This topic came from a listener request, How to Get Along With Your Teenager! Click on the link below to listen to the full podcast:
Patti started by asking the audience these questions.
Reflecting on when you were a teenager. I know it was different back then, but we still want the same things. Right?
What did you want from your parents?
Understanding, Someone to Listen, Unconditional Love, Be Supported to Pursue What You Want.
What was it?
Your teenager probably wants the same.
Angela talks about being a parent: You love them, but you don’t like their behavior, and there’s a consequence for the behavior. Follow through and don’t bend. You’re showing accountability, and your actions will speak volumes. Think kind thoughts—don’t see teens as a disappointment or failure. Your thoughts get picked up by your loved ones. Have a conversation with them about boundaries when they tick you off.
What are some deals you can negotiate with them?
Tips from the book Crucial Conversations:
1. Start with the heart.
2. Ask – What do you want for the relationship?
3. Ask – What do you want for the teen?
4. What do you want for yourself?
5. What is the most outstanding possible outcome for the relationship?
How can you communicate this to the teen coming from the heart?
Come up with boundaries and consequences if boundaries are not met.
Making deals with teens gives them opportunities to be responsible and learn what happens when they are not.
What do you think could be some of the troubles that teens are experiencing these days, which may be similar to and different from what we went through?
1. Internet Addiction and Online Gaming Addiction.
2. Cyberbullying and In-Person Bullying
3. Suicide – For more information about suicide prevention, check out the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website or (1-800-273-8255) and Reachout https://au.reachout.com for youth and parents, it is free advice in Australia, and Lifeline https://www.lifeline.org.au
Angela has another podcast on love and relationships, “The Love Oracle.” Check it out.
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