?

In this podcast episode, Angela and Patti have a special guest John Helton, the Blind Fury, from the podcast “Martial Monkey Mania Radio Show” and the podcast topic “Is Marriage Built To Last?”

John, AKA “The Blind Fury,” is President/Founder of The Blood Wall Ministries. Marital Monkey, one of those ministries, which teaches biblical principles of God’s design for marriage and puts the fun back in marriage with the Marital Monkey Mania Radio Show.  John Helton’s teaching and interaction with the Marital Monkey Mondays workshop, certified relationship coaching services, a soon-to-be Marital Monkey Preparation Course. He has a detailed book to hopefully be released in 2022 called “Marital Monkey: Helping You Navigate the Marriage Jungle God’s Way!” He is also a Christian inspirational speaker and author, amongst other things like being a professional goofball.

“Martial Monkey Mania Radio Show” episode “Cell Phones Harm Relationships.”   Can you give the listeners some examples of why cell phones can harm relationships?  https://anchor.fm/maritalmonkey/episodes/Marital-Monkey-Mania-Radio-Show-Cell-Phones-Harm-Relationships-August-5–2021–WEMM-107-9-FM-e15jkm9

Here is how to contact John about his services:

johnhelton777@gmail.com

Contact@MaritalMonkey.com

www.MaritalMonkey.com – www.TheBlindFury.com

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Exploring The Pressure of Perfection on Managers and Supervisors From Chaos to Calm

Hi, Managers and Supervisors. How’s it going?

In this podcast episode, I will talk about the pressures of perfection on managers and supervisors.

As Managers and Supervisors, we put a lot of expectations on ourselves as well as others. 

So why do we feel we have to be perfect? 

Are we putting those expectations on ourselves, or do people expect us to be perfect with our attitude, appearance, decisions, and performance?

It appears that perfection is expected and pressured onto Managers and Supervisors, which trickles down to the employees — the appearance of being perfect and pointing out other people’s mistakes and faults accompanied by harsh judgment has become the norm in workplaces. In this type of environment, there is a lack of focus, creativity, and willingness to try new things. As a result, people don’t grow, nor do the products, services, and revenue.  

It’s okay to make mistakes as long as we learn from them and not continually repeat them. How feedback is delivered can make or break a person, whether at work, home, volunteering, or among friends. Too much nitpicking and micromanaging is why good employees leave. 

A good leader will let employees try new and different processes, especially if the current approach isn’t working, outdated, or becoming mundane. Listening is essential to know what is working and what is not. Being approachable and welcoming is the first step to building trust, hearing what people feel and new ideas, and realizing that mistakes happen. Finally, good leaders are flexible —having a crucial conversation on what happened and working together on how to fix the situation—talking about what worked and what didn’t and coming up with a plan to make it better with an agreeable resolution.

What if you are a manager or supervisor who doesn’t like conflict?

Overcoming the fear of conflict will reduce anxiety, strengthen courage, and promotes better communication skills. Start by responding to emails, voicemails, and texts, even short and the point. Something is better than nothing. Meet with employees, listen, and be engaged. As you address complex situations, it does get easier as time goes on. Communication skills are an essential part of becoming a better leader.  

Managers and Supervisors are the hardest on themselves. When projects fail, they take it to heart and feel awful and embarrassed.

Here are some Self-Reflect Questions to ponder when a mistake or failure happens.

What did I learn?

What will I do differently next time?

What areas do I need to improve?

What did I learn about myself, customers, clients, superiors, and employees from this experience?

An Affirmation to recite to get you through during or after a mistake or failure:

I will not let mistakes from the past carry on into today.

Pretty much everyone wants to do a good job and wants to please their superiors, customers, employees, and clients. So when mistakes happen, knowledging them by taking action steps to rectify them. By doing this, it will reflect, you are an honest person with integrity. This imperfect world sure does need more managers and supervisors like this. Letting go of perfection and being authentic changes the workplace from chaos to calm. 

Until next we meet again!

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